ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

Hey women (or men). My girlfriend and I are spending the summer apart (just because of university being on break and family in different places)

I feel so lonely but I don't want to be clingy... frequently I feel like she doesn't want to talk to me. How do I moderate the amount of time i talk to her? Is that an issue a lot of people have in ldr type things? I don't want to be clingy...

Are women more emotionally invested in a relationship? I keep hearing this but don't think it is true. Can anybidy give me the redpill on this

I once asked a friend out for ice cream with me in the week. She said yes first, then some days before "no I cant im busy" so we didn't go.
Anyway, is there a chance she took it as a platonic friends thing or does asking her out to have ice cream with me alone automatically imply I like her? I mean I do like her but I never flirt with her or anything, and I mostly just asked her because I was feeling like shit back then and thought she'd be available to hang out with.

How do girls feel about guys watching porn? If they were your boyfriend would you want them to stop? (reposted from last thread)

How many of you guys have friends that are girls where...
You don't want to date or fuck her, she's not taken, and she's not a family member?

More of a poll than a question, but I'm curious!

>>18500569
I have never been in a LDR myself and with this info it's hard to say whether she is actually being distant or doesn't really know what to tell you/is wrapped up in her surroundings. I think for a part you just need to accept that you don't know what she's doing there, how often she's thinking about you... embrace that it's out of your hands and you will have to see for sure where things are when you can see each other again.

As for the rest, I would try to limit yourself to moments where you cannot just speak to her but have a lot to tell her. Get the most out of the contact you do have. Also trust that as an adult, she can tell you when she wants to do something else. If you feel insecure, lightly ask her if you're keeping her from anything/if now's a good time to talk. If she says it's fine, run with it. If she feels even remotely suffocated by you then feeling your insecurity will only make it worse. Best of luck.

>>18500570
I don't think so. In my opinion this is just a cultural trope based on stuff like men talking less openly about their relationship woes/experiencing more pressure to act above those things.

>>18500570
From what I've heard, it's the opposite. Men are more likely to feel "in love" much earlier than women. After a certain amount of time, it probably evens out and either gender is capable of the same amount more or less.

>>18500570
Nothing's gendered, look at the first post. Some dudes fall hard, some girls fall hard. It all depends on the person.

>>18500578
Depends on the porn. Is it like some illegal shit or some vanilla normie shit? And, I'm biased because I like porn myself, so, I'd watch it with my BF.

>>18500579
I actually have a lot. Most are just casual aquantainces and friends of friends though.

>>18500571
It doesn't automatically imply it but chances are it did cross her mind, because it's a kind of romantically tinged thing to do. Which doesn't have to mean anything but how much she reads into it will depend on her personality, how steady you are as friends, how eager she is to believe that you specifically like her, and so on.

She won't know for sure, at least.

>>18500578
If it's "healthy use" (he jerks off because he feels like jerking off, not because he's bored, lonely, frustrated etc; it is an addition to our sex life and not competition; he doesn't obnoxiously browse graphic stuff while watching a movie with me) then that's hot. So no, would not want him to stop, just to have a relaxed attitude towards it. Masturbation is a big turn on for me and a normal interest in porn is just a sign of being sexual and having needs, liking to see stuff that feeds into that.

>>18500579
Well I think there's only one girl that fits that description but I haven't seen her in a long while now so Idk if she ever crossed from acquaintance to friend. We only used to hang out because we had mutual friends and we got along pretty well. But idk if she's my type and she was kind of overweight (I feel bad for posting this, I know I'm way way far from perfect myself).
Otherwise, yeah, I'm genuinely friends with good looking girls that I don't want to date or fuck but that's because they are taken.

>>18500580
>>18500583
>>18500585

I need actual science though

>>18500585
>Is it like some illegal shit or some vanilla normie shit?
Kind of in-between. [spoiler]Light bondage, spanking, male-domming-female, mild BDSM[/spoiler] along with normie stuff like threesomes and deepthroat

>>18500594
How do you picture that science taking place? There is no way to measure objectively how much someone loves a person. You are relying on self-report and that means that your data is skewed by how dramatic your respondents are, how much they value love, what image they like to maintain of themselves etc.

"Actual science" is not a thing when it comes to questions like these.

>>18500594
Here's an article about the men falling easier thing. Not so scholarly but gets the idea across

https://broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/a3wekz/why-men-fall-in-love-faster-than-women

>>18500590
Thanks. I guess that works for me.
Would you say it's bad if I properly do ask her friend out on a date? Idk if they tell each other this stuff but I'm worried about suddenly looking like a guy who just goes around asking every girl he knows on a date.

>>18500588
So you would you hang out with them one on one?

>>18500594
There is no "actual science" familia. How would it even be conducted? Even if a poll was used, you have to realize that's there's BILLIONS of people on this Earth. How can a poll even account for all of us?

>>18500599
Oh, then it really depends on the girl. Some girls are prudish about sex, some girls might be turned off by your choice in porn, some girls would be like, "Yes~ Fucking jerk off right in front of me~" Also, how often do you do fap?

>>18500608
>>18500601
>>18500600

What's up with the hormone oxytocin then? Someone I knew said women release and have more of this hormone in a relationship? I read the wiki and was convinced, hence my question

>>18500608
>Also, how often do you do fap?
1-2 times every day

How do I deal with older women who want commitment?

I've (24M) have been seeing a 26F. We're both in dental school and I'm a year ahead of her. She's not wanting kids or marriage now, but wants it as soon as she graduates. She also wants me to move back to her home state after she graduates and is adamant about it despite me having various successful business ventures here. We get along well and the sex is great, but we do have different ideas on raising kids and views on religion. Do I even try to convince her to stay? Should I leave with her? Or should I just break it off now as to not waste her time (she feels her biologic clock is ticking)?

>>18500605
Nah, at most she'll have a suspicion that it might have turned into a date but you did not actually ask her out. Still she might not like that you are going for her friend, but that's not because you should've done anything differently.

>>18500578
Eh. I don't like it, but I understand. Just hide it from me. I don't want to know.

How do I understand my bf.
So he strictly doesn't want me to live with him (we are daiting like 10 months). I never insist or ask about it but he mentioned it. His friends calls me to spend events with them and him but he prevents it, he never says that he loves me, never discuss the future with me. He once jokingly mentioned why won't I find a husband and make 6 children with him? And we started sarcastic dialog as always. Not that I don't like it but I never know his real intentions. He never was in my place and never wanted to, I always come to his place (we both rent rooms).

However! He cares about me a lot, about what I eat or do, we eat lunch together almost everyday. Recently he made me a surprise dinner with candles and sushi and on the background he used my playlist. Sometimes when he feels like it he pays for my food. Sometimes when he feels like it he buys me things like cosmetics, lingerie, books or games.

By his actions I can say that he loves me and also he has too practical mind and I don't know if he plans to make a future together or not and I don't want to ask him because he will say things like 'Don't think about what hasn't happened yet' and such.

>>18500619
I see, thanks!

I've been talking online with a girl for a while. I think there's some sort of mutual interest, and we've decided to meet in person once we are able to (I'm traveling to study in her country next month).

Thing is, today I opened up about a family issue which is really personal for me, and it all got kind of melodramatic. She said it's ok and "friends are there to listen to eachother".

So is this a sign that I have zero chance? Opening up to someone is a turn-off?

I think my bf's friend has been flirting with me. I told my boyfriend and he got PISSED and wants to confront him. I am afraid I might be reading into things and don't want to break up a friendship longer than our relationship. What is the best way to handle this situation, just say "not cool" if it happens again or what? He's an awkward guy and just might not have good boundaries or something. He's invited on a group trip coming up and I don't want to ruin it.

>>18500610
Oxytocin is linked to feelings of love and notably plays a big part in parent-child bonding (and, for women, nursing). But it's far from the complete story about love - which isn't just about affection but also about lust, fascination etc - and even then it is possible for a person to love another person a whole fucking lot, but to still care not as much as you might expect about the relationship ending because they are very independent and confident in their ability to feel such love for someone else, because they cherish the good they had etc. How much you love someone (in itself impossible to define in scientific terms) isn't something you can 1:1 translate to how invested they are in the relationship.

>>18500610
Ohhh, well, >>18500601 brings up interesting theory, but again, no way to know. I know women release more oxytocin when they orgasm compared to men, but does that mean that women like sex more than men...?

>>18500614
Dude, that's normal. Again, if you find a chick and she's uncomfortable with it, she might just not be the right one. Unless YOU feel weird about fapping so often or to that particular kind of porn, there's not real reason to stop what you like to do.

>>18500624
Depends on the girl. Some girls don't want to have to deal with the drama that family drama brings, some girls can deal with it.
There's nothing wrong with opening up, it's important to do that for a healthy relationship. If they can't handle it... Well, you either swallow all of your stress or move on to someone who is willing to help you out in your time of need.

>>18500580
Thanks, that's the answer I needed I guess. Sounds like patience and trust is the way to go. I do trust her and I'll just have to work on not suffocating her, maybe spend time on my own life instead of obsessing.

We actually did briefly talk about how we were feeling about the distance a couple days ago. Long story short, she said she was feeling guilty about her depression making mine worse, and I suppose she was wanting to keep some distance because of that. We cleared it up, although I couldn't help feeling like there was more to it. I'll take your advice and just ease up on the messaging until she decides she wants to share time talking again. Odds are I'm blowing it out of proportion...

>>18500632
Women get more attached after they orgasm.

>>18500632
Sex is probably more important to women when it comes to furthering emotional bonding, yeah. They get attached at that point

>>18500623
No problem, hope she says yes!

>>18500624
Ehh. Not a great sign. It doesn't have to mean that much but tread carefully. It's not so much that opening up to someone is a turn off as that this kind of personal venting is not something that is typically done when you are in the early stages of building a romantic connection. You essentially put her in the position to offer you a shoulder to cry on and mental support and especially from a woman to a man, that's something done much more often among friends than between budding lovers. Once the relationship is steady, sure. But in the early stages when everyone is on their best behavior, not so much.

Don't convince yourself that it's all doomed now. People aren't 100% logical and typically don't weigh every word. I know I had a friend I crushed on badly and I called him bro, best friend etc all the time. You never know for sure but the sign in itself is not promising.

Still if you have not met each other it's different. If you have inane chemistry in real life then you bet that can change up the dynamic fast so don't despair.

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>>18500640
Then I must be an alien because that shit doesn't work for me. I need someone I can love, not just someone who has a good stroke game.

>>18500629
It's interesting because adults form bonds with their partner in the same way a child bonds with their mother. People come to rely on their S.O. as a source of comfort and protection which they can grow off of, which is the idea between parent child bonding too.

>>18500646
That's not to say the ONLY way to bond with someone is to have sex/orgasm...
Every girl is different, and to say love is formed solely off of sex is just obviously wrong...

>>18500635
Just make sure that while you ease up the messaging, you still convey enough affection and enthusiasm that she cannot mistake it for YOU distancing yourself.

It sounds like she's in a rough place in general and it could very well help for her to be apart for a bit. Either way there is very little you can do when you're so far away - other than make it obvious that whenever she needs you, to let you know so you can talk. It is hard enough to coax an unwilling person into opening up when you're physically in the same space.

It is not even that much about trusting her - you can trust someone and still be afraid to lose them. It's just that you will go insane if you don't find a way for yourself to sort of bracket it for now, do your best but realize that your options are limited. And indeed go out and enjoy stuff for yourself. It will give her an implicit understanding that you don't waste away missing her at home (much more attractive), it will provide you distraction and more fun out of your summer.

>>18500649
Kind of, though in a healthy relationship there's much more flexibility in regards to who takes charge and pulls most of the weight. As opposed to the rigid parent-child bond where there's much more firmly designated roles.

In general though there's much more similarities between romantic love and other kinds of love than usually acknowledged. The very fact that people sometimes wonder whether love is "real" is quite telling for that...

>>18500632
>>18500644
thanks for the answers. I guess I'm better off not worrying so much about the texting and we'll just see when we meet in person.

>>18500663
That's also true, adults have a lot more going on in their lives and therefore have to balance that around their romantic lives. It's much more dynamic being an adult than being a baby lol

>>18500654
I know, I know~ I just don't want that to happen to me when I get into a relationship.

>>18500663
Honestly, to me, what makes romantic love so special is that it's a weird mixture of all of the different kinds of love and carnal desire. ^^

>>18500668
The other poster said a lot of what I thought about after I posted, but I hope I helped in some way? ;~;

>>18500680
You're totally right, love is a lot of fun. It's so interesting finding out what makes someone unique and finding out so many different reasons to love them!

What does it mean when a guy says he wnts to be friends after getting romanically involved? Is this a fwb situation or did he have feelings then changed his mind?

>>18500698
Well, did you fuck him? Because if he says to slow it down but still wants to fuck you...

FwB~ <3

>>18500698
Changed his mind most likely. I've had women say this to me before and it usually means 'see ya later.'

Girls,

Should I be ashamed for being a male and having a penis?

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>>18500658
Lucklily I think she feels the same way as I do. She's definitely in a tough spot, as am I, but I think we can handle it. She's actually expressed a lot of the things you're saying, like the general difficulty of supporting each other from so far away, which does make me more confident in wanting to believe it.

I think giving her space to think will be the best way to proceed. Looking at it from this perspective she clearly won't lose interest in me like my insecure mind wants to believe she will. And we usually think and feel identically in all sorts of good and bad situations, this is certainly no exception. We can both be a wreck sometimes. Thanks for the reassuring advice!

>>18500705
No, stop trying to bait.

>>18500705
Never. That's ridiculous. Even apart from the premise (like something's wrong with half of mankind...) there is no point at all in feeling shame over things out of your control.

without directly bringing it up of course, what are some signs that a current relationship might be heading in a more committed/serious type? ive been getting tons of mixed signals but have been spending some great time with this girl im dating, having some great sex, speaking our minds and really enjoying each others company. its been about 4 months and she wanted to keep things a bit more relaxed and casual at first but just doesn't want to get burned as she told me.

How can I find out if a girl has never done anything sexual without being too weird?

>>18500700
Fingering/cuddling multiple times if that counts. Idk if he like a fwb type

>>18500718
Ask her friends directly. They will give you the information and keep it on the DL.

>>18500707
You're welcome man. The tricky part of life is that you never have that full view when you're wrapped up in the present. There is no way to know right now whether this is a tiny wave in your relationship you will have forgotten in no time, or something leading to worse. All you can do is keep your best faith and within reason let her know that you're there for her if she wants to, and are thinking of her without being utterly dependent on her responding to you.

It sounds like you have a solid fundament so cheers to that, I hope you have a good summer anyway!

>>18500724
Could work, but isn't there a good chance they'd lie for their friend's sake?

>>18500718
You can always try and steer the conversation to a sexual topic and she how she reacts/what she says, blah blah blah.

>>18500720
Girl, you'll never know.
He might've changed his mind, so just be cool and see what happens would be my advice. Oh, and avoid fucking him because if he isn't gonna date you (something you want, I presume), why should he be allowed to fuck you?

>>18500718
If you only care whether she's had sex (penetration) that's not too hard. Just ask for her relationships and if she ever dated someone, assume she had sex. If not, ask her if she enjoys flings/more light-hearted stuff. (Call it that. Not one night stands, not casual stuff.)

If you want to know whether she ever gave a blowjob/handjob, that's pretty much impossible unless you're already dating. Of course you can ask upfront but most women would be put off by that, I'd wager the more conservative they are sexually the less they appreciate that kind of probing as it's graphic and very personal to ask.

Don't agree with >>18500724 necessarily. This might be true for some social circles but no fucking way that I or my friends would give more details than whether or not that person has some dating experience.

>>18500730
I have feelings for him too. It sucks. I should just ghost him I think

>>18500732
I've had sucess by bringing up that I've never done anything and hopefully they respond with their own experience, I'm not sure if it's ideal though.

>>18500741
It's up to you. He may still like you but be very unsure of his feelings for you OR your feelings for him. But if you feel it's not going anywhere, then maybe it would be good to leave him.

>>18500742
That should work. Best of luck, familia.

>>18500725
Thanks again, all the best to you too!

>>18500742
Thing is that yeah, there's a chance that they are in the same boat and say that they, too, are very inexperienced. But then you still don't know whether they never did anything at all or just deem themselves as inexperienced. Same for calling themselves virgins - do they count oral? And if you want to specify then you get in the territory of asking crude questions again.

Something else to keep in mind is that there's only so many questions you can ask/statements you can make pertaining to this topic before it becomes weird because you seem very invested in their sexual history. So if you already said that you are a virgin etc and they have not given a conclusive answer, it's hard to come with another move.

Also for what it's worth, I take it that you are looking for someone who is as inexperienced as you are or at least as inexperienced as possible. I was a relatively old (21) virgin and still only did oral and other sex acts, not actual penetration. Not just based on my opinion but also those of other inexperienced women I've known and heard from online, no woman wants to be picked because of something like this. Basically don't make the mistake of thinking that she will like it just because she fits your preference.

>>18500752
It's not really that I want a virgin. It's more that I can't stand the idea of her having been intimate with others... so the longer I don't know the more neurotic I am until I lose it. I've met virgins I didn't like, it's just a dealbreaker like any other.

To girls, is it okay that I have my foreskin? Or should I get it chopped off ASAP?

>>18500763
>It's not really that I want a virgin. It's more that I can't stand the idea of her having been intimate with others
...so you do want a virgin?

Look man, I get that it's your dealbreaker but there's a difference between having a dealbreaker that still leaves you a big dating pool (like not wanting to date anyone chubby/fat), or one that leaves you with a very small dating pool. I don't know how old you are, it'll be different if you're still seventeen or something. But if you're in your early twenties, looking for a girl who's cute, sweet, smart, not significantly younger than you are, and completely inexperienced sexually... yeah that leaves you VERY few choices.

Also whether or not someone has done sexual stuff is in part related to their personality and values, sure. But many people do not see it as a defining aspect (I know I never did). They want to be liked by a guy because of their heart, their presence, the way they make him feel. Not because of something they have never done. It feels incredibly impersonal in comparison. And again it would be different if you still had lots to pick within this criterium, but that's not really the case.

>>18500769
Eurofag here, thank whatever lord you believe in that you were not mutilated. Don't let anyone tell you that there's anything wrong with the natural way the human body is laid out. Your foreskin keeps your head soft and moist and provides additional sensations. Treasure it and find a woman who treasures it in turn.

Circumcision is genital mutilation.

>>18500769
I personally like it, but some girls don't. Just make sure you keep yourself clean and smelling nice down there (from what I heard, uncut dudes tend to have funkier dicks because of the extra skin)

>>18500763
Well then, you'll never know. Some girls only do oral and will never tell you. Some girls broke their hymen without have sex. You'll NEVER truly know a girl's sexual history and to cut out anyone who has will leave a bad taste in their mouth, even if she's never even kissed anyone. Trust me.

>>18500769
The best mohels are in NYC.

Go.

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>>18500548
WOMEN:
Why is that you are far more likely to cheat on men, are incredibley terrible people and are very bitchy and mean when a none 8/10 Chad dares to approach you even if you yourself are sup 7?

What makes it ok to think that you are alone, when you reject everyone who is not next to perfect? Why are you such insane bitches to each other?

And lastly why are you all shallow, terrible, bitchy ""People"" who take all your anger out on men and each other, why is it that you lack empathy?

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I abandoned a girl that loved me. We were on a break of sorts, it didn't seem like it was do to how we felt for one another - but more that we were 2 independent adults in different cities trying to get by in life. She proposed the idea and told me not to blame myself for any of it (I did extremely) because it wasn't anything I did and she needed time to stabilize.

Within 6 months I've ghosted her and more or less begun a new life. I've been depressed about it for about a year now but I live in a beautiful place on earth and have been getting more in tune with nature, myself, and my path (without her). Before I ghosted her she said she loved me and I just sent a heart back because I couldnt bring myself to express those feelings when I knew they'd make it harder.

Sometimes I wonder if she misses me, but my conclusion is usually that she doesn't or she would have tried to reach me out by email or ring my phone. I'm not interested in other relationships for many reasons, but I've started to ask myself when the day will come that I let go of what happened. It doesn't make sense to hold onto it, the feelings hurt more than they help really. But at the same time I feel its part of what made me who I am today and hold onto what I had good or bad.

What seems like the healthiest path to take?

>>18500732
SHUT UP YOU DUMB SLUT HE DIDN'T ASK FOR YOUR ADVICE I BET YOU LOVE FUCKING CHAD'S BUT WOULD BE SICK IF A NONE 6FT/7INCH/8 out of 10 FACED GUY DARED TO APPROACH YOU

>>18500773
I just turned 21, and I'm just saying that I don't fetishize it. I want a girl I relate to and enjoy being with, but the disgust I get from thinking about her with others is just way too much to deal with, I seriously cannot.

>>18500793
Call her

>>18500793
Simple. If you feel better without her, leave her. If you truly feel like you want to be with her, keep on trucking along in trying to get with her. I know it's harder to actually like... make a decision, but those are you're best options.

Sometimes people just... grow apart due to life. You either reach out or move on. I pick move on, but it's ultimately your call.

>>18500793
She never loved you anon.
Females are incapable of such emotion otherwise they wouldn't cheat and I would have a nice gf

>>18500805
I feel like it would be mind games at this point.

I wouldn't know what to say either. Life is better for me overall and I'm not sure that it is for her so it wouldn't be very humble if I rub it in.

>>18500813
>hates women
>women being miserable cunts is why they don't like me, not because I despise them

Okay.

>>18500769
Any girl that turns you down for not mutilating yourself is prolly not worth being with thb senpai.

>>18500815
Then don't play mind games.
Call her and be straightforward.
You'll get your answer and stop wondering.

>>18500816
I don't hate them I hate their "nature"

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I can't hold all these pieces of resentment I have been building throughout my last relationship. I don't want to describe everything as if the only person who was right is me. Now I fear to develop intimate relationship because I do strongly believe that sooner or later a potential romantic partner will see my flaws which is not being reliable, being infantile. I lie in any kind of relationships, be it romantic or friendly, I avoid confrontation, I avoid any contact at all costs as soon as everything is established, I avoid responsibility. I do believe that everyone will see my insecurity about not being "man" enough. I see something insanely attractive in experienced women who, instead, need a man, not boy. And most funny thing that I can't simply handle them.

How? How do I stop feeling resentment? How do I stop clinging onto my old, failed relationships? I have given no attention to my partner while in relationship, now I creepily chase those who abandoned me, already. I feel that I act against any rationality.

Guys, how do I get my boyfriend to fool around with me?
He is saving himself for marriage but we still do oral and things like that. However he doesn't initiate physical acts and when I'm in the mood I either have to blow him or tease him (kiss his neck etc) until he looses his self control. He says he doesn't mind me doing these things and that he likes it, but the fact that he doesn't initiate anything makes me feel insecure and undesirable.

>>18500886
Filthy subhuman you want to rape your Chad boyfriend because he has the decency to not want to fuck you.

You are despicable, and lack all empathy, I truly hate you.

>>18500886
>Guys, how do I get my boyfriend to fool around with me?
Try asking him to marry you.

>>18500868
You sound like you want someone who is experienced and will help you grow past this, no? Do you want to change yourself?
Do you want to grow into a better person who can handle confrontations and honest with themselves or do you want someone to coddle the current you?

>>18500886
hes afraid to give you this power and insecurity will not help you if you want to obtain it over him. Hes virgin so hes going to dry hump you and apply way too much pressure to your girl parts anyway so Im not sure why ur in such a rush.

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>>18500569
Csgo. Rank up bitch.

>>18500571
Try again and this time use word DATE.

>>18500618
Whatever you do, DO NOT MARRY / HAVE KIDS UNTIL YOU LIVE TOGETHER FOR 1+ YEAR.
Also if you love each other, finding compromises should be easy.

>>18500622
Assert your dominance. Make a date and on it tell him that you decided it is high time to move together. Dont allow him to dodge question. Some boys never make decisions until forced to. Force him to accept you as his wife in training.

You have nothing to lose by pushing him a bit. Say him you love him and that you selfishly decided you want to live with him. Good luck! Make him to give you copy of his key appartment.
>make a date in a place with shop with keys so you can make a copy once there
Be bold!

>>18500624
>different country
I see you love to complicate your own life anon. You really couldnt pick girl from your location, could you?

Yes, you still have a chance.

>>18500628
>if you cant controll your anger and listen to me once about not fighting your best friend, you cant be my bf anymore!
Should do the trick. Also what have you been thinking when you told him? Do you even think before you speak?

>>18500698
He probably doesnt want to have sex nor relationship with you anymore. Are you starfish in bed?

>>18500715
Try asking again. Question doesnt make sence. Are you 16?
>ask her, not us

>>18500769
Superior bait 10/10.

>>18500791
Very shit bait 2/10.

>>18500793
Shevis an ex for reason anon. Forget about her.
>You will walk away from her when she has violated your integrity, and you will let her walk when her heart is closed to you. She who can destroy you, controls you. Don’t give her that power over yourself. Love yourself before you love her.

>>18500886
Literally invite him to private place, grab him by dick, push him to bed and tell him you cant marry before you try the goods. Let him lay there for a minute, then whip out condoms and rape him.
>you cant rape the willing
Be gentle.

>>18500910
I don't want to have sex with him. I just don't want to be the one to initiate the other activities.

girls: how are you so cute wtf

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>>18500960

>>18500934
>You have nothing to lose
Other than her boyfriend.

Girls: would you like to know if the guy you're about to bang is small?

Like, would it be a good idea to just say something real quick to help manage your expectations?

>>18500990
No, I'd rather he seemed confident about it.
Also you should always start sex with cunnilingus. Regardless of your size.

>>18500960
I am super cute.
But nobody loves me.

Boys

Why are you so retarded?

>>18500791
Why do men say they love me then break up with me like a day later?
Why am I never 'the one'?

>>18501002
Same reason girls are retarded.

>>18501002
I don't always think through, I try but sometimes I just rely on pure instinct and instantly regret what I say or did. It's really annoying desu.

>>18501004
Cuz you ugly

>>18501002
I'm more intelligent than anyone ITT. What are you saying? How am I retarded?

>>18501000
Prove it.

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>>18500989
If you think asking your significant other to move within you after several months of dating is bad move, then you have very low faith in relationships generally.

He can just refuse and keep dating her. And if he truly loves her and want to be with her, he has 0 reasons to deny her. He probably just need impulse to action.
>or she is wasting her time with him

>>18501002
Pic related. The source of our suffering and stupidity.

>>18501016
lol im smarter then you

>>18501009
No I'm not.

>>18501002
The smart ones don't reproduce.

>>18501027
Your writing surely proves that, doesn't it?

>>18501030
This is true. I won't reproduce.

>>18500990
No. I'm not banging someone because I think they have a big dick. Mentioning it beforehand would just startle me and put me on the spot to come up with something reassuring but not patronizing. It's not a priority to me anyway, all the more if it's a casual thing.

>>18501019
There's a bit of a step between asking someone and telling them to do it and arranging a date in a place to get it done beforehand. Namely, the former doesn't give off "holy shit this bitch is going to kill my pet out of jealousy one day" vibes.

>>18501035
yep it does fag. gald you noticed

>>18501027
Well I'm more smarter and I'm a boy.

>>18501044
nah im smarter and im more of a boy than you

>>18501041
Thanks for making a fool of yourself.

>>18501029
then yer shite in sack

>>18501052
lmao dude you dont even know that I just won

[spoiler]You easily baited, pompous retard.[/spoiler]

>>18501000
London?

>>18501061
>i was jus pretending lol :^)

>>18501040
Do you think he would run? I doubt it. All she probably has to do is smile while saying that. But then again the decision is on that femanon and girls are scared of being direct. So she will probably patiently wait for him to do some action which may never come in the first place.

>>18500934
I was actually star fishing the last time...shit.

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how common is bleeding during sex for girls

when i fuck my gf in this position (pic related), she sometimes pulls my head down for kisses. if i try to continue thrusting while my head is down and her legs are pulled more forward than pic related, she screeches and i pull my dick out and theres blood and she leaks blood for several days. not as significant as if it was her period but its still rather bad.

is this something girls just deal with because im googling and it sounds like symptoms of other things but shes writing it off as if its normal...

>>18501080
I was actually. But i'm sure a genius like you saw through me instantly right? What's your IQ man?

>>18501086
GO SEE A DOCTOR. if she was on her period then it might be okay, but stiiiiiil anon

>>18501083
Heh. I wouldnt leave my gf for being starfish. Not unless i tried to treat her condition first and she refused treatment.

And if that was the real reason he gives you cold shoulder, he probably isnt worth your time in the first place.

>>18501086
Isnt your dick too long? Hitting cervix? Maybe you shouldnt do certain positions at all. And vaginas love to bleed for no reason all the time. Still doesnt sound normal at all.

Has she ever been to gyno?

>>18501086

I sometimes bleed after sex if it's been longer than a week since the last dicking. But it happening only in very specific situations and postions does sound odd for sure, especially if the screeching happens due to pain. She should consult her gyno.

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In a LDR should you wait until you meet at least once to say "I love you?"

This would be a guy saying it to a girl.

>>18501117
Yes

>>18501082
>Do you think he would run?
No, most people base their decisions on several events. But this could be one of them.

How do I not give up on women? alternatively, how do i see myself as not worthless if everyone else thinks im worthless, effectively making me worthless?

>>18501101
>>18501112
>>18501115

i asked her about that when she was there and she said that the doctors scrape in the area that i hit so she mustve been to gynos if theyre doing that but i dont know enough about gynos to know if that means anything, but she complains that the pain is in her right lower abdomen and as far as i can tell theres nothing there for me to hit that would cause bleeding

also its not after we're done, its pretty immediate like i thrust, she says "ouch!" and then i pull out and theres fresh blood on my dick tip

she had a UTI like a few years ago and a lot of my googling has listed bleeding a symptom of that so maybe its not completely gone

>>18501117
You cant tell girl you love her first as a boy ever. You simply cant. Also
>falling for ldr scam

Use actions instead of words. Bring her flowers.

>>18501136
Are you sure that you are not poking her in the cervix? It sounds to me like the extra deep penetration means you cannot really go in balls deep unless you hit it. Normally that could cause intense pain but not bleeding, but with the UTI it's not impossible I guess that on top of hitting her cervix you are pushing the string against her vaginal walls/cervix as well.

Having said that I absolutely second going to a gyno particularly because this bleeding lasts several days. Absolutely NOT normal. As for side effects, if they mean bleeding during or because of sex they would specify. Bleeding by itself means just that, spontaneous vaginal bleeding.

>>18500622
I dunno. In my opinion both marriage and living with an S/O is a bit of a mistake. People need their own space to adapt and grow as much as they need to be loved.

>>18501148
i thought more about what she said about the doctors scraping in the same area that i hit and it sounds like i am hitting her cervix as it seems gynos do scrape on things in that area

http://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/healthlibrary/test_procedures/gynecology/cervical_biopsy_92,P07767/

it definitely seems like something that she must have known was the case, but i guess i have no right to question why she intentionally kept that to herself

>>18501086
How about you just don't do that position then?

>>18501169
I have to say many of the side effects they listed are quite rare I think, and they did mention that bleeding should be a warning sign (to contact a health professional, at least). My sister had a UTI and I know she never had any complaints. Unless it is very recent that it was inserted, it seems very unlikely to me that it's because of this, particularly if she usually never has pain but only during this specific position. It seems most logical to me that at least one of the factors is the deeper penetration. Though she still should not bleed for days on end. And from what I know pain from sex due to a UTI is more often on the male side (feeling the strings if they're left too long and/or haven't softened yet).

It's a pretty weird story but you should try to encourage her as well as you can to seek a professional opinion. Worst case scenario is she already suspects or knows something is wrong and doesn't want to find out for sure. I just cannot imagine a grown woman never realizing that this isn't normal. Women among each other typically discuss bodily inconveniences etc especially related to being a woman.

Why would a guy continue to pursue a girl with many problems when he has options and isn't desperate?

>>18501195
Boredom or saviour complex

>>18501169
bleeding from hitting the cervix is NOT normal.

Some of the more common causes of bleeding associated with intercourse are pre-cancerous changes in the cervix, cervical ectropion, and infections.

the fact that she "hid" this from you is very suspect. ive been hit in the cervix multiple times over the past 4 years and its very obvious when it happens. she very well knew what it was, and the fact that she tried to hide it gives me reason to think that something more serious may be going on.

>>18501195
Oh, and maybe low self-esteem or he thinks you're an eady target for pump n dump

>>18501211
Nope. I'm a virgin and a complete prude and told him I want a LTR before sex.

>>18501195
All women are a bundle of batshit and problems.

>>18501224
>I'm a virgin and a complete prude
Then either you are a challenge or a charity case. Or like I said, he has low self-esteem and thinks he'll never find a qt pure girl who also happens to be stable and doesn't have issues.

>>18501035
Smart. Children are a baaaaaad thing right now.

>>18500622
Don't listen to this stalker yandere bitch >>18500934
This man cares nothing for you and has no intention of building a future with you, and he is telling you that very clearly. You are just a convenient person to string along for sex/company until he finds someone else he likes better. The only reason he spends so much time "helping" you is because he thinks you'll make him look bad in front of his friends (which is probably why he is avoiding certain dates/events.) He is likely seeing other women, or trying to. Don't waste your hopes and dreams on this loser.

I'm a pathetic human being and being myself doesn't work.

I've been pretending to be someone I'm not, specially on Tinder which is easy enough, just don't mention things you don't want. It's nothing drastic, I didn't start going to the gym, parties and traveling, just forget about all the lame things I usually do.

So I'm asking the girls for how long is it likely to hide these things from you? Is it possible to date someone and keep that shit under the rug?

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is it weird for a 19 year old girl to date a dude whos going to be 29 this week? do other dudes think its creepy to date someone whos younger?
we've liked each other for 2 years and started dating last month but i still feel lowkey insecure and now i gotta ask anons for opinions

>>18501365
weird? no
unusual? yes
takes two very specific persons? yes
creepy? not really, if above is true
at the end of the day all that matters is whether you realy have the topics to talk about

>>18501365
Nah. Girls mature faster anyway.

>>18500622
>dear /adv/, I write to you, because as so many people before me I can't fucking engage in a simple conversation with the person most close to me at this point in my life
>pls help me avoid any further conversations
this happens too often here

>>18501195
because the rest of her personality/ apperance makes it worth it in his eyes?
come on, work on your self esteem

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>>18501372
Then why do guys grow on to be bigger and stronger than women?

>>18501343
no need to cover it up at all
if it comes up, just be honest and don't treat it too seriously, like "oh i used to geek out about [x] and constantly [y] but i put that behind me lol"
if you can laugh about it, that shows you've matured and that you're not afraid to talk about your mishaps and foibles
(which everybody has)

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bf says he can't come unless he bangs me at fucking lightspeed
hot in theory but in practice my vag goes numb and starts to burn within minutes, wat do

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Does a perfect girl like this exist irl?

>>18501496
lube in excessive quantities

>>18501496

Fap him instead every other time. At least give your vag breathing room.

You could also try to talk to him about how you feel. Just an idea, take it or leave it.

Is it possible to have a lasting relationship with someone whom you share little interests with? I recently went on a date with a woman who used to be very active and has little interest in all thinks geeky. I on the other hand never had any special interest in sports, but am a gigantic "geek/nerd". She is an adrenaline junkie. I'm very inhibited.


I like her because she is so passionate and ambitious. And she seems to like me because I have no intention in settling with my lot in life. But as far as personalities in things we like we couldn't be more opposite.

Does this have any chance in working? Should I give it some more time to see if I find something?

>>18501501
no
>what the fuck dude

my female friend used my computer and basically found out that i go to her facebook photos and instagram almost every night. I fap to her everyday ... is there any possible way to explain this without it being a disaster?

>>18501515

Making excuses after the fact always looks fishy. Your boat already sailed, I'm pretty sure she won't bring it up.

Just realize what you did is creepy as shit, so don't blame her for keeping her distance.

>>18501512
>I like her because she is so passionate and ambitious. And she seems to like me because I have no intention in settling with my lot in life. But as far as personalities in things we like we couldn't be more opposite.
Opposites attract, but similarity lasts. You may find the differences attractive now, but it'll probably grind down on you

How do I seem interesting? I have a date coming up with this girl, she's into me but I'm so bad at conversation. I already know the rules of thumb, no politics, nothing too controversial or depressing, etc. Beyond that I don't know what to talk to her about. I don't think I'm very funny either. Should I just talk about the future? Like my plans and stuff?

>>18501502
Trying, we already have to use a lot
>>18501507
I have spoken to him about it. He says he can't change this about himself (idek what to think about that) so i was wondering if there was anything more i could do on my end before deciding we aren't compatible

>>18501496
Tie him up. Gag him too if he's obnoxious about it.

Do unto him what you want him to learn to do unto you.

Ride him, ride him as slowly or as quickly as you want. You're in charge, and he's tied to the bed, so get exactly what you want.

Be hot about fucking him. Tell him that he's going to cum, and there's nothing he can do to stop it, because you're in control of his pleasure tonight.

Make him cum on your terms. Prove to him that he can very much cum without jackhammering you.

You'll show him that he's wrong, and he'll like it because you'll have given him a night he'll never forget.

>>18501501
Yes, but there's only one, and she's already taken by a jackass boyfriend who treats her like dirt, and you'll never find her.

>>18500548
How can I tell if my gf still has her hymen? I'm not even meaning this as a "is she a virgin hurr durr" I'm meaning this as "we're having a lot of difficulties with penetrative sex"

>>18501529
>before deciding we aren't compatible

If you mean because of the sex, then you shouldn't need to break up. You can find other ways to please each other.

If you mean because he isn't gonna even try to change things, then yeah, that does look incompatible, but just because relationships imply compromise.

The point here is not white knighting about how we would be better boyfriends. The point is, that if you hurt physically because of this, then you need to have some self respect and tell him to fucking work his shit out.

>>18501530
i'm actually very willing to try this but getting tied up is ofc one of his top 5 sexual fears, i'd have to talk him into it somehow or just scrap that part/go full khaleesi

>>18501550
ur bf sounds like a fag desu

>>18501550
That might be where the gag comes in. You won't have to hear about it until you're ready to untie him, and by then hopefully the orgasm will have knocked some sense into him.

Guys. Which would you rather hear your girlfriend say?
>I've fucked a black man in the past
>I've fucked a dog in the past

>>18501574
Both are worthy of getting instantly dropped but somehow fucking a dog is more understandable

>>18501541
thank you for your perspective, i need to think about this a lot
when i brought it up directly he said he's already had to change a lot for me...i guess there's some deeper stuff going on :(

>>18501554
>>18501563
lol

>>18501574
Honestly, as sad as it is. The dog.

>>18501574

Is that even a real question? One is a human, a person. The other an animal. It's considered a crime to fuck an animal in most places. And even if it weren't it's sketchy as fuck.

I'm replying seriously but I can't believe you'd ask this seriously. I hope this is bait.

>>18501578
>.i guess there's some deeper stuff going on :(

Yeah, 100%. Good luck.

I was staffing an event. Got into a uber with a girl (stranger) had akward silence, didn't know what to talk about. Convo kept drying up really quick. Help

You niggas didn't lie about breathing orgasms btw. Shit was fucking insane, I can still feel it slightly 2 min after load. God damn.

>>18501591
huh?

>>18501591
what is a breathing orgasm ?

>>18501588
Assuming it's evening:
> Wow, this city sure comes alive when the sun goes down.
Set yourself up for drinks, anon.

>>18501578
The need for speed is performance anxiety.
The fear of being tied up is a control issue.
The two are probably related: he has some anxiety about his dominance/masculinity.
He'll be a better boyfriend and more fun in bed if you can get him to confront his anxieties in a way that shows him both how worthy you are of his trust and how much he pleases you even when he's not in control. Show him that he's man enough for you even without putting on a show, and that you're a better gf than he dared imagine.

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>>18501617

or if she pegs the shit out of him

Guys and girls,

I'm 23 year old average weight male. For the past week I am binge eating restaurant food multiple times a day and vomiting it out forcefully. Wtf am I doing? Is my head messed up?

>>18501617
lol

What do I do about a friend who is 25 and trying to hit up high school girls on tinder? Some are 18, others are 17. I told him to stay away but he's told me he's not doing anything sexual with underage ones

Even the 18 year olds bother me because he graduated 8 years ago and is still dating someone in high school

>>18501626
What's going through your mind before and during inducing vomiting?

>>18501617
>a better gf than he dared imagine
>>18501624
>she pegs the shit out of him

I don't see anything contradictory here.

>>18501649
why do you care?

ok females, I'm confused. I've been talking to this girl for about 3 weeks now. we have gotten together 1 time within that 3 weeks. Now I genuinely like this girl and don't want to fuck it up and am confused as how to proceed.

I've shown interest enough that she knows I'm interested in her and not just some fucboi. She txts me first every day however everytime I make plans to take her out or do something with her she seems to cancel it last minute.

>>18501695
>I make plans to take her out or do something with her she seems to cancel it last minute.

She is not into you. She wants someone to text, and she likes doing that with you. She just doesn't wanna go to Bone Town with you.

Guys: how does a vagina taste like, usually?
I'm a girl and i'm asking for a specific reason so don't be rude pls

>>18501711
Well I'm not a dude and I've only ever tasted my own puss, but I do know that everybody tastes different. Personally I taste like salty mayonnaise. I asked my guy if he liked ranch and he gave the thumbs up, so that was good enough for me

>>18501711
Each one tastes a bit different. My first one reminded me of oranges. My current gf tastes a bit more solid, but with a splash of vinegar.

All of them taste like heaven on earth.

>>18501526
Demonstrate value. Nobody's completely worthless so show her what makes you special. Perhaps you were really into a sport as highschool, you're an avid movie watcher, or you've traveled across tons of states. If she doesnt like your value, find someone who does.

>>18501574
I know its completely uncalled for and I swear I have nothing against them but I'd rather [spoiler]the dog[/spoiler].

>>18501588
Stranger? dont bother, you probably wont see her anymore.

>>18501591
youre welcome

>>18501649
you jelly anon?

>>18501695
congrats on being the gay best friend

>>18501711
why dont you just try it yourself?

>>18501617
i had my suspicions about a lot of this, thank you so much for your advice
>>18501624
>>18501671
i've actually pegged before but i already know he won't go for it lol, that's ok with me though

>>18500906
Yes, I think. I knew a girl who slept with much older men and was very mature, mature beyond her years. Now I am simply chasing her being pathetic at the insane extent. I just can't cut off the contact.

>>18501817
I tried and I found out that it has a weird taste. My former bf said it had a particular flavour but still tasted good or some shit like that.
I'm asking because i'm geniuinely curious about it. Also because I'm kinda insecure about it

>>18501922
>Also because I'm kinda insecure about it
As the girl with the ranch vagina, I can tell you you are anything but alone.

>>18501922
everyone has a weird taste. better unique than "hey, you taste like my hot ex".

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>>18501721
Quality shit post. I lol'd

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>>18501953
>tfw it wasn't a shitpost

What does it mean if a girl continues to invite you to hangout with her alone, even when she is already in a relationship with some?

>>18501649
If they legal, then they legal. Who gives a fuck.
If they aren't (which if you're in the US, most states have the age of consent lower than 18) then all you can do is call the cops on him and try and get his life ruined I guess because even if he isn't banging them he could be considered "grooming" them, or if there's any sort of sexually suggestive message in their conversations that can still get him fucked a little.

>>18501971
you know exactly what it means anon. Now go do your homework.

>>18501971
Nothing.

>>18501626
Aye, welcome to the proana club. Well, I guess it's the probulimia club.

Give tips plz, I've been trying to figure out how to force myself to vomit forever.
I swear to god I can get my whole goddamn fist down my throat without even getting some spit up. Tried the toothbrush trick, tried the salt water trick, tried watching other people throw up/gross videos, nothin.
I'm about to try and see if I can get some of that ipecac syrup online anywhere since you can't buy it over the counter anymore.
Fuckers, if I wanna throw up let me buy this shit, fuck your moral legality shit.

>>18501626
Sounds like bulimia. Please see a doctor.

>>18500588
Several.

>>18501574
[spoiler]The dog[/spoiler]

>>18501574
I've indirectly touched a black dick and had the family dog eat me out so I don't even know what levels of degenerate I'm on

My boyfriend is on vacation without me and going to clubs. How likely is it that he's cheating on me?

>>18502091
If you think he's the type of person to cheat on you, why are you with him in the first place?

>>18502095
What else do people go to clubs for then?

>>18502096
It's best not to assume anything when it comes to relationships. Jumping to the worst conclusions may occasionally lead to you uncovering shit, but usually it just makes you crazy and effectively kills intimacy. People can enjoy clubs for reasons beyond the ones you assume. Alcohol, enjoying music, dancing, feeling compelled to do something that society says is cool and fun? Who's he on vacation with?

>>18502098
A group of men who he knows from parties. He used to do lots of drugs and whatever with them. He says he doesn't drink alcohol nowadays anymore.

>>18502098
Also he didn't tell me he went to a club, I found out because other people in his group posted about it.

>>18502100
You could ask him what he likes to do at clubs instead of assuming he's going to fuck chicks. Maybe he's just going with his friends because that's what they want to do. Maybe he likes the music and the setting, without wanting to participate in scoring a chick. Lots of possibilites

>>18502102
How did you come across the posts?

>>18502108
They checked in at the club on Facebook at 2 AM, it just popped on my newsfeed.

He says he likes the music, but I know what he used to do in there and he told me once that I shouldn't freak out if photos surface of him doing degenerate things in a club and should first find out when that photo was taken.

>>18502096
To dance (usually this is women though)
Or to drink with friends.
Clubs and bars are the same thing really.

Hell, give him the benefit of the doubt if you have any strand of trust for him and your relationship and assume he's at worst playing wingman for his buddy coaching him on how to get laid.

I mean, ffs I let my bf go to the strip club for his friends bachelor party because I'm secure enough in our relationship to know he's not gonna fuck some floozy on a whim.

>>18502116
>I know what he used to do in there
Well if he says he doesn't do that anymore, why not trust him? You guys are in a relationship. People often have this fear that they'll look like an idiot if their partner is cheating on them, but I would argue that the smart thing to do is have a relationship with someone where you trust what they say. Otherwise, why date them in the first place if there's no trust?

>>18502120
He says he doesn't drink anymore, he says he literally just goes for the music. I haven't spoken to him yet, because he's still asleep.

I let him go to the red light district in Amsterdam and I was less worried about that than this. He wouldn't even sleep with a hooker or stripper if he was single, random girls though...

Trying for this girl I know, and my male friends and female friends are giving me different advice. Who do I listen to?

>>18501582
Unfortunately, as much as I want to hope most of the people saying otherwise are just trolling, I think it's true.

I'm not OP, but I know this really amazing black guy, who I love very much. He loves me, but I keep mentally blocking any sort of romantic feeling I have for him just because I know I'm too weak to handle the stigma. It's sad and pathetic and I should know better, but I just wouldn't be able to handle all that comes with being in an interracial relationship like that.

>>18502129
To your own conscience. At the end of the day, only you know what you really want to say and do.

>>18502129
>Who do I listen to?
It's cheesy af, but you.

>>18501962
Well then
>I asked my guy if he liked ranch and he gave the thumbs up, so that was good enough for me
is a quality way of phrasing that and I laughed my ass off. Saving this post

>>18502132
Are you comfortable being that way, or do you want to be the kind of person who can stand up to social stigma in pursuit of their happiness?

>>18502133
>>18502137
But I'm an impulsive fuck who is prone to fucking up

>>18502127
We have always have unprotected sex, so I am more careful for that reason.
It takes a lot of trust to be in a long distance relationship with the person living in a different country, and going on trips without you, going to clubs in foreign countries. Especially because he didn't notify me of it himself that he went to a club, makes me feel uncomfortable, as if he was hiding something. He went to a club few days ago too, but at least then he told me about it himself.

>>18502128
If you cannot trust him not to stick his dick in every girl he sees, then I'm sorry you need to dump him and work out your issues.
Relationships are built on trust, if you have none, you're fucked.

>>18502139
Idk, the emotions are so conflicting and whirled around its hard to say what exactly I feel.

But I suppose I'd say I'm "comfortable" being that way, since it's more that I just simply do not have the courage to stand up for what I would believe in or like.
I'm a very weak person, I do not like to fight or argue. I'd rather sit down and shut up than cause a scene or stir up shit.

>>18502144
It's not even that I have those suspicions about him personally. If it's about him as a person I think he would NEVER cheat or anything like that EVER.

The problem is that this idea is probably naive. Thinking your boyfriend is different than other men is probably stupid. I btw don't just care about him fucking someone else, I count kissing and overt flirting as cheating too.

>>18502140
Put more trust in yourself. You'll either surprise yourself, or you'll get better with practice.

>>18502142
Maybe going to the club was a last minute decision and he didn't want to text you late at night to wake you up? Again, don't assume, I'm just suggesting a possibility that isn't worst case scenario. You can definitely talk to him about your boundaries though. I've been in a long distance relationship for over 5 years now, so I know that sometimes those paranoid thoughts can creep up. You just have to keep in mind the feelings you have for each other, and respect/trust your partner enough to bring up any issues they have with your relationship rather than search for what's missing from their relationship in some other chick's vagina

>>18502149
If you cannot trust him not to cheat then, whatever the fuck you define as cheating, then you shouldn't be with him.
If you really trust him, you;d be able to sleep easy right now. You don't though, so that's not a good sign for the future of your relationship. But given what else I've read from you, I've need a number of red flags that tell me you two aren't gonna work out in the long run.

>>18502140
Who isnt prone to fucking up? Make your own decisions

>>18502150
He texted me at 3 AM after he got back to tell me that he loves me and that he wants to make me happy. So he did text me, but just didn't tell me about it. He knows my boundaries and he knows I feel iffy about him going to clubs. He speaks about them in dual ways, he says he just goes to them for the music, but also calls them degenerate.

>>18502146
To me, that doesn't sound like you're actually comfortable and okay with it. To me, it feels like you only do that because you don't see any other option as being viable. Do you want to continue to let your life be dictated by fear? What sort of person would you like to be?

>>18502149
>Thinking your boyfriend is different than other men is probably stupid
But it's not stupid to think that your boyfriend is a decent human being who would come to you and talk to you before letting the relationship weaken enough to allow cheating to be a tempting option for him

>>18502156
Maybe it was a quick "good night" sort of text where he didn't think mentioning the club was worth mentioning. Maybe he forgot to mention they were going, and then he hesitated to tell you because he knew you would be upset and didn't feel comfortable telling you as a result. Maybe he's hiding it because he's cheating. They're all possibilities, but assuming the last option when he crosses boundaries doesn't encourage a strong, healthy relationship

>>18502153
I woke up to his texts and I wasn't worried, until I saw that people from his group checked in at the club. He usually tells me things like that himself. The avoiding mentioning it is what makes me worried. We're always very open towards each other usually.

I've been called a very likable person many times in my life and have had many positive social relationships.

But I have never been romantic with a woman (KHHV Male). Am I too ugly to date? Or do I need to try harder?

>>18502165
He wouldn't plan on going, it's more something they did out of boredom likely. He usually doesn't go to clubs out of himself, mostly just with other people.
He has been able to tell me he went to a club before, he even went to Amsterdams red light district and told me about it. So this is just strange to me. It wasn't a quick good night text.

any non-black girls here dated a black guy? why is it that every girl i've dated or slept with has gone right to a black guy after me? all but one of them had never been with a black guy prior (20+) so I just find it weird that they all did right after me. any ideas? anyone can answer obviously, i just thought maybe girls who have done it before had some specific reasons or something.

>no, i'm not a POS white trash.
>no, I'm not small and am generous in bed.
>no, I don't dance

>>18502179
I feel like if you're jumping to cheating from a single instance of strange behavior, the relationship's foundation isn't so great. That can always be worked on, it's just worrisome.

Alright gonna sound pretty autistic asking that but...

I was playing World of Warcraft and our guild started sharing pics of what we look like.
I shared mine and this girl (who plays with her boyfriend) pm'ed me
>Nice to see your handsome face hehehehehe

How does that rank on compliments from a girl?

>>18502197
As I said before, I don't think he would cheat, he is an amazing man and seems very principled to me. Very devoted.

But that may just be my naivety. Every woman thinks their man is special, not like other men. Maybe I am too easily swayed by sweet words and promises. I feel like I would be retarded to trust him blindly.

>>18502189
Coincidence or you emit some sort on energy wave that mud sharks tune in on, like how real sharks use electricity sensing organs to find prey.

>>18502174
Just because youre a nice guy doesnt mean you're the guy for her or anyone in particular. The world is full of nice guys, what really matters is showing what makes you special to her compared to everyone else.

>>18502189
Do you spoil your girl?

>>18502204
its a shit test. Just say thanks and nothing else.

>>18502208
>I don't think he would cheat
I honestly find that hard to believe when you came to 4chan asking anons to calculate the likelihood of him cheating on you.

And as I said earlier, it's not believing your man is different or special. The default man doesn't cheat on their woman with random chicks at the club. The default man is decent and faithful and respectful. You just hear about the horror stories way more often than men, or people in general, being decent.

>>18502219
>its a shit test. Just say thanks and nothing else.
I didnt notice she sent it (via discord) for like 2 days

>>18502219
>its a shit test. Just say thanks and nothing else.
also now im confused how is a direct compliment a shit test?

>>18502221
then move on. She probably thought you didnt think she was worth your time.

>>18502227
Why are you even fishing for compliments from a girl who's already taken?

>>18502231
fuck you nigger im not interested in her I just wanted to know if it was a good compliment.

>>18502220
I don't trust my own judgement. I'm naive and easy to influence, easy to manipulate. He could give me the most bullshit excuse in the world and I would take his word for it. He has acknowledged this before that he knows I would be very easy to be manipulated by him and that this is worrisome.

Which is why I asked about it here. Would the default man even stay faithful and respectful after not having had sex in over 6 weeks and being crazy horny? Due long distance we haven't seen each other for a while now.

If a girl mentions that she wishes she got to date someone else before but didn't, is that a sign that she's not currently interested?

>>18502237
>Would the default main even stay faithful and respectful
If he accepted a long distance relationship, I would say he's probably good with handling the distance. And if he's not, then if your communication is as open as you say, then he would be able to let you know. Me and my guy haven't boned in over five months now and he hasn't strayed

>>18502239
It means that someone is still one her mind but due to current circumstances and commitment, such as her own boyfriend or job, she wont. Its possible her current relationship isnt floating well as of the moment and that shes already planning a new person to date once the ship sinks.

>>18502235
Thats not how you say thank you for advice. What kind of compliments are bad anyway? backhanded ones like "your tooth is crooked"? She called you handsome, amazing. Its been 2 days so move on before you overthink it.

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>>8561215
You know, I'm going to get my surgeries soon but I'm keeping my penis (at least for now). I am only attracted to women, so I'll be a lesbian. I have to wonder though...

Do straight girls like to be with a trans-woman? I tend to make friends with artsy girls and the girls I'm friends with always seem to paint naked ladies (same as me.) They all seem to really like pretty ladies.

And as well... do lesbians not like to be with trans-women? is the penis a deal breaker there or is it like... best of both worlds?
I seriously have no fucking idea. My world has been a total lie and I don't know how real people actually work.

As a side note, I'm also going to be extremely rich. I'm also extremely famous. I'm not bragging, I just want to know if that is going to play a factor at all.

I hate that I'm getting money. I hate that I'm getting fame. I just want to be loved for who I am. I don't want to be used again. That's all my life has been. People just want to use me for their own gain and it's fucked with my head my entire adult life.

>>18502250
Well your advice was dumb.

I asked how the compliment ranked. Handsome sounds like something my Mom's friends would tell and doesn't mean anything.

When a girl in my age range tells me i'm handsome and puts and excessively long hehehehe I wanna know if I should feel more confident about how I did on the genetic lottery.

>>18502250
>backhanded ones like "your tooth is crooked"
also thats not a backhanded compliment that is just an insult.

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>>18501582
>One is a human, a person.

I need advice. My bf of a year didn't invite me to his birthday party with his family. I got a bit upset but he had a valid excuse- I'm at his house a lot and he has not had quality family time with his family in a while. Anyways, we just had a night out before. I feel like he just invited me because he saw how upset I got. I feel horrible though, I want him to have a fantastic birthday without worrying about me. I just want him to have a fun time. Should I agree with his invitation or just call in sick and not go?

>>18502261
Then youre looking for an ego boost rather than advice correct? Is that even a rank for compliments? Is "I worship your face" a 10/10? If so, I'd say "handsome" is an 7/10, just below "I'd totally date you".

>>18502267
I thought you wanted to be noticed and now you're backing off? Just accept it and have a good time together. Declining at this point will escalate to your bf calling you indecisive.

>>18502267
Call in sick is probably the best choice. If you had a night out just before then that's good enough to count as your birthday thing together.

>>18502267
So you think your boyfriend would have more fun if you weren't there? oook

Go. Get closer to his family.
Then suck his dong that night.

>Had a HS gf who wanted to do the whole wait till marriage thing
>Unhealthy relationship, left her at 20
>Currently 25, after I had left her I went back to college and started getting my shit back on track
>Have gone on a few dates but never felt comfortable going third base and never got involved in a relationship since

If you were in my position and had started seeing a woman how much of this if any would you disclose? My gut says that most women would just assume there would be a bunch of virginity baggage or some crap.

>>18502279
Advice about getting an ego boost. yes.
Is that so hard to understand?

>Is "I worship your face" a 10/10? If so, I'd say "handsome" is an 7/10, just below "I'd totally date you".

All i wanted to hear.

>>18502290
Seems pretty understandable and if a woman has a problem with that explanation you just gave it wouldn't work out anyway.

>>18502290
For casual sex, maybe don't say much. For a serious relationship, disclose everything. If she's a decent partner she'll be understanding. If she's not, leave her

>>18502290
Your situation is relatively normal; dont worry about it. Just take it easy and disclose your lifestory bit by bit once you've entered a stable relationship again. Disclose nothing to people you barely know.

>>18502219

I do not spoil. Most of the time i'm pretty aloof.

>>18502316
There is very little correlation to your involvement with your exes being black magnets. Its probably a coincidence. half jokingly, why not date a black girl and if you break up see if she dates a white guy.

>>18502331
most black girls who date white guys only date white guys out of preference.

>>18502362
It's considered an achievement among black women and their friends if one of them manages to attract a white guy. That's pretty much the sole reason black women go out with white guys.

>>18502252
>Do straight girls like to be with a trans-woman?

Dude...no. Straight girls like to be with guys. At least my experience says so

>>18502252
>Do straight girls like to be with a trans-woman?
No. Straight girls like guys.
Personally, pretty manly ones.

Girls,

Penis is to burger as vagina is to (?)

>>18502252
>Do straight girls like to be with a trans-woman?
No, sorry.

>And as well... do lesbians not like to be with trans-women? is the penis a deal breaker there or is it like... best of both worlds?
Very big no in my experience. Dating as trans seems pretty tough but it seems to be easier if you go for guys. Guys seem to be more accepting than women are, especially lesbians which REALLY hate trans for some reason.

>>18502382
Hotdog bun is to hotdog?

>>18502384
Lesbians hate anything that isn't a lesbian.

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Hello ladies !

So basically I'm in an abusive relationship for some time now. Is it bad that I'm falling in love for other women and that my feelings for my current gf are decreasing daily ?

Much thanks for taking your time in order to read and reply to this

>>18502389
>So basically I'm in an abusive relationship for some time now. Is it bad that I'm falling in love for other women and that my feelings for my current gf are decreasing daily ?
Of course not. Why the hell are you still with an abuser? Get the fuck out and find a girl that will treat you right.

>>18502389
It's not "bad", but it's a sure sign that the relationship you're currently in is pretty much done. And given that it's an abusive relationship, you should dump your gf asap.

>>18502389
It is bad that you're staying in an abusive relationship, and emotionally cheating on your girlfriend, and are going out of a relationship that made you unhappy just to jump into another one.

If I was the other girl you are falling in love with, I wouldn't date you because you seem to have no self respect and no capacity of staying alone.

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>>18502390
>>18502391

The only things holding me back are the fact that we moved together and that we started a small bussines together.

I did tell her everything that I'm not happy about in the relationship and all the reply I got was "I don't give a shit. If you don't like it as it is, pack up and leave".

Normally I'd just do that, but I am still having a hard time thinking about the investments.

Thanks for the replies ladies !

>>18502395

Apart from being bad at cooking, I'm fairly self sufficient. I do admit I am somewhat lacking in the self respect department.
Thank you for your reply !

Guys,

Do you have to learn how to take an interest in your girlfriend's life or is this just common sense?

My boyfriend doesn't seem to take an interest in my life or learning about me. He shares about himself openly and he is very honest with me so he answers any questions I have for him, but he rarely asks me anything about myself. For instance, I just got back from a trip to see family and he didn't even ask me how my flight was or about my trip.
Granted, I kept in touch with him while I was there, so i could understand not asking me about the trip right away, but not even acknowledging the fact that I'm back in town and instead talking about a movie he's watching just seems rude to me.
I don't know if this is just his personality where he prefers that I tell him things organically rather than prying into my life. But at the very least Id like him to ask how I'm feeling every once in a while, or if I did something big ask me how it went. Am I expecting too much from him?

>>18502399
>we moved together and that we started a small bussines together.
Why did you do this.

Okay, well you need to get out of that relationship when it's possible. Start making some moves and prepare yourself for leaving. Get all your business affairs in order, start scouting for a place to live and when all that is ready, just break it off and leave her forever. Bide your time for now and just work at getting out.

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>>18502400

Lady,

Men are people too. It's not a gender specific issue. He just doesn't seem to care or it is not a habit of his.
This can go 2 ways :
Either this is his way of being - can't do much about it
Either he doesn't care very much

For how long is this relationship ?

>>18502400
I expect people to offer up information themselves. I tend to only give information when I'm asked for it, otherwise I share pretty much nothing beyond the usual. He might just be the same.

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>>18502403

>Why did you do this.
Young and restless.

So basically my current financial status is decent as I don't depend on that bussines in order to live ( I have multiple sources of income ), but it's just that feeling and fear of 2.5 years going down the drain, the investment of time, feelings and money. That's what's holding me back.

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>>18502414

Also, I sometimes dream of packing my stuff and living the dream. Even though I am far from beautiful, I am a huge hit with the ladies and have no qualms or difficulty in taking them ladies to a coffee. Out of love and respect for my gf however, I don't ask women out.

>>18502389
I'd worry more about the fact that you're in an abusive relationship, honestly. Get out of there first.

>>18502089
how do you indirectly touch a dick? with a stick?

>>18502404
We've been together for a few months. I feel like he cares about me, but his lack of interest is so frustrating for me. If this is just the way he his, would it be wrong of me to ask him to change a little?

>>18501365
yes it's weird.

>>18502409
This is probably the case for him. But you wouldn't even ask your girlfriend if her flight went okay or if she got home yet? I just don't understand why he wouldn't at least do that much.

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>>18502417

I'm a man who can and will tank whatever shit life will throw at me. I know it's a flawed view on life, but I had a tough life since being 6 and now I can withstand alot of shit. The only way you can stop me is death.

>>18502423
Sure go ahead and ask him. But be advised that men are very resilient to change. Sure he might improve abit, but don't expect spectacular changes. Or if spectacular changes do occur, please be advised that it will be temporary.
Just nudge him every once in awhile in order to remind him.
But yeah, just ask him without any hesitation.

>>18500618
don't lie and say that you'll move/marry/have kids just to appease her. tell her the truth, that you don't want to do that.

>>18500579
I have a few. Only one that's a very close friend though. All other girls i'm close friends with, I would totally fuck if they initiated.
But that one girl I'm friends with, I can see one on one to have a drink or something, but I have no romantic interest in her. She's one of my best friends.

>>18502436
What's the best way to phrase it so that it doesn't come off emotional or passive aggressive? I want to talk to him about it rationally, but since I'm upset I feel it might come off as an attack.

>>18502453

Just be clear and straightforward to him. He seem like the sort of chap who doesn't enjoy subtle messaging or sugar-coating things.

>>18501577
>>18501580
>>18501817
>>18502083
You people are disgusting

>>18502479
I'm not the one who fucks niggers, coal-burner.

>>18502479
beat me to it >>18502482

>>18502479
Some people have no morals, no shame and no dignity.
I'd sooner neck myself than fuck an animal.

>>18502479
now you understand how low coal burners are looked at in society

>>18502479
I'd would rather tell myself she experimented on her childhood bestfriend dog than anyone of whatever color anon.

>>18501574
Doggo

>>18502479
>normies on 4chan
>discussing if it is worse to fuck dog or nigger
>when you are that degenerate who fapped to both bestiality and interracial porn

I think you all need to step up your fetish games. You are all like vanilla normies.
>>>/d/

>>18501574
Both are equally disgusting. Would dump her degenerate ass either way.

>>18501574
Dog, it's actually common.

>>18501817
>>18501689
He also has no job, smokes weed all day, and plays his autistic video games

How accurate is snap map? I think I caught my gf cheating.

>>18502384
I don't know if it's because of my career choice or what but most of the women I have known are super into girls and guys. Pretty much every woman I have known has been bi.

Girls (or guys who have experience with this), do you ever think of previous partners during a new relationship? I ask because there's this girl who's obviously into me (sends me texts like "you're very attractive" and constantly asks to hang out), but I have a huge mental block before I decide to take the next step. And that mental block is all her previous boyfriends/partners. I'm so afraid I won't stack up to them both romantically, sexually, or really in any category. I feel like my mediocre 15cm dick will be nothing to her, just because logically from all the guys I've known she's been with a few will have been bigger and more skilled in bed than me. Or that any experiences we have together will be meaningless to her because she's already gone through so many relationships. The only other girl I've been with was a virgin, so I have no idea how a sexually experienced girl would react to any of this. Or has my mind just been poisoned by the /r9k/ and /pol/ memes about "roasties" and "used goods"?

Bump so someone answers
>>18502797

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>>18502814
>trying to bump a thread over the bump limit

>>18502843
O shit i'm dumb

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>>18502797

Women do tend to take with them the negative mental and emotional baggage from past relationships. If they got out of an abusive relationship, or the guy was an massive alcoholic, they will stay away from people who are even casual drinkers.
Each failed relationships just adds up another red flag for when they look for the next potential partner.
> I feel like my mediocre 15cm dick will be nothing to her,
Are you 15 by any chance ? 15 as in years old ?

Also - bumping my own question >>18502389

>>18502861
I'm 18

>>18500579
Three

Women, is hitting on you at the gym inappropriate? Yoga pants make my test shoot through the roof

>>18502977
That is such a terrible idea. No, don't do it.

>>18502980
are all women opposed to it?

>>18502989
If I wasn't in a relationship, I wouldn't mind it, but I would be worried that you'd be doing it as a joke.

>>18502995
If it didnt make it sound like i was joking would i have a chance? saw a knockout today doing leg curls, took every ounce of willpower to look away from her ass. i dont really go to parties n shit so the gyms my main social interaction which limits me abit

>>18503014
How do you even pick up someone at the gym without looking like a creep? I feel like it's a bad idea.

>>18503031
youre probs right, its just tfw no gf.

Is there any way ti be original in your tinder or equivalent opening lines? i feel like chicks have heard it all and i end up not even attempting

>>18503050
The only sure way how to fail is to not try. You cant be original at 1st sentence, but throw next three amd you will be original.