So I was talking to this girl for quite a while (mostly about politics) she loves to debate. After all this talking and other stuff. She said she had a doctor's appointment in which I didn't ask why. At the end of the day I asked her for a hug, but she said no and gives me a handshake instead. She later texts me "I actually have a cold. I don't want to spread my germs to you haha." She did reschedule for us go meet up when I asked her out. Also she said I need to know you a bit more before I hug you. So is she interested or not? Was I too forward?
>>17572645
How long did you talk to her before she had to go to the doctor's appointment? Have you talked to her before then? Is she really into you? Maybe the hug was a little too fast I don't know there are more questions than answers now. But I believe the best thing you can get to her just take it smooth.
>>17572654
>How long did you talk to her before she had to go to the doctor's appointment?
About 30 minutes
>Have you talked to her before then? Is she really into you?
Not really that much. We both are kinda busy with college. She did send 5 long messages about meeting up though. I think she is thinking about it.
>Maybe the hug was a little too fast I don't know there are more questions than answers now. But I believe the best thing you can get to her just take it smooth.
Yeah I am not even going to mention it to her. I'm just gonna act like that didn't happen.
>>17572645
she's interested enough to see you again. stop trying to make this a relationship in your mind so soon. relax and let it develop. being too eager (desperate) is not attractive
My gf has been on birth control for a year and we've always had great sex. She has been having bad side effects so we got off of it. Last night we used a condom for the first time in over a year. I was able to last long enough to give her an orgasm but then I just wasn't feeling anything on my end so I went limp. Totally embarrassing. She was very upset cause she wanted more and she wanted me to cum. I made her feel insecure about her body as if I don't find her attractive anymore. I'm even using the bareskin condoms, which are the thinnest I've ever seen.
Not to mention she likes fast sex, so I'm constantly pumping away and it's tiring, and it was 4am last night when she wanted sex. If I'm not feeling pleasure on my end, my dick just gives up I guess.
How can I cum quicker using a condom?
I feel like this is a trap for having a kid. You said she got off the pill (though bad side effects), and wants to have rough sex with a super thin condom...
you have options
>cialis
>skyn non-latex condoms
>date a girl whose confidence isn't on ice as thin as the condoms you're using
>get an IUD for birth control
>keep fucking with condoms and get used to them
>don't jack off, and if you do use a condom
also her reaction is a huge problem. start working on getting something going on the side and dump her when you can walk into something else.
Need your input on what path to follow /adv/, first of all:
>22 year old
>just graduated college
>got a job in a prestigious place but the pay is shit
>live far from work, long commutes, no sleep
>day after day I argue with parents more
>argue with mom about trivial shit I can handle
>argue with dad about more serious shit, we end up not talking to each other for days
>genuinely hate dad but depend on his financial aid
>could afford to move out of parents house but I'd had to cut luxurious shit, I'll borderline starve
Should I:
A:
>move out
>starve
>no car in the foreseeable future
B:
>stay at home
>deal with parents like a little bitch
>MAYBE dad handles me a car
>>17572609
>>17572609
Also, it's common for people to live with parents till they marry where I live, most of my friends are >25 and live with their parents.
or you could
C:
>repair your relationship
you havent told us what the fights are about.
you're a graduate with a prestigious job, I'm p sure none of us see what's wrong
are you not doing chores? Do chores
do you come home piss drunk? Stop coming home piss drunk
If you're living at home and depending on your parents financially, I think you owe it to them to not be an ass to them. Arguments are a two-way street, you're not blameless for the fact that they occur. If you continue to live at home, you need to do your part to make living there more tolerable for all of you, otherwise they'll be more inclined to kick your ass out.
Any good advice on getting an ex back? Relationship ended due to my ex choosing to be safe rather than pursue the relationship. Ideally I'd like to start talking to her again in any way I could
>>17572597
Let them come back to you.
>>17572597
>Relationship ended due to my ex choosing to be safe rather than pursue the relationship
It was her decision. Therefore, it's her decision to get it started again
You don't do anything. You move on
Not worth man, she left, accept it.
I just sort of broke up with my girlfriend. This is the first time I've ever done something like this and it feels like shit.
The relationship was 70% good, 10% bad, 20% not quite right. I'm not quite sure if the things I found bad or not quite right were worth breaking up over:
- she's a little naive and idealistic despite being fairly smart and well-educated
- she talks a little loud
- she's clumsy
- she's not a great conversationalist or socializer
- she's got asthma and dyslexia
- she has the fashion sense of an eighth grader
- she was a 6/10 on looks... although I'm really not sure how decisive this was. Am I kidding myself about this point? Not sure.
I could send her a letter to try and patch things up, but am not sure if I should. Yes, yes, get over it, but consider the following:
- I'm 28, am on a very windy career path, and am currently fairly broke
- I'm not attractive to most people
>>17572595
This isn't gonna sound nice, but I'm not looking to offend you, I just mean it:
Don't be with someone just because you can't fucking score better. It's more pathetic than being alone.
imagine a person breaks up with you and then writes you a letter soon after asking to get back together. that's not good. you should have an honest conversation about it, not a letter.
OP forgot something:
- while she was much better than some other women in being not moody (or mood swingy) at all, she was really bad at handling external pressure and would have nervous breakdowns; for example, if under work pressure, or school deadlines. I'm at the age where I'm starting to think that's not someone I want raising my kids some day. But is it fair to hold that against someone when they might just be showing you their more vulnerable side and in reality *everyone* has these sorts of episodes?
>>17572600
It's not only that I don't want to be alone. It's also that I don't want too many regrets in my life - other lives that I never lived and that I'll have to look back and think about for the rest of my days.
>>17572619
I feel like I'm much better at getting my thoughts out correctly in written words. But I guess you're right.
How do I get weed in central Wisconsin? I'm 21 and bored so I figure "why not?" I haven't smoked before though.
There's a nice, chill girl at work that might smoke (tatoos, extra piercings, white girl dreds) but I want to have a fallback plan; I intend to call her tonight (really soon acutally, it's like 8pm).
ask her if she knows any friends willing to part with greens for green
it's a little cryptic, so she'll probably ask what you're saying
and if she does, tell her you have money and want to buy weed
then as a follow-up, ask her if she'd be willing to do some quality assurance with you sometime
feel free to rephrase and be as autistic as you want
>>17572613
I'm already seeing that.
>HEY, WANNA PART GREENS WITH BEANS?
>...uhh, what?
>>17572618
part green with beans and the beans are green not beads but beans and the greens are they beads in my green beans beads breeds fleas in my sneeze hey thats my cheese wheres my cheese find my cheese WHERES THE CHEESE
>girl starts talking to me in a class 2 or 3 semesters ago (she talked to everyone in the class though)
>she studies with me a lot because we both needed A's
>talks about this guy in class she thinks is cute
>offer to help introduce them since I was sorta friends with the guy, but she refused
>we end up acing the class together, feel super accomplished
>since then, me and the girl have remained friends, even chatted while she traveled abroad over the summer
>we've spent a lot of time studying with each other and helping each other out as we are both in the same program
>she talks to me about several guys that are interested in her from back home/other schools, but she doesn't want to have a relationship as she (and I) are focused on getting into graduate school right now
>start developing crush on her recently since we're taking a class together again and spending more time together
>tfw she called me quiet ("not the good kind"), unattractive, and wierd
>tfw she is super touchy with all her freinds, but not me
>not sure if being tsundere
>don't know if she likes me
She fell asleep while we were studying the other day my heart melted as soon as I noticed. Also she has joked around that she is "dating herself" currently, and I should probably take that at face value. I guess ultimately I just don't want to make a move at the risk of making things awkward between us for the rest of the semester. I've been stuck in a rut for a while, so I don't feel like I have good perspective on the situation, so any /adv/ would be appreciated. Thanks guys
Well obviously she isn't interested in dating right now, even dating you. Secondly, the fact that she talks to you about other guys further indicates her lack of interest, as does the fact that she's not very touchy with you. She's probably wary of leading you on when she doesn't want anything to do with you romantically
>>17572573
>>tfw she called me quiet ("not the good kind"), unattractive, and wierd
1.) What is the context of this? Because that's a weird, hostile, and anti-social as fuck thing to bring up out of the blue.
>not sure if being tsundere
2.) That shit doesn't really exist outside gradeschool children. There's a reason why basically all tsundere's in anime chicks are loli's that look like they're 11.
The only other explanation is she's mentally unstable (like legitimately, diagnosably bi-polar--which would explain why she was trashing you so hard)
>>17572604
We were hanging out before she moved back home last year when she made me some eggs because she didn't want to waste food she wasn't bringing back with her. While we were talking she just called me 'quiet' seemingly out of the blue, and specified "and not, like, the good kind". And I guess I was being quiet, but that hurt.
The 'ugly' thing she brought up when I told her I had a younger brother her age (a couple years younger than me) and she asked if he was cute. I told her he looked nothing like me, and she said something along the lines of, "so he's really good looking?". Basically implying I was not great looking, but I don't remember her exact words. I don't remember when she called me weird, I just remember she did.
Maybe it's my ego, but I dismissed all this as her just teasing me. But she is very honest and probably would really offend anyone with thinner skin than me. I haven't noticed any bipolar characteristics in her. I think she is more just blissfully unaware, or she just doesn't care, about social norms and trying not to offend people. I think she is the type of person who wouldn't be hanging out with me if I didn't have something to offer her if that explains anything
I have 2 perfect girlfriends and I'm being a sick to both of them in hopes that one will dump me so I don't have to make the tough decision on which one to keep.
Fuck me what do I do?
>>17572454
Try for a threesome.
>>17572516
>I have 2 perfect girlfriends
>Furthermore, I'll use idiocy to bring an end to idiocy
>>17572524
Neither of them will ever go for it. Need to resolve this before they run into each other
Hey /adv/ I started my first year at collage. I am going to lots of parties and drinking a lot. (25 drinks or so a week). How do I learn how to manage my drinking so I don't end up a drunk? I really like all the social stuff but I know that this is a bad path to go down - especially since I don't really know what to do in life. Will this fuck up my brain? How do I manage what I should drink? Thanks guys!
>>17572450
Less parties. It's that simple.
take a drink
wait a moment for the delayed effect
if you become happy, drink less
and your brain is already fucked.
Drink and be social. No one knows what the fuck they are going to do in life. Make sure u don't fail tests. As long as when u drink, you are being social, then it's chill. If u can party and get good grades then ur dope and should be giving advice instead of asking for it.
Alright adv I need your best girl advice.
Met this girl at a party a few months ago, but she had a boyfriend.
Recently messaged on accident (all my contact info was deleted) and found out she is single now.
We've only talked for about a day or so. She seems like she could be interested but her replies to my texts arent very engaging. Though she seems enthusiastic.
Anyway I was thinming about biting the bullet. Saying I want to meet in person again, ask her to go to lunch. I wont say date or anything like that.
Think its too early? Should I try to keep the conversation going longer if possible? I dont know how much longer I can keep it.
Thanks.
>>17572443
Why wouldn't you just ask her on a date? Don't you want her to know that you are interested in dating her? Do you want to be friends with her? Ask her for a lunch date. Make it clear it is a date. If she says no, it is not a big deal because you haven't invested much time or emotional energy. If she says yes, you're good to go.
>>17572443
>all my contact info was deleted
What do you mean? You cut contact with her when you found out she had a boyfriend?
>>17572457
No, my friend screwed around the contact names, changed all of them. I had to text each one to find out who it was.
>>17572455
You dont think its too early?
Is watching porn and jerking off bad if you are a virgin?
>>17572423
Why would you think this could be bad? Genuinely curious.
No, it's completely natural, and it has nothing to do with being virgin
Married guys masturbate all the time, it's just how we are
As if with most things in life, it is bad if you overdo it, you may get erectile dysfunction if you fap a lot everyday or if you grip your dick too tightly
Enjoy with moderation, this rule is key for a happy, healthy life.
>>17572423
only if you have a vag
How does a guy get into a romantic gay relationship? Is it even possible without just offering up sex in the first place? I live on a military post, which is supposed to make it easy but ig not. I'm sorta closeted too, mostly because nobody could believe I'm gay even though it's accused due to lack of interest in women.
>>17572395
1. Come out.
2. Date men.
>>17572403
How do I find men to date? My chest already pounds at the idea of coming out and talking to them.
This is too gay.
Go to eightchan's /cuteboys/ board. They will guide you.
if you were her husband (whom he has a child with, how would you feel about her still obsessing over that guy who pump'n'dumped her all those years ago?
how would /pol/ solve that situation? because i'm in a similar one. i'm also with a wife who's making a shitload of money but still isn't over that one guy who fucked her in high school.
the way i deal with it is i imagine how is her pump'n'dumper feeling right now, coming from work in a coal mine every single evening to his pitiful wife, kids and warmluke portion of fish and chips wrapped in shit smeared newspaper.
am i weak?
>>17572394
I'd be more concerned about her carb intake tbf
>>17572394
Does she still talk to this guy? Is she co-parenting with him or what?
>>17572394
>if you were her husband (whom he has a child with, how would you feel about her still obsessing over that guy who pump'n'dumped her all those years ago?
She doesn't like her music or the genre, she has said that herself.
She makes money off the songs, they are easy to write and she can slap her name on any song and it is a license to print money.
I don't honestly think she gives her ex a moment's thought and the guy who has had a kid with her knows that.
Really if she was that fussed about her ex she would have went back to him once she had loads of money.
Need some advice. I'm almost 24 years old and I have never had sex.
I strongly believe that I have no chance of finding a girl who would willingly have sex with me so I am on my last legs here.
Is there any legal way I can pay a girl to have sex with me just to see what it's like?
My biggest concern with doing this are potential diseases. What are the risks of contracting something from doing this?
Last thing I want is a disease from my sexual encounter.
I'm willing to pay however much but I don't know the best way to go about doing this.
Anyone here have experience with this sort of thing.
Ever heard of backpages.com? Did you forget that there is a genuine world of Escorts and Prostitution?
Or, you know, you could also learn to not be a loser and actually date girls but, c'est la vie.
>>17572378
Travel to Nevada. Prostitution is legal there (except in the county Las Vegas is in) There are a couple of nice brothels in Winnemucca and Wells.Tell the girl at the front why you are there and she'll set you up with a sympathetic girl. (this is actually pretty common). It'll cost you $500 to $1,000 depending.
Being a girl, I can tell you if you want to have sex with a girl, there are plenty out there.
Be yourself, be kind, don't worry, be polite, do what you love, be honest..Build it, they will come. Best of luck.
I fucked my gf sister, and she may be prego.
What the fuck should I do? :|
Oh well
>>17572380
Fuck
>>17572373
First you need to confirm that she is in fact pregnant. Then you need to talk to her to see if she plans on keeping it. If she plans on keeping it you may just want to apologize to your current gf, break up with her, and then get with her sister. If she has your kid you have to deal with her anyway so you might as well be getting some of that ass while you have to put up with her. Your kid will be better off with both parents in his/her life as well.