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>>18121562
Trust me - you are FAR better off studying something you enjoy, doing well in it and therefore finding some sort of related employment, than in spending years doing something you hate, doing poorly, and ending up (at best) at the bottom of the profession.

>>18121780

will my parents ever understand that? the answer is no, ive told them exactly what you've said and they're like 'no, there are no jobs in that field you will be in the job centre and struggling to live'(i live in england). then im like wtf no we aren't in a recession my dad is like 'i have x amount of years experience i know these things blah blah blah'. my dad won't ever listen to me he wants me to listen to him all the time its just such a pain doing anything without having him harassing me about every thing i do.

>>18121562

What are you going for?
I did political science. Its not much what you think it is.

If you want to get into politics youll need law. Not poli sci.

Political science is analysing paradigms and patterns. You dont look at policy as much as you look at outcomes.

Ie you wont learn how to fix climate change, youll learn why no ones moving forward with it.

You wont learn how to stop war youll learn why it keeps happening.

You wont learn "liberals and conservatives" youll learn paradigms like liberalism(which is not sjws, but democracy and rights) romanticism (which is sjws) realism, economism and libertarianism and fascism. And their definitons and applications, not their righteousness or superiority or inferiority.

Most of all, youll become frustrated as fuck every time there is a political debate whether youre witnessing it in person or on 4chan because youll realise how badly everyone is off the mark, and the televised debates will become totally meaningless to you.

Thats what poli sci will get you. At best for a job youll become a political scientist. Youll write articles and sometimes the government may ask "hey what happens if we build more nukes" and youll say "china will too". And its not a high demand job.

Im a carpenter now. I make good money and im happy and dont regret my education.. But it didnt do a whole lot for me outside of knowledge.

Tl;dr you may actually want to consider law instead

>>18121559
Join a class (language, sports, skills, art) join a group about one of your interests, volunteer.
Most people do those things to meet new friends.

>>18121559

its impossible to assume that your entire city has a perfect social structure without you and that to get in on that would just ruin everyones lives.

meet people, ask them, you're 30, a grown up, face the rejection like a (wo)man.

that being said, this is precisely why people keep telling you /not/ to build up your entire life around a romantic interest.

think about this for asecond, you gave up EVERYTHING you had, EVERYONE you knew, to be with someone in the most fragile of human relationships. and now you're realizing that friends aren't as replaceable, that creating unique bonds, while entirely possible where you go, is not as easy as it sounds. because those people meant something to you.

and you gave up every single one of them for romance.

>>18121567

I didn't give anything up for romance. I moved cities to develop my career and also to move in with my partner, who also happened to be an extremely close friend of mine. My decision to do this wasn't a random one and my quality of life is much higher in this city than in my previous one.

And although I agree, friends are not easily replaceable, I haven't lost the friends who I had from my old city. I have a close circle of friends who I see regularly, it's just not as easy for them to pop over for an evening. Although I see them, it requires planning.

I've lived close by to the city I live in now, so I do have friends that I made several years ago. I'm just a bit nervous asking them to come over or hang out again. Likewise, I've made a lot of friends at work but haven't had the chance to socialise with them much outside work because I'm worried any invitation will be turned down. I have a few things coming up which I hope will kickstart something but really, i'm just looking for a few tips.

>>18121566

This is a really good idea. I wouldn't mind doing something on a weekend to meet a few more people.

Depression is a disease. Don't left it untreated. You going out, eating well and do some workout is good but you should maybe really try to get on meds. Depression is not a part of your personality, it's just your brain chemicals that have a bug.
And SSRIs fix that after a couple of weeks.

>>18121564
I don't know man, I heard bad things about depression meds. Something something dependency, something something effects only lasting a few months and then you barely feel any different anymore

I've heard that it causes no medical harm. Is the draining of valuable fluids the real issue you have with it? If it relieves stress, isn't that a good thing? Can you not replace these valuable fluids through diet? Ejaculation expels only a tiny bit of fluid, even if I masturbate 3 times a day I would estimate like 3 fluid ounces?? I take in more material than that in a sandwich and glass of milk.

>>18121560
Maybe I miss worded my statement. I mean it makes me tired and drains energy from me. Keep in mind I have relatively heavy adrenal fatigue and my CNS is in a critical shape from over-training. I honestly need to keep in every drop I can and rest. Unfortunately this is next to impossible due to work/studies/exercise etc. so the next rational decision is to cut down on things that are unnecessary at this point in time. Masturbation under regular circumstances is not bad at all. Healthy actually, especially for prostate. But RIGHT NOW I want to turn it down.

I'm currently on 3 a week, not sure if should cut lower.

>>18121541
I never settled for someone who didn't make me feel tingly immediately. I enjoy that instant chemistry, that superficial attraction. If I don't have that, I always feel like I'm not being fair to myself.
Love is something much more complicated - it takes time to develop a bond that is in anyway meaningful. I'd say at least a year, a year and half of dating before you can say you properly love someone, because at the beginning it's all honeymoon and hormones.

>>18121541
You'll know because most other people you will probably end up fapping to, to the thought of them. But this person has the power to make you stop that completely, and make you wish so badly that you were making love to that person instead, slow dancing with the person instead, cooking for each other, showering together. Others become insignificant, and that person becomes a very distracting thought... in a good way.

When the person is around, you either feel super warm inside or really happy they even exist near you..

>>18121576
I felt like I was in a trance sober simply watching the girl I was crushing on.. so maybe add that. Feeling like the person is making your heart rate increase simply watching them.

shit made a mistake

(the "I'm your friend because I see you 5 imes a week" type of friends)

Get a therapist, this shit will change when you sort your shit out and grow as a person.
Been there, done that. It really does get better.

>>18121526
When will it get better?

Thanks, do you think a school pedagogue would fit?

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Yo, is this enough guys? I don't wanna come off as a complete autistic faggot.

In terms of attire I would personally add either a jacket or a tie if the apprenticeship is for a white collar job. If it were me I'd go with the jacket bc I think it looks better (just don't go with both a tie and a jacket lol)

>>18121577
You're asking this on a vietnamese book forum, we don't know either dude. But if you got accepted for an interview it's pretty good already.
It's normal that you're nervous. Maybe just act like if you're already working there and you're doing a a meeting to get to know your new bosses or something like this.

Are you 15? Why the fuck does it matter.

>>18121490
It doesn't really. I'm just wondering.

Dude fuck that saving your virginity shit man.. go out there and fuck that bitch ..

She shouldn't have to change the way she looks for you .. just accept it who knows ,you might like fat bitches a little more

>internet relationship

Hoo boy, here we go again.

>>18121457
>vegan
That is PURE DESTILED MEME. Dont be stupid.

If she is submissive, then there is no problem: make her go
>>>/fit/ read sticky
start counting calories and doing the best cardio together: swimming. Get both fit for each other.

>>18121424
That's pretty much how it works, just hire a hooker if you want to get out cheap and easy

>>18121424

a girl I used to be crazy about was like that. she'd use fuck buddies all the time, and slept with half the guys at our work.

Just be aware girls like that can often have a history of sex abuse issues and it can make you feel guilty if you get involved with them.

>>18121424
>biological urge to fuck
Amphetamines and SSRIs whill help numb this. Become volcel and focus on stem. Accept your place as a shepherd for the breeders.

>>18121408
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>K asks me to meet her again soon, she goes on vacation for 2 weeks and we meet soon after at my place.
>We go out for dinner together, she almost can't look at me straight without blushing and looking away, K says she never thought we would ever have dinner together. We have a couple of drinks too. After dinner we start walking through the local park, K wants to hook arms, after a while I grab her hand. We just chit chat away, then get a little bit silent. I tell her I like her a lot, she tells me she likes me too but thought I didn't like her.
>We go back to my place, we have another drink and start to cuddle a little, talk about what we like about one another. After a while we kiss, look at one another for a while and start talking again. We kiss a few more times that evening and stay up for a long time. K misses her train home, we sleep together in my bed all cuddled up.

>I'm feeling better than ever and the next couple of days are really great. We live quite far from one another so we can't meet that easily. The next week after our date we're gonna hang out with some of out friends. K asks me to keep our thing a secret. We talk for a while, in the end she says she really likes me but isn't sure of she can be in a relationship. I tell her I would rather try and fail than stop now and wonder what could have been the rest of my live. She says she wants to try it with me, but doesn't want to be boyfriend / girlfriend yet. I agree.

>We hang out a couple of more times and everything goes great. We keep up our chat too, talking pretty much every day. After 2 weeks she seems a bit uncomfortable however. Not too sure what to make of it.
>We both get very busy with school and work, don't have time to see one another because of the distance, we keep talking and I help her through some emotional stuff that goes on in her life.

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>>18121427

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>Meet K again after a month, we have a ton of fun together and everything seems good again at first. But when I try to hold her hand she seems a little uncomfortable.
>Afterwards she seems distant when we're chatting, doesn't wanna hang out because she's busy or doesn't reply.
>Ask K if we're okay, she asks why we wouldn't be, tell her I think she seems a bit uncomfortable when we're talking.
>Tells me she wants to be friends. Tell her I got feelings for her and that I would really like to just be friends if things don't work out between us. But I can't just switch off my feelings for her from on instance to the next. She says she understands, and that she really doesn't want to lose me as a friend.

>All of K's uncomfyness is gone, begins to talk to me like we used to before. I don't initiate the convo's. 2 days after saying I need time she once again tells me she really doesn't want me out of her life as a friend. Once again tell her that I would like to be friends because we have incredibly good convo's together and lots of fun when we're hanging out, but that I also got pretty deep feelings for her.
>Haven't to eachother since, which is just 2 days ago

I'm really not sure what to make of this, I really like her and for a while I was 100% certain she did too. I know she has some issues regarding relationships, namely that her previous two didn't end well at all, and that she has fear of commitment, which might has to do with her self image, which is pretty low. She also told me shortly after our date that she would absolutely hate it if, when things wouldn't work out between us, we wouldn't see each other any more. I'm 21, K is 20.

Thanks for reading this wall of text, any help is appreciated!

>>18121458
>Tells me she wants to be friends. Tell her I got feelings for her and that I would really like to just be friends if things don't work out between us. But I can't just switch off my feelings for her from on instance to the next. She says she understands, and that she really doesn't want to lose me as a friend.

Sounds like a good romance that normally would develop into something and you did well but she was resilient to let it happen.
I'd walk away if I were you. You two are pretty close and there is a lot of chemistry and I know that doesn't happen often. But I mean, aren't you hurt? What happens if she gets a new boyfriend? What happens if you get another girl? Would your partner be okay with you having a female friend that's so close to you and that you tried to be with? Staying friends with her is a recipe for disaster, jealousy and heartbreak.

Im 18

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He sounds pretty dumb. If he doesn't have a job, how does he pay for anything? Does he have the self respect to pay his own bills for his own home and well-being? If not, let him live his own life as a loser. If he wants to be self-sufficient, he'll figure out soon enough that he needs a job. If you need a job, you'll take what you can get. If it's not his dream job of paying whatever salary he thinks he's entitled to, he'll just have to accept it or be a bitch and whine about it. Respectable, self-sufficient adults don't just wake up one day with a high-salary job, a two-story house, two cars, and a retirement fund. You have to start somewhere and work your way through a career, and then maybe by the time you're about 40 years old you'll be able to look at your home and family and think, "I've don't pretty well for myself."

>but the problem is that he always gets pissy when asked about specifics of his job hunting.

The problem is you're a nagging cunt.

Nagging does not help.

Telling yourself you're not a nagger does not help.

You already explained to your own damn self why your bro is unemployed.

Some of it is his fault, some of it is not.

You could have slapped him on the back of the head when he was picking a shit major, but you saved all that up so you could point at him and call yourself superior down the road. Fuck you, eat shit. You're not a coach to him and you're not seeking advice, you're just seeking attention and approval for your own shittiness.

>and unemployment around there is gigantic

Figure him out how to line up employment in another state with no reachable references. While you're at it, do that for me too because all my former bosses went bankrupt and disappeared.

>>18121418
>Respectable, self-sufficient adults don't just wake up one day with a high-salary job, a two-story house, two cars, and a retirement fund.
That's what baby boomers have been saying throughout the entire reign of baby boomers. We call it the entry level. Boomers destroyed the entry level because they are addicted to failure and criticism.

I hop from one industry to another with every job I take, but I think I've only taken one entry level job in my life and it was a long damn time ago when I was in college. Since then I've not had one, not interviewed for one, and not even been able to apply for one because the supply of able bodies far outpaces the demand for them. Whenever I get hired, it's usually for a job of considerable skill which I have to learn as I go. I've been a graphic designer, a warehouser dealing with plant managers, a lawshit of some sort, a music teacher, a farmer, a brewer, and a public stage speaker who shook hundreds of hands in a night. Whenever I was turned down, the reason was usually because I wasn't already doing that job before - then the opening would sit vacant until the asker goes out of business.

The entry level is more myth than reality now. Today's version of the entry level is working for free and not moving your career an inch forward for it.

t. tail end of gen-X aka nintendo age

>>18121360

shit I meant the movie, Billy Madison.

For the unaware, in it adam sandler must repeat elementary up until high school or something. I've actually never seen it

Bump.
Curious about this too.

>>18121370

methinks I'm just fucked and should've taken it seriously the first time around.

what can I say, I didn't like most of my teachers

You are not perfect, just keep that in mind. We may give ourselves the illusion that we're better than others, but we're not. The good in people is usually seen in their actions, the good things they do. If you look for flaws all the time, try standing in front of a mirror, try listening to the sound of your own voice. If we all looked for the bad in people, we'd never be satisfied.

Try running for stress relief.

>>18121384

I do feel like physical exercise helps (I usually do pushups when stressed) but I can't just drop down and do that in the middle of work.

>>18121393
Then try getting a prescription for something to relax you? Valium or something. Or simply smoke. I don't smoke or drink so I get irritated sometimes too, but it's mostly having too much to think about around other people.