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Is it the fact that she has fantasies with things and people that aren't you or the fact she wants to fuck a dog or old man?

>>18490374
Admits fetish never acted on as a complete show of trust in you.
You get butthurt and fail to maintain a level of maturity and appreciate level of trust shown
Yep you kind of suck anon
Remember that men who become controlling become domestic violence perpetrators. Are you making your first steps??

>>18490381
>"You get butthurt and fail to maintain a level of maturity and appreciate level of trust shown"
I literally posted nothing about how i handled the situation. I made my reaction sound overdramatic in my post.

I loved the fact that she actually trusts me enough to admit those things, but it in the back of my mind it upsets me to know she likes those things. I dont actually think she'll cheat on me with random old dudes

I'm saying is that little thought in the back of my mind wrong to have?

Alternatively, does anyone know how to get rid of apathy.
My life feels like I'm watching a movie from a distance.

Took a year off after high school to work, also talked with an education counsellor who helped me land my current job through education.

>>18490420
Do you enjoy your work? or do you do it purely out of necessity?

>>18490308
Look, youre already convinced ge cheats. Break up with him and stop wasting your time and energy on a loser.

>>18490308
Go to a spy store or electronic retailer and purchase hidden cam.

>>18490329
I set one up in our apartment, and hers... its hard to access, I haven't found anything, I haven't figured out a good way to set one up in either of their vehicles yet though.

You finally got enough confidence to get on Tinder and first thing you do is have sex with the first few people you get matched with?

Oh boy. Just take this as a learning experience. There are a lot of people out there, some charming, some crazy. There's nothing wrong with getting laid but I think it doesn't help to be more careful.

>>18490249
rofl what the fuck?

how. how does what seems to be a decent woman end up with a retard like that but I can't fucking, like, I don't understand. I can't even.

and then you're still thinking about him. like all I get are women in relationships and I can't do anything even though they're attracted to me and it ends up being a mess. but this flaming idiot...

I can't.

idk what you need advice on but I fucking can't with this shit. I need to go to sleep.

congrats you're a cum dump now.

Relax. You sound young. It's perfectly normal for guys to mess up talking to girls, or even just people in general, when they're young. That's how we learn and get better at talking to them.

First thing's first. If your social life is in shambles, you should probably learn how to interact with friends first. Learn how to joke around and be playful, because the same principles carry over when talking to girls.

Unless you're creepy, you'll get there eventually if you keep trying. Don't worry.

female friends are the key, get a female best frieand, a girl that is good looking, but not your type, talk to her, have fun with her, and if you can pull that off, GFs are nothing different, just a bit more going on in your head.

>>18490410
This sounds like a good way to get friendzoned by literally everyone she knows

Help me please

>>18490434
Try /sci/ mate

How is this a sci issue?

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>>18490186
Oh who knows, maybe your friends felt you were an autistic mess because you didn't engage with Josh being drunk
I don't know if people realize this but being around drunk people while sober is incredibly boring and makes it hard to have banter. The guy was messing around having fun but it was ON YOU, so it wasn't exactly polite. I don't know why anyone would be agitated that you didn't banter back with someone you're lightly being insulted by.

I'm not autistic but maybe I'm really missing something.

It sounds like you're shit at banter. No one wants to hang out with someone's who's got a stick up their ass.

If you try and drink for three days straight you will most likely feel like shit for at least a week or two after.
You are toxicating your body, genius.

>>18490139
I doubt it will make you feel dumber. Even if it does, you won't notice because you're already so fucking dumb for doing it anyway.

>>18490147
>>18490154
Why do people here have to be so mean?

>>18490112
And I know that all of this shit is just going to resurface in seconds every time I see her face. But I can't just cut her out of my life, because if she cares like she says, I couldn't live with myself knowing I abandoned one of the few people in the world I actually connect with. Even more since she's opened up to me about her trust issues.

And then after talking over the friendship thing with her, and her trying to soften the blow by telling me how awesome she thinks I am and how much she needs a friend, she linked me to a post on her blog she that she had just written out. She quoted mark Manson in his book "the subtle art of not giving a fuck", the exact same guy who wrote "Models: Attract Women Through Honesty", a book that changed my outlook on dating and women, and I've always tried my best to be myself instead of trying to put up a facade that'd make girls like me, because I want long-term, not getting laid

>>18490113
but now I can't stop thinking about what he said in that book, that

"he should be affected by her, but never more than she is by him" and then he talks about how that's what makes couples grow apart.

If there's any inkling of truth to that, then this is entirely my fault. The same guy that gave me the confidence I needed to pursue this girl in the first place and make myself vulnerable to her, also got in her head and convinced her she's better off without me based on whatever the hell was in his "not giving a fuck book" and I pushed her away even more by being needy whenever she seemed distant. Yet even if I didn't pursue her so much, she probably wouldn't even be in my life anymore because of her trust issues, to her it would've just been an affirmation that I didn't really care, and that would've eaten away at me just as much.

>>18490114
She was literally perfect for me, the personification of what is described if somebody asked what my ideal girl was, and I pushed her away with my own neediness, and I really don't see how I can ever change that about myself unless I miraculously find a girl who as even more clingy than I am. I don't know how to bounce back from this.

And it's only going to get worse, I'm 23 years old and never had a relationship. Even if I lost my virginity to a random one-night-stand or god forbid an escort, the lack of actual relationship experience will make me just as clingy every time I meet a girl I want to date long term.

It's honestly miracle that this girl didn't friendzone me sooner... she even mentioned that to me. How she was so happy that I'm not a petty teenager who gets mad at her for putting me in "the friendzone"... I'm such a fucking two-faced hypocrite.

>>18490110
If she were a guy, you'd call her a player. While there's nothing wrong with guy friends, it's the type of guy friend that's concerning. These aren't people we've met in life and established a.close friendship with. These are guys we've dated, chatted with, skyped with and who know what with. You're probably going to end up being another guy on her fuck (aka contact) list.

she's a slag, every girl with 'guy friends' is, either accept this dump her or be a pussy and stay.

op is a fucking cuck

>>18490093
People are rude and disrespectful because they lack the proper respect for one another due to many factors. This to a degree you will need to tolerate as the issue is so pervasive you cannot fix it.
It's quite another thing to be taken advantage of. That you must not let happen without sticking up for yourself or at least being aware of it and choosing to "pick your battles".

>>18490103

No I mean EVERYONE is super dismissive toward me. More than enough to start bothering me.

>>18490125

"Everyone" is unlikely to be the problem. Either you're unconsciously being rude at them and they retaliate or you misinterpret normal or minor things as rudeness or disrespect.

No, if you ever go under 5/10 you will never be able to go above 5/10 again.

>>18490078
You can however if you're not interested in her I doubt the sex will be that great. My guess is that after the first time you fuck her you'll feel so unrewarded you'll go back to masrurbating.

Grow the fuck up and stop masturbating. Feeling like you have to SETTLE for sex with a woman you're not even attracted to IS NOT NORMAL OR HEALTHY. If you get your hands off your dick and start bettering yourself as a person, attractive women will gravitate to you.

Isn't there some inheritance from your father you can use to live by? Or has mum taken it all?

Fake the death of your mom so you get the money instead. If you wanna do it online you can always hire a hitman!

>>18490067
My family has the house and car.
I dont want to go back home.
I been living for 4 years here. I have a girlfriend and friends here.

>>18490046
Just emotional because my parents never loved me.

nothing
your "important real life things" can wait, this person though, you might not even see her ever again

nothing is doomed to fail though anyway

>>18490089
I'm applying for medical school and everyday I wait thers a chance i'll miss my spot. Thats pretty much my main concern. I would like to make our time together as memorable as possible though and plan to do that by making stupid personal decisions that sacrifice things I like and value for her.

>>18490036
If you wait long enough it'll just happen.

feat or fear?

Well, it's not simple. See, you transcend into the abyss when you die. You don't respawn back on Earth.

Getting past the feat of death is impossible because it's such a monumental feat, no one has been heard to do it. Not even Jesus Christ who only lived for a day after he got resurrected. Even then, it wasn't really life, it was just him going home.

Think of death as claiming angels in Adventure Capitalist. Except you're the angel, and there's no way to spend you after you've been universally reset.