Hey, personally I'm against it, and my ex promised me she'd

You have the right to break up with her for any reason or no reason at all. You have to decide what you're willing to tolerate in a relationship and what you're not. It doesn't matter what anybody else thinks. If this is a deal breaker for you and she isn't willing to stop, then she doesn't value the relationship or you as much as you do. Move on to find that person. The majority of people do not smoke anything of any kind and do not do drugs.

>>18402872
Explain that you can't tolerate it anymore and tell her she has to decide between it and you. And if she breaks that rule, break up.

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>>18402872
Yes, yes it is perfectly okay to have Standards.

It's a word you don't hear to often in people nowadays, and that's why the divorce rate is so high.

If you make minimums and tell yourself this simple sentence for even 6 things you'll do a lot better in the long run:

"I will not date or commit to a women/man who _____."

-Smokes
-Has lots of guy friends
-Idolizes anyone but god.
-Plays a Victim
-is trying to "find" herself stoll
-Has a kid that isn't mines.

>>18402885
I mean she is 100% fine in every other way. She is just surrounded by friends who do it and they influence her. I don't know why it makes me feel so strongly, but it does.

>>18402916
Just explain it dude. You can't just be pissed off at her for something you haven't talked to at length about. If she loves you, she'll give it up.

>>18402872
If there was something that made you happy and you enjoyed doing, but your significant other wasn't okay with it, would you be comfortable just giving it up no problem? There's gotta be a way to compromise here.

>>18402916
Maybe figure that out? If you're gonna break up with her, at least know why.

>>18402932
yes I would

>>18402872
Jesus christ i dont even know how youre getting so much support on this, where do you people even live and how old are all of you?


K op. I dont smoke and i never even liked weed when i have tried it.

But its just a goddamn plant. If you dont like it fine. If you dont like someone who wastes their whole life on it, also understandable. But ffs youll do more damage to your own life being this much of a prude than weed can do to anyone elses life.

Why youre like this? I dont know but i heard in your country you have drug awareness programs that go way overboard about this shit so maybe youre brainwashed and conditioned this way.

>>18402872
I mean just because she's seeing a band that you think is "a band that is basically made to listen to high." and she smoked weed in the past doesn't mean she will at the concert. The bigger issue here is that you don't trust her not to and are already prepared as if she's done something you explicitly told her not to do.

You shouldn't have a dynamic like that.

>>18402939
I doubt that's actually true, you're probably very upset and it's hard to be truly empathetic and put yourself in someone else's shoes when you're upset. But if you are truly meaning what you say, then that's unfortunate that you would change something you really enjoy doing just because someone else wasn't cool with it. I don't appreciate my boyfriend smoking, but he likes it. It's one of the things that makes him happy, and I want him to be happy. So we compromise.

>>18402872

>acceptable

you can break up with anyone at any time for any reason, even if the reaso is just 'i dont feel like dating you anymore'. people need to stop acting like they need a villainous excuse to break up with someone.

you dont like her smoking pot? doe sthat ruin her for you? go for it. its not like if it was 'unacceptable' you'd just be comfortable stomaching your insecurities about the drug.

frankly i dont like to date people who get high. i dont like to date people who drink more then sparingly either. people tend to date those who have similar lifestyles, and she seems to be on the path to smoking semi regularly. and if you want to break up wtih her over that, thats fine, but maybe have a talk abotu it first to see if this can be salvaged.

You're justified to feel however you want, but personally I think it's stupid.

>>18402872

What is the band?

>>18402872
IfIf you don't know what it is that makes you hate the idea, chances are it's a form of jealousy/insecurity. That she does something you're not experienced in, and she does it without you, so it's like you're being left out and left behind. That's how I felt about a boyfriend who smoked weed, I've never had an ethical issue with it but I was just really jealous that it was a part of his life I knew nothing about.

You can break up with her if you want but maybe you should try doing it together to see if that's the problem.

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>>18402872

>Is it wrong of me to break up with my girlfriend because she smoked?

I'd say there is nothing wrong with not wanting to be with a girlfriend because she smokes weed but in my opinion there is definitely something wrong with being so sensitive that you're willing to blow up a relationship you're very happy in because of something so insignificant and silly as smoking a joint. Maybe thats just my personal conditioning but people indulge in vices every day; alcohol, pills, drugs, weed, sugar, caffeine, food, porn, adrenaline, nicotine etc.,

I think its more about how you deal with vices and avoiding addictive behavior than it is about avoiding them all together. You have every right to break up with someone for whatever reason you want; no one is arguing that fact. I think instead of focusing on what you have a right to do you should be participating in some introspection and asking yourself whether or not you're being reasonable; whether or not your reaction is appropriate to the situation and if its fair for you to put the burden of your inexplicable hatred for weed on her.

I mean, if she smokes a joint at a concert and comes home and goes back to living her life without smoking every day or harming herself what exactly is she hurting? What negative consequences has she incurred by smoking weed? Is there anything being objectively damaged by smoking occasionally with her friends or is it just your pride?

Ask yourself these questions. I, personally, think you're being a little dramatic but like I said, you're not obligated to be in a relationship with anyone. Whether or not you're being reasonable is a whole different argument.

I hate to be this guy in the thread but you sound sheltered and like you have a stick up your ass honestly.

She smoked WEED... This is... unacceptable!

A lot of people do it. It doesnt sound like your gf even does it that much either. Quite honestly a dumb thing to end a relationship over in the grand scheme of things

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Not at all

I used to sell drugs in college and let me tell you. Even the girls who smoke weed are gutter trash. Dump her.

>>18403171

Yup, because you have met every girl that has ever existed and this advice is 100% guaranteed to work on all women.

Yes break up with her you little faggot, she really shouldn't date some limp-wristed petty pussy like you

Would you leave someone for having a glass of alcohol as well?

>>18402872
>Caring if it's right or wrong

If it makes you feel weird break up, or either accept it. I would not think twice about it, even if I smoke myself, I'm really selfish :^)

Tell her you've got straight edge

Then go jack off, alone

>>18402872
Yea you sound really sheltered and take things maybe a little personal? Break up with her, she sounds too mature for you. Find someone else on your level of understanding.

>>18402872
Smoking weed isn't really the issue but no woman buys their own weed. They have a "dealer" but they never pay money for weed or they have a "friend" but that weed is not free. Women exchange some sexual act for that weed and with guys you would never believe your princess would "smoke" with.

>>18404572
Jesus Christ y'all some jaded motherfuckers. That's not a good thing to be, let's be clear about that. It's a form of naivety. Excessive cynicism is just as naive in its own way as wide-eyed idealism.

Sure, some women do that, and I've met a few of them. Many don't, and I've also met some of them. Plenty of girls get their weed by buying it from a dealer for USD like the rest of us, or from a (legitimately) platonic friend - maybe even a FEMALE friend, woahshit. Or, and here's a curveball, from a dispensary, in the increasing number of places where cannabis is legal, either recreationally or medically.

Women are not some uniformly whorish collective, and cannabis is also really common and fucking easy to get. It is not some precious and rare substance that you need to trade sex to get.

>>18404614
>some women do that
Most women have at some point and it doesn't take much prodding and some knock at the door or call and tell you up front they have no money, yet still want the weed.

>>18404545

I dont care for weed and never fucked with it. But what you said is right. It bugs him so much she smokes he should just dump her.

>>18404614 https://youtu.be/ZvgbE7kQQVY
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Lmao you're such a square OP.

How would you feel if she dumped you because you went on 4chan? basically the same level of petty.

If you're too insecure to handle this chick the dump her and save her time.