Is it weird to always say hi/smile at a coworker every time you pass by them? (Like 5ish times a day)
Asking because I think this particular one is cute (I'm F, he's M) and I am a paranoid shit. I've creeped boys out during childhood and don't want to do it again.
>>18502632
I remember my first job when I wondered about that about just any co-workers in general. The answer I eventually came up with was to say Hello in the morning and then either just smile or make some passing comment ("Hot day, huh?") other times.
Now, if I was interested in a particular person, I'd look for times that didn't interfere with work to chat a little, building up to something like
- It's fun chatting with you but we have to get back to work. Let's meet up for lunch.
>>18502645
I work at a casino. Specifically, as one of the dealers. He is a dual rate supervisor/dealer on the same shift as me.
We get a LOT of breaks. They rotate in 4s. So I pass by him a lot.
To me the only real opportunity to talk to him I think I would get is if I was lucky enough to end up in his pit one night if he was a supervisor. Otherwise whenever I see him I say hi or if it's from a distance I just smile like an idiot.
>>18502632
Be honest femanon. Are you single? Do you want him as your bf?
Simply ask him where his gf is. And then ask him what is he doing this weekend. Or just pass him piece of paper with your number and symbol of heart.
He may call/text you or not. No big deal. Remember to smile. The most deadly weapon girls can use on boys. Just smile and give him your number.
I want to get outside more, but I'm not sure where or how to start.
I spend most of my time playing video games, but I no longer get the same satisfaction I used to. I really don't want to waste my entire life on video games, I want a life. My only friend is an addict, too. I'm not an autist, just a loner. I used to have very bad social anxiety, which I've nearly quelled by forcing myself into social situations and learning from my mistakes.
Where should I start to make friends and develop a social life? Getting hobbies other than playing video games would be great for this, but I also want them to be social (at least the first few). All of the video games I play and stick with are multiplayer, as the social element adds a lot to my enjoyment. Thanks
I'm 20, about 20 pounds overweight, and live in a big city near a beach and some hiking trails. Today I went surfing, which is a start. Has anyone been through this process themselves or know a way I can streamline it?
>>18502536
Try joining a sports club if you're into that.
In my country (Australia) that the AFL local teams make a point of going out a lot. It's literally impossible not to see them out on a weekend. Same with the soccer clubs.
If sport isn't your thing try getting a job that forces you to mingle with people. eg. I used to have pretty bad social anxiety too and wouldn't go out much. Ended up getting my bartenders qualification and trust me you get very social on Fridays and Saturdays especially. You'll have some girls flirting for free drinks which is a bonus for your small talk game.
Idk if this is what you're looking for ?
I'm an extreme introvert, but contrary to what 4chan may make you think, this isn't mutually exclusive with having social awareness.
I like to go to coffee shops and read. as long as you don't sperg you'll get to know the staff in short order and may make a friend that way. you could join a pool league or just go to a bar regularly.
the formula for friendships is just consistent interactions over a period of time. pick a place or thing that you can enjoy over a period of time and you'll meet people.
if you're an autist and can't interact with people, get into therapy
Why is it that so many people consider a reasonable and decent person to be equal to some sorta PC-culture-pushing SJW nowadays? And how do I learn to deal with this? Just ignore it? Perhaps try to convince people otherwise?
>>18502504
Most people don't think like this over a certain age, learn to avoid the ones that do. Trying to convince someone against their beliefs often make their convictions stronger
Just don't worry about it too much, you can't do anything about it so just do you, who gives a shit what other people think.
>>18502504
What are you talking about? Unless you're preachy like SJWs are, no one cares.
What would you consider a "reasonable and decent person"?
I went to a topless strip club in Vegas and had a really good time, but did I get ripped off, or is this the typical experience?
>cover charge of $40, included two drinks
>dancer grabbed me through pants, rubbed and grinded on me
>let me kiss and suck on her nipples, grope her breasts and ass
>also kissed me on the lips twice
>gave me her real name and phone number
>gave her $70 (so lap dance of 60 plus 10, not sure if you're supposed to tip)
No idea if I got mostly ripped off, or if this is an average experience, or if this dancer let me go further than usual
Everyone is different. One of my long-time friends since middle school became a stripper and she doesn't do that stuff with clients. Many girls don't. It's possible that they were juicing you for money but honestly most strippers are lazy and don't like to go out of their way to perform super hard. You either had an exceptional time with a stripper trying to make money or maybe she's into you. I'm not really sure but it's at least worth hitting her up to find out.
>>18502503
Thanks Anon. Maybe it's the former, because aside from the dance she was just saying a lot of really generic stripper things. What would I even say if I texted her?
>>18502486
This happen to me too.
My first time going to strip joint.
I striper grinned on me
She grabbed my hands and put them on her chest
I was told when I was in hs you can't touch the stripper, if you don't wanna get hurt
Started to grab tits and ass.
I sucked on her tits.
I also grabbed her pussy and finger a bit.
Was pretty tough touch.
Once finished paid her and didn't tip
I thought it was part of it 20.
How do you get over and identify mental barriers? A lot of things I set myself to doing like working out, driving to improve my organization, or improving myself in a game I play on a competitive level feels really hard to do.
It's not so much the physical strain or monotony I think that holds me back, also the disappointment from where I stand in comparison to others is only a passing hindrance for me.
I think there are some mental pitfalls I can't overcome. Aside from my own inconsistency, I just find it really difficult to meaningful absorb what I learn about each of these area and using it to improve myself in these ways.
Any suggestions?
Well, when I first started working out, I felt I had a "mental barrier".
"This is so hard, i can't go on", it was mentally exhausting. "Look at him, it looks easy when he does that".
So what I did, in order to go beyond the "this is so hard i can't go on", is to train harder until I break. I never broke. I just went on harder and harder, and suddenly it became easier. Even fun.
And the "he makes it seem easy" - you just gotta train 'till you do that too.
You just have to continue, despite your doubt and barrier. You have to go against your instincts, head first into the wall.
>>18502498
Thanks anon, I had a feeling thats all there was to it. It would've sucked following that thought for it to not be true.
What about the bit about absorbing information better? I find it pretty hard to really take in new information very quick. Anyone got any suggestions on that?
Well for me I find it easiser to do things and larn things if I have a goal.
For instance: I need money.
So to get money, I have to fill out app's and work my ass off to do so. I did not start off movtavated to do it, I just fill out one app and waited a week, and the next week I did two. I had such a sence of accomplishment that doing it now is exciting
How do I say no to my girlfriend? Our relationship is great but between her and work I feel like I have very little time for myself. It's not even about her, I'm just the sort of person who never dated or went out before meeting her, and I need time for myself. And I have personal projects I want to work on. And every day we are together we HAVE to go out and eat, and honestly Subway is really not expensive but this shit adds up.
Not only that, but for the summer she's living at her grandma's- her grandma is a mentally ill hoarder who refuses advice/help and lives in an isolated part of town where it takes forever to go drive to anything. And the place is a fucking mess. To my girlfriend's credit she's worked hard cleaning it but all the ants are roaches (or as the granny likes to call it, waterbugs, because denial)
So yeah, how do I say no without either sounding like a dick or like I need "space" rather than just "me time"?
>>18502443
ants AND roaches*
And I forgot to mention that I am mentioning it because I hate staying the nights there, or staying there at all, whereas my place is fine but there isn't much privacy either.
>>18502443
Hey Anon, you want to come over to my Grandmothers house today?
>Sorry, I can't today, I've got plans.
Doing what?
>I've got some personal projects I'm going to work on.
There. I just cracked the fucking enigma code for you.
>>18502451
is not that easy when you're afraid of fucking up and knowing wont be easy to get another girl from the market
fuck guys i have this bump on the left side of the roof of my moth and its like tender to touch and kinda just like hurts
i took some pictures that worry me and i dont have health insurance please help
i hope you don't have cancer op
but fuck me this picture was hilarious
>>18502418
dude fr fr if you have insurance do me a solid and go ask a doctor wtf is wrong with me
Might be a canker sore, OP.
I have them. They usually look white and puffy though, and they're not on the roof usually.
Did you burn your mouth at all?
Someone please offer me a way out. Please god help me find a way to die.
>>18502392
Well I've spent the past 15 years smoking a pack of cigarettes a day, trying to kill myself. I suspect it will all pay off any time now. You could try that.
>>18502392
It is literally easier to think of things that can kill you than things that can't.
Now why do you want to kill yourself?
>>18502392
buy Liquid Nitrogen, seal your room, take off the lid, let it evaporate, you'll asphyxiate without suffocating
I've been talking to a girl on OkCupid for two months. We matched and had great conversations. She lives overseas so we didn't meet in person. I'd travel to meet her but I don't have time off till Christmas so the plan was to wait and see if things were still going well around November and then ask her about it.
She stopped visiting OkCupid for a week in June. She said she'd been busy and we continued talking like normal. She disappeared again a week ago and just now deleted her account without warning.
This was my second (pseudo)relationship. The first was recent, in real life, with a good friend. A mutual friend told me she was into me so I asked her out. She said she enjoyed our date so I invited her on another. She said it sounded great but put it off for a while (exams, Christmas break). Eventually she admitted she was never interested in me and that she led me on for two months because she didn't know how to tell me.
Bonus: now she is dating my roommate and good friend.
Why are women incapable of communication?
I envy people that just get rejected from the get-go.
New plan: refuse to initiate anything and wait for someone interested enough in me to ask me out.
>>18502323
>calls something a relationship before anything is even established
Why are you so desperate?
It seems you were misreading signs. "Talking" to someone doesn't mean you can claim her, especially if she doesn't like you and you never clarified your feelings. "Matching and having great conversations" doesn't mean shit. Especially since what's a good convo to you might have been hell for her. There could've been no vibe.
>>18502337
Spare me the "you should have gotten it at 16" or whatever.
Anyways, I need to move out of my parents house soon and was hoping to find something that pays better than flipping burgers or bagging groceries. Something that trains you. I'm not sure where to look however. The only two options I've seen is this customer service job and a warehouse job. Which I'm applying to but I've been told I should apply to as many places as I can.
It wouldn't be so hard to find something but I'm trying to keep indoors. Not because I'm some lazy fuck, but because if I have some of the worst allergies and asthma one might see. I need to use my inhaler multiple times throughout the day even when I'm not active. And when I'm outside for too long my allergies just seem to want to kill my body. I'm not exaggerating either. My friends even say I get stares in public because of just how fucked I look sometimes. Medicine and shots both don't help.
So, if someone could, please recommend something I ought to look into. I'm getting more desperate by the day.
>>18502218
Don't do retail
It's soul-draining...if you have a soul
If you're 18 and have no work experience then you're really not in a position to be picky about what job you do. Unless you know someone who can get you a job or at least an interview, the only jobs you're looking at are menial and/or involve hard labour.
>>18502241
Well, I'm all ears if you've a better idea
Went to the doctor and he told me to just keep using antiinflamatory ,now this meat in my eyes is huge,what do?and what the fuck is it
Can you pull it out with tweezers?
>>18502176
Does that itch? Or is it painful?
I need to say a few words to my boss that might likely make things stiff between us.
I've been working for this company for 2 years, I love my job unfortunately I've been stuck with an apprentice-level contract that pays shit (litteraly shit I barely survive on the money I make) typicly, these contracts are signed for 6 months and are then upgraded to the permanent deal with all it's advantages: Good pay, vacation days...but for me when my first 6 months was over they signed me on for the same deal for another 6 months and then another and then another!!
I am now on my 5th round of apprenticeship.
>Just trust me when I say it has nothing to do with me not being good enough to be trusted with the reponsibilties of the full time people
It's a dangerous job so during that first 6 months you have a babysitter but I left mine behind a long time ago, I am atleast as productive as any of the full time employees by now.
But still I get payed half their salary!!!
The worst part:
The argument of not giving me the contract has been "Unfortunately we don't have another full time contract in the budget"
>"Well ok, As long as it leads somewhere, I'll sign on for another 6 months"
But, during the last few months we had 2 guys leaving!
So my logic: there should be budget for 2 more contracts right?
>So I talked to my boss
"Yes, we haven't started planning for a recruiting yet, we're focusing on finishing "the project" first and then we'll get on that"
And then a few weeks later: BOOM
They hire 2 new guys out of the blue, from outside the company!!!
Well that makes me more then mildely pissed off.
It's been a few weeks since now and I haven't confronted my boss about it yet, but I feel it's time: My frustration is spilling into my motivation at work now and are affecting my work ethic and I'm sure it shows.
>I need him to know why he ruined me i guess haha.
Inb4: find a new job, I'm allready on it!
>>18502159
Look, regardless of why he didn't hire you full time, do not tank intentionally at work. Your boss is less likely to be sympathetic if you slack off or just fuck around.
You're right: your boss fucked you. I have no idea why he would, but he did. Here's the thing though: his decision has already been made. You cannot ask for a full time hire from this guy: if he lied to you about getting full-time, he will likely lie about your relationship and your future prospects. You also can't tell him to fire one of the newbies so you can fill in his slot: that is just unfair to the ew guy who had nothing to do with this.
Instead, ask you manager for a recommendation about where to go next and ask if it would be alright if the recruiting staff reached out to him so he can say a few good words. Your boss probably feels bad about fucking you over. You cannot undo that decision he made, but you can ask for him to help you in your next venture. Ask why you weren't hired, but don't chastise him over it nor ask him to revoke the decision. Simply ask him for recommendations about where to find work next and ask for him to give your next company a good reference / word of support.
>>18502159
>but for me when my first 6 months was over they signed me on for the same deal for another 6 months and then another and then another!!
I am now on my 5th round of apprenticeship.
Are you stupid or something?
>>18502193
It's a once in a lifetime kind of job
What does it mean if you
>don't want to talk to girls
>don't want to be around girls
>don't want to be in relationships with girls
>don't want to have sex with girls
But fap at least 2x a day to... girls?
Im a girl and feel the same way about dick so idk my man
You became pornsexual, or whatever the fancy term is. Basically porn is your preference when it comes to satisfying yourself physically. Nothing inherently wrong with this, assuming your lack of interest in women was a cause, not a result, of this preference. To me it sounds like you don't want the hassle associated with meeting and getting to know new people. I get that because I'm in a similar situation, except few times in my life I somehow stumbled upon girls that liked me so now I don't really want to meet them while at the same time I want sex and relationships. Oh well.
>>18502154
Means that you are truly redpilled.
I'm done with this and I want to die
>>18502136
Try asking for actual advice and giving details next time my man, that way people can actually work with something in order to help you. This thread really gives us nothing my dude.
Try with another thread.
>>18502136
Why?
>>18502136
Razors pain you;
Rivers are damp;
Acids stain you;
And drugs cause cramp.
Guns aren’t lawful;
Nooses give;
Gas smells awful;
You might as well live.
please help i dont really know what to do. my closest friend and the only person i really ever cared about has stopped talking to me and its really stressing me out i dont think ive genuinely felt this bad in years and i cant really explain what i feel.
i dont have any desire to do anything else but talk to this person right now and i cant and i cant get myself to do anything else because i just really want to see this person again. i cant distract myself with anything and my mind just goes back to them and i dont know what to do about that.
i have no one else to talk to really no one else i care about as much, aquaintances and light friends i never invested to because i never cared for them much so i feel so alone and isolated right now.
as pussy as this sounds theres so many personal details ive left out because i feel terrible and have no one to go to right now so im here scrambling a terrible plea for help
im just asking for a way to distract myself from this please, i have work constantly and it makes me feel terrible and right now i cant really afford to feel this way its going to affect my routine too much
the only way i can clear my head is from the rush of blood to the head from cardio, usually just go bike until you cant walk anymore. good luck op
Friends don't just stop talking to friends for no reason. What'd you do?
>>18502067
Ask a friend in common why he/she is not talking to you ?