>talking to girl on okcupid
>suddenly goes awol
Why do girls do this
Because you're using online dating and there's nothing stopping them from bailing the second they see someone more interesting.
If you have to use online dating, your goal is to set up an IRL meeting immediately. Talk for no more than 2 days online. If you can't set up a date within 2 days you've failed.
>>18039049
she wanted your attention, not your dick.
>>18039059
Wow, girls are nothing but soulless swine. I guess it's alright if she gets what she wants tho?
I'm always focused on my work in school
I only interact with my class to get work done and talk about work
I don't have small talk with people only a few moments of catch-up and sometimes just an acknowledgment nod.
I'd like to remain like this but more relaxed and easygoing.
Downside is I don't know how to act when I'm just in the bus with no work. I listen to music, but what do i stare at? I read but I become too focused and my energy makes my head tired. How to chill?
>>18039014
Hobbies that allow you to interact with people.
>>18039036
Any suggestions other than Vidya?
Teach me how to be you, OP. I always procrastinate and my GPA is already fucked up, moreover, I feel retarded compared to everybody else.
Tried posting this last night, but think I gave too much info, and it caused my thread to suck.
I'm a femanon in a 4-year relationship. There are long dry-spells in this relationship, where we want sex, but there just isn't any "fire" in it. How do we keep things sexy?
Have you gained or lost weight since you began dating?
Have you changed your appearance at all?
>>18038986
was this the trilationship?
>>18038986
This webm makes me dizzy
Anyway you don't need to be having sex all the time, it's unrealistic to not have dry spells ever
>me and my bf have been dating for 2 years
>he doesnt have a job but has over $200 in savings
>we're both 18
>i got mad becuase he asks his parents to get him things all the time usually online (games, stuff for his computer) so why is it hard to ask for $5 bucks for chocolate or something.
>I said wouldn't valentines day be worth it for your gf, you're not dirt poor, his parents have money and will get him anything he asks for,$5 out of his savings for his gf of 2 years isn't going to hurt a fly.
>he said he wouldn't be a "good investment"...
>its valentines day..
>note he didn't get me anything for my birthday, Christmas, or our 2 year anniversary
>am I being ridiculous or should I dump him?
>we're both 18
I promise you, this is going to seem so petty in 10 years' time.
I was molested by my older brother from the age of 8 until 13. The Abuse started out playful and non-threatening, like a game. I don't remember getting much attention from anyone in my family before that, and I remember it felt nice for someone to pay me some. It wasn't until after he had come to me a few times that it turned evil. It went from mild touching to demanding I allow him to insert fingers into my vagina, I knew that it was wrong but to me it was too late, if I told anyone now, they would blame me for not stopping it the first time it happened. I fought back and tried to resist, but he would hit me and throw me against his wall over and over. I felt like it was my punishment for not telling someone in the beginning.
>wouldn't be a good investment
He wants out
I'm 27 and have this 24 year old female friend in grad school
>Not looking to date her, we have a lot in common but she has personality issues that would make a relationship last about a week, plus she is dating someone else.
She is a great person to hangout with, and I know she genuinely cares about me. She sends me I Miss you texts, bakes me food, and comes over to my apartment at least 3 times a week to hangout.
However she tends to lie to me, especially when she wants to cancel plans with me. This exact scenario has happened at least 10 times in the past month
>She texts me asking if I want to hangout
>I agree, we set a time
>Time comes along, she doesn't show and no text
>I text her if we are still hanging out
>Usually when she wants to cancel I get a response saying I'm sick or going to bed
However, she has a friend who basically documents her life on snapchat. Everytime she says she is sick or going to bed, I get a snapchat from her friend showing them out partying or something.
Last night I got particularly annoyed
>Asks to hangout
>Doesn't show
>SHE sends me a snapchat of herself out at some bar with a friend
>I text her asking if she is going to show up
>Sorry, I'm not feeling well and just got out of bed
I really don't care if she wants to cancel plans on me to hangout with someone else, I just don't really know why she has to lie about her excuse.
>I really don't care if she wants to cancel plans on me to hangout with someone else
The thing is, most people do. You may be okay with it, but SHE doesn't know that. She's stupid, but it doesn't sound like she's purposely trying to hurt your feelings.
OP here, figure I'd just not let it bother me
>>18038907
I had a friend like that, Monica.
She feeds off of attentiongiving orbiters. It was literally like blood for a vamipre.
Don't bother, its not something you can fix, it is something rooted deeeep down within her psyche. The friendship is just going to be a backburner 'bored as fuck, lets meet up' spontaneity-bound sort of thing. Basically, expect nothing and/so you won't be disappointed.
I was talking with this girl for a few hours and she gave me her snapchat.
What the fuck do I do now? I almost never use snapchat so I have no idea what to send her.
Dick pic
>>18038900
I feel like that would be a little too forward
>>18038903
Maybe it's so forward she'll think you're a maverick who doesn't take shit from anyone and travels to the beat of his own drum. Ultimately she'll think you're a badass and probably be extremely wet at this point longing for you to take her to pound town.
work has been great up until this new hire from 3 months ago.
apparently, she has a bit of a history of causing trouble with others; mutuals of ours (they were in her class year and has worked with her before in her last job) have explained to me she has said racist remarks, tries to make others look bad in comparison to herself, brags about her wealth, and is just generally rude and unpleasant and managed to get hated by everyone.
it seems she's trying to get a fresh start at my company, but she's chosen to try to make me as miserable as possible while being sugary and wholesome in front of others.
so far, she has
>insulted my family and laughed when she found out my parents are divorced
>twists my words to make them sound very offensive in front of co-workers
>accused me of being poor and ugly through back-handed compliments/comments
>tried to slam my fingers into these drawers (i dodged this in time)
>actively tries to make sure i don't have a seat near my friends (whom she decided to "take over") by even actively calling over randoms to make sure i'm sitting alone
>mfw my friends are too nice, beta and naive to understand what's going on
i've been nothing but nice to her, even helped her with her work and saved her ass when she said a transphobic comment in front of a huge LGBT activist at our workplace... (this was before i realized her insults/back-handed compliments were on purpose.)
the mutuals reccomended that i wait til she destroys herself because her toxic personality will eventually bleed out.
but she's making this so frustrating. i've also had enough people tell me that contacting HR would do me no good.
she also sits right behind me. what can i do?
Fuck her
>>18038842
im pretty sure your the asshole here not her. you sound really immature and like you have a grudge against this girl. what did you find out she voted for Trump and decided to try to get her fired? I hope your the one who winds up loosing your job. it sounds like all your focused on is socializing with "friends" at work and now trying to ruin this girl. it's not highschool it's work try to stop acting like a 12yo
>>18038875
what does trump has to do with anything? not everything is about you americans... outside of america, trump is old news and your problem as far as everyone else in the world is concerned.
and it's not just friends, but she is openly insulting me and trying to make me look bad. i didn't do anything to try to "ruin" this girl wtf, all i am asking is what can i do to deal with her bullshit?
I mean, i know it is, but I'm getting that urge to text my ex boyfriend because I'm lonely and depressed. Talk me off the ledge, please.
Do you consider Einstein a smart guy? I do.
He said, once, and here I'm not quoting word by word, that Stupid is the person that does the same thing twice and expect a different result.
You tried with him once. It didn't work. If there was no major change in you or him, it doesn't seem like it will work.
I don't know if you are wishing for sex, that could be the deal, and having it just might get the memory of him away.
>>18038849
He left me for someone else who he is still with 2 years later. I know he thought about breaking up with her frequently during the first year, but i don't know how he feels now. We stopped talking a while back.
>>18038857
He is in a relationship. Imagine you were with this guy for 2 years, after a lot of rough shit, and his ex girlfriend starts texting him because he's feeling lonely. How would you feel?
Ok guys this question has been on my mind for a LONG time.
When someone says, "Get out and DO something!"
What am I supposed to do? I never understand. My town really isn't the most eventful...and the events we do have are for older-folk (55+).
It's about an hour commute to any other city where events happen, but I'm not a huge advocate for long commutes.
I don't know. It's not like I don't want to go out and have fun/do something, it's just that there isn't anything around to DO.
I know asking this question on 4chan is ironic, but I'd love to hear you guys' opinion on the matter.
>>18038828
Speed bump
>>18038828
you have decided there is nothing to do and you are unwilling to travel a whole hour to do something, so we can't help, nor can anyone else.
An hour is not a long commute, and if you take public transport it flies by in no time. You're just finding excuses to not do shit.
If nothing bad happens I should be going on my first ever date tomorrow. What do I need to know to not fuck this up?
Where are you taking her?
Main thing is that you don't overthink or try too hard. Don't force conversation if it's not there. Let things flow organically. Don't give them a first impression that is anything but the authentic you, because then you'll have to to sustain a facade throughout the relationship.
>>18038825
Dinner at a casual restaurant, probably Denny's. I don't think I need to be fancier than that as we're both high school students.
I have had a very weird life. A ex-coworker at my place of work assaulted me, by rubbing his genitals on my phone. He had herpes type 1+2. I sued my workplace and got 500k for damages after the legal fees (frankly I would rather not herpes). Well I have given up on dating in the USA and am in my late twenties. I am going to find a wife, and I want a bimbo that has big fake tits or is willing to get them. My father is leaving me 2-6 million dollars (present value) in 20 years.
What is the best country to get bimbos (replaceable after 10-15 years) from who will literally give me bj's 2-3 times a day?
I can move to their country, to make my money last longer / have more control over the woman.
I want to be able to divorce the woman, and keep all my assets, with no child support / alimony. I have lost any empathy I had, and I literally just want attractive, semi disposable/controllable women.
>>18038771
>I want to be able to divorce the woman, and keep all my assets, with no child support / alimony.
Good luck with that. Also, the money you have isn't enough for bimbos. Believe me too, I want bimbos
>>18038782
im not taking them to america.
I am going to go to their country.
500k should last me about about 30,000 a year for 20 years according to firecalc.
I am prepared to go and live/learn the third world country for bimbos.
>>18038771
>asking a board of permanent NEETs and virgins where to find the best retarded sluts who want to suck dick and apparently don't want money
>I want to be able to get a divorce without any losses by getting one of these bimbos
I'd like to inherit your father's millions, too, but that ain't happening. There's no magical place for loose idiot girls. They're everywhere. Have fun.
I recently just started consuming a large amounts of daily calories to gain weigh. It has only been 3 weeks.
I see a little process but nothing to noticeable.
my question is, when should I be hitting the gym? Should I wait until I gain enough weight?
/fit/ here who doesn't browse /fit/
What's your current height/weight? How active is your daily life/work? How many calories are you consuming and what are the macros like? Counting calories and proper nutrition is crucial to proper weight gain. Oh and it takes time to put on weight correctly. If you're putting on more than 1-2 pounds a week you're doing it wrong. I'd say for most people .5 pounds a week is more achievable if you want to put on good weight.
You should be hitting the gym now.
>>18038763
to gain muscle you gotta workout and eat a certain amount of calories retard. If you just eat you're just gonna get fat.
>>18038763
I like that chart. He didn't realize he had a really handsome face so he could have stopped midway and stopped there. Most of /fit/ and /soc/ really.
I'm female- 300 lbs- 5'10- has steady income-own home-lives alone-no kids.
I dont know if I would date me. I'm thinking of going on pof and okcupid. I will use full shot pictures with a face filter cause I dont want to end up on here. Ive had one guy. I chose to be a hermut but now I want a man/relationship. I always get offers from players but I just want a regular man. My health issues is basically over and im now closer to 290 but I dont want to wait for weightloss. Where should I be looking. Do I need to find a fetish site.
>I always get offers from players
lol ok
>>18038758
Players= guys who just want sex or backup or money or a job. I guess you thought it = sports athlete.
>>18038752
You should be exercising, eating well and losing weight. Once you're in the relationship you probably won't do so, so to most men it's in their best interests to not go out with you.
You'll also be happier and healthier.
I also highly doubt you get offers from players.
Is it possible to fall for someone who you aren't physically attracted to?
Because I do have pals that I find attractive but wouldn't go there, but with this guy, there's really good chemistry there. But I'm not sure whether it's the fact that I'm so lonely that I'm in to him, or if I genuinely adore him.
You a femanon?
>>18038754
Yeah. Also >inb4: but anon, women cannot be lonely!
>>18038748
Please tell me you are W and talking about P.
Back to the topic: I think that chemistry can make up for a lot of differences. Long enough that your perception of attractiveness shifts just enough to like how the other person looks.
>Me and my bf broke up
>I broke up with him, dumb shit it was his fault
>I want to still have sex
>he's still in my life and I want to be fwb but he doesnt
>he finally agreed to have sex with me after a million times asking
>would you have sex with an ex if you're really horny like I am?
had sex with my ex twice after the breakup, once around the 2 month mark and then again around 4 month mark.
its been 7 months now, and if my ex asked or wanted to be fwb, i definitely would
>>18038739
>I'm desperate and want to have sex
>so I'll sleep with someone I broke up with because hey free sex
/thread
>>18038790
Lol yea