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>>18488885
>Am I getting a placebo effect?
Yes.

SSRIs don't do anything short term. They don't give you any type of a short mood boost, especially not within an hour. They take weeks of steady use to work. Stopping use suddenly is not recommended.

There's a chance that you never came off them properly, by tapering, and what you're experiencing while you're not taking them is withdrawal syndrome interrupted by an increase in mood due to taking them occassionally and thus relaxing your withdrawal syndrome.

Anyway, there's a reason doctors exist, listen to them.

>>18488916
It's never felt like withdraw,
My original use did stop with a tapering off- I kept forgetting doses and eventually just stopped.

Gererally a very happy person these days. The mood swings are about once every month or two, and correlate with a stressful time at work or my PMS.

Even if it's placebo I'm still happy it works for me lol. It being Placebo makes a lot of sense actually and is what I suspected.

>>18488937
I think you'd be better off taking anxiety pills like Xanax for an occasional shitty day. They're meant for short-term use and work within an hour.

>>18488884
Anyways, I'm just rambling at this point, but what I'm trying to say is that I'm feeling fucking overwhelmed by this current routine of mine, especially my job, and it doesn't help that I'm in a post-psychodepressive state of apathy. I feel like I don't even care about my life or anyone else's anymore. I'm just staying alive out of sheer inertia. Well, that's it, thanks for reading and thanks in advance for the possible reply. Have a nice day.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PoPL7BExSQU
Also, here's some good jazz. The thread theme if you will. Pretty much the only thing that makes me feel anything nowadays and still have hope for the future, somehow. By the way (just venting at this point) I want to study neuroscience in university. There's only one in my country which offers the course, so it's kinda tough. I should be studying. If I don't get in for neuro, I honestly don't know what I'll do with my life. It's pretty much the only concrete thing I have when I think about my future.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wqHe50_tBVc

Bump.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cv9NSR-2DwM

Bump with one of my favorites.

>>18488855
Take it easy on yourself anon. Don't over think it. Stop being a self absorbed pessimist. Just enjoy your relationship and stop worrying about if it's going to end and shit

>>18488877
It's hard not to over think it. just to be clear I don't feel like it'll end or anything, I just want to be with her all the time and I feel like it's gonna ruin the way she sees me.

Why don't you tell her how you feel? Genuine question

>>18488824

by talking to a psychiatrist.

no, a group of internet strangers cannot make you self aware for a mental disorder that most psychiatrists dont even think exists.

>>18488834
FUCK.

I call myself by a different name in my head.
And I'm convinced I'm trapped in this world because something really bad happened to me in the last one.
Sometimes I cry because I very terribly miss these two people I can't seem to remember- and I feel like I lost them.

I've never talked to anyone about it. I just go on normal like everyone else.

Even if there's some existential thing going on- there isn't anything I can do about it.
So I just focus on this life.

>>18488822

you are.

>>18488822
To spread happiness, to reach new achievements, to explore and learn, to make good memories, to have dreams and be inspired, to have friends, to have no regrets but be thankful.

Life can be dark af, don't let that stop you.

>>18488822
There is no point. It's a hell hole, but it's really fun to Stan in the background and learn eeryones stuff. It makes life fun. Expeshaly if someone finds out that you know Everything...

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>>18488818
>Every job is 5 years minimum and 2 professional references

Did you remember to show up, speak with the manager, look him in the eye, give him a firm handshake, and tell him you wanted the job? That's usually all it takes, son.

>>18488820
>>18488818
I applied to a job posting and got a call literally 5 minutes later. Did a 20 minute interview and today was my first day of work. Just apply.

>>18488838
Damn lucky

I did get a call back from one job [spoiler]but only because they were looking for a different guy with the same first name[/spoiler]

>>18488801
Quit listening to whatever the hell that is and enjoy some Mozart.

>>18488810
LOL those are all good albums besides the ones I made

can anyone help me please

>>18488777

what is your diet currently like?

>>18488779
It's mostly just cutting portions and eating more fruits when I'm hungry, I work out every other day

Everybody hits that wall. Keep trying. Look for hidden calories in things like drinks and sauces.

>>18488764

>how weird is this

i wouldn't call it weird, like if posted a picture id probably say 'yeah im not surprised hes a virgin'. its not weird, its just sad / unfortunate more than anything.

>is this a redflag to women

well it depends. in a lot of cases even if we can see you being a virgin, were just not going to assume you are one until you make it clear. in a LOT of situations, we wont know you are a virgin until its too late

the virginity its self isn't really a red flag. no girl looks at you and says 'WOW ANON WAS TOTALLY FUCKING DATEABLE UNTIL HE TOLD ME HES A VIRGIN'.

whats a redflag is the causes of that virginity. 99% of the time its a combination of ugliness + expectation. plenty of ugly people get laid, but some ugly people are convinced its only worth it if their partner is a lot more attractive than them, and as a result they stagnate and never lose their virginity. they are taught by bad rom coms that the geek gets the girl if they just wait around.

its an ironically shallow message we send.

once in awhile I'll meet a guy and be a bit surprised hes a virgin. i mean its always a BIT surprising cuz even ugly as fuck bastards can get a girlfriend, but if a guy is really hot, not conservative, and whatnot, then it'd be a redflag, cuz it implies he has some sort of issue with getting it outside of just being ugly.

>>18488764
It is weird, and a red flag. The most common response will simply be surprise, "how could you NOT lost it yet?" Especially if you appear somewhat normal otherwise. Sex is simply so common in the western world that it is genuinely surprising when you come across someone in their mid 20s who hasnt fucked yet.

Doesnt mean you're hopeless,just never mention it to anyone. Ever. Not the person you lose it to, not your future gf, not even your wife. It's fucking weird.

>>18488803
I don't think I'm really even ugly, I'm just shy and don't interact with people I don't know too often because of my work. I wish I could just go back in time 7 years and change everything, fuck.

>>18488271
Hey, I'm a lot like you. Started out with rituals revolving around cleaning, gradually became Pure O. First of all, you have my sympathy. I know very well how much it sucks. The good thing is that you CAN get it under control. Honestly, I recommend not being afraid of a psychologist. If you're worried about meds, you don't have to take them. Cognitive therapy is usually enough if you're disciplined.

Now if you're interested in what helped me personally (and what you can try alone at home), I can give you some tips. Be aware, though, that you need to be very hard on yourself for these to work and that you will probably fail a lot in the beginning. That's okay, it's a gradual process.

1. Just let your obsessions flow. If you're anything like me, you spend a lot of time trying to control them and this is exhausting. Well, just let go. Let go And try to distract yourself. It may sound counterintuitive, but OCD thrives on attention. If you learn not to give a shit, if you stop feeding it, it should get better.
2. Recognize when something is an obsession, remind yourself that you don't need to do it, that it isn't a part of you, but your illness, and do something else.
3. Exaggerate your obsessions if nothing works. If you need to, for example, repeatedly something seven times, do it seventy times. If you desensitize yourself, the obsessions will be easier to handle. (Careful here, though. This can turn into another obsession if you aren't strong willed enough.)
4. Forgive yourself. You will fail many times, but OCD is also about guilt, si no need to feed it. You have all the time you need to recover.

Good luck.

>>18488330
I'm incredibly grateful for the response that you've given I'll screencap to help try and remind myself about what steps to take. I'm trying to hard to ignore and continue life with my obsessions but I just feel that even when I'm not thinking about them they're dampening my quality of life. I can't lie in bed or sit alone anymore without these thoughts flooding my mind. In the past few days the obsessions became sensorimotor and I'm scared that they will never go away, I'm really at the point of becoming an hero

>>18488358
You're welcome, we have to help each other. I know that it probably sounds cheap, but don't lose hope. It can get better and it will get better if you work hard enough. In the end, it's you vs your illness. A psychologist can show you the way, but it's always up to you. I used to have obsessions since I was nine years old and I also thought about killing myself a lot. Now I'm 23 and while I do suffer from relapses occasionally, I know how to approach them and the quality of my life has improved exponentially. If I made it, then you can, too.

>>18488232
That's fucking adorable, what the hell are you an anime girl or some shit

Jokes aside go ahead, that sounds just the way love should be, of course nowdays people is all kinds of fucked up so love seems confusing

I think you are lucky if you actually feel this way go for it

>the memes about how women all want 2 boyfriends, one for emotions and one for sex, are true

Well I guess your best bet is to hope he's into cuckolding.

>>18488232
Don't get into a relationship with him. He sounds like a nice guy and you sound like an ass. He deserves better than you

>>18488164
>use sunblock daily, the higher the better, especially in your face
>cut sugar/ starch to the minimun (fastens cell death = aging)
>drink, drink, drink (water)
>no smoking
>no alcohol

That's face wise all you can naturally really do. Worst case, get a face lift. If it will not better within a couple months it's there to stay.

Sorry anon.

>>18488164
Damn i hope that pic isn't real

No your case can't be that bad i was also raised kinda autistically and as soon as i started living alone and eating good food i start looking good, when go back with my family i get fat but it's very reversible

I dunno post pics it can't be as bad as that one

>>18488164

ppor is rarely an excuse for health. if its so bad that you can't afford vegetables, then you need to focus on that first because if you can't afford veggies you cannot afford junk food.

even name brand frozen veggies are only two dollars a pound,.

You don't, fuckin embrace it and beat your meat to those teens being tied down.

>>18488054
> interracial amateur porn
> degrading
You fix that by staying away from >>>/pol and other racists.

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>>18488076
it's surprisingly addicting and i feel horrible after each wank

>>18488077
yeah, no. im not even /pol/ but dont tell me that some 220 lbs nigger from the hood fucking some 120 lbs girl whose dad pays for her college isnt degrading. literally every interracial porn is about degradation, otherwise it wouldnt be "you enjoy that big black cock huh white girl" bullshit. i mean seriously, there are pornstars who literally did like 200 movies and still dont do ir

>>18487927
>She even told me once that she trusted her more than me, and goes to her to talk about her problems rather than me. Shes joked that her friend does a better job at flirting than me.

Why is this chick dating you? Ad why are you dating her?

I mean, it's only been a month, so you can't expect to be her world, but still. Didn't you see this coming, though? You were friends before, weren't you?

>>18487927
Yeah i dont expect her to tell me everything and to trust me, especially after her previous relationship (super controlling dude), but its starting to become a problem that she either doesnt trust me or is too scared to tell me about her problems.

The reason why i dated her was because i know her last 2 relationships were ass and i at least know how not to be a senseless jerk so id be good for her. Shes also super attractive and very cute.

Another problem is, i dont know if shes with me to fill a void after breaking up with the last dude or if she really loves me. She says she does but, obviously, she doesnt do the best at showing it.

I never knew any of this as her friend, we never got really personal

>>18487946
Like she doesnt communicate, i can sit and talk about her for hours and get nothing for weeks. And when she does, its with her friend and not with me. Im starting to wonder what my purpouse is.

Today i decided not to intitate any conversations with her and I havent got a sigle message yet. However, she is on Spotify, listening to a playlist her friend made for her.

Why not ask >>>/biz/

all in on antshares, make sure to thank me in 6 months

>>18487815
make a website and fish for foreign investment