Hi /adv/, Around a year ago, I moved from a city where I'd

>>18121559
Join a class (language, sports, skills, art) join a group about one of your interests, volunteer.
Most people do those things to meet new friends.

>>18121559

its impossible to assume that your entire city has a perfect social structure without you and that to get in on that would just ruin everyones lives.

meet people, ask them, you're 30, a grown up, face the rejection like a (wo)man.

that being said, this is precisely why people keep telling you /not/ to build up your entire life around a romantic interest.

think about this for asecond, you gave up EVERYTHING you had, EVERYONE you knew, to be with someone in the most fragile of human relationships. and now you're realizing that friends aren't as replaceable, that creating unique bonds, while entirely possible where you go, is not as easy as it sounds. because those people meant something to you.

and you gave up every single one of them for romance.

>>18121567

I didn't give anything up for romance. I moved cities to develop my career and also to move in with my partner, who also happened to be an extremely close friend of mine. My decision to do this wasn't a random one and my quality of life is much higher in this city than in my previous one.

And although I agree, friends are not easily replaceable, I haven't lost the friends who I had from my old city. I have a close circle of friends who I see regularly, it's just not as easy for them to pop over for an evening. Although I see them, it requires planning.

I've lived close by to the city I live in now, so I do have friends that I made several years ago. I'm just a bit nervous asking them to come over or hang out again. Likewise, I've made a lot of friends at work but haven't had the chance to socialise with them much outside work because I'm worried any invitation will be turned down. I have a few things coming up which I hope will kickstart something but really, i'm just looking for a few tips.

>>18121566

This is a really good idea. I wouldn't mind doing something on a weekend to meet a few more people.

>blah blah blah talk about myself
>I'm lonely
>blah blah blah talk about myself

The easiest way to become lonely is to be a bore. The easiest way to become a bore is to say everything.

>>18121614

What else am I supposed to talk about, in a thread in which I'm giving information about my situation?

>>18121559
Age doesn't matter. If you made friends with your coworkers in your previous town, is there something preventing you from making friends with your current coworkers? The other best thing has already been said, which is do some volunteer work or community service, join a running group or exercise club (I think this is also a cool thing to do with your partner), or some other kind of activity club for hiking, fishing, boating, or any other activity you like. Don't know how to find a club or group? Just go hiking or fishing or whatever and talk to the people you meet there. Introduce yourself to your neighbors, and be friendly with them. In my town, I know a guy who uses Facebook to find charity events and open house parties and stuff, and he goes to those (I can't imagine myself doing something like that, but whatever, that's how he meets people).