So usually I dont ask for "love" help but I guess I am at a all time low. For a year + I havent been in a relationship mostly because I became really picky, but at a party 3 weeks ago I met a girl that in an instant I really liked. Went to her introduced myself and all the other stuff you do when you meet someone for the 1st time. Shortly after I was drinking with her. A couple of hours go by and we both were drunk especially me (half whiskey and half Jagermeister which I drank with her) and some peeps from the party played some real garbage music and that annoyed me and I went to the balcony but I got cold so I went back in, she saw me grabbed me by the hand and insisted that we should dance, ofc i accepted. 10 mins in one of my mates calls me to smoke weed. I declined but she heard him and went and smoked. After that she got nauseous and went to rest on the couch, after an hour her friend was leaving so she went with her. We exchanged Facebooks, but here comes my problem.... I am too shy to text her, because the fear of rejection. I never really had this problem...
>Wat do
if you never try you will never know. Do you want to look back in your life saying: remember that one day I almost texted that Girl? No you wanna say: Remember the day I texted a Girl, she rejected me but I got over it or even better. You practically cant lose
>>17831521
But like I said I dont wanna be rejected. And imo writing a "Hey" 3 weeks after you met hints WAY TO MUCH that you like her
>>17831537
Do you want to wait and make it even more difficult? Just go for it. You'll probably get rejected so who cares? If she says no, dust in the wind! If she says yes you might have someone awesome to share life with.
I'm gonna tell you one of the weirdest days of my life. If anyone of you knows about trauma it would be appreciated.
>being 7 years old
>it's a nice morning in June
>Me, my sister and her friend go play softball at my friend's place with his brother.
>we play for a bit
>it's my turn to be a catcher
>Sister's friend misses the ball
>I go pick it up
>My sister's friend is swinging the bat around like an autist
>I come back with the ball and I go next to her to throw it back at the pitcher
>I thought she would have seen me
>I get whacked in the face full force
>People laugh
>I'm bleeding
>I get to the ER
>I get local anesthesia right next to my right eye and see the needle
>I get 4 stitches and I watch the corner of my eye being sewn back
>Go back home
>Watch Tron
>I go downstairs
>My sister and her friend comes in and say there's a naked woman running in the streets
>No one believes them
>Hey look! there's actually a gorgeous naked blonde chick running around naked screaming
>She's screaming "Get them off me!" while brushing her hair and looking at herself in a mirror.
>Parents locks all doors
>She runs across the streets and no one is helping her, just drooling
>She sees us in the window and crashes into our front door squeezing her massive tits against the window. Banging as hard as she can
>Mom calls the cops
>She gets caught
>I ask mom if can rent TMNT on the NES
>Replies: Haven't you had a hard enough day?
>I rent the game
>Get frustrated on the underwater level
This sounds like a dream
>>17831509
nope, it happened
>>17831505
Is there a question here, or are you just bragging?
How do you stop putting your self-esteem on things you can't control?
I don't like sex, I don't want sex, and sometimes remembering the mere existence of the physical side of human procreation is enough to ruin my day. I know sex is required if I ever want a boyfriend, men consider love and sex one and the same (with the exception in which the former is absent) and the concept of someone liking him while simultaneously being disgusted with his stinger makes no sense to them.
Knowing that I can't stomach either expressing nor accepting love in the way that makes sense to them makes a huge dent to my self-esteem.
How do you prevent being completely unlovable from harming your sense of self-worth?
>>17831499
There are men who are like you.
How involved are you in the ace community?
Why are you so repulsed by sex? It seems like you're uncomfortable thinking let alone talking about procreation. Have you seen yourself fully naked, another woman/man? Have you ever masturbated.
OP is someone who pretends to be interested in sex for a few months, then cuts off her man once he's already invested too much into her. So he pretends everything is alright since she guilts him into thinking that dumping her over sex is a terrible, selfish thing and that he must not know what true love means. So after a year, he goes out and starts cheating on her and finally experiences what it's like to have sex with someone who wants it as bad as you do and it's the most amazing thing ever. So he starts to resent his girlfriend and actually start dating other women. But he soon realizes that women over the age of 22 have all completely abandoned the concept of education and careers and they're desperate to just sit at home and pump out children. Then you finally decide to stay with the fucking ice queen and occasionally get a handy at a massage parlor because this is as good as it gets.
Simple question, long answer.
HOW to become charismatic and what define charisma ? and do you have advice to have a deeper voice ?
>>17831476
>and do you have advice to have a deeper voice ?
Being self conscious is pretty much the opposite of being charismatic. Feel comfortable with yourself and project that confidence. That's a good way to come off as "charismatic".
>>17831476
"Charisma" is just innate likability. Confidence, wit, natural leadership skills, and yeah, good looks/presentation count for a lot too. You can't really force it or fake it, people always pick up on that. Don't try too hard, most people just aren't born to be "that guy"
Speak louder in general for a deeper voice. As far as being charismatic goes, you have to be and know what people like. To do that, you have to know what you want to be and what you like. Study people you admire: learn their mannerisms, their reasoning, their moral code and their processes of thought, and imitate them. Do they waste time on superficialities like how they dress or what they own. With time you will gain charisma. Most importantly - talk to people and expose yourself to a variety of people.
which signals do you have to watch out for to know if your boyfriend or girlfriend will cheat on you. I am in a long distance relationship and I see my bf once every two weeks. I think I can trust him because he calls me every morning and evening and texts me even when he is at school. He is sweet but you may never know what can happen while we are apart.
>>17831409
Dump him.
You cannot have a LD with this mindset. I've been in a LD for years and I never, not even once had a doubt about what my SO was doing.
>>17831413
Nah I trust him but like I said you can not know what he does while we are apart. And if he does cheat to me it will not be the end of the world. This ldr thing is just new to me. Do you have tips.
I was in a long distance. Except I'm the guy, she the girl, and she had a ton of ppl on her AIM list and handful of guy friends in person. Her she had, to my knowledge, two female friends, one that seemed nice, the other treated her like an idiot, and i disliked her for it. The guys were close friends from school and work. But, when I finally went and visited her (and it was awesome), her close guy friend (who has a gf but wanted to break up with her) was upset, he didn't like the fact that I went over to see her. And I was all, why tf does even matter? None of his business. But she kept talking to him anyway, talking to her close guy friends, even her boss invited her for ice cream after winning some contest. I fucking hated her at this point, needless to say. I was burning up with rage. Stupid bitch, I thought. But I held on, part of me didn't wanna hurt her. Part of me wanting to believe I SHOULD trust her.
Long story short, she breaks up with me, her close guy friend opens up about being gay (that whole fucking time), she ends up going to the guy with a gf (theg broke up) that very night and they all hung out. Week later she was dating someone else and she hid it from me, had to get it from an online friend of hers who was hitting on her. Today, that online friend n I are bros, her n I haven't spoken since 2008-09.
My advice, don't ever hurt a man this way, I was seriously in need of revenge for a long time. Needlessly.
Why are there so many lost souls on 4chan?
>>17831365
I never fit else where.
Now that I do in life I still feel like an outsider deep down, so return.
>>17831365
Teenagers are angsty more news at 11
>>17831392
Pretty much this. They come here when they've been cast out of every other place, no matter the reason.
How can you feel not extremelly disgust from females that lie being cock carrousells?
I just read on this board a girl that lied to his partner who was a virgin that she had just two relationships, but she confesed she had 89 sexual encounters with diferent males.
Just how?
What's the point of engadgement today if that's the norm?
And the worse part is that females are clueless over why males don't wanna engage more with females today.
>>17831283
It is not the norm. Most girls do not have a double digit partner count. No one thinks that lying is fine. And males want to engage with girls as they always did.
>>17831284
what's the norm then?
>>17831283
There's already one thread on /adv/ for whining about this. Was it really necessary to make another?
I've been talking to this lass for a bit now and suddenly she starts saying shit like she loves me, etc.
I don't know if she's legit but if she is being serious I don't know how to handle this...
I'm gonna put the key screenshots onto the image for you to see.
>>17831257
Red flags everywhere
>>17831257
Legit or serious it's not a healthy brained person
>>17831257
How did she react to the idea of the steak bake? That's important here.
Hello /adv/ I need some help as the title suggests. (pic not related)
My boyfriend has a rather close female friend, they tend to chat a lot for one (he does with me too, still).
But thats not all, they give eachother random gifts and shop together sometimes.
They also talk about sex (not having it, more about kinks and the science.) he does let me read his entire whatsapp chat with her hence I know.
Now here comes the kicker whenever she visits my bf they sleep in the same bed. Am I being girlcucked here? He says theres nothing going on but Im not sure.
Should I talk to him and or her about it or just drop his ass?
>Now here comes the kicker whenever she visits my bf they sleep in the same bed.
Even if they aren't fucking, that shit is just weird
>Should I talk to him and or her about it or just drop his ass?
Always talk about it first, that way you could figure out whats going on and stuff. If you just drop his ass now and he didn't really do anything worth the ass drop you might regret it afterwards
Are you by any chance, from sweden? If your boyfriend isn't mooslim, there's nothing to worry about.
Think about your boyfriends cock ravishing his ex, how they moan together, flesh to flesh, cum pouring into her. Be a good little cuckquean for your boyfriend, revel in his having sex with others.
:^)
So here's the deal, I've been dating her for 2 months, and she's a sweet and homely girl who's into cooking and knitting. But when I met her, she was a butchy lesbian, which was obviously caused by her being insecure and her previous boyfriend being a beta fag. Although she's feminine, sweet and loves me and my alpha behavior, she still has somewhat of a butch look, and recently she got into some sort of female MMA. She is still insecure about her appearance, though I take a lot of effort to boost her self esteem and take every opportunity to tell her she's beautiful and pretty. Yet often she tells me how she wants tatoos/a shaved head/muscular body.
I'm afraid she may not realize her inner potential and become a scary butch. What else should I try to help her?
>>17831240
Why don't you let her do whatever she wants with herself?
Tell her what you like. If she still want to become a "scary bitch", dump her.
You sound like a controlling, insufferable asshole.
>>17831246
Would a controlling insufferable asshole call her beautiful, sexy and gorgeous solely to make her feel better about herself?
>>17831254
Of course. You're not doing it for her, you're doing it for yourself.
You're manipulating her into being something because you like that something. You're training her like you'd train a dog - you reward her for acting like you want her to.
Don't pretend you are doing it for her, because that's pretty cheap.
How the fuck do you guys work up the motivation to keep asking girls out when you keep getting knocked back and ignored over and over again? Should I just kms?
Why don't you take a minute to think why you keep getting rejected. And then work on those points.
>>17831203
Do you "play the numbers game"? I mean, do you just ask a lot of girls out hoping one will say "yes"?
Because if you do that, you see a lot more rejection that other people. If you don't pick and choose, then you feel worse about yourself.
>>17831233
I have never asked a girl out. Why should I when they will just reject me?
So I've been talking to this guy who has been my friend for over a year. He is now showing clear signs of interest towards me even directly saying how beautiful he thinks I am at random times. He's not a bad person and I wouldn't mind dating him except for the fact that he is obese. It's not 100% about the looks but more about him having so much disregard about it. He tells me he will probably develop diabetes since all of his family has it. Like he doesn't even care about trying to avoid it. He just doesn't care about improving himself at all he just sits in a corner and says "I'm ugly".
What should I do /adv/? I may be missing a potentially great partner here. I just dont want to deal with the whole deal of illness that will come his way in the next 4 years or so.
>>17831184
>"Hey anon, I think you're a great guy but you HAVE to take care of yourself. I'm not gonna date anyone who may drop dead within now and 5 years, no matter how great they are."
>>17831187
I told this to him except for the dating part. I don't really want to show signs that I'm giving him any hope before I'm sure. He doesn't really care though. I even invited him to work out with me.
>>17831184
>>17831190
He don't care, why do you? Don't try to save him. It's his choice. If he doesn't wanna change, then nothing you say will do it. Leave him be and move on.
I know this is a relationshit board
but since it's a higher chance of here being girls I have an issue
I am a guy and let my hair long so much it reaches my shoulders with no problem, the one issue I have with it is that it gets tangled like hell, can anyone offer some hair-care advice, I don't have decades of girl experience
http://www.choisser.com/longhair/
>>17831154
Use a good conditioner. Brush when it's still slightly damp.
Guy here with hair down to his ass.
Just comb it every morning and evenings. If you can put it in a pony tail while you sleep. If it get super tangles you could use conditioner it helps loosen the knots. I've heard of people putting a bit of apple vinegar on their hair to loose knots too but never tried it. Also adding oils helps keep your hair lose and flowing.
long story short i cut opne what looked like a cystic zit, should i go to the doctor? What if i cut opne something that could be cancerous?
What made you think it was a cyst?
>>17831140
it looked red and bloaty? but im not sure, there was mainly blood and a tiny bit of white stuff coming out in the beginning.
>>17831143
If it comes back, go to the doctor. Rather than cut them open, my friend would just slam a book on the cyst in his wrist. It went away for a while, but would come back.
Why do people expect things from me? Don't like it at all.
All I want is to be left alone to my little job and my little life.
>>17831120
Why ask questions you already know the answer to?
>>17831131
What's the answer? Gotta learn to say no?
>>17831120
Crazy, my ex says this shit all the time.
She also constantly drags innocent people into her hurricane of her mentally insane destruction