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>>18407491
Make her cum first.

>>18407491

With a stack of legal contracts pertaining to what will be done, when and how, and whom it is done to.

There will be contingencies in the event of "arousal failure", legally obligated "safe words" and the quid pro quo clause to ensure both parties achieve reasonable climax ("reasonable" to be defined by juries if any party takes issue with the event or how it played out).

Both parties must have lawyers present to witness the proceedings.

Despite all this, you then claim you were raped anyway, and complain that he didn't provide his end of the contract because he didn't satisfy you - you just wanted him to man up and take you but being asked "are you okay with this" at each incremental stage of the session, as if contractually obligated, completely turned you off.

Congratulations.
For more information on how to engage in feminist safe sex, get a law degree.

Have to determine whether or not you're depressed by seeing a therapist. Then, work on depression through congnitve therapy. At the same time you'll have to force yourself to do things that will help you feel better. Eventually, you'll be able to determine the path that's right for you. This will take time and hard work. It's not going to be fixed overnight.

>>18407325
What if I can't afford a therapist?

How old are you? Got a good physical condition?

>>18407226
are you a blithering idiot? go to a doctor ffs

>>18407227
What do I do until then? I have
-hydrogen peroxide
-rubbing alcohol
-soap
-cotton balls
-tape
I may not be able to see a doc until tomorrow

>>18407243
Nothing, you can't remove yourself. It has to be cut out and I hhope your you that it's not already bone deep otherwise have fun getting half your feet cut open.

>>18407187
Need more info. What kind of promises?

>>18407316

I was deliberately vague. A promise of sex for example.

>>18407323
I think that's a ridiculous promise to force on someone. You shouldn't force sex on someone who isn't ready or willing to have sex with you. Also, sex for many is a mood or romantic thing. They don't want it scheduled like a dinner. Certain time and place. They want the mood and setting to dictate the yes or no. Try being more human and less of a creep and see how that works.

>>18407031

Hey i have had my fair share of relations and recently got ditched out of one. The best advice i can give you is this: next time you feel the start of an akward quiet moment just lean for forward and kiss her. She will either answer with a kiss or turn away. In both cases you will be rid of the tension building up since you know where you stand then. Just go for it. You have nothing to lose. Do not make the same misstake i made: letting her go and now still brood about how things coukd have been if i had answered her kiss. It still fucks me up to this day and that was 5 years ago now.

>>18407068

Thanks for those words man, im thinking the date will be when I try for it. My nerves actually become unbelievable in the moment but im just gonna have to brave it

>>18407031
well if you're both bad at talking about it, just do it.

a few drinks (not too many mind) might help too.

have fun!

Second bump

It might be that they find you easy to pick on and belittle because of your condition. Don't give a fuck. Behave confident, show them that you are a complete person and don't give a fuck about their attention or opinions. I know it's hard but you have to find something that makes you feel without limitations. Maybe some kick-ass music, maybe something else. This helped for me, though I didn't have any diagnosed depression. I decided to basically roleplay a cynical, forward guy, not giving a fuck but also not being a dick. After some time I couldn't go on anymore but people's attitude changed enough that I'm now comfortably living my life as someone halfway between an autist and an overconfident alpha

>>18407168
I did the same thing.

do you want me to ask what this odd problem is

>>18406990
If the pic is related then I guess op is a pedo.

>>18406992
oh I see

I guess all you can do OP is not do anything if you catch my drift. And its fine to have these feelings as long as they remain in your head. Just don't go downloading anything funny either because that's a good way to get in trouble with the law

It's infected, take him to the vet. If you can't afford that you don't need to own a dog; find a home that can.

>>18406844

Jolly rancher, it's ok

>>18406844
put some neosporin on it for now then take your dog to the vet

>>18406835

Ok

Then
I'm 24, I spend most of the day at home keeping myself busy with whatever there is to do at home (cleaning, cooking, etc) and spending time online/gaming(usually varies between 3-5 hours though it could be just 1 hour if I'm busy that day)
It depends on what happens each day, but I'm usually happy and cheerful at home spending time with whoever is there at the moment.
I hide mostly everything about what I feel on the inside (stuff a normal cheerful person wouldn't be feeling) but I don't feel like I'm putting a facade, it's more like I switch modes really
Then the important part, I feel I can't commit suicide because of the love I feel towards my family, but it's not like I fear it and I end up thinking more often than not that it would help them more if I die
My current stance towards life is that it's just not worth it, I dont have any complexes about romance or goals or anything and I don't feel sad about it at all, it's just that I don't feel drawn toward anything
The only thing that ever gets me to cry is the guilt about not return all the love and the efforts my parents and siblings have done for me.
But everything else doesn't mean a thing to me
and I guess that's wrong

I'm not trying to be an ungrateful bastard but I'm not looking for advice about accepting myself and my capabilities, only trying to figure if what I have is depression or some mental disorder

And yes I know I'm a lucky guy for having people around helping me, that's what my whole guilt thing is about, I love them more than anything and they're the only reason I'm even trying

>>18406842

Yeah well, if you don't do anything with your life other than playing video games all day no wonder you feel life is fucking boring.

Everyone feels down, you're normal.

You need to get your shit together, that's all.

I'm in a similar position. Have you thought of any methods?

Used to, but I realised that life will only get better if you yourself make it that way. Your life won't magically one day become fulfilling, it's a long gradual process fuelled by your own efforts. If you want to die anyway, what do you lose by trying new things?

>>18406830
same except
>memed in robotics engineering
>couldnt find a job
>only work 30 hours a week at a shitty job with an abusive employer

I realized that suicide was painless after my 20th anniversary.
I want to join the army, but I can't stand insecure douchebags and macho normies.

>be me
>goth homebody
>get dumped by gf of 4 years last year
>Start Okcupid and Tinder accounts
>Met tons of introverted goth girls

Met the best one yet last night. Picked her up, drove to an empty park in the hills, stared at the full moon smoking cigarettes, cuddled and kissed. Drove home listening to The Cure.

Honestly I was only using the datings apps for hookups, but they're also great for meeting lonely girls who are actually super chill and cute.

>>18406814
Oh also concerts. Look up any trendy bands playing in your area and go to them.

Goth girls can be found at almost any band they read about on pitchfork. It doesn't have to even be a band you listen to, just go to shows where people like you might go hoping to meet people like themselves.

Then just walk around and chat up the single ones. Girls are super friendly at concerts if you appear to be enjoying yourself and not there to chase girls.

>>18406827
Will try, appreciate it.

>>18406786

I find it hard to believe you haven't gotten better after going to the doctor because of dandruff bro

Do you also have red spots on your scalp?

Probably eczema. Have the doctors prescribed you ketoconazol shampoo?

>>18406765

Look around!

normal 20 year old? and what is normal?

everyone has issues, you think all that shit you see on FB is true?

You're lost because you haven't found a meaning to your life, but you'll find it eventually.

>>18406773

this ^


If you really want to give your life a meaning go help some people in a foreign country

The human experience will make you a better person and you would have makes yourself useful to others

>>18406779
lmao how is helping poor people going to help OP? Those people will probably end up dying in a year or two.

- take fish oil
- take vitamin D
- take a multivitamin if you want
- get exercise/go outside as much as you can - aim for 15 minutes a day to start, even if it's just walking around the block or biking around the neighborhood. I can guarantee you that no one you've ever met pays as much attention to you as you think they do.
- systematize your day. Regular sleep schedule, regular eating schedule, regular showering and chores.
- if you can't sleep, really start training your mind to go to a "happy place." It works.
- Keep a journal/log if possible, just so you can note your feelings/circumstances and make yourself aware of how they're affecting your thoughts.
- Learn and work at things that challenge you. Overcoming problems will make you feel better about yourself.

>>18406733

You don't like your body?

Work out, you'll eventually like your body.

You aren't tall big deal, that isn't stopping you from being great I assure you

No friends? big deal, get a life and they'll come along eventually

You'll eventually make it, have a plan. Don't give up you are not lost

>>18406733


Go work abroad in a country you like for a non-nefencal organisation

You don't seem to have a lot to loose and there is a shit ton a of people that need your help every where

Moreover the life experience can change your life forever

New Yorker here. I can fill you in on queens

Expensive as fuck areas like Kew Gardens or Jamaica Estates (Drumpfs birthplace). Decent areas like Rego Park or Forest Hills. Ghetto like Jamaica or Long Island City.

I've taken the subway late at night and never had an issue. Then again I don't live in Jamaica. Queens is very niche grouped. Flushing is for asians. Mexicans down Jackson Heights. Greeks in Astoria.

In your particular situation you will most likely get a roommate. Unless you're pulling a lot of money, you aren't getting your own apartment. Ditch the car.

Ill refresh in a bit if you have any specific Qs

>>18406665
what's the job market like? minimum wage is $15 now right? does that make it super hard to find unskilled and/or entry-level jobs in anywhere but fast food chains? my only experience is a few internships at local art galleries. I live in KS and need a bigger and more trendy city with an art market so I can sell my shit.

not OP btw, but in a similar enough situation

>>18406665
How would I go about getting a roommate there are websites i can go on to find one, but that kinda sketches me out. Are there ways that are more trustworthy to about getting one? Id i have to go on a website to find one i will do it.
If i were to move to queens, would it feel like eternity to get to Manhattan by public transportation? I am planning on ditching the car one of the reasons why i want to move down there, i dont like driving. If i do get ride of the car, i was looking more toward brooklyn if i moved to queens. Again whatever is the best affordable way to live down there, im willing to do .