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>>18120490
Shes getting it from somewhere. Dump her and move on.

>>18120490
She had gone to a male friend's party in his apartment, had too much to drink and woke up naked without recalling what had happened; she later went to the doctor and confirmed she hadn’t been raped. According to her, that experience was very traumatic and made her even more afraid of intimacy. Knowing that I couldn’t help but feeling guilty. I told her that I would do as much as I could do to help and be patient.
Things kept like that for a few months. Whenever we met and she was feeling horny we had fun, always stopping before I tried to go down on her. She found out she could keep me somehow satisfied by sending nudes from time to time. Our problems started to get worse, she became more neglecting with more aspects of our relationship and I became less tolerant. Finally we broke up.
Before we started dating I knew sex was very important in a relationship but I didn’t believe it would be the definitive cause, at least for me, for ending it. I can avoid feeling guilty from time to time, that perhaps if only I had been able to communicate my discomfort more effectively or reassuring her in a different way, I could have saved our relationship. All I know is that I don’t want that to happen again.
So what’s your experience on managing issues of that nature in your relationships? When do you know you’re being too pushy or too passive?

>>18120490
Sex is kind of an afterthought for me. The dessert, the cherry on top. Sex comes after the good stuff.

Keep dating your current boyfriend?
He's a nice guy, right?

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>>18120487
>remaining best friends with an ex and thinking the feelings would fade
Cut contact with the ex if you like your current bf or leave your current bf if you still want to stay in touch with your ex.

You should move on with your life and cut your ex out. Seriously, what are you trying to achieve with being friends with an ex? What good does that ever do to anyone? One part is always hung up on the other, everybody hopes they will eventually get back together with their exes if they remain "friends".
I honestly think your boyfriend deserves better, you sound like a shitty girl to have a relationshit with.

You don't have to drink alcohol. You could just have pop, or water.

Yup- although I used to drink. I'd bring a book. Rarely do you get to read more than a couple of pages before someone strikes up a conversation.

I got laid several times thanks to one of the shittiest writers in the world- Kurt Vonnegut. Hemingway got me invited to go jacking deer (shining a spotlight from the back of a truck, then shooting any deer that froze in the light as we drove- highly illegal in my liberal state. Great time, though.

Do it.

>>18120468
Yeah man. A bar is not just to drink. It's about enjoying your time and maybe meeting some new people.

You can't help someone that won't help themselves. Try offering to take him to a counselor, or something like that.

>>18120451

i have a drug addicted cousin thats relapsed a few times. call him out, have an intervention, whatever. they have to know how their actions are affecting you, others, and have to want to help themselves. the biggest thing i learned is inviting them to stuff etc doesnt do anything if they dont want to help themselves

best first step i would say is the 3 of you have an intervention with him and see if hes willing to get professional addiction help

>>18120472
Oh, and if he is addicted to any substances make sure he is sober before you do an intervention (not this anon).

>>18120425
if you got a caution then you weren't sentenced for a crime, shouldn't affect your migration

You shouldn't worry about it. Even if it does have an effect you shouldn't change your plans to emigrate because of it.

Yes, that's exactly what America needs. Another foreigner with a history of making stupid decisions.

Stay home, fog nigga, we're full.

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You need to be more specific- are you talking about a gift, or a get together...?

I run a ship half the year. My kids are in their teens, and my wife and I are still going strong. Before the kids showed up, I used to fly her to meet me and ride the ship for a few days if we were doing short runs.
This year I'm missing her bday, so I bought tickets to NY for her and my kids, reserved a room and got them tickets to her favorite play, which my boys actually like.

Being thoughtful w/out breaking the bank is not as easy, but it's doable. Flowers and a nice letter is not too original, but all women start leaving snail trails in their chairs if you get both delivered to their workplace. Showing off their relationship with someone who isn't actually there is both smart and proactive for the both of you. The little thoughts and the larger gestures are pretty powerful when done right.

So what are you looking to do?

>>18120443
Thanks for responding! Heading back on leave soon for a little over a week. And looking for ideas for something spontaneous that us young people (25&24) could enjoy outside of the normal things. It's hard to get her out of town for more than a day between class, her internship, and her job. Ideally something we could do for a day or something romantic I could do for her while I'm there. I can't show up at her workplaces, though. Elementary school and social work.

Details?
Which Universities?

Where do you think you can grow the most?
Which one do you think you will regret more if you didn't choose it?

Ivy league is better than russell groups,
russell groups are better than pretty much every other uni in the US.

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>>18120412

she doesnt want to hang with you. simple. nc

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>>18120415

There's something called vaginitis I think, that is related to you being too nervous and unconsciously tighting your pussy, making sex uncomfortable or impossible. Maybe that's it. How big are we talking about?

Also, be honest to him, it'll be bittersweet because any guy would like to know how huge his dick is, and it's the only way you'll be able to sort this out: toghether

Buy lube and use it you idjit.

>>18120417
Vagismus, I think.

My wife had it too, OP, while she breastfed our kids. Basically had to live like a monk the whole time they were on the tit because her vag just puckered up like a snare drum.

It may actually be a hormonal issue, OP, because if your BF has anything like a normal dick, sex shouldn't be painful for you.

Is his dong a actually a ten inch blue veined monstrosity or is it more normal? Have you had sex with other guys? Did you have this problem then? Can you insert anything else into your vagina to test (use condom and lube- you don't want to injure yourself)?

Women often overestimate penis size in their partners, especially after the fact. You need to provide more info.

>>18120371
No my disgusting chink wife is so ugly I cheat on her so often that chasing other women to fuck has become a regular habit like eating.

>>18120447
Thats just sad. Why did you marry her then?

>>18120447
... Doesn't sound like you, but Michael??

You aren't responsible for how other people feel. That doesn't mean be a dick but it's useless to worry about things you can't control.

Whatever happened happened. Move on. Focus on yourself.

>>18120357
What did you do?

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>>18120309
>How do I know if I'm forming a habit?
When not using it makes you want to use it

Also, if you feel the need to up your does JUST to feel it, that's a bad sign. Stop doing that.

Are you retarded?

sleep more obviously

reduce internet and other mind dulling activities

also look into dual n back training

Sleep and books

If you never had any kind of memory problems in your life is because you have become lazy and unprepared

1) sleep
2) read
3) Train your body

Ginkgo biloba is an herb that can improve memory. I take some a couple times a week when my brain feels fogged.

Have you tought about, idk, maybe seeking a relationship of your own?

Also, what kind of poly?

>>18120294
The problem is im preHRT trans and I havent started any meds. I'm mid 20s. Women don't like me because they see a guy and expect masculinity. Men don't like me because when I tell them I want to be a girl they expect me to actually look like one. Trans people don't like me because I'm not passing.

Existence is suffering and I need a reason to keep going while I feel so alone. They were the only things keeping me together honestly.

>>18120304
There might be a ton of gay's into twinks that'd fuck you, at least for a while

Fellow loner here.
Trying to force friendships to gel will only set you up for disappointment after disappointment in the long run. True friends that want to hang out with you, and love you despite your flaws, are painstakingly hard to come by, so dont get your hopes up.

However, if you reframe your mentality to focus on being friendly in general, instead of revolving your life around having friends, you'll be able to connect with folks much easier and possibly turn one of these connections into a satisfying comradery.

So just try to be gregarious, don't take socializing too seriously, and the rest will take care of itself.

>>18120318
I tend to force it constantly. I do give off that friendly vibe I think, I smile a lot and I try being polite, even engaging in small talk with random people from time to time.

>>18120356
Good. Now just relax and try to have fun.