Any happy endings for people who had oneitis? Did you find someone else and was happy not to have ended up with the girl or guy you used to be so crazy about?
I blew it with a girl I really liked. I seriously thought she was the one. I don't know if I'll ever find another one like that.
Tell me there's hope.
But did you manage to get a relationship with that girl? Because I noticed that nowadays everyone uses "oneitis" to refer to an ex you still love. Back in the day it basically meant a crush.
>>18490702
I used to practically worship a girl in high school. She's still extremely beautiful, but I think she dropped the hobbies that made me like her in high school, and has been doing horribly at getting into modeling (She's got the looks, but she's shit at networking, and presents herself very arrogantly) so I can't help but get narcissist vibes from her.
People change over time, anon. Don't think the girl you like now will be the same girl five years from now.
>>18490705
Crush. I guess we were friends. We kind of had a group I got dragged into which I didn't particularly like but she was there so I put up with it. I'm not a group person. We'd talk because that was the group thing but after a few talks, it was obvious we just didn't have a thing going. I wanted to though, so I just asked her outright, I said something she didn't like, she went to her friend, one thing after another and boom, I'm out. I got the bad part but I got a few shots at her too. I think I was on the right side of the argument, though, so I don't have a bad conscience about it.
>20
>virgin
>5'2" manlet
>4.5"penis
>beta
>socially inept
should I even try dating? or just give up and focus on other things? I really want to have a family but it seems unlikely. also: don't lie to me
>>18489689
Yo. Pevious fag here. I have a gf after many years of trying to get other women. Here's what worked.
1. Focus on yourself
Have a goal in life? Aim for it!
Go to the gym!
Get a job.
Eat healthy!
All things to do with improving yourself, that all women (most atleast) look for!
2. Don't look hard, the answer is usually right infront of you...
3.Stop going on 4chan
(BONUS)
If she's an autistic fag like the rest of us, that's a keeper (no need to stop going on 4chan)
>>18489689
have you considered becoming a homosexual or transsexual? They would require less effort than becoming attractive to women, and surrogacy is an option if you want kids.
you cant be imaginary things, fag
>inb4 post is bait
How do you let go of the past and forgive yourself for something terrible you've done? Nothing criminal or illegal, just highly unethical. I find myself unable to move forward in life and enjoy myself because I've hurt someone I cared about and compromised my own morals in the process.
>>18489530
If possible the first thing you should do is apologize to them and promise to be a better person. That will help ease the pain the most.
what did you do op?
>>18489535
That's already been done but what if the person doesn't accept your forgiveness? What if the wounds you've inflicted run deep?
So, I have very small breasts and I would like to increase the size of them to maybe a C-cup. I would prefer to do this without implants because I want something a little more natural, there are many hormonal herb pills online but I'm not sure what to go for or what works and is safe.
This is all I'm going to say:
>a fool and his money are easily parted
>>18488983
Birth control pills.
If not:
Maca root.
Fenugreek.
Pueraria mirifica
Maca also provides a nice ass. You're welcome.
>>18488983
If only there where IQ pills instead.
How can I get my boyfriend to quit tobacco?
It hurts seeing him destroy himself smoking and getting sick because of it!
You can't change other people. You can barely change yourself. Your choices are:
-Learn to live with it.
-Talk to him about it (I assume you've already done this and he has refused on whatever basis)
-Leave him.
You can only control the things in your realm of influence. Unfortunately, his smoking habits aren't in that sphere. Learn to accept what you cannot change.
>>18488304
Come on... there are a lot of people smoking for 50-60y living up to 90.
>>18488325
The exception does not prove the rule.
>>18488315
He is willing to try ecigs and trying to cut down on nicotine gradually, I would suggest him quit cold turkey as most people do it that way.
He also always only smokes spliffs, I don't care about the weed but tobacco is much worse.
Come on over, sit on papa /adv/'s lap and tell me all about the bad man who hurt you.
>>18487686
Weak. Thanks for the chucks, daddy
You weren't very polite to me considering the hundreds of euros I put your way
I get it. I fucked up, you are now confused about where to go from here when it comes to us. I have wanted to talk things over with you. Really talk, but it's clear you don't. Its been 6 months in this miasma. You continue to talk to me, but it's all idle chatter now. All I get from you is the constant "I'm sorry, I haven't responded...". Nothing more but simple how are you and rarely you say that you miss me. I don't think I believe that anymore. I can't do this to myself anymore.
I really did try and all I wanted was to make things up to you. To work past out problems and maybe grow stronger from the jam we got in. I guess I believed we had something more special than what we really had. The reality is that I had been putting too much effort in our relationship. I was always the one to care the weight. To do the things. You were always passive.
I guess I learned something important in all this as well, don't put in too much. When you keep giving up of yourself, you may not get anything in return. Sure love is fine and all, but like a bag of sugar, all sweet and no substance will make one sick.
I need to put more effort into myself. At least then I get something in return.
How do I pick up cougars if I'm in my early 20's?
>>18487276
Go to locations were cougars stalk
Look like Chad, it's the tastiest bait.
>>18487291
>Go to locations were cougars stalk
You're going to have to be more specific than that.
>>18487276
Bars. Alcohol is almost always involved.
>Always look good (dress well, excercise and get into weightlifting or a sport if you're not handsome).
>Be adventureous (always have fun, show her you're a guy who knows how to have a good time).
>Have your own car.
>Chase money.
>Be attractive (learn about body language and how to talk/flirt with them).
>Have your own place.
>Be confident (even if you have to fake it sometimes).
Am I right about these requirements for getting girls if you're 20 and older ?
If not, why ?
Yes, you are right.
Also,
> Be Tall
You forgot that one
No, it's more like
>Be presentable and clean
>Have a stable source of income
>Have a car
>Have you in place, room mates are ok
Confidence and fashion sense are a bonus
>>18481064
But that's something that you can't change.
I can feel myself wanting my ex back again.
It was a short lived but intense relationship and she broke up with me. Once I got over it initially, I didn't really think about her for about 4-5 months. Now those feeling are starting to creep back up.
I know /adv/ will just say to move on but is there really no use in pursuing someone you thought about spending your life with?
I'm not superstitious but I can't help but think maybe it wasn't the right time and there's more to us than what we had.
>pic unrelated, just need the (you)s
You just need to get laid. Everyone wants the comfort of having it on the reg. Now that you have to work for it, you miss her
>>18492015
But I was getting laid after. I was hooking up with some girl from a party for a few months after but I was still hung up on my ex at the time.
Sure, I want some kind of companionship, but I specifically want it from her.
I had a short-lived and intense relationship and then broke up with the girl, and I regretted it later and to this day dream of the sex, which no girl since has been able to match.
I also know that I did the right thing, and that having regrets about what might have been if only reality weren't concrete, if things were just a little different, if she were a better person… all the regrets of the hypothetical and irrealis are toxic nonsense. Move on; there's another one, and there's no one "right" girl out of billions to choose from, just a metric shitton who are three or more standard deviations toward the good end of the bell curve on the "compatible with me" scale.
Live in the present and the real, not in your dreams of what might have been, and move on.
How do I meet up with channers irl while filtering out the abrasive and the crappy ones from /adv/?
Just find a /pol/ meetup. That's where all the suave and sophisticated channers are.
Are you in the DMV anon :3
>>18491947
Hdjfu
How do I talk to fundamental Christians about dinosaurs without insulting them?
I'm going to HAVE to as a museum volunteer.
>>18491917
Contrary to popular belief, a lot of christians don't believe "the devil put dinosaurs here.". They just believe they lived on the Earth like any other creature. There's a ton of different perspectives on it, including
>The "days" spoke of in Genesis were actually millions of years, accounting for the creatures of that time
>Dinosaurs were here but wiped out in the Flood
>Dinosaurs were here but hunted to extinction
>Dinosaurs being referenced in the bible
>Evolution and God are not mutually exclusive concepts
All types of stuff.
>>18491917
Daw, now I want to hold a baby dinosaur!
OP, follow the lead of the more experienced guides at your museum. Ask them for advice
>>18491927
There's still idiots that go to the museum to hold dinosaur protests and alternative tours. And I'm supposed to mind my manners around them.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=McxGZyBBXMY
>Been in the workforce for a decad, now
>I am a hard worker and a "Go getter"
>On average, I receive slightly more pay than my peers
>Never get promotions though, every company I've ever worked for hires new supervisors and managers, never promoting people to that position
>Instead of telling slackers and whiners to pick up the pace, they just put more work on me
>Eventually, I get fed up with it and decide to get a job somewhere else,aking slightly less money
>This cycle continues every two or three years
Am I just bound to dealing with this for the rest of my life?
>2-3 years
That's your problem. It takes time to get promotions. Raises not so much. Unless you're working retail or service industry. But two or threes is nothing with a company...
>>18491865
That's true, and I hesitated to even put that with explaining.
I would gladly stay with a company longer than that if I didn't feel like every place was trying to make me their bitch just because I tend to stay focused.
It's always the same, I give my job 100%, then that send my boss a red flag. "This guy does his work without complaining, he shows up every day, and he stays focused the entire time. He's a sucker!" So I play yes man for as long as I can.
So my options eventually become continue to work here and get treated like shit, or get a new job and start over. How long should I let them walk on me?
The problem that I face now is that I don't know anywhere that pays this much that I'm qualified for. When you take my benefits into consideration, I make 16 bucks an hour, which is huge for the region. I moved four hours away from my hometown for this job, and it turned out just as shit as all the others. I've worked here three years and my boss just gave a 19 year old airhead a promotion because he didn't want her to leave. She's worked here three months and is basically my boss...
>>18491891
Get used to it. It's the new corporate America. Hard work and knowledge are no longer valued at many places. It's not what you know it's who you are sucking up to, fucking, or friends with that gets you ahead. If you drink the koolaide and spit it back, are willing to screw over anybody, and check your morals and values at the door, you'll go far. Otherwise plan to get screwed over. I see it everyday and it just gets worse.
New girlfriend got upset because I wanted to stop face-timing for a bit and only stayed because she flashed me her ass.
That's basically the problem. I was hungry so I wanted some food. Told her I might get some food with my family. She asked me to stay twice and I said no. Then she flashed me her ass and I got turned on cuz I love her ass and she got mad.
I asked her what she'd rather I do (after the fact). She did get naked for me btw. I told her if I left she would have felt insecure that I STILL didn't wanna stay even after she showed me her ass (knowing her). When I stayed she got mad at me for staying only for her ass (and not after she asked me twice the first time).
So it was a lose lose situation for me.
This girl's a keeper in every category but a little insecure/clingy.
How do I deal with this situation? I'm basically in the doghouse right now.
>>18491776
>This girl's a keeper
no, she is not
>>18491776
>Told her I might get some food with my family. She asked me to stay twice and I said no. Then she flashed me her ass and I got turned on cuz I love her ass and she got mad.
This is not healthy in the slightest bit.
>I asked her what she'd rather I do (after the fact). She did get naked for me btw. I told her if I left she would have felt insecure that I STILL didn't wanna stay even after she showed me her ass (knowing her). When I stayed she got mad at me for staying only for her ass (and not after she asked me twice the first time).
You're not in a healthy relationship at all, whatsoever. You're not even aware of how ceaseless her thinking/actions will get.
You need to directly address or get away from this, or you're in for a wild emotional ride with this love one.
>>18491808
Okay. I will talk to her about it tonight and tell her this.
It just put me in a shitty situation because it made me feel like a shitty person.
Like i love her and I love talking to her. I had to leave but when she showed me her ass It just turned me on and it made me wanna stay even though I had to go.
Did I do something wrong?
How do I boost my sex drive? I'm only 25 and my libido seems to have fallen off a cliff recently. I'm also finding it difficult to maintain an erection. I don't smoke or drink excessively. I also workout three times a week. Last month I failed to penetrate in my last three encounters .
Please help ;_;
Do you keep a strict diet to go along with your workout? If so, up your fat intake, it could be harmful to your testosterone levels of you aren't getting enough dietary fat, also do cardio.
I had a similar issue and I'm also 25, I know it wasn't performance anxiety because I've been married since age 16, I was experiencing all the symptoms of low test, so I upped my fat intake and started taking zinc and that fixed it
>>18491775
Take prostate and other energy suppliments. Also, let your willy take a break. Sexual exhaustion is a real thing.
Wow you're just a big pussy with no testosterone then.
How do I stop masturbating to BBC/sissy hypno, I don't have a bad porn habit, it's just every time I masturbate I find myself watching that porn specifically to get off, and the thought of sucking another guys dick isn't something I want to actually do, of course I never actually tried.
Go longer without masturbating
>>18491799
This. The less you masturbate, the less you'll be okay with sissy porn.
>>18491746
Inversion therapy. Suck a black dick, then you won't want to masturbate to them anymore.