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>>18490720
Are you an autist?

Well, seems the issue in reality is with her in my opinion. If It's an a and b conversation then she could c her way out of it. If the person you corrected has an issue with how you talk to them then yeah, looks like you and them AND HER just aren't socially compatible. Nevermind who's an asshole or not, you just don't belong around each other.

>>18490765
We've been together for 3 years and we seem plenty compatible. I'm not the only one she can't take feedback from, anyone who corrects her makes her feel inferior. I know this because she said "it's people like you why i have low self esteem", basically putting her own issues on me like it's my responsibility.

Point being it's not an individual thing.

>>18490706
>be a freak
>get called a freak
>surprised

mate...

based best emma poster
As for your question, Idk, I wish I knew because I'm sort of on the same boat.

>>18490706

you either go to fetish sites, fetish apps, or fetish clubs. if you do none of those the only approach is the one you've been using, except oyu maybe hold off on it.

does it matter if they call you a freak though? if they're not into it they are not into it, so its not like hiding it would have lead down the path you wanted.

>>18490704
What do you think you're the only person who's been in a shitty job and got dumped? I'd venture the majority of the population has been in this situation at one time or another. Suck it up and make some solid progress towards bettering yourself. Go to school, learn a trade, get fit, do whatever the fuck you want; if you're thinking of killing yourself there's nothing to lose anyway.

>>18490704

deciding to kill yourself because you realize your life lacks meaning is like deciding to starve your self because you realize you are hungry, or to become a monk because you realize you want to date, or choosing to be homeless because you realize you need a job.

just because something is missing does not mean you say 'oh well i should just give up on ever finding it'.

if a woman is the only thing that you think gives your life meaning then you never had any meaning to begin with, you're just an emo teen who watched too many disney movies growing up.

>im tired of being a screw up
>SURELY SUICIDE WOULD FIX THAT

why not just stop being a screw up? i know, i know you're just going to just shout 'WELL THATS EASIER SAID THAN DONE' as if that somehow makes it impossible and not worth doing.

>any advice on relationships
>or offing myself

dont bother with either. this is what you distilled your entire life down to: if im single i should probably kill my self.

think about that for a minute.

take out a credit card, look up a nearby town or city, or a distant one, and go start over. get a hobby that doesn't involve a computer and enjoy your self.

>>18490704
man what a situation to find oneself in.

I think as human beings, we will all at some point find ourselves in this situation.

I remember at my early twenties, first girl I ever loved and the tragic ending to our love. it drove to suicide too.

thats the thing, when your young and you come across love the first time, you nose dive straight in, giving this person your 100% investing all your time into them, its all so wrong.

I think you have to learn this anon. push through it. dont give up on yourself and your dreams man.

not over some pussy, nothing. I've been there and trust when I say some day you'll laugh at yourself for it.


so please, give yourself a chance, look forward to things you can do now. all the things you couldn't do because of the relation ship sucking all your time and money.

go buy some clothes, get a hair cut. and dress every day as if you are going to meet the love of your life... just being you, the best version of yourself will bring you happiness and self love. you need that right.

and what you must learn is that never love %100 NEVER! do 60% and keep %40 for yourself. or atleast keep %10 for yourself. you dont want to be in a situation like this ever again man, a man needs a little peace of himself for himself for when everything comes crushing down.


godspeed faggot

>>18490695
Too much meta question.
>defend myself
>show teeth
If you are boy, all you have to do is to locate your balls. Were you raised by single mother?

Either describe some concrete situation or ask something more specific, unless you enjoy general advice
>dont be yourself

>fucking up relationship with a circle of friends
They either werent your friends in the first place or you simply have autism. Apologize works every time.

>>18490695

dont be passive?

It's a learned behavior that often comes with age and practice.

When you are young it is often in your best interest to be sort of subservient, your boss may explode if you question his burger joint, and you won't be getting a raise anyway.

Later you need to learn how to put your foot down. Practice with little shit. I used to be so passive that I would accept wrong orders from restaurants. I wouldn't ask for higher salaries and always kept my head down.

Try little shit first. Get an order corrected, look for opportunities.

It is however important not to become the key jangling soccer mom who DEMANDS TO SEE A MANAGER! Be polite and cordial but firm. Don't get cheeky and ass-holy unless provoked. It's mostly about standing up for yourself and your principles. You don't have to meet every challenge, but you can ask your neighbor not to have his dog piss on your lawn every morning, causing that dead spot in the grass.

Banter is among friends is also a good way to start, though it is tricky. You might rag on your friends shirt or something, but don't cut them personally. Invite a jab at yourself. wear something that seems kind of stupid or ill-fitting.

Being overly polite and careful all the time can make you seem distant and not invested in people enough to show your true colors.

they probably just too busy for u like they got a partner or they just dont like u no more

>>18490686
>They probably too busy

Nope, even if they were my male friends are busy af and they still find the time

>They just dont like u no more

Well yeah, I'm kind of asking why. It's like they were wayward while my male friends stayed regardless of my problems.

>>18490697

it sounds like you've already reached the conclusion you want to reach.

at the end of the day, most male-female relationships aren't that close. Its hard for them to get close (not impossible, just hard) without some sort of sexual tension developing. you and the females were probably never that close and after you decided to disappear from their lives for X amount of time they decided you aren't very important.

the guys had a stronger bond, perhaps just don't make as many guy friends as the girls do, or simply pity you more.

get her pregnant and leave

>>18490607
how about a kiss and cuddle, pre and post-coitum?

that ought to surprise and shock her, and perhaps even you, jaded anon.

>>18490619
jaded?

Fuck you

>>18490573
Keep browsing 4chan. Asexuality will follow as inevitably as the night follows the day.

Some say that if you fap a lot and a lot and even when you aren't aroused you fap for the heck of it, and also you fap to weird fetish porn, then your libido will drop.

become an underground artsty guy? the girl in pic dresses like everyone else in berlin though

>>18490594
>Berlin
>not some east coast prep-festival American city
>but the artistic mecca that is Berlin

Triggered

>>18490638
she has the typical full black berliner look
and the environment around her seems like a typical european city

>>18490492
it would probably help because eventually hes gonna get caught

>>18490496
Or he tells everyone in class

>>18490492
No, he's a cop.

>told me she wasn't into
>continues to pursue
Drop it ya cunt

>>18490486
I dont understand what would be the problem if you are knocking them up desu. But if she doesnt want to have you as a bf, I believe she might also have sex with other guys. It's about what you want really. If you wanna fucc, go for it, but also know that you might get cucked and you might be hurt for it. Fuck her but dont attach to her. Good luck.

>>18490486
I think you should fuck but try not to attach her. Because she might cuck with someone other than you and you will not be able to say a word because you are not her bf.

Try eating it with other foods

>>18490521
I try to do that but I end up taking forever to chew and get it down, and end up losing appetite to eat. I think once I took an hour for some braised vegetables.

>>18490478
Cheese is your answer, use it wisely.

Anyone?

>>18490470
honestly you don't need to be particularly smart to get a degree just be a hard worker, srsly just pick a good subject that isn't a meme like history of phycology and make it work.

>>18490470
idc call centers u basically just sit on your ass all day and tell stupid people to pay their bill

>>18490435
much as I hate to say this, but run and take this prick to the cleaners.

you might as well give the cunt an ultimatum first though. but it's kinda your fault for having a baby with cunt.

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He doesnt love you and never will because hes still in love with his ex. Cant believe you were actually dumb enough to let this guy knock you up.

>>18490435
Why would you think having a child with someone you've been with for so short a time, was a good idea?

Why? I'm genuinely curious as to your thought process.

Did you think the baby would make him care about you or something?

Yeah try picking up women elsewhere.

Work on your game so that you can pick up any type of woman you want in any setting they happen to be in.

Learn by failing. Keep on improving yourself. Plenty of fish in the sea.

Do you mean same-night lays? If so, I can offer no help… Even though it is a common enough experience that it certainly isn't an anomaly, I still can't get myself to believe that it's possible for a dude to meet a girl and convince her to go home with him that night.

As for just getting numbers and dates… I'm good at that, but you probably already are, too.

>>18490423
Networking:
a friend of a friend of a friend of a friend knows a girl

... enrolled for all the exams but didnt attend one because i didnt learn, and perhaps the Professor asked around every time in class where "my Name" is, and it became a running gag and everyone knew who i was; (thats my Imagination of things, idk how much that could be true... im Aware im schizophrenic thats the Point im writing this) and thats why they always laugh at me or sth. Idk i dont talk to people thats everything in my head.

So, i want to get a grip on life, i want to start somewhere, i hope i outlined ´whats wrong with me to a sufficent degree, i need to know life. Im 21.
Im very disappointed / depressed some times because i know my interests but somehow, i dont have any power any self-confidence to pursue those. I imagine my former friends, who must live in such another world, because they have social circles, they share their life with a bunch of other people, they know how to socialize, they "live in the world". I "live" in my head... in an echo chamber of long passed memories... Im scared of meeting them up once again because after those years, they would notice, what a Piece of shit i have become; how Little i know of the world; how uncapable i am to interact in a normal manner.

Nevertheless, i know, the only way out of here is to move forward. I want to grab everything i can which could help me not to be a depressed Piece of shit for the rest of my life. I need to lower my expectations.
I need to lower my expactations to take the Little steps forward, because its a meme that you can suddenly transform to the being you thought all the years you are entitled to be. I know i know nothing and if people say something i feel like i am superior because i have some knowledge, but thats not true. I met up with an old friend of mine the other day, and hes doing Business now and we were talking about economics and i thought i would know more about that Topic, but ended up realizing, i dont know shit. And i wondered, wtf, what am i doing the whole day?

I'm like you OP
But you are further down the road than I am I suppose.
It's difficult to socialize with people, especially if you haven't socialized with people all your life. Usually it ends up that you read way too much into little actions and pathologically misinterpret intentions.
I can't help but feel that people secretly hate me behind my back, and only talk to me to get favors.
Sorry I can't really offer you any real advice considering I'm nearly in the same spot.
Wish you luck.

Sorry for the stupid long rant, but if someone wants to help me, i think thats very helpful for it gives insight in my fucked up brain like nothing else does. So yea, feel free to ask questions etc. and give advise / insight in whats wrong with me, what I should do to finally move forward. Im actually depressed most of the time, but atm its pretty okay.