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>>18408680

depends for the person. for me its simply hanging out with my buds. but i dont get that hung up on girls. even when i fall really hard for a girl it doesn't detract from my life as is, so I have a pretty steady base.

i think the best way to get over anything in life is to just build a steady base for life.

>>18408680
get on top of another one

>>18408680
>me few days ago
>female blonde hot classmate approaches me
>asks me out to get a coffee
>i tell her i can't because i have to study
end me now, why am i such a sperglord

>>18408661
>>18408661
Here is the greentext for anyone that cares:

>Be me, 18
>Kissless virgin
>Friend invites me to a very small party
>Know nearly every1 at the party
>First time w/ alcohol
>We play corny kiss-games and I end up kissing this one girl (lets call her angel)
>We talk abit during the night but not 2 much
>Next day angel's asks about my number
>We start texting and decide 2 go for coffee
>We go for coffee and we even hang out at a few other partys

Sidenote, we make out at every single one of these partys, and yes even my dumb fucking brain could figure out we had some kind of connection. However..

>At another party, without angel
>I meet this other girl and we talk for abit
>She's obv better looking then angel but shes no way near as nice towards me
>I end up thinking I ''can do better'' then angel
>Meanwhile my friends tells me that I should forget angel and just find someone ells
>I therefor stop texting her.

>>18408685
>>18408685

Now back to reality..
I cant for the love of me stop thinking about her.
Even a FUCKING YEAR LATER I can not seem to forget her. I wanna know;
>wtf am I supposed 2 do

If you still got her number, maybe its not 2 late 2 text her again?

Was it a gay strip club?

>>18408269
Straight club they edged me really hard during a dance prior to it

>>18408260
Id be more concerned about using 4chan.

A lot more concerned.

>>18408230
Welfare state everyone.

Just get a job.

It doesn't get better.

>>18408230

you are unchallenged, unmotivated, unplanned, disorganised, and without goals, yes?

>>18408197
Hey you're still 20, plenty of times and opportunities. Sucks you don't get it the way you wanted it to be, but don't let it discourage you.

>>18408214
The thing is all motivation is gone, sure seeing couples gets me a bit jealous but after giving it a second thought it just doesn't seem appealing anymore

>>18408197

Bruh any grown man who has a wife will tell you to do this:


Focus on yourself and don't worry about when you'll find a gf. Girls are attracted to the guys who aren't looking for girls. They're attracted to guys who are looking for ways to fulfill their dreams and goals.

Searching for a partner is what women do. Guys just enjoy life and if a cute girl comes along, approach her and see if she wants to join your party. If not, no worries, keep enjoying life.

Never try to get into a girl's life, approach her with the intention of sharing your life with her.

Cars are not an investment. Now that you've bought that used car it'll only go down in value. Where's if you had kept the cash in a savings account you could have just bought it when you needed it.

>>18408191
No that was an awful investment. Cars in general are never good investments. They are a deprecating asset and will never be worth more than what you bought them for. If you had a working car why the fuck would you need a second one? You can't drive both at the same time. You fucked up dude

>>18408191
Why didn't you ask before you bought it.

Now you have to insure and upkeep 2 cars over some paranoid bullshit.

Brakes have issues get a ride or uber. Did you really think anyone here was going to say it was a good idea to have a second car (which is probably a piece of shit itself for $2k) JUST IN CASE?

Factory or industrial depending on where you'd be opening your business. I say that because residential and hazard already got monopolized by government where I am now.

>>18408055
Most "public" collecting is done through exclusive contracts with city/county/state. Best chance (if it's allowed in your area) is contracts with individual plants, warehouses or large stores.

$40,000 won't even buy you one used truck, not to mention dumpsters, licenses, office, etc.

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>>18408115
Fuck me. Guess I better get a loan. You sound about right, private organizations likely wanna keep costs lower than what the big juggernauts want to be paid.

>>18408051
Fuck, just realized I put "flying in next month" twice.

>>18408054
good sign dude, maybe you'll get laid twice too

>>18408051
> ldr cancer
> buying a plane ticket for some fugg
> h-help me out guise wat do I do
Well for starters kill your self retard. We dont need your kind procreating in this already damned world.

I think it's important also to note that when she didn't lie - but wasn't honest - when I asked her what she did. Basically I asked her what she did tonight and she said she went to a party with my friends. She left out making out with the guy. But then when I said I knew she came clean.

>>18407802
>but I would never partake in the same course of action given the opportunity
Then you hold her to the same standard and stop dating this one. You'll find someone that would never have done this.

You said it yourself, you're just dating and it's not a serious relationship. So by that standard, based on face value, I'd say you forgive her since she was so forthcoming. You may be trying to just rationalize the situation though. There are a couple of factors that I, personally, think determine whether or not you were "correct" to forgive her. Those factors being, how long have ya'll been "dating", what have ya'll done (sexually), etc. I mean if you only saw her a few times and didn't even kiss her. You get where I'm going. It all depends on the situation. It also strongly depends on you and how you feel about either situation.

Some people will outright say she cheated on you. And it's really not that black and white.

>>18407707
Everyday they wake up, pretend to say good morning and park their ass behind a laptop or YT without trying to do something different than yesterday.

There's so much to sell to try and get funds to invest in something better but my family would rather get angry at a water bill they can't pay instead of turning off sprinklers. My dad is the one in the way of our family actually living and now that he hasn't been working in months, we're just on our own with this dead weight as the head of the household. I'm the oldest son, but don't want that title if no one is listening and only guilt tripping because they're poor.

.7 ETH when I had 3 and told them about it. Now I just want to drive away and never come back. I need advice. This has been my problem for 2 years on top of the 26 of hell from this shit family.

>>18407707
Bump please. I can't mentally handle another deja vu like week. Please help me.

>>18407707
>>18407707
Most people who are financially bankrupt are emotionally bankrupt - without the will to live and better themselves, they lack willpower and motivation, to well, do anything.
Mental fortitude, which is your bulwark against emotional bankruptcy, can be bolstered 'perspective' - first, life isn't so bad. If you were reduced to nothing, if society was reduced to nothing, could you survive as a subsistence farmer? if the answer is no, you play the hand you have been dealt in modern society - no big deal.
You are 28 and are still young and unmarried. Assuming these loans are not tied to you in some way, you have the ability to press a reset button. Drop all the deadweight and start again, if you want to - you already knew this was an answer, after all.

Did you lose your wallet numerous times because of being drunk?
If yes then you did not learn from your mistakes and you fucking deserve it.Peace

>>18407670
Get off your high horse mr. perfect.

I know how to deal with a wallet. Keys, I can probably manage. The question is getting new car keys.

>>18407668
Keys - if you have a landlord, tell him what happened and ask for a copy of the keys.
If you don't, call a locksmith and have them change the lock.

Car key - you should have a spare copy of your key. If you don't, call a car locksmith.

It's going to cost you quite a bit of money.

>>18407661
>yet they come to him like flies to honey.
you'll catch more flies with shit

maybe he ia good at asking the right questions. if you get people to open up to you, they will instantly feel connected. you need to be able to pick up the smallest clue and develope it into a conversation. for example, a co-worker of mine once mentioned that she has a horse. since then, i can easily get her to talk for hours because i know what to ask. it's really easy once you get the hang of it. once she has talked to me for a while, she automatically started to give me more personal information i could spin off new and more intimate conversations. as a result, we sre now rather "close", since she tells me stuff she doesn't tell anybody else, simply because i am good at asking the right questions in the roght tone at the right moment and get people to share very personal stuff. it's almost automatical that people like other they have shared personal stories with since they now have to somehow keep them close to keep track on how they use that information. might sound cold and calculated, but that's how humans work.

Maybe you're just boring.

Then again perhaps the other guy's good with building a rapport with others. He notices small details a person had said or had in themselves and able to give it the attention and spotlight to develop it further. That's why you might mistakenly see him as apathetic and pushy assholes, while in truth he's simply more attentive and bold than you.

Wow, are you me?

>constantly feel the need to prove my former bullies wrong
>so conscious of myself I fuck up

>how do you fix it
I don't know, OP. I'm somewhat similar but I direct more of my negative energy inwards rather than outwards. I hate myself and the only reason I'm living is because I'm too scared to die. I just try to be happy and force myself to do things. I think it's working, but it's taking a long time.

>>18407655
>>18407673

There you are, my feelclones. Bullying + parents trying to be good parents, but with indifferent result.

>>18407585
>Looking for basic info on whether to try Tinder or some other appshit to try to get a gf since it seems one wont magically materialize for me.

Tinder is for hookups, not getting GFs.
But even for hookups it ain't best, since most Girls on there have very high standards at least over here.

So for hookups use BlendR or Badoo.
For getting a GF internationally OKCupid, and Plenty of Fish, in Germany additionally La Blue, Finya and Himmlisch Plaudern.

>22yo virgin, a slav in Germany with little to no German skills
So fucking learn German. You might score a lay if you were good looking, but how do you wanna maintain a relationship (at least with a German girl - you could go for expats and refugees) when you do not speak our language.

Sorry Igor. Niemand wird dich wollen, wenn du daran nichts aenderst.

>anxiety issues
=> "How to manage Anxiety with CBT for dummies".
Buy it.
Read it.
DO what it says.

>not really good looking,
>>>/fit/

> live with parents, autistic interests
not intrinsicly and issue

>>18407585
Oh and:

Asking a girl out in RL > Online dating.
WAY too much competition.

you have to go back.

Raus

>>18407504
people generally dont tell you they are judging you. in fact they will try to hide it as much as possible.
Jst try not to be an ass and you wont have a problem.

>>18407517
I hear you. Part of me thinks I should mention this to my ex, since we hook up on occasion, but another part of me thinks I should just shut up and never mention it again.

>>18407504
just chill out lmao