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I broke up with my ex 5 months ago because he was being emotionally abusive and calling me names and hitting walls and breaking things.
When I broke up with him he called me and told me he was going to kill himself and blame me. He obviously didn't and I didn't go back. About 3 weeks ago I told him I got a new boyfriend because I wanted him to leave me alone and stop calling me to chat and act like everything was normal. That didn't work. He sent me a bunch of messages calling me a whore and I called him and he said that I must have cheated on him because there is no way I could have started a relationship with someone after 4 months.
I blocked all his calls and texts but my phone still shows when he calls. He has called me over 50 times in 3 weeks and has come to my house to put furniture in front of it and stared at my roommate through his car window while she was on the phone with police for leaving shit at our door and loitering.
I am extremely paranoid that he is trying to hurt me and will come to my house or find me on a walk/run and try to hurt me in some sort of way because he talked about hurting other people while we were in a relationship and I believe he has no fear if he goes to jail or gets hurt in the process.
How do I get over my paranoia? How do I live with this constant fear? Is there anything I can do so I don't stay up all night long? I can't move for another year and a half due to school and lease agreements.
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Time for a restraining order.
I'm dead serious, he is stalking you and he should go to jail for it.
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He has only come by to drop items off except for once when I wasn't home. How can I get a restraining order?
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>>18271884
nope. stop telling her to escalate things. you're stupid if you think he'll go to jail or that a restraining order actually defends a person rather than it simply acting as a deterrent
here's some not fuckin stupid advice (sorry)
notify the police of everything that he does, promptly as you possibly can. reach out to tell him that you are reporting everything that happens to the police, that you are scared, and that you are *able* to press charges. in case the voices in his head are screaming too loudly for him to understand, end it with a simple, "stop or there will be legal consequences. if you do anything to hurt me or my friends you will be a prime suspect."
odds are he doesn't want to hurt you. this will cut him, the fact you even said that, but I think he needs to look at his goddamned behavior for a moment
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What do I do if I truly do not want to work?
I am in my early 20's and do not want to get a job ever again, the last time I worked was 3 years ago and it was to save up for a move out of the state. I don't want to do it again - it wastes my time.. need to get a house for my gf and i .. I need money for doing things ... IDK..
What can I do to avoid working away the rest of my life?
I just wanna sit around painting all day, going out traveling, having good food, growing food and having fun.
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Kek, nobody truly wants to work. Welcome to life buddy. You either work hard, get lucky, or die.
Starting your own business and then selling it is probably the most obvious way to "never work again." But doing this successfully takes lots of hard work, research, intelligence, money, and luck, which I doubt you have all of.
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Your best bet is to work a seasonal job that is high paying (most likely dangerous or isolated)
Other things you can do are stuff like blood/sperm donation, being a test subject, etc
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I do welding and I'm able to do pushups and pullups at work, so I turn every shift into a workout.
I do my work obviously, but I also make sure I get my heart rate up and staying fit while I earn money.
Working 40 hours a week has also been proven to give you momentum and be more productive. After crushing it at work you feel super inspired after you get out, and I have much more motivation and energy to pursue my hobbies and goals etc.
Get good or get rekt OP. Also stop watching porn and jacking off so much, I promise it'll help.
how do you make friends /adv/?
recently, I went to a family gathering back home and my uncles where asking me if I had alot of american friends, which their surprise no.
since moving to america, I have not made any friends and it's been 4 years now.
I honestly am at a loss,
I mean, it's really hard to make friends with white people to begin with, and my English is not very good.
I did have a Korean friend when I was in college and we played alot of CnC3 and alot of SC2 but he moved back to Korea when he graduated from SJSU.
How do people make friends adv?
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Common stuff.
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>>18271768
It's hard
It's not a American/foreign scenario type shit
It's hard for everyone who isn't a Chad
Go and try to join clubs
There a lots of adult clubs if you're not in college anymore.
You're a gamer so try to look up gaming clubs. There are a few in every city.
I was part of "Beer Runners" a few years ago.
Could have made friends there.
Also, CNC was the shit
You play Tiberian Sun?
Fuck that was my jam as a 12 year old
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>>18271810
Tiberium Sun plus all the expansions,
and now Tiberium Wars
I also played all the red alerts ladder
I was #9 world wide on red alert 2 in 2004 on EA ladder.
It fucking broke my heart what EA did to CnC
CnC 4 doesn't count as a CnC game.
Oh I also play sc2 too, but not at much as CnC
sometimes SupCom2 but not really that much anymore.
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Are women very insecure? I'm a guy who struggles greatly with things like self image and how I look. It stresses me out to the point where I can barely talk to people or go outside. I just feel so ugly. Do women feel the same type of emotions? I would imagine they do because of all the beauty standards they have to abide by, but at the same time they have people complimenting them everyday.
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>>18271746
Yes, women are very very insecure.
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>>18271746
>but at the same time they have people complimenting them everyday.
I don't think this happens as much as you think. Or at least some dude yelling at you on the street isn't that flattering.
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>>18271762
It is. And it happens daily. Women get wet from that the sluts they are.
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I have been with a moderate muslim girl since August and things went generally well even though we are from different backgrounds...until today.
I am a firefighter and we started to talk about Ramadan and I said I would be uncomfortable working with a muslim firefighter doing it. I said it would hamper his performance and would not only endanger his life and his collegues but the lives of victims too.
It's a demanding job and you have to be at your 100%. She started to argue that the fire department should be more inclusive and adapt to the needs of minorities which I totally disagreed because it's the duty of the employee to know about the requirements for the job and adapt, not the contrary. I even told her that in some arab countries, muslim firefighters are allowed to drink/eat a little because it's their job. And that's cool with me but persisted that religion and work can be together. She then said the muslim can drive the truck but that's a position reserved to older firefighters, respecting your elders. Then she started saying that's white people mentality and white priviledge which I just hung up.
Am I in the wrong here? Just want to hear your opinions
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>>18271681
Lmfao
>dating a muslim
>dating a muslim thats talks like a liberal
Here's some advice, don't date filth.
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You're right and not being unreasonable.
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>>18271681
You're doomed in that line of argument
When it comes to life and death, Muslims believe it is God's will that determines it, regardless of human factors
If you die in an accident, it's because Allah wanted you to die.
My uncle was a doctor in Abu Dhabi. That's what he had to deal with all the time.
You can't make her change her mind in that line of argument.
Here's a conundrum to pose to her
>You believe that Muslims should respect Ramadan
>Yes
>So you believe that the Qu'ran should be respected
>Yes
>Then you believe that women should be subservient to men at all times
>...
>I order you to believe what I do
If she is truly Muslim, she will follow your instructions as the Qu'ran instructs
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>Be me, shy high school grill with boring life.
I started talking to this boy at the end of middle school. I found him to be really clingy and annoying at first, but then began to cherish the moments I spent with him in class. We exchanged skypes, and that summer before high school played tons of video games while voice chatting for hours during the summer nights. I told myself not to get attached to him. But, as the friendship continued, I began to fall in love with him. He was just like me. Well, come high school and we gradually start becoming distant since we didn't have any classes together. We did however see each other in the hallway a lot and one time he even shouted "It's Goddess anon!!". For a year it seemed like he also had a crush on me. Now, forward almost 2 years later, I still can't get over my feelings for him. I see him once in awhile and he acknowledges me and says hello. It's stupid, so stupid that I've posted this here, I know. I've become super suicidal lately and every day I can't help but think about him. He is literally the only reason why I was genuinely happy. I come home to a shitty environment and my mom's abusive bf and the only reason I get through all of it is the thought of this guy. It's so unhealthy that I'm stuck in this one state of mind. I've tried so hard to hate him but I can't. He's a male version of me and was unknowingly my happy pill. So, 4chan, is there anything I can do to cure this long lasting lovesickness?
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He is not magical and he is not that special. I promise you, he's not the only person out there that can make you feel that way. There are tons of them out there. You will meet someone else that makes you feel that way eventually. Or makes you feel even better. It sucks now, but shit gets better with time. You will grow up, you will meet someone else, and you will get away from your mom's asshole bf.
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>>18271644
What you got hooked on wasn't him
It was the feeling of being wanted
And that's something that everyone falls victim to
You need to find a replacement.
Your dilemma is like saying "Oh vodka made me drunk and I can't have vodka anymore. How will I ever get drunk again".
You like the feeling he brings.
Who he is secondary.
Also he sounds cringe and neckbeard as hell.
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>>18271644
Dude, I know this is the answer that everyone hates, but it works most of the time. Be straightforward. If you love him, tell him that. Tell him what you told us. Only way you're gonna get it out of your system. Btw if you guys do start dating, it probably wont work it because he's not perfect or some angel, just prepare for the worst ok? Life sucks so you're gonna have to live with this kind of shit. Just life. Good luck buddy!
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>be me, be 21
>get the most perfect first girlfriend (18) I could ever dream of, sorta like pick related, except Brunette
>we have had an amazing relationship for the past 2 months and a bit now.
>She accidentally slipped up and said near the end of a video that she loved me
>She tells me that she is joining the Air force in a couple months or so.
>she looks scared like as if I'm about to break up with her
>I love her dearly and confess my love for her
>I absolutely hate the fact that she'll be leaving for at least 4 years, with only 3 week breaks every year
>hear the rumor that all women in the military are sluts and targets because of how underpopulated they are
>extremely anxious because of this, i dont know if i should break up with her or feel anxious all the time
>anyone in a similar situation where their girlfriend is in the military?
>TLDR girlfriend i love is joining the military, should i break up with her because of this or suffer the pain and try to make it work?
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Get married and live on base with her.
I mean you did say you love her and she's the perfect gf, right?
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think about it rationally. you can plow women while she's gone, and she can fuck military men while she's gone. does this mean that either of you are going to find love in the next few years and forget about each other? I don't see any indication.
so just leave it at, "I'll be here for you when you get back." if you have to romanticize it as "I'll wait for you!' then go ahead and do that. just don't get your hopes up. a lot can change in four years, especially in the military.
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Long distance relationships never work out.
I seriously, SERIOUSLY doubt you guys truly love each other after 2 months of dating, unless you were close friends for much longer. Maybe you share a strong infatuation and have a good relationship, but love? Unlikely.
I say rail her for a few more months, and call her leaving to go to the Military the end of the relationship. You'll get over her.
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So I have come to a moral conundrum. I am competing with this guy at work. I need his job but I don't know if I will get it. I really REALLY need it because it will be less stressful and pay a lot more than what I am currently doing atm... He is an illegal immigrant/undocumented worker. If I report him to ICE he will get deported and I will get the job... but I will probably feel like a piece of shit for a long time. What should I do /adv/
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Don't do it, your soul is worth more than money.
And by "soul" I don't mean it in a religious way, you will just not be able to be happy, if you had it in you to do evil you wouldn't even consider if it is right or wrong.
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Do it, he can get a job in his own country.
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I would do it. Think of it in this situation. If he were in your position, would he hesitate? I doubt it
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i met this girl at work. i liked her at first sight, but she had a boyfriend and because of this i didn't try anything. we kinda become friends, although i think there awalys has been a chemistry between us. now she's single, but she had to move to her birth city, and lately:
>she texts me almost everyday to talk about random stuff
>she says she wants to travel with me
>she says she wants to hang out with me
>she said throughout a conversation that i have won her heart
>she said to me don't stay away from her
>she talks a lot about the future, as if i'm going to belong her life there
>she praises my personality a lot
>despite all this, she sometimes calls me a friend
i don't understand why she says this, since she looks for me every day to talk and i always say that I find her sexy and all. it's more than obvious that i want to be with her.
why does she call me friend and invite me to travel with her when she knows i'm attracted to her? is she testing me or does she really think i'm harmless?
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I mean seems like she's into you. If the fact that she calls you a "friend" is making you unsure well what else can she call you? You are only her friend at the moment, make a move and maybe she'll call you something more.
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I don't think you should be so hung up on what she calls your relationship. I mean you are friends at the moment so why would she call it anything else? She seems in to you so why don't you just ask if she wants to go on a date?
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Ask her out on a date, she obviously likes you
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Wife cheating with a lesbian at work?
>Wife works with suspected lesbian.
>Be me. Notice wife gets strange text from her.
"Anon's wife, I wish you were coming in early. I did my makup and straightened my hair".
>I met her later the same day.
Damn son...
>Wife is acting weird like she is really into this chick.
>They walk off and leave me standing there.
Inb4 "Consider yourself lucky" Im not into degenerate bullshit.
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Have you tried communicating?
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>"Anon's wife, I wish you were coming in early. I did my makup and straightened my hair".
Just sounds like a girl friendship really. I don't really see any reason to be suspicious besides the fact that the woman is a lesbian.
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I was about to say that you should have a threesome with them, but since you're not into "degeneracy", enjoy being cucked by a lesbian
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The story starts 2 years ago
>Travel to another country for the purpose of adventure
>Not sure what what to expect from the situation
>Meet 2 girls that are constantly in my social group
>Ask both out on dates
>One is more assertive and makes me her boyfriend really fast
>Don't think much of it since I am young and just want to enjoy the sex
>Friend zone the other girl and we become really good friends
>As I hang out with her I realized I fucked up and she is actually the smartest most caring person I have ever met
>One night as it's getting closer to the time I'm leaving she comes to my house and we go and hangout .
>She skips her college class to hang out with me and even bring me to a "lovers hill"
>I tell her I will break up with my current girlfriend when I leave and when I come back we can travel together
>"I feel the same way I will wait for you" she responds
>Turns out I do not have the courage to break up with the girls I'm with I'm too attached
>The day before I leave both girls come to my apartment
>She brings a gift with her
>She has a bag covered in hearts
>She then tells me that it took her awhile to gather the whole set
>My gf teases her "Oh why don't you just kiss good bye?" trying to make her jealous
>She becomes embarrassed and leaves quickly
>I open the gift
>Turns out to be 5 figures based on my favorite book
>price tag is left on one by mistake
>they were not cheap...
>I know she had to go around town to find all of them this probably took up her whole day
>Never in my life before or after have I gotten a gift so caring
>Spend last night with gf
Cont...
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Cont...
Fast forward a year
>I'm back and I've been talking to both consistently
>Meet up with gf first
>We have sex and she buys some pills that were vitamin E? or some shit she said helped birth control not be as painful
>Meet with other girl soon after and another friend soon after to have dinner
>My gf brings the pills and lets the other girl see them (She was rather clever I think and could tell there was something there)
>She asks my gf "What are these for?"
>Gf basically brags to her we have been having sex
>Her mood visibly changed
>I can tell when I talk to her she has no interest
Fast forward another year
>Me and gf broke up I have date other girls since that time
>Still have the gift the other girl gave me
>It fills me with both a feeling of love and regret
>Get drunk one night and contact her again
>Tell her I regret not going out with her back then
>She tells me it's ok and that we can still be good friends
>Start talking a lot again it turns out shes a math teacher now which is crazy since I've also become a teacher since that time
>Talk about work and dealing with the kids etc..
>Says she is coming to my country early next year
>At this point it feels like I am falling for her all over again
What should I do? I don't want her to get away again.
Should I pursue her and try to be with her when she comes?
Or have I fucked up to the point of no return and look like a scum bag?
I am at the point where I no longer want to fuck random women so it's not about sex at all at this point.
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tl;dr
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>>18271348
Very clever
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My guts saying get out but my brain is ok and comfortable with this because im used to being a problem. Iv tried to break up with him he told me he would change and I believed him and he hasn't. I feel its becoming abusive I mean from the start it kind of was. Now hes hurting me and laughs at me when I look scared. He makes my problems look smaller than they are he also finds away to loop everything back to me like everything is my fault. He told me the first time i broke up with him that he would have killed himself if i went threw with it. When ever hes with his friends he always acts like im not there. I have no friends and he always makes me feel bad about myself. Im afraid to leave because what if this was the best relationship i have? What if he kills himself? Im becoming scared of him spending time with him alone because hes always persistent and when he doesnt get his way he becomes mad and upset. Im afraid if i dont go along then he will hurt me. I feel like its just how people act because iv grown up with this behavior but i kinda know that its wrong but when i try to tell him my problems, he turns it around and asks whats the problem? I cant think of anything, like my mind shutsdown and its almost like i am the problem and he is the one that does everything right. i just I don't know does this sound abusive?
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>list 2 dozen reasons why the relationship is abusive
>but what if this is the best relationship I can get
Lol
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I don't know if this is a troll but shit makes me sad
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>if this was the best relationship i have
No it's not, you're probably experiencing one of the worst times of your life and when you look back you're going to think why the fuck did I waste my time with him. You have an abusive boyfriend and you're brains telling you it's okay. It's not okay, please leave him and just be alone and sort yourself out. You're not ready for a relationship if you can be controlled like this. If he kills himself that's his problem, not yours.
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>22
>Finishing college degree parents told me to get
>Job prospects looking iffy
>Mfw I realize I don't want a job and only looked for them because parents told me to
>Mfw I realize I don't want to grow up and only doing so because parents told me to
>Mfw I realize I regret not an heroing after High School
Would it be morally wrong to reject the future and end it all here?
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It would be cowardly, Imo. What degree did you do, and what do you fear about future?
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> get job in field you studied for
> get $$$
> study for something you're more interested in on the side
> get job in new field, using experience in current one as leverage
Probably your best bet here senpai.
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Talk to your family about this. More than anything else they want you to be happy.
How to calm angry women?
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are most women like this? i'm a grill but i'm always so chill that people frequently ask if i have any emotions at all. eh. anyway there must be something that's making her upset. try genuinely talking to her about it. try cheering her up with flowers or some shit. girls like that right?
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>>18271275
You can't.
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>>18271275
Step 1:
Tell her to calm down
If that doesn't work, call her irrational.
Repeat step 1 as much as needed.
Step 2;
Find out the hard way that step 1 never works..
Try to cheer her up with jokes or things she likes.
When that doesn't work tell her to smile.
Repeat this process as much as you feel is necessary.
Step 3;
Learn the harshest ultimate truth.
NOTHING WORKS.
Step 4;
Go to the pub and wait for this whole thing to blow over.
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Hey guys I wasn't sure where to really ask and I wasn't comfortable posting anywhere really but if any of you know about or take the drug concerta and have experienced I guess a form of hallucination? I'm not abusing it, it was prescribed to me 54mgs and lately I've been seeing this thing from the corner of my eye all day like a shadow person? I've also out of the blue been through mood shifts to the extreme of suicide and even paranoia. If any of you have been on it and can help out it's appreciated. Thanks
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Call your doctor. Stop taking the meds.
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>>18271250
Usually I would but this is the only medication that really helped and showed affects and all the good it's done outweighs the bad. I'm not sure what do really do
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If you have decent insurance or money, I'd suggest a Gene Test to see what works for you cause that shit isn't normal at all.