So to keep the intro brief, I, a 19 year old college dude, went to a STEM conference with this cute exchange student who's the same age as me. Her reservation got messed up and she wound up needing to share the room with me (Hotel fucked up my arrangement and gave me 2 beds too) for the first night until she could book again the next morning.
Note that I don't really feel much emotional attachment or a crush even for this girl. At most, i might kinda want bang her. No strong feelings either way though, we're just kinda friends. The following 24 hours though have just been so weird that I need someone to help clarify this shit for me.
>Chloe and I move into our room, we're stressed
>we start unpacking and shit.
>airline delayed my luggage so Im kinda miffed
>we just wander around at the convention together all day
>get separated at one point, I don't really care so I keep walking around
>eventually I head back to the room, shes there
>we go get lunch
>return to room
>chat and make plans for the weekend outside of the conference
I should also mention we have a pretty decent chemistry as friends. We're always laughing and talking about casual shit.
>she keeps tellin me about this guy whos her friend that she's so excited to see, he goes to college nearby
>I don't really give a shit, I talk to her as I do with my dude friends
>as the night goes on she talks about him less and less
>we're eating dinner when she makes it pretty clear she doesn't really want to keep talking to him but keeps texting him short responses out of "obligation"
>I tell her to just be straight up with the dude
>she admits she doesn't really know him too well and had 2nd thoughts about him coming to visit
>she then follows my advice (kinda) and ignores him
>we keep talking all the way up to my room
>felt like I had a decent day with a friend, i enjoyed it
>we came up, got ready for bed. She showed me her pjs for some reason
>literallynotevenautistic.jpg
>then we both get in our beds
>then..
>>17572913
>then I turn on "Netflix" cause I can't go to bed until I get my luggage later that night
>She says she likes going to sleep with some ambient noise or whatever
>i oblige and turn on "Clerks"
>then as she lays there in bed and I sit there in the bed opposite of her at 11PM
>Chloe asks me some question about the film
>this question somehow turns into a discussion about love/life alll that shit
>she completely stops focusing on the film and just looks over at me from her bed while we talk and talk
>I told her casually about being invited to a party back home, she asked who invited me, I explain it was an ex
>that somehow led to her telling me about her romantic past which she had never talked to me about before
>she really starts opening up to me about relationships, love, depression, death, sex and what it means
>then she says how much worse girls have it at dating because they get rejected more
>I explain some shit from the male perspective to her, shes really surprised that guys can be total pussies while crushing hard on a girl
>she tells me she's only ever had sex with people she barely knew so she really just hated herself and didn't think she really deserved to be in a loving relationship
>much like me she doesn't like being emotionally dependent on others
>she likes being alone
>but at the same time, she really longs for someone who really cares about her
>that night I basically learn that she is in some ways the female me.
>she says she really likes our talks and wants to have them again, even after this trip is over
> i agree then I go out to get my bag
now aside from the talking, which was really just a cool heart to heart with a friend to me. She kept making all of these weird jokes repeatedly saying "haha we're like husband and wife!" quite a few times before we had that talk. She said it again the next morning as we were getting ready and she told me how to physically come onto her as we were talking.
Does it seem like shes into me? idk
>>17572934
live updata:
she JUST messaged me to say good night and make some small talk as she sleeps in the new room the hotel reserved for her by herself
Im simply repling because you actually put effort into making a thread.
she sent a lot of signals that she's into you, so go for it. im 99% sure she's into you.
it's only been 2 days and there's nothing I want to do more right now than just fap and go to bed
>>17572905
Yes, hang in there. Don't be that guy who can't even stop himself from touching himself.
It depends, if you've got chronic masturbation problems then yes.
my wife still isn't over a guy who dumped her while in college and the fear of her leaving me because she doesn't love me enough is making me cry myself to sleep almost every night since we've been married (3 years now)
i mean, if she's still into him, she doesn't love me 100% as any wife should love her husband, right?
he's not living anywhere near us, i made sure of that, but every once in a while she mentions him. it's nothing serious really, we're watching a movie and main character does something and she's like ''oh, jacob used to do this'' or we're waiting in cashier line and she's like ''oh jacob was so stupid this one time while we were waiting in line'' or she used to silently moan his name while we were having sex a couple of times, but her friends are telling me that's nothing REALLY spectacular and i shouldn't be worried about it and that she won't leave me eventually
so how the fuck do i ensure she won't leave me?
>>17572846
Try talking to her about this
You Fucking nitwit
>>17572855
i did, she says i'm nuts and wrong
>>17572858
She's moaning his name during sex. You may or may not be wrong, but you aren't nuts.
I'M NOT SCHIZOPHRENIC I'M NOT CRAZY FUCK OFF FUCK OFF FUCK OFF
>>17572844
you sure showed me
at least doctors say they can help you. I was told "we can't help you, and we don't know if anyone could"
You know the surest sign of madness is completely denying that you're mad.
So I had a female friend who was married (that I knew semi well since kindergarden, in late 20s now) ask me for money for plastic surgery. I said i am ok with it, if her husband is fine with it and they sign a contract.
They signed a contract. Friend cashed my check got work done. They repaid about a fifth, then got a divorce. They completely stopped paying me. I was patient with my friend for about a year and a half letting her delay paying me back. She suddenly cut all contact when I started asking about it a few months ago.
I decided to ask a lawyer and he said my contract will hold up if I go to court and that they are both liable because it is outstanding marriage debt. I have been considering just dropping it because the husband didnt spend the money and the ex friend is very poor as far as I know. But she responded to my fist text in a long while when I mentioned I had a lawyer she told me to "fuck off".
For logistics I gave them 5K got 1200$ back. Lawsuit would cost up to 2700$. Which I could ask they pay the fees. But they may be too poor to pay even if I win. I could maybe go forward with the lawsuit to prove a point, but would rather not.
Both ex friend and husband are horrible people. Turns out they both have had multiple run in with the police with drugs, property destruction, domestic violence and assaulting officers between the two of them, and they have 3 kids.
Sue the ever living fuck out of them. Make them pay damages for abandoning their debt.
yeah, sue em, fuck it. The hell were you thinking though?
>>17572824
I knew it was extremely stupid to lend them money. As to my thinking my mom died a few years ago either murder or suicide, its an open case still. I was extremely sympathetic to women with problems and this was my big mistake but also years of really shitty dating.
Long story short, I had an extended period of bad decision making
So like, we've been dating for two years now, I was aware from the jump he had some mild flare ups with his anger, but he manages to calm himself down.
But yesterday we had an intense argument, he just flips shit, snatches my phone from my hand and chucks it out into the parking lot below, walked into our room and shut the door.
Thankfully I have insurance so my phone being destroyed isn't that big of an issue, but just to seem him react like that was really scary, but very pathetic in the same light.
Should I just pack my shit and leave /adv/?
Yeah, that's how it starts.
Leave
Leave. It was a phone this time, but one day it'll be your face. Being in a relationship w/ someone who is a constant threat of violence is a terrible way to live.
Good luck anon.
Have you ever gained a fetish from a boyfriend/lover? Has there ever been something that maybe you were turned off to but came on to in time? How did it happen and what made it stick?
I'm asking because I'd like to know the best way to go about this with my girlfriend. We have a good sex life and good communication, but I'd like some outside perspectives because it won't hurt.
A girl I used to know in college got me into futa.
Prior to that point, I didn't care for it, but everything she said just seemed right.
>>17572796
My ex girlfriend was so thirsty for my dick that she wanted me to tie her up and fuck her to bits.
I guess I learned that I only wanted to tie up girls who didn't really want it. Not much of an answer for you, OP.
>>17572796
Idk I got my ex into all things having to do with her asshole so there's that I guess
So my mom is getting married to her boyfriend. I'm honestly not too excited about it since this guy is a douche. While I want my mom to be happy, I don't want her to get married to this guy. What should I do?
Your mom will never marry you, get over it
>>17572774
Seduce him, proving that he's no good.
>>17572774
talk to her. get a mediator if you think that it won't work out well.
/adv/,
I'm an idiot. I met a girl recently who was pretty cool, and her friend hinted to me that she liked me. So I got her number and texted her a bit, making plans for the next day to hang out.
Today, she came over and we talked a bit and I (stupidly) tried to kiss her and afterwards, she got freaked out and literally ran out. Shortly afterwards I began getting harassed by her friends.
I feel like an ass at the moment, especially considering the fact that I know better not to be this beta.
The latest thing I did was text her saying I wanted to talk to her alone (since her friends would just come to me). But she's probably too creeped out to want to talk to me. Should I do anything else? I know I ruined any chance of getting with her, but how do I stopped doing stupid shit like this?
Dude, you ruined it. That's embarrassing.
>>17572748
>she got freaked out and literally ran out
Is she like 12 years old or something?
>>17572748
Why would you try and kiss her ? Dude if you were going that far already you should have whipped your dick out and did the helicopter. But it's too late for that now you worthless faggot
how do I become confident when i'm only 5'8 with no facial hair....22 y/o and I dont feel very manly.
>>17572734
get ripped
wear flannel
>>17572734
You're taller than Tom Cruise.
How do I deal with getting older? I feel like life is passing me by way to quickly. I have never been one to philosophize or even think about life and the forces that be but lately I have been sinking a tremendous amount of thought into this. Nearly a quarter of my life is gone..finished and in the past..How can I make the rest meaningful?
>>17572731
Why do you assume a quarter of your life is over? You will likely die much younger than 100 and perhaps even this decade. Stop dwelling on it and live your life. If nothing else, use it as motivation to make the most of your time.
>>17572754
Yeah I understand the idea of "enjoying my life" and "living". What I'm basically trying to say is how to make the distinction between living and being alive.
>>17572755
sorry got that mixed up I mean difference between being alive vs living.
My girlfriend actually dont want anything sexual, in any moment, so how i forget my sexual wishes? Its like some hard cause we both have some sexual thing like 2 times at week or like that, so how i forget this?
Wank...
>>17572717
Without wank
>>17572719
http://www.ericberne.com/games-people-play/why-dont-you-yes-but/
Half the fucking threads on here are just like you OP.
I need relationship advice guys
>ldr with guy for about 5-6 months
>really close and happy
>he moves in with me in my apartment
>everything okay for about 2 months
>talks about how he'd never break up with me and how he wants us to spend our lives together
>apartment floods with water the carpet is soaked and the bed is fucked (besides that everything is good)
>maintenance people start repairing it
>stressful but everything seems fine
>goes into the bathroom saying he loves me and everything is good
>comes out saying that he wants to leave and break up
>he didn't want to talk about it but I plied it out of him that he wanted to leave only because the flood is stressful.
>after begging I talk him into staying
>everything is fixed up the next day
>says he was just having a weird episode from being stressed about
Do I have a right to feel really fucking pissed about him wanting to leave just because things got a little hard?
How the fuck can he honestly say he loves me?
It just seems really disloyal to me. How can I trust that he won't leave me again when the going gets rough?
>>17572702
Yeah I'd be pissed OP & ur bf sounds like a lil bitch
It sounds like he just had a bit of a meltdown due to the stress. I'm not saying what he did was right, but it sounds like it was dealt with pretty quickly and sometimes these things do just happen. We all do and say things we regret when upset. Is he having any other problems at the moment?
As for whether or not you can trust him not to leave you again when the going gets rough, well you kinda either have to let this one go and try to trust him again or finish with the relationship because you can't keep him caged.
Honestly, I'd just let this one go. You can talk to him about it if you really feel the need to, but it's up to you. Be sure to be available to listen to him if he needs to talk too, he might have other stuff going on in his head too.
>>17572702
Yes
He can't
You can't
How do I control my jealous, violent, urges??? I'm tired of people ways putting me down. I know I suck at shit (even overwatch) You dont have to remind me. I really wanna get revenge on people who did this to me.
(Both irl and online)
> inb4 mods ban me for discussing us crime
I'm not gonna do it but the desire grows each day.
>>17572698
Everyone everywhere every day is getting put down and living in a state of despair. Be grateful you aren't a celebrity where your entire life is nothing but criticism and threats from most people on earth
>>17572708
At the end of the day they still have loads of support from people. Plus they're good at shit. But I devoted my life to ps4 overwatch, went from gold to silver, went on /v/, hot humiliated. I can't recall the last time I've gotten truly praised for something. I hate life with a fucking passion.
>>17572698
Bump I think I'm about to lose it
If my professor has a picture of herself on the internet, would it be illegal for me to print it out, jack off on it, and then take a picture and email her the picture from an anonymous email account?
My dick is turning to diamonds just thinking about this, but I don't wanna go to jail, or get kicked out of school.
I doubt they'd be able to trace it back to me, but just in case.
>>17572675
mail it to her physical address
were gloves
>>17572691
I don't know her physical address
>>17572675
As turned on as you may be by the thought. I wouldn't do it since it would probably freak her out, and if thats not enough, I wouldn't want her to call the cops and have the email be traced. Then again, you may know how to cover your tracks.