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>20 years old
>Didn't finish high school
>Spend all my days playing Vidya games
>Don't have a job
>Can see the disappointment on my mom's eye Everytime I go downstairs to make a hot pockets
How can I unJUST myself into being a more productive person.
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going to have to start somewhere. start by stop wasting so much of your time doing shit that stagnates your growth and development in the direction of becoming independent and responsible.
Spend less time on video games. Read the net more. Hit up news articles if or the /biz/ section of /pol/. Start saving up. Start looking for a job. Just walk into places and ask to see a manger face to face, tell him you're story and they might take interest. What have you got to lose.
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>>18488309
Don't you have enough reasons right now? You know you have to move your ass, so why don't you?
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>>18488309
Have you tried to test yourself what are you good at?
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I find that I'm mentally healthier lately, yet I have an all-encompassing cynicism that is putting all my friendships and relationships in an entirely new light.
If you're not aware of what it is, look up psychological egoism. I've made this observation about human behavior, and I didn't realize there was a name for it for awhile. It basically states that people are always motivated by self-interest.
This greatly concerns me. I see the attractive women on social media, who are showered in attention purely for being pretty. This demonstrates the concept clearly for me; People are only interested in people who have some sort of "value" they can extract from them. It sickens me. I feel like a piece of shit for being so shallow, and I'm not excluded from the group. I only talk to women I find attractive. I feel this is a disgusting way to live. We are all slaves to something instinctual and that saddens me deeply.
Even in friendships. We are only friends with those who we can relate. Who are humorous. Who we can have some sort of feel good chemical burst from. Our friendships take a very long time to become unconditional, and most of the time both of the friends respective value has gone down to each other before it can reach it.
The attractive, smart, wealthy, and those with status are flocked to, not because of their character, but because of people just wanting to be in the aura of their success. Maybe if I'm around the wealthy I'll get some money. Maybe if I'm around the attractive I'll get some dick or pussy. Etc etc etc
How to overcome this? How to not look at humanity in such a way? The more I grow older, the more I see humans as cogs to be manipulated, a very toxic thought. I still hold optimism towards humanity but it's just so sad to see people, myself included, act like this with blatant disregard for those in need.
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>>18488273
Humanity is a game, friend. That is not to say one should act without the fear of ultimate penalty for that would be breaking the rules!
What you do with the knowledge of knowing it's a game, is entirely up to you. Have fun with it, manipulate it like it's a toy. Whether it be creating art or starting a business.
You now have the comfort in knowing this.
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>>18488273
>How to overcome this?
Why overcome this? If this is the world, just live in it. Enjoy what you can enjoy and try not to be an asshole while you are at it, it's pretty simple.
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You're growing up, you see things as they are, but don't let that drag you down. A simple life is a happy one.
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Okay, what hair style could be good looking on me? And also should i cut my beard so i will not look like alaskan lumber jack.
Especially girls advices are very welcome.
or maybe there is anon hair stylist who can help me?
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okay my photo is tilted... well... here is ok version.
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>>18488230
Go to /soc/ they will most likely help you out
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>>18488240
I think this'd suit you.
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My girlfriend is great... except she is the most disorganized person ever.
I can NEVER fucking find anything. It's not that she doesn't clean, we can keep this place tidy but most of the time she just throws shit everywhere and anywhere. Like, most things I want to do, I can't... it was kind of funny for the first year, but 10 fucking aggravating years later, I'm losing my fucking mind.
I mean, we go to the store, we bring back 2 bags of stuff we needed, she puts the things away and it's fucking gone, forever. ...5 minutes later I ask her where she put it and she's fucking clueless. HOW? And yet she has a great memory and holds two bachelors degree. How can someone so smart be so disorganized?
She's also careless with my stuff and ends up breaking or ruining shit that is dear to me. Honestly, I've lost thousands in gear. Before I met her, I'd lose my keys and wallet maybe once a year, now we lose our keys on an almost daily basis. We end up being late to appointments and at work all the time. And if I tell her NOT to put shit away she gets mad, turns into an epic fight and she'll just end up doing it anyways.
Anyone deal with shit like this? I need solutions. I even tried labeling the entire house, it doesn't work. How the fuck can someone be so bad? I honestly can spend hours upon hours everyday just looking for stuff. I've probably spent years looking for stuff in the past 10 years. I need advice.
Pic related.. it doesn't look like that, but it really feels like it.
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>>18488218
TALK TO HER. Not to us. Solve your problems by being honest about them. Buy a damn key holder to keep yours off the table and safe behind the door. Do something instead of complaining.
Also, accept your life with be more chaotic with her in it. You can try to temper it a bit, but if she is such a mess, she'll always bring that to your relationship.
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>>18488244
I'm on 4chan looking for advice, I think that means I've already tried everything, including talking to her.
I'm currently doing a map of our floor plan with reference numbers for rooms, closets and storage areas, to which I'll print a list of all household items and where to put them but I already know she won't use it.
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>>18488269
So, if you can't have an adult conversation with her, what do you expect us to suggest? Hypnosis?
She clearly couldn't give less of a shit about how you feel about this. What does that tell you about your relationship?
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пoмoгитe выбpaть кoмп, в пpeдeлaх 50 кycкoв, дocтaтoчнo мoщный, жeлaтeльнo нa 14 диaгoнaль c nvidia кapтoй, cпacибo/please, help to choose a computer, within 50 pieces of rubbles, powerful enough, preferably on 14 diagonals with nvidia, thanks
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>>18488175
Yes
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>>18488175
Yes
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>>18488175
Second hand Lenovo Thinkpad T420
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Would it be possible to enroll in a college and be homeless for 1 month?
Long story short:
>College is free in my country (It's called university)
>You get a monthly support check
but
>Got no money in the bank
>University is on other side of country
>Can't afford to move in anywhere until first check arrives
I'm thinking of just taking a travel bag with me, and have a pillow in there, and then just fall asleep on campus.
Maybe ask around people if I can crash on their couches once I get the social ball rolling.
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>>18488170
What's your country anonimo
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>>18488170
its possible but im not sure you'd get away with crashing on campus. one thing you can do is go to the bank and take out a line of credit, even without any credit you can be approved for about 3thousand USD.
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>>18488177
Denmark, going to study in Aalborg.
>>18488178
Maybe not, but I could easily see myself getting away with napping random semisecluded places
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I've been with my boyfriend four years. I know he has days where he's incredibly short-tempered and nobody can do anything right by him. I mainly avoid him and say little, but today he's getting personal with me.
For context, I have low self-esteem and real money issues. I haven't had any income since January, but I'm neurotic enough with money to squirrel away £5000. He wants me to spend £2000+ on a holiday with him for his birthday. There's a high chance I'll be getting a job starting October, but I won't know until some time between July-September. I don't want to spend money that I can't guarantee I can replenish, but he wants his birthday holiday.
First thing my boyfriend does once he comes home from work is tell me I need to make a decision on the holiday ASAP so he can book it. First thing I did was apologise for putting him in a frustrating situation. I then acknowledge that I really want him to be happy on his birthday, but I'm also apprehensive about spending so much money. I give him a timeframe for when I should hear about the job, but he says that's not good enough and needs a 'short-term answer' (?). He then accuses me of being emotional and defensive when literally all I did was apologise to him and reiterate the situation to him. With every new message came a new dig (he responded to 'I'm sorry we're in this frustrating situation' with 'Stop with your self-loathing'), so I logged off because I didn't want to read more things like that. He's in full "AHA, I TOLD YOU YOU WERE EMOTIONAL!" mode right now and I don't know what to do. I've never told him that he has moods where literally nobody wants to talk to him because that's plain hurtful, but it means that right now I'm the big emotional crybaby girlfriend?
I basically have three questions: Did I handle the situation correctly? Am I right to be apprehensive about my current financial situation? Should I tell him he's in a completely unreasonable mood? Right now he refuses to talk to me.
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I'll also reiterate that I actually did give him a 'short-term answer' and told him that if I don't hear about the job by the end of the month, go ahead and book the holiday without me. His response was "I cant wait forever, stop taking it personally".
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>>18488097
The fag needs to consider your situation if he doesnt leave him
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>>18488173
Any time we've talked about the holiday, he's said things like "I'd rather not go at all than go without you". Now today he's saying "I need you to make a decision ASAP before you know if you have a job or not. Just say no if you have to". How am I supposed to hear those things and NOT think 'This is a man in a bad mood'?
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>20 years old
>Only have a job because my dad uses me as a laborer
>Think I should really voluntarily take a walk some-day, but then, I realize I have no where to walk to, and American life is, by nature, very isolating
>Never walked through neighborhood I've lived in entirety of life
>Have no-one to talk to because of this
>Finally re-connected with high-school friends over discord, and I was handed a rude awakening as to what human conversation with people that are 20 actually is
I don't really know what to do anymore.
Every-time I do something I'm scared of doing, it seems there was a reason I didn't do it in the first place. I didn't want to believe that I became a shut-in because the outside world wasn't engaging to me, but it seems to be exactly the case.
I've never had a girlfriend before, but I don't think getting one will help me at all.
I know my inactivity is pulling me into a mire, but I can't see the way-out. My life will ultimately be completely out-of-balance if I continue down the road I'm walking. The worst part is I don't know if that's such a bad thing.
The only thing I can say with certainty is that I must learn how to drive.
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>>18488060
>I didn't want to believe that I became a shut-in because the outside world wasn't engaging to me, but it seems to be exactly the case.
Is the world not engaging? Or do you have trouble engaging? Those are not the same things, so think carefully about your answer.
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>>18488071
I'd say it's actually both.
Despite not going outside much, I know exactly what will happen if I do X, Y, and Z when I do.
I've come to discover that the average adult person doesn't interest me after I graduated High-school. Everybody is concerned with sexual intercourse, etc. I only had 2 friends because of this, and they were both as mentally-quick as me.
I'm more mentally activated by browsing 4chan and playing video-games than anything else. Working in carpentry sometimes feels like a form of mental death for 10 hours a day despite the fact that I'm interacting with other people in this world.
I still sometimes have neurotic tendencies despite all of this, and I'm very mal-adapted because of my natural inclination to isolation.
I once panicked when I have to fill-out paper work and be self-sufficient, but I believe that time has come to pass as I've started to finally detach from reality and the people around me.
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>>18488060
> Never walked through neighborhood I've lived in entirety of life
That is fucking weird.
> The only thing I can say with certainty is that I must learn how to drive.
Or you can move to Europe or elsewhere to work if you have decent education.
It won't solve how people after 20 are still mostly assholes and idiots, but you will not necessarily need a car and you probably will walk in some part of your neighbourhood.
Not that learning how to drive is hard. You can get a license in the USA with like five hours of effort or something.
Would it be very unkind if I stopped talking definitely with a person who considers me as a friend and who tells me several personal secrets?
I have this friend who loves to tell me her personal problems, but I can't take this anymore. The truth is I always like her, and I already told her that, but she already told me she still likes her ex-boyfriend.
I'm thinking of blocking her from my social medias and avoid her at all costs, but I don't know, I feel a bit bad about doing this, especially since she has those suicidal thoughts.
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>>18488020
Were you born to prop her up, even though she dismisses you as a man? She chose her horse, and she needs to be made to ride it till the bitter end.
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Well, it would be unkind, but it's your right to do it. Maybe talk to her before that, though? Perhaps she will stop burdening you with her issues if you explain it to her.
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>>18488020
You sound like an emotional tampon, not a friend. Do you do anything or spend time with her any any sort of capacity where this is NOT what the two of you do?
There's nothing wrong with not wanting to fill that role any more.
>I always like her
>she has those suicidal thoughts.
I assume you mean romantically. And ugh. She sounds like a trainwreck. Why are you attracted to her? I mean aside from her being a girl who gives you attention?
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This isn't really an important thread I'm just curios. My family has had this guitar for basically my entire life. It's a really bad one and no one In my entire family knew how to play it. I picked it up one day and within hours I was playing guitar, a few tabs from Metallica and a few chords. Today I'm pretty good at guitar in my opinion I can play a ton of stuff a few full songs, etc. won't bore you with the details. Just a few days ago I picked up a keyboard (piano) for the first time and actually tried it out, yet again none of my family knows how to play. Within a few hours again I was able to play the full song Imagine, the beginning of fringe (tv show), the beginning of 1000 miles, and more. I don't know if I'm "gifted" with a musical talent or what's up but apparently according to my brother within 1 hour of the piano I was able to do more than him in 1 year of lessons. I don't see how because what I did was literally so easy to me. Should I try to make a career of music? What should I do with this and is it even anything special at all?
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>>18487982
Do you have autism?
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>>18488017
No anon I do not have autism.
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You're not gifted, you're just not retarded. If you did this by ear and not by looking up the notes/tabs, you have perfect pitch, but it's pretty common so don't feel special.
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I had sex with a model last night and she recently bleached her asshole and I ended up getting bleach on my T Shirt
What should I do about this?
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White shirt? It's cleaner now. Thank her. If it's a color shirt, you're SoL. Hope it wasn't a favorite of yours.
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Use a sharpie.
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great song
After nearly two years of not entirely voluntary NEETdom I'm going to my first job interview in a couple of hours and it's killing me inside. I want to turn off my phone and everything and just hide in bed all day.
How do I get rid of crippling anxiety on a short notice?
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drink a beer maybe
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I get the same anxiety man, what always helps is going in prepared. Use good posture, maintain eye contact and use good manners. For me the more interviews I get the more I learn so dont get disheartened if you dont get the job. One thing ive learned to do is research the industries challenges and relate it to your experience, this has gotten me a few job offers.
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>>18487900
Take a deep breath and remember: No one "gets over" their anxiety. We all dread job interviews. Yet, people still manage to land them. So will you.
And if thins one falls through, you can still try again later. It's not the end of the world.
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For the past 5 years I've been in two relationships with 5 months of being single in between.
Currently in the second relationship, it doesn't feel like I have a personality of my own, probably because I adopt all of the interests my SO has.
I'm starting to hate feeling this way and really just want to be alone for a long time.
However, I still love and care about how my SO feels, and as much as I want to be alone I can't bring myself to hurt them.
I have no desire to have sex anymore, I'm not that affectionate anymore, I'm not as patient or tolerant as I used to be, and I can tell this hurts them.
Basically I want to be alone so I can see what kind of person I am on my own, but I don't know if this is worth ending a 3 year relationship over.
It feels that by just considering this that the relationship is over.
What do, does this all sound like a load of bullshit, help.
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>>18487838
It's called self erasure. You probably did it as a kid because it was all about your parents needs so you adapted to your environment. It's a sad thing that happens to kids.
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Maybe take a break and re-discover some of your own old interests again.
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I did this. I ended a three year relationship a year ago to be alone and learn about myself. It's a very, very good idea. You're not happy & you already know what you have to do.
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What would you do in your parents place?
Would you let your child kill himself/herself? (if it meant making them happy, considering they have no future, no bright future)
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They are failures if they do. The child is their DNA.
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>>18487819
Yeah its just regressive material its the only path
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>>18487819
You can't be happy when you are dead.
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Fear of missing out (FOMO)
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I want to read more and write more in my spare time, but I always find myself coming home from work, turning on Netflix and going on the Internet.
It's like I'm too plugged in and am afraid of missing out on something...a meme, a happening, things like that. I'm big on current events, naturally, so I want to post about it when something happens, but I find myself mindlessly browsing.
I don't go on facebook anymore but I want to stop constantly going online and lurking mindlessly.
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One other example: there'd be a movie on Netflix or something, and I'd watch the movie multiple times before Netflix rotates it out for new movies.
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>>18487790
Your brain goes on auto mode at work and stays that way. Then it turns into procrastination. Do some jumping jacks push ups or run in place. Do something that changes your energy levels. It will snap you out of auto mode. It's really annoying.
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>>18487790
There are browser extensions that can block sites after you've used them for more than a configured amount of time. Might help!