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>>18411813
Dump your gf, she doesn't deserve this

you have deeper rooted issues you need to adress. you have alcohol issues and you have intimacy issues. those don´t just appear out of the blue. get to the root of it and work on resolving this.

>>18411823
^ this

>>18411799
>I am willing to follow her
Tell her this. Then ask her on another date. Dont forget to buy condoms.

then tell her that. dare something. the worst that can happen is that she rejects you. so what? you won´t die from that.

>>18411805
>>18411804
If I tell her that I may seem really desperate.

>>18411787

by asking her to marry you

>>18411787
Ask her on date dumb anime poster.

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take her somewhere like pic related, make it seem like just a normal time out for you guys, pick your spot before hand, come up with a plan, have a photographer follow you cause you're gonna want that picture somewhere for the rest of your life, and then propose.

on rings, get a sense of her style and get something that matches that.

>>18411733

depends on your health history. for me that would be a HORRIBLE idea. but if you havent NEEDED to go to the doctor in the last year then you are probably fine for 4 months

>>18411733

whatever you do dont go to the porn theater and make out with a dozen old men while jerking off. I catch strep every time.

>>18411733
OP here and should mention I have no pre-existing conditions and am perfectly healthy. I'm more worried about the penalty for not being covered. I've had to pay a fine or whatever for not having insurance even though I never went to the hospital.

>>18411718
*literally not a moment where I dont wish

you definitely do something drastic.

and if it is only quitting your job and going innawoods for a while to avoid costs. you need to go about this from a different route than your friends who took the old fashioned way of art schools. so you need to have life experience to make up for it and give your art depth. you can´t be one of those thousands of people who make art but have nothing to say, because you lack the skills to make up for that. on the other hand, you can make up for the lacking skills by having someting to say. so go out there and get some life experience you can then translate into art.

iktf op. I'm 20 and studying accounting but want to produce music for a living. idk what to do

Comp Sci is a good degree. Great even. Especially if you go into computer or network security.

Regardless. I would suggest you get 1 or 2 internships in the kind of field you want to be in to pad your resume. When you graduate you may have to go where the work is(any normal city/suburb).

In addition if you're really worried about a job, start some projects, open up a github and show off your work. Put it on your resume. Even if it's just those dumb fizzbuzz it still helps.

As long as you can show that you know what you're doing, and put that in the face of a hiring manager. You're guaranteed a job srsly
Just realize it's a lot of math.

Also.

>>18411756
Graduating in december with MS in CS and job searching now.
>Internships
I regret I didn't get any
>Start some projects
I regret not starting one big one sooner. Bigger is better, a dozen fizzbuzz-tier repos are not.
>Guaranteed a job
3.9/4.0 GPA has done nothing for me, not sure how to feel about this
>A lot of math
Not in course work, actually

I have never heard of FizzBuzz, is this what you are referring to?

http://wiki.c2.com/?FizzBuzzTest

your best bet is to get the manager involved. sometimes it needs a third person and if she´s really how you describe her, it will be good he sees that in real time and realizes himself that you can´t work with such a person.

>>18411704

I should preface that Brenna has caused me a lot of stress in the past, yelled at me, screamed at my manger that I am a piece of shit, caused me a lot of headache.

It was an extremely busy night and I was trying to get to the console that the chick cook and one of my coworkers were standing in front of. I came up to them and said the chick cook's name we'll call her Brenna.

Brenna gets startled and hits me on the shoulder. I say to her "don't hit me, actually never touch me." She then immediatly hits me again. I hit her back out of anger pretty hard backhanded on the shoulder (I admit this is where I really fucked up) and she flips the fuck out immediately. She starts spouting shit like "If you ever hit me that hard again I will lay you the fuck out, you're gonna die, I will beat the shit out of you".

Admittedly I didn't help the situation at all being a stubborn ass and said "please, beat me up on camera then you can go back to jail, bye Brenna see you in lockup". Which sent her into orbit with anger. She went into the back and I just thought nothing of it, she often freaks out, over reacts and screams shit. I thought this was just a regular ol' night working with an ex-con.

After an hour or so I walk into the kitchen to get something and the moment she sees me she is on me saying "if you ever hit me again I will lay you the fuck out, I will fuck you up, im gonna beat your ass dead." and again I think nothing of it and say "I would love for that to happen I wont even defend myself. Stop saying crazy shit and threatening me."

Her ass blasts into orbit and she starts yelling again. Our head cook says he doesn't want to deal with it and sends her home. She stops yelling and just gets frustrated saying "why do you always take his side" "this is fucking bullshit". She does the right thing afterwards and calls our General manager and complains to him which I didn't mind. He is a reasonable guy and deals with this shit all the time.

>>18411739
I get a call the next day from our manager and he asks me to describe what happened. Of which I try and recount as accurately as possible what happened. I admit that I fucked up by hitting her, ever at any time, as I know she is unstable and prone to fits of yelling and that I didn't help the situation by egging her on. I said I would be happy to apologize and that I am genuinely sorry for not doing the right thing in that situation.

She isn't a bad coworker she is just unstable and really easy to upset. Not that I help. That's how I came into this job too. I had to fight to even keep the job as the person who trained me was a complete bitch and I have just kept that mentality that when people try to fuck with your shit at work you don't be a weak little bitch around them.

why tf does she not just get birth controle?

millenials, i swear...

>>18411660
Why not just do it a few days before the menstrual cycle, when she's likely not to get pregnant? And no need for plan b? That's how we did it, just don't do it often...

>>18411660
Read up on the costs and think about if it's worth it. If so, then go for it. Tell her to get a copper implant or something and then creampie her all you want.

ponder this:

birds of a feather, flock together.

then start improving yourself.

I mean, I know what I have to do, but I'm honestly wondering how to go about it. I've known the guy since 4th grade, but every time we're around each other he likes to talk about everything negative in life and we end up doing toxic things. Do I just ghost him, let him know he's a snake and say peace?

>>18411614
Get new friendships, and cut the ties. Slowly drift away, if you know it's wrong, why do you keep doing it?

>>18411562

Just make more salt water.

>>18411579
Good call ... I didn't think I had sea salt, but I did

>>18411665
It doesn't have to be sea salt

>>18411484
ehm

>>18411484
there're worse things you could do

i'm a grill and i used to fap to a video of me and my ex fucking. i feel like watching porn is worse than that

>>18411436
(2/?)
Now forward to 2012, which is the next time I visted her
>In a rough spot in my current relationship since I'm going to visit my forbidden fruit and I'm being really cold towards my current girl
>I didn't have access to a phone that summer, so I generally used FB chat and email to talk to the forbidden fruit
>GF, who wasn't very technologically proficient, figures out the passwords to my accounts and cracks into them to read what I was doing since she suspected something was up.
>She confronts me and I confess it all, she's pissed off at first but ironically she becomes supportive over it. (maybe she was doing it with malice?)
>Ex reads my conversations with my forbidden fruit and my ex alleges that my forbidden fruit is actually reciprocal towards my flirting with her (again, maybe she said that with malicious intent)
>Hearing that puts me over the moon, but it came to late in the vacation and I had to go back home. Again, I was always mopey when she wasn't around.
Around this time I start feeling like this love is not good for me but considering that she was reciprocal towards me I just ignore those sentiments.
>Over the 3 years since, with the wider availability of internet and the rise of social communication apps, I was able to stay in touch more often than before.
>Even when I'm just texting her I'm generally happy, even with the shadow of anxiety from a permanent tinnitus looming over me. Regardless, I was happy.
I know she has had boyfriends but I never really take them into account, plus what am I going to say?
>She starts talking about how she doesn't like having favorite cousins but recently she felt that I have taken that place in her heart and that while her father and mother are number 1 in her heart I'm pretty high up there
>Again, this puts me over the moon and this is the first time I actually said "I love you" with full romance intended.

>>18411440
(3/?)
>She starts talking about how she wants to talk to me about something secret and serious and this ramps up all my gears to 6, I was extremely anxious about it for the entirety of the day since she wanted to talk about it at night.
>Night comes,and we start talking, my heart is pounding like a cage animal trying to escape, my palms are sweaty (but I didn't throw up mom's spaghetti)
>She starts to go into her story which was... not reciprocation of my feelings but rather about her feelings about this on again, off again boyfriend
I have an idea of who this motherfucker is, obviously I'm biased but I don't like him one bit.
>Tells me about how he dumped her for another girl but how she still has feelings for him
>Call him about every insult short of cuck and tell her to move on (obviously for my own reasons as well, but I had good intents behind my advice outside of my selfish desires)
>Starts talking about this and that and we lead into sex and I start getting jealous and really anxious, but surprisingly she's a virgin and is saving it for someone special.
But needless to say, by this point we were pretty close I think.

Since my last girlfriend I generally just stuck to flings and I didn't really go looking for a relationship, again because of my problem of always imagining that person as my forbidden fruit.
However I think I majorly fucked up here.

(4/?)
>>18411443
>Going to have sex with this girl (again, all I could think about was my forbidden fruit), start feeling her up and she gets nervous and kicks me out, get friendzoned.
>Whatever, start writing a text to talk to my friend about it when I actually send it to my forbidden fruit.
>Try to do damage control by talking to her about it (big mistake), but she talks well, normally.
>After this however, except for 1 occasion around a year later, early Nov 2016, whenever I said I love you she just puts a smile emoticon or just says me too, she never says I love you anymore.
and for that occasion
>We start talking about the uncertainty of the future and how she is nervous about it.
>I decide at this time to say everything I felt short of a full declaration of romantic love, how I'll be there for her for everything, no matter what I'm doing, where I am, no matter what.
>She sends back saying about thanks and that it was so heartfelt and that she loves me. She ends it with a heart emoticon
>Then like 15 minutes later she sends a text saying how I'm like the brother she never had
This devastated me, the only thing worse than the friendzone is the brotherzone
>On twitter she writes how she finally know how it feels to have an older brother
Shit sucks, but even so I'm madly in love with her. I start to accept within myself that she's never going to reciprocate and that it was never going to happen anyways. I'm there rarely.

>>18411432
fuck me please don't go to her country, unless you live in a shithole of course. I would brake up desu cut contact

>>18411432
depends on her country and your field in career

>>18411432
Why do you have to get married to move in together?

We can't tell you what to say if we don't know the details. The only possible advice here is to tell him that you don't think whatever he's saying is true and that you're not going to talk about that anymore. Then ignore his screeches on that subject. This may not be the best course of action depending on what you're talking about and what's been said so far, but it's usually better than an incoherent, never ending argument.

>>18411391
You win by not arguing. Ghost him and let him think he won. If he starts asking why you ghosted him tell him why you want an apology. If he goes off on you again ghost him again. Repeat until apology is reached or one of you dies.

>>18411391
discontinue association with this person immediately, before he has an opportunity to seriously fuck your life up. im dead serious about this.
source: experience

for some reason i cant believe she likes me maybe im just insecure

>>18411389
Is this online?

>>18411389
I wouldn't rush into spending serious cash to fly to the US for her. Part of the attraction may be that you're so far away and consequently not really a viable mate/threat. If you became a lot closer to her, you might find that she might become a bit less enamoured with your charms.

Slow your roll, OP.