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Long Distance Problems 2016-09-16 08:55:43 Post No.17573560
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Hey /adv/, I've been in a long distance relationship with a girl I met during my travels in June. she only lives 500 miles away but in a different country. Last time I saw her was 2 weeks ago. She's madly in love with me (though I don't feel as intensely). I'm a guarded person and tend to always look out for betrayal.
She's expressed to me that she needs alot of affection generally. And also that she is not morally opposed to the idea of an open relationship. Though assures me she has no desire for one now. But told me she was hurt at my reaction when it came up once because of my tone sounded like it made her a bad person for ever being willing to have one.
I'm also the first man to give her an orgasm at age 25. And recently bought her a toy. But I don't like taking nudes and I don't masturbate so phone sex is out of the question though she's asked. I want to trust her but I don't know if I should and hope for the best or just call it preemptively to protect myself.
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>>17573560
I'd be guarded too if I was in an LDR (always difficult to begin with) with someone who's talking about an open relationship not even four months into the relationship. I can sympathize anon.
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>>17573560
You wanna ditch her and find a girl close to home.
LDR + needs affection is already doomed to fail and you have the extra of her wanting an open relationship.
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>>17573580
She assures me she does not want an open relationship at all, just that she's not morally opposed to the idea as she was in one before with a guy she wasn't in love with that ended predictably.
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ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything 2016-09-16 08:55:28 Post No.17573559
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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't fucking know.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.
>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off.
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I met a neighbor and We both got drunk at a party and he told me 'i have a feeling we're going to be really good friends' when hugging me goodbye. why does that send off alarm bells for me? Am i just being weird? Im pretty sure hes into me and i dont know if i am, so maybe thats that?
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>>17573570
It's a sign that he was drunk as fuck, and probably that he's a jolly drunk (which is good).
Don't overinterpret crazy drunken rambling.
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>>17573583
This
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Arrested for DUI while driving someone else's car. 2016-09-16 08:52:23 Post No.17573555
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Arrested for DUI while driving someone else's car.
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I was arrested for a DUI while driving someone else's car, she has already received her car from impound and paid for the fee to have her car released. Am I legally obligated to pay her back and will they be able to take any legal action against me? I live in california.
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I'm not american but did you steal the car from her or did she give it to you willingly? Did she know you were drunk/high beforehand or that you'd be very likely to be soon (i.e gave the keys so you could go to a bar)?
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Yes she knew I had been drinking and that i had her car.
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>>17573555
She can and should sue you in small claims court for the cost of getting the car out. She would win without difficulty and you'd have to pay the court costs on top of the impound charges.
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>22 yo kv
>just got first gf
>she is attractive
>I am attracted to her
>have sex and bj
>find neither one particularly interesting can't cum from either
>always finish by hand
>never as good as just jerking off
Have I just been broken by internet porn or what? I don't get it. This isn't how it's supposed to be.
Today she surprised me with a blowjob and I could tell she went all at it but I could only think "fuck I wish I was jerking off instead"
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>>17573518
you might want to consider these possibilities:
>you're gay
>she's loose and gives bad bjs
godspeed op
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You just need practice, that's all. Keep having sex, you will soon fins it more enjoyable and easier to cum.
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>>17573518
Everybody's first sexual experience is like that, OP.
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I'm boring. I have few interests I can share with others or otherwise talk about without the other party not understanding anything about it and getting bored. My interests are generally either obscure, impolite to talk about, or otherwise not very exciting for most people. In general I don't have that many strong interests, maybe one or two along with a handful of fleeting interests I'm completely bored with after a month.
I feel I never have anything to say to anyone. I even need to keep a mental list of things to talk about the next time I see my girlfriend. How do I get un-boring, /adv/?
>be more social and tell stories about other people
I hate socializing most of the time. I'm a strong introvert.
>pick up a new interest or activity
That's the thing, really nothing interests me all that much. I can count on one hand the amount of things I actually enjoy learning about or have a strong interest in at the moment. I guess I could pick something I'm not interested in but I'd have nowhere to start.
>work towards your goals
Outside of my girlfriend and financially I don't really have any. Any time that isn't spent working or with my girlfriend I feel like I'm just trying to get through it as fast as possible.
What do I do? I feel like a blank slate, few interests and the ones I have I'm not even too interested in anymore, next to no goals, no real passion or desire outside of my girlfriend and financial success (half for gf, half for just existing).
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So, you're a hard-working guy with a girlfriend and little interest in trivial crap like hobbies?
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>>17573471
Replace hard working with "shifts between burning himself out with work while he's heavily motivated and then being lazy and feeling unmotivated as hell until he recovers" and pretty much me.
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>>17573475
Start your own business.
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relationship ended, was together with him for about a year and a half. oh well.
anyhow, my heart aches.
how long this gonna last for? i just wanna be over him already. what do?
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It will take a long time. You'll feel like shit for a couple of weeks but it will get better.
Try to distract yourself by doing something such as playing video games, watching a movie, etc..
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FAST FAST FAST NUDE ADIVICE 2016-09-16 07:51:57 Post No.17573442
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FAST FAST FAST NUDE ADIVICE
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This girl im talking asked for a nude, mwhat should I do? Should it include my dick?
I wasnt trained for this
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>>17573442
Duh nigga you're in there. Make it diamonds
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>>17573443
Problem is, I just met her few hours ago, how should I send the nude, do I send a dick pic? Just the torso?
HALP
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>>17573451
If you asked a girl for a nude, would you be like " i just wanna see your beautiful belly xD"? No man you wanna see everything. She does too. Shes not getting nudes for science class. Chest or not, erect D must be shown for good measure
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Is there something sort of like Kickstarter that will:
- Allow people to donate money to me as a sort of 'thanks' for doing a project?
- Automatically stop allowing donations from anyone once a certain goal is reached (probably less than 100 USD)?
- Not have a set end-date?
- Will not reject something based on 'adult' material?
I'm planning on paying an artist to make a decensor mod for a visual novel, but after doing so, I'd like people to be able to donate to me so I can recoup those costs. But I don't want to profit off it either, so once I've recovered my losses I don't want to keep donations open.
Any ideas?
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Have you considered Patreon?
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>>17573389
20% of red cross relief funds go to the actual project. the rest pays people off.
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>>17573455
I thought Patreon was for ongoing content creation. This is really just a one-off, with a set funding goal.
And I don't want all the bells and whistles, like 'funding goals' or special treatment. The simpler the better.
>>17573487
Yeah, but this is pictures of naked people doing the horizontal mambo, not the red cross. I'm creating and distributing the mod for free, but I'm paying for the artist to make the art. I only want a chance to possibly reimburse my costs if people enjoy the mod, nothing more.
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>first gf
>im not her first bf
how to deal with this situation?, what is acceptable and what is not in a relationship?. Because everytime i speak with her about things i don't like she uses the "i have more experience than you in relationships" card to tell me how i must behave. Specially about jealousy, feelings and things like that.
It makes me really upset because we're the same age and im not stupid, but still she treats me like a child who doesn't understand how to behave.
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>Because everytime i speak with her about things i don't like she uses the "i have more experience than you in relationships" card to tell me how i must behave.
Can you give us some more specific examples? I mean, this really isn't a nice way for her to talk to you, but you may also be bitching about trivial things
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>>17573394
one time i told her that i loved her after 2 months and she went crazy like "you don't know what love is, you can't love someone after 2 months, i like you a lot, but you need time to love someone".
How much time are you supposed to spend in order to tell the other person what you truly feel?, is there even a measure for that?. She even told me once while we were on bed that she loved me, and then a few days later she brought up this issue again
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>>17573387
> "i have more experience than you in relationships" card
I'm 27. This is my first real relationship. My girlfriend has never pulled that card.
While this has also never been a problem:
>Specially about jealousy, feelings and things like that.
My gf has complained about me not opening up to her before, and I get it, because that's just how I am with everyone and honestly, I don't take too much in life serious enough for it to bother me (probably specifically because I did WAAAY too much in my youth, and I acknowledged that= it was the source of a lot of my personal anguish, angst, depression, and suicidal thoughts).
Even so, I realize that she has a point to a degree, that now that I'm in a relationship I have to try to make concessions and at least attempt to be more open for her sake
I don't dismiss her, I listen, I try to meet her halfway, and I also let her know that I'm trying, but she has to try too, because the truth is I'm just not someone who feels compelled to dwell on negative things (because of my past) . So we both try.
The fundamental core of relationships are compromise, respect, and trust. And all of those must be mutual. That is a common sense that you don't need to be a relationship expert to understand.
Do you have these three things in your relationship?
If you feel that you do not, build it. Work towards it. Establish it. and do it from both sides. You both need to be working together for it to work.
One side cannot demand something from on high.
If you're having issues with jealousy/etc.and she's complaining about it, instead of dismissing her for being condescending, compromise. Work on it with her, and simultaneously let her know she has to work WITH you, not talk DOWN to you, because that's how a relationship works and it's about mutual respect.
That said, if you're both young, and don't feel like you want to do that, fuck it. This is the time in your life you get a free pass to learn and experiment.
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Hey 4chan. I want to ask you a question. it's been 6 months a few days ago since I got raped. I keep hearing the words forgive a hell of a lot lately. I almost feel like it's a sign I need to learn to forgive. It's not that I feel the need to forgive my rapist. I put that behind me... actually I feel more hurt by the friend I will have had known for 8 years this Octorber. When I was raped. I reached out to him and felt so lost and hurt. And my best friend at the time least me like that after I was raped. and now I wanna learn how to forgive it but I'm not sure how... or even if I want to.
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The guy meant a lot to me at one point. He was my high school crush. the guy I followed and became my role model after he left high school. and finally my first ever lover after we reconnected. We had an on and off thing for almost an entire year and I respected him not wanting a relationship because I cared for him and all I wanted was for him to be happy.
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>>17573374
some actions cannot be forgiven, nor should they be
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>>17573374
Forgive only for yourself, not him
I have pink eye. Bf thinks i should go to the doctor, but its not even that bad? Eye is kinda pink and has gross shit in it but other then that i can see out of it and its fine.
Cant i just deal with this at home? Some over the counter drops and be done with it?
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wash your hands after taking a shit ya filthy savage
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>>17573369
Its from allergies.
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>>17573377
Then figure out what allergy it is and get meds
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Why do I see sometimes on here, people refer to women as having "easy mode", a lot of the times in reference to dating. I get what they mean, I think, and I'm not going against it. I just want some clarification. Not a femanon here, but to femanons, is it really easy mode, and how would you ever know it was? You have nothing to compare it to, meaning you've never lived as a man. I mean, would any man, given they pretty much stay like they are now, but are given a female body, would all these awkward guys on here suddenly have a lot easier time, or are there just as many problems, but different ones, on the other side too?
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>You have nothing to compare it to, meaning you've never lived as a man
And the same goes for men. The men who claim life is easier for women don't just don't know, all they do is pull out those stupid OKC graphs and assume that online dating is the entire dating experience for both males and females.
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>>17573358
That's basically what my question is, meaning, how would you/they know?
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Yes! There are a myriad of problems on the other side & honestly, it really is more dangerous for women, especially in this prevalent rape culture that's been created & the victim blaming.
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Can I bring a friend? 2016-09-16 06:48:22 Post No.17573330
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Is it always insta-friendzone if a girl wants to bring a friend when we hangout for the first time?
Shes a pretty nervous person. I am too. We talk just fine and she seems to be at least somewhat interested in me. She texted our other female coworker that she wants to bring a friend so it's not awkward.
Am I fucked /adv/?
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You just have to play it cool to the friend also. Who know whether the girl thinks you're waiting to rape her, or whether she has social anxiety, or the most likely case, whether you just didn't inform her you intended it to be a "date."
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nope more like she wants her friend to be there so she isnt as nervous. she probable likes you
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>>17573333
I hope you two are right. I mean if it's worst case scenario it's no harm done. She's too nice for me to be mad at. I mean getting blown off would still be kind of annoying though
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Recently, my friend started dating this douche-bag of a cunt whom I could not stand. Or at least, she was.
I've had a thing for her for near a god damn decade, but I could never seem to get her attention. So it's pretty easy to see why I'd never take a liking to the asshats she keeps dating. But my god was this particular guy so insufferable. Pretentious and pseudo-intellectual as fuck. Faux sensitivity. Overly articulate. Can't speak a sentence without being obnoxiously verbose. Smug and full of himself. And the worst part of it all: she eats it all up like he's "oh my god, you're so cultured and insightful. :3" Kill me...
Well, I couldn't take his shit much longer, so I pulled him outside the bar to call him out on his bullshit and what a fake ass little faggot he is. I thought I set him straight afterwards, because seriously fuck this guy. But apparently that didn't go over well. The next day I get a call from her chewing me out over it. Because not only did he complain to her about what happened, he also broke up with her that night, feeling that her involvement with me "spoke volumes" about her character to him. She keeps screaming at me for I don't know how long, claiming he was the guy of her dreams, and tells me to never speak to her again. And, subsequently, she cuts off all contact with me. And a few of our mutual friends dropped me though (only women though for some reason).
What the fuck, man? This is some high school shit.
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>hater gets what's coming to him
That's what you are. A hater. You are poisonous to other people.
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>>17573316
>This is some high school shit.
Well yeah. You act immaturely and you're surprised that high school level drama happens?
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>>17573316
what exactly did you tell that guy ?
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Get OWI first offense in Wisconsin.
Live in MN.
Can I drive? and do i need to get assessment here? like wtf. I got a letter in the mail saying i can't drive in WI for 6 months now but. yea.
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No, your license is suspended dumbass. You get caught driving you risk a permanent suspension and increasing fines as well as a criminal record.
Take cabs, use busses, whatever, but don't drive.
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>>17573294
>I got a letter in the mail saying I can't drive in WI for 6 months
>saying I can't drive in WI
>I can't drive
>Can I drive?
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>>17573320
they said i could get a temporary license tho w/ limited privileges for responsibilities tho.