>late 20s
>living at home with parents in Texas
>don't particularly like Texas at all (too hot in the summer, ridiculous drivers, uninteresting landscape, not in love with the culture)
I've got about $1000 in savings and I really feel like I want to strike out on my own and start a new life somewhere else. Is this a good idea?
>>18406597
You're gonna need a whole lot more money or a more concrete plan
>>18406603
>You're gonna need a whole lot more money
How much more money?
>>18406611
As someone who lives in Texas and is moving soon, you'll need at least 1k just to move into an apartment. More if you don't have a job.
But, I mean, you could probably get away with 2k if you went to a cheap place. That'd cover the apartment, and give you a couple weeks of food before you found a job. 3k would probably be reasonably safe, but you'd still have to live in a pretty run down place till you got yourself set up.
>Break up with gf of 4 years because she wants kids but decide to stay friends since we still get along fine.
>Shit sucks but I decide to let her live with me until she gets her shit together because she has no job or car.
>Barely a week later we are at a party together and she kisses her childhood friend on the cheek.
>She confessed she wanted to fuck him too.
>I only find out because she posted here about how she lost her friend because she regrets what she did and cut contact with him.
>Days later I find out she hangs out with him for hours while I'm at work.
>Confront her about it and she says she is not giving up her best friend.
>I don't believe that they're just being friends.
>Instead of kicking her out I take the petty route and make arguments out of nothing and bring up past arguments we had.
>Eventually I do kick her out.
>She now lives in an echo chamber with people that now hate me and I know she sees her "childhood friend" all the time there.
>Doesn't have room to move all her stuff there so it's still with me.
It stings to see her things in my house and I want to get rid of it without legal trouble. What do?
Bumpage
You've broken up, right? So what's the problem? Ask your ex if it would be okay to have the stuff moved into boxes if you really can't bare looking at it. Or just live with it until she has a place to put the stuff
Put the stuff in boxes. Give her 1-2 months to get her shit together and find a place to store it.
You dated for 4 years, you don't want to be a bitter asshole about it.
I'm dealing with the same thing. I'm just happy we're not living together while being broken up. My ex is also sleeping around with half the town. It bothers the fuck out of me, but at least I know I'm the one with the stable living situation, good job, and mental stamina to not need constant attention from random dudes.
Be the better person OP. When you look back you will be glad you weren't immature and unnecessarily hostile to someone you once loved.
Life is just overrated, don't you think? Not existing have everyone experienced before they was born. Not existing = no emotions trying to knife you up your soul. Why should I even try stay alive?
You'll die eventually. Might as well see it through. That's my policy anyways. Are you implying that you're going to kill yourself? I don't recognize those pills
>>18406501
theres no such thing as something that doesnt exist. youre an idiot, but im all for you getting help you need
>>18406609
This
We are all gonna day eventualy, you might as well enjoy the ride.
I have a friend that is almost always at the gym, takes pics of himself flexing, and is ALWAYS looking at girls. I shit you not, he spent every moment he was on his phone stalking girls on insta gram, and showing me pic after pic of girls, asking what I think of them. He also CONSTANTLY tells me about "this girl I'm talking to is so hot" and shit like that. Furthermore, he will look at every single hot girl he sees in public, blatently staring at their ass until they're out of sight.
Now, I'm a straight guy, 5'11, 175lbs, and I will look at girls from time to time, but not close to as much as he does.
I've never met someone who is THIS much into women so much, have you?
Also, is he a Tool? A fuckboi? Or what is a person like him called?
It's pissing me off because it's never ending and he's always bragging about girls and just general bullshit.
Thanks
File unrelated
Desperate. That's the word for guys like him.
the dude just sounds stupid. gym/girls/bragging: what a boring, simple, concrete life.
Don't waste your time on this dude. Life is too short.
>>18406484
He's a wanna-be Chad.
>film it
>put in on youtube. Call it cringe.
>watch it go viral because buzzwords get views.
>ad revenue
My best friend is a girl that is in an open relationship. She has many male friends that she regularly talks to and sex with them, or sends them pics.
I've known her for many years now, and I want to have sex with her too. She also knows how I feel. However, she never includes me in her sex life at all. She freely posts about what she does in our group chat, and I never really say anything, but I always get depressed when I read about that stuff.
I've never really talked to her about this, because I'm worried it's going to ruin our relationship. What should I do, /adv/? Should I talk to her about this?
>>18406445
Mayb stop being desperate
>What should I do, /adv/?
Accept that she has no sexual interest in you. Just because she's casual about sex doesn't entitle you to 'your turn' on her.
>Should I talk to her about this?
What the fuck is there to talk to her about?
Actually, coming back to what you should do, you should stop being friends with her. She can do better than a slimy 'best friend' like you.
"Hey so how come we never had sex, Anonette"
So I was always told that my grandpa on my mother's side was killed in an accident a couple years before my mom and dad met. See my grandpa's only son (out of 3 other girls) died of a heart related disease when he was only 9. My mothers words were "My dad was devastated and after Joey died I never saw my father in Church ever again" and I think around the time my Mother got married her Father and Mother went through a divorce. Everything that I have learned and many gut feelings that I have felt through the years indicated that something worse happened to my grandfather then being killed in an accident. I also think I inherited a lot from him, he got a scholarship to the #1 University in his country and also was a college professor, I think I inherited my intelligence from him but at the same time I've had a handful of relationships but all of them but one ended because I was basically a dickhead, which is why I think he was the only divorce in my family that I can recall. I seriously think he might of committed suicide and my family had it kept it hidden. Is this something I should I bring up or is this one of those times that "ignorance truly is bliss"?
>>18406229
>but at the same time I've had a handful of relationships but all of them but one ended because I was basically a dickhead, which is why I think he was the only divorce in my family that I can recall
I'm sorry, are you attributing your inability to maintain relationships on your grandpa. Seriously?
>>18406236
I'm not sure if that has anything do with him but it's just a little part of the whole
Let sleeping dogs lie. Don't drudge up things from the past that might not sit well with your mother now. You're your own person, and while you may be "like" your past relatives you're entirely in control of your life and frankly your personality is it's own.
I feel so detached from people. I was at a wedding today and just felt so weird. It's so ironic because I look decent/good and girls glanced at me, but I danced with a few and felt they can sense my autism and awkwardness. How do I overcome that? How do I become a normie? I'm fucking 23 and I'm losing hope. I'm drunk. Please don't fucking overlook this thread.
>>18406186
>feel so detached
Please elaborate anon, what kind of detached are we talking about ?
>>18406186
I know the feeling. Xanax is a life saver for social occasions, eat half a bar and you will be able to talk to people without any of those nagging anxieties.
Or get therapy.
Drugs are cheap, therapy isn't.
don't get addicted anon
Save yourself OP. I'm 25. Its too late for me
>the most quiet at family settings like Thanksgiving
>dont engage people in public, just 'please...thanks...excuse me'
>friends have described me as 'the kind of guy you forget was there'
>never get invited at work to hang out and find out by their convos
Was just masterbating and experience horrible sensation in back of neck. Since the've experienced symptoms of hemorraggic stroke. Couldnt walk or hold head up. Couldn't feel arms legs blurred vision. Was going to text mother and gave her drive me to the ER but do t have insurance and not sure what a doc could do for me . I was so certain I was having stroke earlier but now feel a bit normal. Had uncontrolled blood pressure for this past winter because of B12 deficiency and I know blood vessels are weak always feel it in upper neck.
Why was I having stroke symptoms and feel okay now ?
Pls respond
Go to the doctor.
>>18406155
Because strokes are events, not conditions.
You need to get insurance immediately and get under the care of a physician- you did have one and are at high risk for another one.
My girlfriend does most of the talking and shes getting bored. Says she doesn't want to "entertain me" all the time.
We had a 40 minute drive to the zoo today and she told me to do the talking, I went blank and couldn't come up with anything. Tried a childhood story, tried talking about some music but she didn't seem interested in any of it.
She seems incredible at talking about anything and making it seem interesting and exciting. I've always been a really mellow person and I can hold a conversation but when I'm put on the spot and told just to talk I go blank, I can't think of anything.
I think i'm a boring person, what can I do? Seems like this relationship is going to fall apart and I feel powerless to save it.
Best thing to do my friend it talk to her about it. Tell her your issues and be super nice to her. Im sure over time it will pass. Talk a little and then ask her some questions and pass the conversation back to her. Jedi mind trick stuff.
Sounds like your best bet is to break up with her, go experience life on your own and have some stories for the next one.
>>18406390
I did, she basically told me to figure it out myself
>>18406406
leaning more towards this, I've been really good to this girl and i'm tired of being disrespected. I need to learn how to be happy on my own.
i still have a lot of love for her though so i'm not sure what to do.
How do I get a job if literally nobody is willing to be a reference for me?
I'm 20 years old and I've never had a job before. I'm trying to apply at McDonald's and I need three references. I've been calling people I knew in high school to ask them if I can put them as a reference but they all refuse to because they all say it would make them look bad, they have to put their reputation on the line when they do a reference, but a lot of the time they just hang up on me as soon as they hear my name. I've tried emailing some of my old teachers and none of them respond. I've heard its bad to put family members as references but even if I did, I'm only still in contact with two people in my family.
>>18406128
If you have 3 friends, get them to fake it for you
if you don't have 3 friends..... you have bigger problems
>>18406128
Go to a job agency. They will get you working regardless of experience. Then do not fuck up the jobs.
That is literally all you need to do. Trust me.
>>18406135
Oh and bonus. Im a contractor and work was slow with my union so i went to a job agency just to fill the bills in the meantime.
Wound up with my current high paying full time non temp position. If youre any value a temp agency can actually boost your career to surprising heights.
How to make someone be themselves around, to the point they will fart and burp around you.
Cause when I'm with someone I always make the person feel awkward.... Idk why.
It's like people are stuck up and awkward and embarrassed with me whyyy
>>18405945
Comfortability is contagious, would you say you're comfortable with yourself?
>why
maybe you are a retard...
What do you tell to girls if you want to start casual convos? I wat to get to know this one better through chatting but I really don't know how to start
"hey, you there?"
"*some shit reply*"
"nah, i'm just kinda bored. whatcha up to rn?"
*proceed*
worked for me
>>18405870
I used this last time, I need something else
Also, convod basically stopped after she asked "how r you?"
>>18405793
Ppl in general are open to talk about themselves. Think of as many questions as you can and write them down. Look for common answers to expand on. Ask what types of movies does she like, types of food, hobbies, tv shows, sports, exercise, school subjects, restaurants, work, career interests, etc.
Drawing Advice
I want to draw and develope a manga artstyle, not so I can make my own or anything like that, I just think it's fun and I'd love to join drawthreads in the future or do commissions, and I feel like this artstyle is the most fun.
I'm decent at anatomy, less decent at clothes, and TERRIBLE when it comes to heads and faces, but hair is fine.
I've only been drawing for about a month, so I don't expect my stuff do be good at all, but how do I start drawing this style of heads and faces, and not realism style?
I understand I need to be good at realism before I can get my own art style, but I feel like learning directly is better when it comes to heads, and the opposite for anatomy.
Could anyone tell me who or what to study for faces? I'd seriously appreciate it.
Pic related is an hour of doodles, all drawn from reference.
>>18405775
Just draw by reference until you get decent results relatively quickly and then start drawing without looking at anything.
All of this takes a lot of practice and time, as a hobby i'd say it needs several months depending on how disciplined you are.
>>18405795
I draw for like 2 hours a day, so yeah it'll probably take me quite awhile. Thanks for the adv anon.
Period is 10 days late, today I has very minor cramps and pink peachy discharge every time I wiped,im getting slight nusea feeling and goosebumps that usually happens at the start of my period.... is it implantation bleeding?
No.
Wait to see if your next period comes and then get a blood test.
The only way you will know for sure is if you get a pregnancy test, there are too many questions to ask in order to really decipher if you're pregnant or not. Stress can make you late as well, but put worry to rest and go pick up a test.
I took a college girl from a school I’m alumni of on a first date last night. It started as something simple, a coffee break away from her study group. She sparked the idea of going to the movies afterwards all on her own, so we ditched her study group and watched Wonder Woman instead. She still lives with strict asian parents who make sure she gets home by 11 every night. The movie ended at 10:40 and as I drove her home she moaned all the while about not wanting to go home to study (she has a ton of exams), about stress with school and about how she wanted to drink instead.
The problem is that she is under drinking age, so bars and clubs are no-go. I had a bottle of wine at my place, but she replied with a quick ‘no’ to that idea. She didn’t want ice cream either. We joked about seeing another movie and almost went but she is worried about her dad. Even after that she went on and on about how she wanted to drink and how much she hated homework. In the end I just took her back home.
Could I have done something different that would have led to a more ‘productive’ outcome?
>>18405639
How old are you to be dating underaged asian girls who lives with their parents? Jail is a cool place for people like you.
>>18405958
under drinking age isnt necessarily under age but im not op
>>18405958
>Drinking age is 21 in some states
>What do you mean youre dating a girl who's not old enough to drink you fucking pedo