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>27 years old
>have a degree
>unable to use it
>working in an airport kitchen

Should I just end it all?

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what should i buy my boyfriend for christmas

he goes on 4chan

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basically I want to know how to reconnect with someone who was everything I wanted but treated like shit

>be idiot 17 year old and wanna start a band
>start off as a small local group
>meet a girl through mutual friend
>absolute sweetheart and become fast friends
>she's always there for me, always goes to our small shows, always promoting us
>band gets locally famous in the state
>we start to realize we might have mutual feelings for eachother
>explore it a bit but the band always seems to end up coming first and getting in the way of us
>she always tried to make us work
>I was a moron that never put in any effort so it always fell apart
>she would always say it's okay and keep being friends
>band starts really blowing up and we're doing national tours and festivals
>want to bring her to stuff but start realizing she doesn't fit with the "musician" lifestyle
>at afterparty for a festival and she is completely different than everyone else
>tell myself that I need to focus on getting to know people who can help further the band
>she acts like she's totally fine with it
>slowly cutting contact
>after flaking on her ten or so times she calls me crying
>"what did I do? I miss you and I don't know if you're mad at me or something, please just tell me"
>just tell her now that I have the career I do I need to start hanging out with people of the same caliber
>she just gets quiet and says "okay. I hope you find all that you're looking for"
>feel shitty
>go a few years just fucking fangirls and "dating" fake ass "models" and "makeup artists" that just fuck any dude in a band to get 15 minutes
>still miss that girl so much
>decide to look her up
>still cute
>still wonderful
>opened up a fucking dog rescue

How the hell do I get her to think I'm not a piece of shit. I miss her, I was a fucking idiot. I hate the people I'm around and I hate the life I have. She never played into it and that's why I thought I didn't need her but now it's why I want her. I don't know what to do

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Hey /adv/,
Did I done goofed? What do I reply?

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how do i tell my bf to tone it down with the lovey-dovey stuff without him feeling rejected?
he overdoes it so frequently that whenever he says someting "romantic", it has lost all meaning. i actually have to sift trough his sugarbubbles to find the few things he actually wantet to tell me. it is pretty frustrating since now those words seem empty, even in situations where it would be nice to hear them...

for example: tonight i got very sick and in the morning i sent him a text askomg if he slept well, told him that my noght wasn't so good due to me being sick and wished him a good day, ending with "i love you".
so, he wrote back, out of the blue: i would never leave you, i wish you could see youself trough my eyes for one day so you finally see how perfect you are, yadayada. to be honest, i was kind of embarssed. it seems so ingenuine if he says stuff like that on a daily basis. he strips it from any value. help?

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/adv/ what do you do about a friend that constantly ignores you and occasionally "forgets" to invite you to group meet ups?

it makes me really sad. i feel like a guy that's just there and not an essential dude to the group. I'm always a dude people just kinda feel whatever about. I don't get it. I'm nice, I'm friendly, I always try to bring something with me when I visit and be a good guest. Why do people not like me? :(

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What the fuck do I do?

The caulking is totally fucked in my apartment's tub and I've neglected it for about 6 months and now its growing some black mold.

Anyone have any suggestions?

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Should I get help?

>Think about killing myself every single fucking day
>Always think of interesting situations that I could kill myself in
>Like standing at a intersection, and seeing a bus and the first thing that comes to mind is jumping in front of it
>Happens constantly, I don't even do it consciously anymore, just instantly pops into my head

I'm not particularly depressed, but I have wanted to die for the longest fucking time, and getting through life like this is fucking nightmare fuel.

So, should I get help? This constant "why am I alive still, please just die" feeling is really making getting through my mundane obligations incredibly difficult.

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Hey people, can you help me to make an important decision?

I am a 30 year old European guy who currently lives in South Eastern Asia. I have been working here for a year now, but it seems that my employer does not want to extend my contract so that I will be unemployed soon... However, usually I would say "alright, it has been a nice experience, but one year in Asia is enough, so now it is time to go home and see my family", but there is a catch and of course it has something to do with women:

I have a terribly cute and pretty Asian GF, she is absolutely caring, loyal and literally the sweetest thing that has ever happened to me in my life... However, even though I am really fond of her and even though I am not sure if I would ever so lucky again to find someone else like her, I really have no idea how to move on in her country with no job and no money.
Another thing worth to be mentioned is that I will have about 5000 € of savings after I will have finished my contract.

So what would you do?

(1) Fight for the girl and try to find a new job until I run out of money (there are not to many alternatives for me where I could work here so the chances of finding another job are not so high)

(2) leave my GF and accept that it has been a beautiful time with her which is over, fly back to my country, hide the money from the government (so that I have some savings if I need money in the future), apply for social benefits and take some time for looking for a new job

(3) Take the money, travel around as long as I can afford it (for example to Australia or New Zealand or maybe Japan), and fly back home if I don't accidentally find a job in another country while travelling

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Over the past some months, I've been experiencing hallucinations. At first they were mild enough that I wrote them off as my mind playing tricks. Errant shadows moving incorrectly against the light, voices muttering that could've been a television in another room or the neighbors talking.

Over the past few weeks they've become more... concrete. I still can't make out the words being said, but I often mistake audio hallucinations as someone talking to me and discover that no one's said a thing. And I now see full silhouettes of people often standing around the interior of my house, and occasionally even moving.

At what point do you quit writing things off as an overactive imagination and escalate the issue to the next step?

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Does dating a girl make it easier when you are rejected?

I think knowing I have a girl will increase my confidence and make me less insecure

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We used to hang out a lot, I asked her out like 3 times over the summer and we would always end up at mutual friends parties together. I never really made much of a move even though I liked her because I'm an inexperienced anxious mess. She started this whole thing by chasing me pretty hard, but eventually started hooking up with another guy. I stopped all contact. She hit me up to go to a party, made out with this guy in front of me, so I left and we didn't talk again for over a month.

Now she's back, and she seemed real interested at first. I asked her to hang out alone and we did drugs. I still didn't make a move. We messaged back and fourth like twice and hung out at a party over the next weekend, then this weekend she came over to party with friends and I. Long story short we talked most of the night. My friend kept chatting her up too. She left and got his number from someone else and they fucked. It was her idea. It was at her place.

Now she's messaging me again.
She must think we're platonic friends, right?
Probably not interested in me?
I'm thinking about just ignoring her entirely, but I don't know if that's the right thing to do, or what. Not interested in being friends. Think she probably knows this, she never mentioned other guys around me and always dropped innuendos about relationships and we sat together most of the time. Idk. Like she gave me the vibe she was interested in me the entire time. I can't even figure out if I should be pissed off or not. I can't tell how mad I should be at my friend, who knew we were hanging out. I can't figure out what to respond. I haven't opened the message but it's probably some innocuous thing to test the waters and see if I'm mad or not.

Need opinions.

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>Be compsci student
>While still in college I decided to help mom with a web system and remake it from scratch
>We're basically a super small company
>It's been 4 years since and the system has grown to support a ton of things with clients using it constantly
>Need to branch out and get a formal job

How do I put this experience in my resume? I'm just saying I have 4 years of experience, which is technically true, but I don't know if this is good form for such a small company. I may look overqualified for entry level jobs, but then I will also look underqualified for everything else.

What do?

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*TLDR* How can I stop exclusively reading books and do some adventurous cool shit? Do things "cool" and "interesting" men do.


Guys, I'm 23 and overly intellectual.

In high school I read the economist and scientific american cover to cover from 15-18 years old, I got straights As and didn't do anything but read. I was 300lbs, didnt dress well and rarely bathed. Today I am 220lbs, bathe daily, and dress well but all I do is physics for Uni (graduating with a masters this month) and read books on random historical topics. I enjoy all of this but I feel like I'm so lopsided if that makes sense.

I used to be very very very social as an undergraduate. I went to every party and was always out meeting people. That lifestyle was good for undergrad but I don't want it back. I gave months worth of time to people who were wildly undeserving, but I learned a lot about myself and others in the process. I was popular with girls but didn't believe they were *actually* coming on to me (horrible self esteem) so I never got laid. I'm ok with that and am generally trying to avoid women now because I need to focus on finishing this degree and finding work.

So what is my issue now? I don't do anything cool or adventurous and I feel like I never have. I'm so intellectual that I'm in constant fear I'm going to wake up in 20, 30, 40 years and feel I really missed out on cool stuff. I overthink shit and everyone says I think too much.

I always listen to what my Dad says to do (50 years old) and I'm starting to think I live like a 50 year old partially because of it. I'm so frustrated and sad.