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>>18484626
If you're in south Florida go to the beach that was lit when I was down in fort Myers during Christmas

Florida is lit

Enjoy the lawlessness

>>18484626
Florida is six hours long from north to south with three major climate areas: Miami/south, Orlando/central, and Gainesville/south-Georgia. Where are you going? There ate different things to do in each zone and they're all too far apart to mix zones on one trip.

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NYC at that time of year is hot muggy and all the chill pps are at the beach. Do a beach tour. either go CA or the south. ppl are having fun and more incline to party with random anons or femanons. id check out Hermosa Beach It’s where a lot of UCLA & USC ppl live. have fun

>>18484696
Anywhere that's not on the beach? I don't mind going to the beach at night, but I burn during the day.

I don't want to leave the East Coast, since I'm not sure I could make it back and forth in a month. Any suggestions?

>>>/trv/

Youll get a lot more answers there. You really gotta fill in the blanks though - where youre from, budget, what you like to do, what you already know you are interested in seeing, etc. The more detailed your question, the more detailed responses you will get. Asking a generic question will get you generic google tier answers.

>>18484528
You probably don't..if he's bicurious and knows you're gay, and likes you, he would go to you himself.

He said he wants to chill with me. Do straight guys typically want to chill with a gay guy that they don't already have an established friendship with?

>>18484580
It sounds like he is going to make it happen without you having to do anything.

> She wants me to take the lead and pushes me to do bold things.
So do what she wants. Kiss her. If she pulls away or says no, say that you're sorry for pushing that boundary but you just got carried away by how beautiful she is.

Another trick, if you're unsure, is to put your fingers on her cheek before going in for the kiss. If she pulls away from a gentle caress on the cheek, she does NOT want a kiss, so abort mission. If she doesn't seem to mind a caress, keep you hand on her cheek gently while you kiss her, because it will double the intensity of the kiss for her.

Most girls really want you to take the lead. A goodbye or goodnight kiss is a great start, because it leaves her with good feelings and provides a natural, safe break to keep things from goung further than she wants too quickly.

>>18484416
> dating quite a while
> haven't kissed
Bruh, you sure you're dating?

XD good point

>>18484271
Personally, I don't believe self help books help with people, I think they are only sold for people to get money easily. They talk about it on /lit/ a lot, and I've glanced at this book quite a bit and it most likely will not help. Sorry

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It helped me considerably. I'd reread it if I were you, because it definitely led to my first girlfriends and long lasting friendships with girls and guys alike. Hell, even the less applicable to dating stuff like how the parents managed that child to do what they want was beneficial in dating.

>>18484271
It's pretty good book, but it's designed for people who are naturally charismatic to learn not to be self-centered. Not so much for un-charismatic people to build themselves up from scratch.

I think you need to just look at the people around you who have the type of social life you'd want to have, and start being REAL honest with yourself about what makes them different from you.

>>18483665
plus*

>>18483665

Dont let her straight booty slam your dick.

Go slow find what's comfortable for the both of you. Doesn't have to be perfect vertical up and down.

Then once you get the hang of your position plow her fucking tits off.

>>18484483
yeah but even when she's wet I'm worried I can't properly go in and that my dick will bend and she'll break my dick

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>>18487921
Break with this bitch.
Her pussy itches already because of thinking about your departure.

>>18487954
I mean her Pussy is tight as fuck because I was like the second dick that's been in there. She lives in the countryside and I'm from the city and I have a hard time trusting females. She's def not a thot but a long distance relationship would not work at all..

>>18487960
So you already answered your question.

Stay and be with her, or break with her and live long an prosper... or something like that.

>>18487719
Are you really sure that relationships don't make you happy? Sounds like you haven't found the good relationships yet, those you can confine in.

>>18487719
Don't yearn for this idea of "happiness".
Try to define happiness and you will see that you are chasing rainbows.

>>18487719
Are you sure that literally nothing makes you happy? Even something really insignificant, like taking a walk in the evening.
If you really seem unable to experience happiness you should go to doctor.
If you can, start trying new things until you find something you like. Try something new every day!

>>18487677
>with every girl that talks to me
Wank it off.

It seems that this issue stems from a deeper issue. You should not focus on a problem that another problem causes. That's like a man running around a ship punching holes in the side and you run around filling up the holes, instead of going after the root cause.

>>18487677
It seems also you yearn to be cared for, on a deeper level. Which is a normal feeling that you should have. Maybe instead of asking "how do I change my nature" perhaps look for a middle ground with your nature.

Mayhaps the answer would be to make it clear to the girls right from the get go of this. And still realize that even if they agree to play along, they still have the opportunity to "check out" to stop playing. They do not owe anything to you, you must try to remember that.
It is a partnership, you are not their boss

>>18487646
>cont.
I'm an honest person and I'm not ashamed of doing drugs. I like snorting heroin on occasion. I like smoking crack once in a while. I drink regularly. I'm not addicted to any of it. I didn't touch opiates from november to june, no problem. I quit drinking for a month or two when my parents thought I was an alcoholic. No issues. Yeah it sucked, I had that voice in my head begging me to take a drink, but I just smoked some weed and went about my day to prove I didn't need it. When I heard that voice telling me to get more dope, I thought to myself this is how you become a junkie and didn't touch it for months. Yeah I wanted it, but so what? Willpower. Crack has the most intense short-term craving and sometimes I'll buy a 20 bag, smoke it then go get another, but I don't use it regularly and I've kept it that was for a long time.
So this isn't about me. But I know this drug use is a symptom of an unhappiness deep in my person. And while the drugs are a lot of fun and I love them, I don't want to see the person I want to be with sad and unfulfilled, filling their life with drugs because they are around me and the option arises.
I like getting high and on a base level I do want to enjoy that with the people around me, but I don't want to hurt anyone.
I'm an honest person and I don't want to lie to people about my use. I know not to tell girls I just met I snort dope and smoke hard, but I don't want to have to hide it in a relationship either. Idk. I'm just confused about how I should tackle this in the future, because I want someone and I want to be good for them, but I know my habits are seductive and not manageable for most people. I just don't want to stop getting faded. But I want to know how to draw a healthy line for my love life in the future.

>>18487646
>>18487648
Any anons out there who use heavy and keep that separate in most regards from their relationship? Anyone with advice? Of any kind? Other than just saying get sober, that's not really helpful, I could ask anyone on the street and they would tell me that. Plus I don't plan on getting sober.

>>18487646
Bumping for answers... I'm not some junkie tool looking for attention, this is really weighing heavy on my mind right now.

>>18487630
My pay started getting good with lots of money to spare after four years of professional work out of university, this is again assuming you took something smart and the labor market is appropriate. First year feels kinda touch and go though.

Buy cheaper things and sacrifice more to save, it may take a while to build up, but with every penny you save you are eliminating a part of your fear.
There's always room to save. And once you have that safety net of money, you never touch it until a gun is pointed at your head, so to speak.
All of this is easier said than done. Good luck

It's possible but it depends on what you are going into after school.

If you got into this situation you are just barely independent. Your parents should help you but parents are not all made equal.

it depends on the depth of manipulation.

are we talking "making you get the TV remote?"

Or are we talking "making their payments for them?"

>>18487518
I guess it's more of the "TV Remote".

>>18487508
Are you doing favors for them that you actually don't want to do? Have you tried just saying "no?" Do they ever do favors in return for you?

Bit tough to answer when you won't give any specifics at all, but that's basically it

>>18487399
You have to think your hot shit. The constant thoughts you think everyday translate to your actions and emotions

>>18487399
i have low self esteem to strangers, and i'm anxious in front of people i don't see every day.
You can't pretend you're hot shit.
i tried it, it doesn't last long.
just accept your fate and pray that god will have mercy on you.

>>18487439
listen to this anon, your thoughts and your self perception will translate into how others see you. If you're confident, not cocky, but confident, it'll come off as that. Don't listen to >>18487441 because he's a faggot.

This is some weird shit

Be a good person and dump your bf, it'll be better for him in the long run.

>I am in a secure relationship
>your fucking sister's sugar daddy appears and you almost can't resist the urge to cheat
Jej

Tell your boyfriend you're a slut and then break up with him. He will be sad but time heals all wounds.

How long have you been with this girl?

>>18487310
You outline a lot of traps that you can potentially fall into. It sounds like you want to have a family to make up for your own bad childhood. From my experience, single mothers can be very manipulative and she could use this desire against you. On that note, single mothers are also usually on the prowl for stable, provider types with money. Make sure she isn't just interested in your house, car and money. You're also young, and perhaps inexperienced with how manipulative women and especially single mothers can be.

>>18487310

What's wrong with you anon? You seem like a functioning adult to me. I don't understand why you want to end your own bloodline. Could part of this be confidence issues?