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Studies do show that loneliness can lead to depression. Try to join clubs where you can socialise and make friends.. maybe sports? or volunteering?

>>18038213
Go out and talk to people, isolation and stagnation can lead to depression. It will be hard at first but in steps you can learn to be chill around people.

>you don't like your job
Move, get a better education, or make friends and try to get a foot in the door somewhere.

Having things worth having takes effort on your part. Don't mind your current conditions? Keep doing the same thing. Want things to change? Engineer your own future.

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>How will I make friends? Obviously work is potentially a place but I will definitely be the youngest there.

You won't just meet someone at a bar and become friends for life. I've talked to many guys, girls and couples at bars and even if it resulted in hugs or even facebook addition.. it never, ever ever resulted in a lasting friendship.

I've become friends with the most unlikely people at workplaces however.
Work is your place, there won't be any other place to make serious lasting connections really.

> Will relationships be possible? How do I meet girls?
Yes, but you will probably be misserable unless youre one of those butterflies. I don't think you are. How did you get the job, through a friend? If not, you're probably going to be fucking lonely man.

> What do I do to manage money?
The first thing you do every month is to make a transfer to your savings account. I have saved up $20k this way.

>>18038208
Hey, thanks for your response.

Friends wise I think you're right, work is my best bet, I think there may be people around my age there anyway.

I got the job through a Year In Industry placement thing so yeah, I'll be probably be lonely. That's alright though, I am ok with loneliness.

How much should I be saving each month?

>>18038223
As much as you can afford, but no less than 10% ( £ 158)

Just have it as a backup or if you want to go on a really nice vacation or need to buy an apartment in the future it's really good to have.

Who is getting penetrated ?

>>18038190
Many different scenarios. Like her forcing herself upon me, strap on, other objects... But all with the context that I am absolutely against it and she just continues.

I recommend increased sensitivity training. You star light, maybe have a girl tie you up in a room and leave you there.

Then you can progress upwards, perhaps 'just the tip', one day with lube, the next without, etc.

Before you know it, you'll be right in the thick of her,... actually she'll...

In any case, you'll have experienced your fantasy, erm, I mean "fear", but with all the training, you won't be conflicted. XD

Myself i get skinnhunger.
Fap and go out and socialize.

>>18038153
Fapping will calm me down for a few hours sure, but eventually the thoughts will creep up into my head again and keep fucking with me.

>>18038148
Fucking saved

And go!

>>18038142
would you say you 2 are good friends?
if yes - tell her you dont like to talk about
that shit
if no - slowly smother the communication and let it die
if yes and theres not much else to talk about then,
you probably werent goof friends to begin with.

>>18038237
I would say we're pretending to be better friends then we are..

Not saying we're not friends, just we're not the same as before, she just doesn't seem to get that it's not the same now as in when we were together.

Ofc she didn't talk about guys back then or anythin' but just like "the openess" is different now.

>>18038052
On the same boat

Borderline here

Don't expect the disease to go away. Look at new ways of dealing with it. You won't "change," but you can win this fight and live a better life. You just have to stay motivated and intelligent...even when your mind is against you. There are remedies to these woes and measures you can take to have a better existence.

>>18038089
I'm not the OP but thanks for your reply

>>18038002
Tor is an outdated meme, slow speeds too.

First you need to crush your sim card and get a custom one.

>>18038073
why

>>18037931
if you're a bitch.

>>18037931
Basic training is hard but other than that its the easiest job you will ever have. Impossible to get fired unless you start smoking crack or robbing liquor stores.

>>18037931

its certainly not lazy.

>>18037915
People care man, you just gotta try to reach them.

There's an old friend feeling the same as you right now out there. Don't give up on life.

>>18037954
No. I am done.

People can care as much as they like, we only feel the love we think we deserve...

How much do you care about yourself? Enough to bathe everyday? To exercise your body, as it needs it for health? Enough to enjoy fresh air, for its healthy?

The question here is: How much do you love yourself? You are not killing yourself for them, you are doing this for yourself. So be sure you won't regret it when agonizing.

Anyway, you should consider a psychologist. You seem really depressed and they can help, specially quick therapy (dunno if that's how it's said in english) or hypnosis treatments.

In any case, there are also psychiatrists that can prescribe medicine to make you feel better, so you won't have to wait long to start feeling good and work on whatever you wish to work.

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>>18037911
my mind right now

Fucking help me

How the fuck does nation wide block you, and how does that have to do with your internet I'm so confused

>>18037910
I meant to say "so I can fuck my girlfriend"

>>18037910
Bymp

>>18037910

This is becoming a sect.

I recommed you to become a monk.

>>18037743
If you have to ask, you don't belong there.

>>18037743
Uh, if no alcohol you better do something else like weed

>>18037764
No stimulants.

>>18037718
Good riddance.

You could've lived your whole life miserable, but now you get to enjoy things the way you want to. Not the way she wants you to.

Live for yourself, no one else.

>>18037722
She is saying that it is humilliating that I prefered to do some project I have rather than spend the day with her today and tomorrow. I already had plans for her tomorrow.

>>18037737
I can't see how woman think this is okay, but it's a common trend. Mostly brought on by a lack of life experience. She will eventually grow out of it, but only if more men like you are there to show her that life doesn't work that way.

We all have our own lives, wants, needs, and they're never going to match up in sync with another persons desires all the time.

If you have shit you want to do and take care of, she should not be able to guilt trip you into either not enjoying it, or keeping you away from it.

If I didn't break up with my overly needy and clingy girlfriend, I wouldn't be in the position I'm at now, where I'm much happier in my life, and am capable of making my own decisions.

I'm going out for beers tonight with my friends who I haven't seen for my whole previous 3 year relationshit with a clingy needy ex. And I'm excited. If I was still with her, I'd be dreading going home, because I knew I was just going to have to listen to her bitch, while she crowds my entire night, not letting me do anything for myself, and tries to fall asleep in my lap to keep me from making a midnight run to the gas station, or anything I might've wanted to do with my own free will.

It's soul sucking.

>>18037701
It's okay in countries where homosexuality is forbidden or not talked about at all, funnily enough.

Are there any females to hug it out with? Sister, mum, close friend?

>>18037748

moms the only female relative but shes up in oregon with dad. i dont really like females much to be honest my only female friend is my bestfriends girlfriend.

It's something called Social Conditioning.
Our society is built up to generate MachoMan boys and MaidenInDistress girls.

MachoMan guys do not hold each other like that. They don't show emotions, as emotions are revealing himself and that's considered a weakness. But dude, that's just crazy right??

I don't follow that code anymore than I should (after all, society told me not to jump from the 10th floor of a building cuz I'd die), so I do offer my shoulder to friends and speak openly about my emotions (I'm a man).

What I found out is that made my friends open up too. I remember when my depression first hit, many year ago, and a friend of mine judged me when I reached him for help, support. He kept saying I was being a bitch about or something like that.

But now, since he suffered a major loss and I was there, giving him my ears and my shoulder, he has changed into being very suportive, and not only just to me.

Bottom line is: Give what you wanna receive.
Of course your situation is far too urgent for it, so I'd actually tell you to find a girl who is your friend and trustworthy to do that job. They are waaaaay better at that than we are, since society tells them it's fine to be.

She feels insecure but will not bother to do anything to fix that?

If she can't be reasoned with, then sorry mate idk why you married her. Stop having sex with her and see how long it takes for her to get on it.

What the fuck are you on about anon? What sort of conversation do you imagine is going to take place? What is she possibly going to say regarding her insecurity and weight?

"Hi anon I've decided the reason why I've low self esteem is because you keep making out I'm fat when I'm clearly not?"

Who would even go there? My gf who I love dearly is kind of a chubby, that is a polite way of saying obese. She doesn't look like your picture, but nobody would mistake her for a skinny bitch.

She always wants to lose weight. She is always proactive about being more active and eating better. I work a very manual job while being 6'2" so I have to eat many thousands of calories to even maintain my weight, but it isn't like either of us think we are better than one another, she just can't eat as much as me.

You are being shallow because you are rating attributes out of 10, you don't discuss her personality and if you care about her weight, but not enough to leave her you are instead choosing to just complain. You either get on with it whole heartedly, or you get rid of her. Don't think there is any value in the moral high ground here.

Oh and if you want to be supportive just don't buy crap food. Cook good food and encourage portion control. Take up active hobbies which you can do together. People need a reason to lose weight other than "because my boyfriend is judgemental".

>>18037680
Well walking might help her, light and moderate exercises. Pool exercises help, if she's comfortable doing that.
Dancing too?
If she already is a kind, confident or whatever nice personality, then may be it's you who has to try to be less embarrassed of your girlfriends weight.