Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 3213. page

>>17814282
Get a job. Find useful skills. Become a meaningful member of the human race.

You may want to start with those basics before you worry about being attractive or interesting, because no one's going to date you beforehand.

>>17814282

go to meetup.com

go to meetups for the things you talked about so you can socialize and get back into them

but also try new things. dodgeball is a GREAT way to lose weight.

>>17814330>>17814358

>job

gotcha

>useful skills

What exactly are you referring to when you say this?

>basics

That's why i'm here.

>meetup.com

Yup, I was aware of this. Seems useful, but I want to iron out my basic "yup, your a human" qualities before pursuing its use.

>>17814259
Just drink poison right now. That's how it's gonna end up anyway.

I don't think you just get up and join a cult, they usually reach out to you. Try the deep web.

>>17814259

I manage a small cult masquerading as a business. Not much going on desu.

>>17814238

28 and NEET here. I know these fears all too well but have dealt with job rejection the past few weeks nonstop. One place I really wanted to work at just gave me the runaround after the third interview and I never heard back. I'm already exhausted from this shit.

As much as I wish I had an upcoming job like you, I know the pressure. All I can say (or what I might possibly do in that scenario) is slowly correct bad habits. Break it into smaller goals to make it easier, maybe week by week since you have time. Wake up a bit earlier each day, go walk, eat healthier, keep mentally active by reading etc. I have two pets and some plants so that responsibility keeps me up and moving most days. Just focus on staying active.

>>17814238
You gotta recognize that you're on rock bottom and work your way up.

For me, it meant with dealing with a job and people that made me feel subhuman for a year. It meant being that outcast, and swallowing all the stress of a barista position in an extremely high volume store. It meant being humiliatingly bad at it for that whole year. And it meant swallowing the anxiety over an unfamiliar situation in order to move on as soon as another opportunity came up.

It might be a trudge, but you gotta do it. It means pain now for less tomorrow, or lying on your ass and making things worse.

>>17814267
thank you. i really need to work on my sleeping habits and become a morning person again. there was a time when i would wake up at 6:30 am, go for a run, come back, shower, eat breakfast, dress up, go to work and arrive 15min early each day. it's funny because everyone on the train had a long face and i was smiling like an idiot, full on endorphins. i really wish to be that person again, i'm just afraid i will fail to put the effort it will take me to get there again. i'll start slow, like you said.

>>17814206

depends what you hope to get out of it.

people are always asking 'is it worth it?'

well, it depends what you want. are you into the military more than you are into accounting?

>>17814206
What's wrong with accounting?

>>17814232
you need cpa with needs extra year of school to qualify. That is to get paid better.

>>17814222
I'm not into the work in school. I feel it's going to be worse at work. Military would give me training in a trade I think.

You don't have to have everything working on the van to use it.

I see this big list of things that should be replaced/fixed, but no actual problems the vehicle is experiencing.

Any real problems with the way the vehicle runs should have been discovered before you purchased it. I find it difficult to believe it truly needs all of these things done.

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>>17814156
>when you buy a car to avoid rent but it ends up being more than rent

>>17814656

I mean not really, the important work will be about 1-2 months of rent and then I'll have a perfectly good vehicle and zero rent. I want to do this for several years so the savings will be about 30-40k. It's up front cost for long term savings.

>>17814644

That's true. Not like it isn't functional as a dwelling for now. I just shouldn't road trip it. Thanks. When I was buying it, every van I was checking out got snatched up within the day, it was fierce competition. So I thought this one looked good and had a good maintenance history and I put the cash down.

> I find it difficult to believe it truly needs all of these things done.

I didn't have the opportunity to get a pre purchase inspection. I thought the car looked good but then again I'm not a car person. It does run decently and no horrible engine noises, and no rust. At least. Apparently the tires are really fucking bad. I guess it's all minor stuff now that I've calmed down. Should I get a quote for the work elsewhere? These guys are thorough but imo overpriced. The other guy is cheap but is a used-parts and duct tape kinda guy. This one was including cosmetic fixes in the quote, so I think I'll spend about 1500 in fixes. Is that a lot for fixing up a used car?

>>17814153
Yes.


That's Bernie Sanders is a meth addict mask.

That's how Bernie gets his thrills

Nice :)

self respect > love

If you are already obsessed, you've fucked up, probably seek mental help

>>17814162
not obsessed, don't get me wrong, just attached to somebody who isn't attached to me.

like falling in love with a friend, kind of situation.

I don't go out of my way to obsess over anyone.

>>17814145
Be careful, you may cut yourself on that edge.

Welcome to the game a non :D

It's happened to me many times also. So many times I've felt like I'm the only sane person I know. I've had several people make up the most absurd lies about me and ruin relationships with everyone I know. It's hard to imagine not everyone is the same when every time you meet someone "different" they do the same thing. Take comfort in the fact that you're better than them

Jesus. I guess I'm lucky in the fact that my friends usually back me up even in altercations. Any trash talk is done face to face and with honesty.

Sounds like you're dealing with snakes OP. These aren't friends. Cut the head and bury it ASAP. If you have to deal with them for some reason you need to learn their game or sow seeds of doubt within their group before bailing. Let them squabble amongst themselves.

>>17814114
Why do you care?

>>17814127
Because I'm awkward and hate feeling watched.

>>17814131

you wont be watched.

>>17814114

not really, i do it a lot. sometimes people ask why im alone, and i said, 'i like to come alone'. they act surprised, but its not negative. its like telling someone you work a weird job or like a weird food. people dont go 'WOW WHAT AF UCKING WEIRDO PLEASE LEAVE'

most just raise their eyebrows a bit, then go right back to talking about themselves, cuz thats what really matters.

i only go to clubs if i want to get laid, and its easier without 'wingmen' imo.

worse case scenario: lie.
>who are you here with?
>oh i came with one of my friends but the asshole ran off back home already. i didnt even want to come.

this has even lead to the girl inviting me to just hang with her group all night, like 'oh well dont worry, you got me now, here come meet my friends'.

Everything.

>What is good
You're not obese
>What should be improved
You're about 10 pounds above Holocaust survivor body.
You have no muscle definition whatsoever. I've seen 14 year old girls who have more muscle tone.
If you want to improve your body and chances with dating, head over to >>>/fit/ asap

Eat more is probably the number one factor in improving here.

Go to the gym, don't be ashamed of swinging around the 5 pound dumbbells for a while, just start now so you can rocket past that part. /fit can help with that.

Your not obese, which is arguably a worse starting point then full skeletor mode. Results may vary.

Good luck OP.

>>17814073
Fill it with cement

>>17814073
destruction of property is a felony but >>17814098 has the right idea

>>17814073
Ten full cans of expansionfoam. Put it in the sink and everywhere else too just for fun.

>>17814066

you have no reason to feel guilty. people act like you arent allowed to break up with someone unless they give you a reason. but its arguably a LOT WORSE to stay with someone and wait for a reason even though you dont want to be with them and keep wasting their time then it is to just break up with someone cuz the feelings arent there.

feelings fade. its natural. so break up.

>how tho

thats the hard part, and there isn't much we can say without more context. i could write out a long psot but it would

If A is true than do B
but if C is true than do D
or if E is true than do F

you are on a lease. whats the deal with it now? is it month to month? could she afford it on her own? does she have friends nearby? does she have parents she could live with temporarily?

>>17814144
I would probably be the one staying. I can afford it but I will have to keep a tight budget for the next 6mo. Til June.

I can stay at my parents house but I'd rather not. I don't know if she has any friends she can stay with. We share a bed and everything which was mine originally but she has a TV and everything of her own.

She could afford to live on her own if she wanted but I would need to give her time to find a place probably. We both have jobs right now and split it 50/50 for rent and everything

>>17814163

thats where it becomes tough man. you can try and take the apartment for your own, but maybe she wants it? so unless you're in a position to say its yours, or ready to just give something up, its hard.

my advice is to have a place to stay yourself, your parents if you have to, but still be able to pay half the expenses on your lease. i know it sounds shitty and cuck, but you are both on the lease and pulling her life out from under her is rough. this is why you shouldnt move in with a girl unless you're sure its legit. no one moves in thinkin 'ah were just gonna be together a few years'.

so talk to her. be prepared to stay at your parents for at least a little while. then when she setttles down, find a plan to get you guys out of this joint property.

>>17814061
Sounds like splitting the rent three ways is pretty fair go be honest.

>>17814061
Splitting the rent three ways is fair. The fact that you're posting about this and saying he's petty shows that you're going to start the argument most likely. There's no way for you to be in the right here because you simply aren't. That's actually incredibly selfish to move your girl friend in simply because of your pity for her too.

>>17814061
Wait he isn't paying more rent for having the master bedroom?

Also, what you guys have sounds fair, but splitting rent 3 ways is also fair. It's pretty silly that he didn't talk with you about this though.

If you aren't willing on splitting rent, prepare to find a new place with just you and your gf.

>>17814043
Fuck I love dogging.

The beach.
Building fire escapes
Carparks
Forests
Trains late at night

Scented candle store, elevator, the oval office.

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I tried forest once.

Then a cyclist passed by. Also lots of dem fucking mosquito biting you on exposed places. It was totally not like in my porn movies.

akshually she was wrong, putting mops upside down is a myth. makes them dry slower and also ruins the handle over time.

>>17814107
the more you know

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self bump