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Go camping? Hike? Cross country cycling trip? Lots of free or cheap stuff to do in nature.

>>18400377
Learn a programming language or something

You can go find yourself a bf and get fucked in the ass you fag.

>I refuse to do the thing that would help me but what can I do to fix it???
In that case: keep doing it until you get throat/mouth cancer and can't eat normally anymore.

Hi, OP. I'm an on/off bulimic. The best advice I can give you is to either distract yourself, or restrict your intake so you will feel the urge less.

>>18400361
My uncle as gay and bulimic
He got AIDS since he was gay in the 80s/90s

He died in the late 90s because he didn't stop his bulimia. He went into the hospital a walking skeleton and died like that.

I don't know what else I can say. Don't eat? That's it I guess

>>18400289
Talk to the assistant principal. SOURCE: Teacher.

What the fuck? 10 minutes? He's a cunt.
Kick up a fuss about it. Even if he's allowed to take off marks, a fucking zero is way beyond his means, especially when you didn't even submit it a day late.

is this middle school or some shit?
holy fuck dude wtf

>the love of my life turned into an absolute fucking whore
>I haven't felt love since her

hahahahaha fucking hell I know that feeling, the girl I liked wasn't as unique as yours though from what I'm reading

>>18400188
>Le unique exotic one of a kind "Have it your way"(tm) perfect girl for me
Dude, just settle for a nasty fat Tumblr whale like the rest of is and shut the fuck up with your snowflake bullshit.
>Muh poetry and philosophy and chess

(The only reason I'm being so hard on you is that I have been there myself and I see myself in you, and I know the heartache that can befall you. You have a long road ahead, but one day you will know peace.)

>>18400188
nice blog post, theres always some cock to suck for you out of there faggot.

You sound bias, but even past that it sounds like she might of liked you but definitely didn't love you. She was chasing her own pursuit of individuality you weren't apart of that. You never will be, because even if she goes back she will be just settling for a comfort that does satisfy her "free spirit" but you're better off from these people.

Dude shes probably getting railed while you were together, those type of girls you're better off without. They're in there own minds "free spirits" none of us a free, we sign a social contract from the moment we are born, those who thing they do not have to bring nothing to the table will get treated as so, she will end up a nothing. Work on you and what you can bring to the table. Better that, so that it becomes your table people provide to and take from. This is life.

Save your bohemian bullshit, a girl is difficulty mindless and unconquerable. The only time you conquer them is when you get them to a point that there is nothing on a table they want more then what you have and that they can live of what you provide and that doesn't mean physically, I mean its anything really. If you provide eye catching looks to someone who wants that you automatically bring it to some table.

Remember this, its huge not a lot of people realize it. The best part about the table are the artsy abstract table cloth complex in its design it draw you in but isn't exactly important other then when you bring goods to that metaphorical table, its decor, its nothing more then your current circumstances and situations so yes while you look at it, you will care however the beauty lies in knowing the big painting or mirror above that table. In its painting or reflection is nothing but a bigger picture, one unchaining and undetermined by the table. This is life around you, this represents that in the bigger picture it doesn't all matter. You live and you die.

>autist
>4 roommates
Yeah no.

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>>18400175
>yeah no
are you suggesting I'm not an autist, or implying that this is bait?

>>18400207
...Oh shit, let me clarify that we don't actually live all in the same room. I have a single.

I have a hard time finding authenticity. Both in people and their creations. This is why I love artists. Most artists. Even if abstract art, if you've put any emotion into your work, I will see it, and I will feel something.

Same with writing.

I have these thoughts/feelings that are hard to explain verbally, and when I try to talk about them with people, they think they get it, but are actually thinking about something different. Not in the ballpark, but I get what THEY are referring to.

My thing doesn't get understood though. Every once in a while I meet someone who has one of the same "secrets" as me. This isn't a "woe is me" post, but more of a message to anyone who MIGHT get what I mean if they stumble upon this in the future.

The only person in six years who understands my overly obscure and complicated issues is the one who lives far away. The first clue that gave it away (that we were alike) was their work. The art they made. Our souls came from the same world.

Here's a poorly thought out analogy;

Let's say there's only four places.

Colorado, Florida, New York City, and one more.

This place is hidden, hardly discovered by anyone. The only ones who know about it are the ones who came from it.

Every once in a while, one person (let's call them a yellow person) comes to the big land mass that contains NY, CO, and Florida. Red people, blue people, and green.

The reds of NY ask the yellow man what kind of place he came from.

"Well, it's warm. Not like here or Colorado."

"ohh, so you were from Florida?"

"well, no it's different."

"Florida's warm."

"Yeah but it... feels different if you k kw what I mean. It's called Hawaii. "

"Never heard of it. So is it like Colorado or here?"

"Neither. It's warm."

"but not Florida? how does it feel different? which world is it the most similar to?"

"neither"

The red man gives up. He just doesn't understand.

Yellow then goes to talk to some greens, to see if one of then understand.

cont.

Sadly, the same thing happens. Even the one's who've been everywhere but Hawaii don't get what yellow is trying to describe.

Yellow adapts and acts like the reds, blues, and greens. Everyone who meets them thinks they're alike, but it's not really true. Yellow is only showing traits that compliments or reflect their own. Yellow still has yet to find someone like him. The others like him have adapted as well, and are hidden among the crowds in small numbers.

It is rare that two yellows finally find each other, due to how few there are.

Everyone is unique in their own way, but I'm a yellow. I'm a kind of unique which, although may not be "better" than other kinds of uniques, but it's an obscure enough kind to give me feelings of isolation.

Maybe there are pinks or browns in the secret places even I haven't been to. Maybe they are even more lonely and doomed than I am, in ways that I can't even wrap my head around.

I send positive vibes to whoever that may be if they exist.

if anyone actually read this, I hope I don't come off as arrogant. I know I'm flat out claiming to be a special unique snowflake here, but I don't know how else to explain my problem.

That is all. Anyway, post your own vents

>>18400059

>door closed

thats actually bad, even if its hot outside, airflow is what makes you think its cool.

my honest advice is to just put one fan right in front of you, and the other right in front of a window / open door so its blowing air in, and if oyu're home all day dont be afraid to just go dunk your head in the bathtub with the water set to cold.

thats what i did last summer.

>>18400104
Oh I heard online keeping doors closed to keep it cooler was good. I guess that's wrong. Thanks for the advice anon it's gunna be a long summer

>>18400203

i mean context is key but if its baking in your room thats bad. unless its already significantly cooler in your room, all keeping the door / windows closed does is block the airflow.

>>18399927

I, er, don't see the problem here. Basically do whatever the fuck you like? If you enjoy your spare time wandering the chans. Is it that you want to spend more time with your girlfriend? Talk to her and see if she wants to spend more time with you.

If it's just about 4chan not filling your life void that you feel lurking over you in your free time, jeez, just find a different hobby. It's not so difficult. Have you tried candle dipping?

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look dont be here man go do something better than be here riding your bike is better than using 4chan

>>18399938
I'm saying I keep shitting away my life on the internet. I have no goals besides going to work. I feel like I should be working on bettering myself during the summer because I have all this time.

>>18399828
We need more information anon.

>>18399828
hmmm...Generally tense, and angry. and having opinions that are almost intentionally out of the ordinary for the sole reason of being out of the ordinary.

or I guess the better way of putting it is that iv'e been a bit of a brat, and I'm trying to figure out how to change myself.

They don't want wishy washy answers, just a strong 1 or 5. Yeah you probably failed because of that.

And you'll need to answer it from their perspective; it's not "will you intervene" its actually "will WALMART intervene".

>>18399800
If you can't even think like a good employee, then....

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The questions aren't the problem.

I can tell you from 3 summers of trying for summer jobs, the key is to annoy the absolute fuck out of them. Call the store about 4 days after you put in the application. If you don't get an interview then, call up again 2 days later, then the next day, and the next day.

When a job gets applications, unless they absolutely need someone, your application goes to the pile, never to be touched lest need be, which may mean a few months, to never.

But if you just call a few times with your name, they'll remember it. And will be a lot more likely to pick that application up, hoping it'll stop your incessant calling.

Trust me, it may seem a little embarrassing or whatever, but this is money we're talking about here.

Pic vaguely related.

Bumping my shitty thread.

>>18399788
Desperate means that you'll do anything and change yourself for someone if it means they'll like you / fuck you. That or your standards are non existant and you'll take anyone as long as they give you attention.

I'm a 29 year old girlfriendless virgin and at this point honestly I just want to fuck. Im probably going to hire a whore or proposition a stripper because my mind is too fucked to have a normal relationship

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>>18399682
(Sitting at Starbucks trying to work on company stuff. I'm distracted & unmotivated so I'll play ball)

Just gonna spit out the words I carry in my heart.

>Its okay to be sad. We All get sad & depressed. And that's okay. You might feel as if you're in the dark right now. But just remember. Every day has a time of light, & a time of dark. Eventually light comes. Like it or not, the world will continue, with or without you. So accept that you'll be in the dark for a while. Embrace the sadness & depression. Become one with it. Because eventually, the sun will rise and you'll feel warm again

-Woman who's a second mother to me. I was/am dealing with severe depression and burn out during a shift at a pizza job and needed a hug cause I was gonna break.

>I came to this country with 30 dollars. I've been poor, uneducated and defeated. But here I am. Owning my own bar. I've had to pay for my education. I know what it's like to be alone. But you. I see the fire in your eyes. The passion to be more. You can do such great things. But you have to overcome your own short bringings. You come to this event ever year (Game Developer Conference) to win and succeed. And from what I gather, this industry is stupidly hard. No one wins. But you're different. You have a heart and a soul. You're not like all these other people that come into my bar. You come here, you treat me with respect. No one does that here. Everyone just wants. Out of all the people I've served and dealt with, in my last 50 years doing this, you're the only one that offered to hear my story. So this is what you're gonna do. You're gonna beat this depression, you're gonna get over this heart break and you're gonna be a very successful man. I know you're young. You just turned 27 so I'm gonna cover your tab. But only promise me you will not give up. Become the best God damn person you can be. Don't stop sir. I expect to see you here next year. And you better be successful

-Favorite bartender in San Fran

>>18400591
what the fuck, how come every joe in your life is some sort of tony robbins salesman coach type?

>>18400591
you DID make them both proud


r-right ...

By keeping busy and no contact.

Alternatively, find a new companion.

>>18399642
lmao what ex fucking normie

jokes aside i have no experience but moke a lil weed (not 2 much like me) and occupy ur time

Crying about her every night for a year straight.

I still think about her sometimes.

>>18399609
Are you clinically depressed or are you just depressed because you have some unmet emotional need?

>>18399615
Emotional need

>>18399631
same boat dog, lets hang in there we'll make it.
i quit drugs almost a week ago i think its a withdrawl/lack of female validation thing, whats going on with u?
fuck, id feel alot better just getting a hug but id feel gay asking friends or senpai

Calm down lil pussy boy

I've had similar thoughts, but not to your extent. I think it has to do with feeling powerless. Take that as you will, but meditation will help. Just 10-20 minutes a day, and your mind will level out the more you practice.
As for actually reacting to these slights, try speaking up next time. Not to fight, but develop a silver tongue and you'll be insulting these people in ways they don't even know how to take. It's not healthy to bottle these sorts of things.

>>18399597
I do insult them anf engage in strong verbal fights. Never engaged in a fight because it's my grlfriend to stop me or my mother. If anyone hurts PHYSICALLY them, I wouldn't doubt to punch them a lot.
I have the urge to do that even if they haven't touched them, even if they 'just' lack of respect to my loved ones. I do feel powerlees for not having hurt them.

How do you practice meditation?
Some youtube video with relaxing sounds?