I feel /adv/ is pretty reasonable. So, maybe you can help sort some things out for me mentally.
I think women are trash. For example, women will adore serial killers. There is a whole "fandom" of girls who have the hots for serial killers. Even in this movie about a sadistic teen, the comments online are about how "hot" the guy is.
Also, in pornography. Girls are willing to destroy their bodies for a few hundred bucks, but still would be the type to think a guy is disgusting for making eye contact with them. And I'm not talking about having sex, I mean like things like anal prolapse porn, fisting, gaping, all that stuff that is kind of commonplace now.
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>>18700798
Also, if you bring this up, youre instantly a misogynist. For example, in the movie taxi driver, he sees all this bad stuff going on, but people talking about the movie will say the main character is the problem. That he is sexist and violent, not the other way around.
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Okay
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My initial instinct is to refute this but it's hard to disagree with.
Anyone?
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Let's be productive though, lets try not to make this into a big moping thread. Advice, tips, tricks, whatever you got. Recovered fags, tell us how you did it.
My first question is non medicated help. I just recently started seeing a therapist who, in her words "strongly suggests an SSRI". I can't get on any meds or else I can't get my dream job overseas though, so I'd rather not just toss the only hope and dream I have left down the toilet for a pill.
I plan to talk more in depth with her next week since we ran out of time and couldn't get into it. She did suggest exercise, which I have done on and off but nothing real ritualistic. Whenever I do work out I basically just feel like garbage both mentally and physically afterwards though, just curious to anyone who's gone the ole "sweat the 'pression out" route does it have a slow start? Am I giving up on it too soon?
Other thing she suggested was meditation/yoga but I feel like that's just straight up fucking hoodoo magic with zero scientific or logical reasoning to it at all. Thoughts on that?
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>>18700792
>but I feel like that's just straight up fucking hoodoo magic with zero scientific or logical reasoning to it at all.
>but I feel
>zero scientific or logical reasoning
Lmao.
Anyway why do you have to understand something from scientific/logical perspective for it to work?
Did you have to understand everything about electricity, before flipping electric switch for the first time to turn on the lights?
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>>18700838
idk that's just who I am. I'm methodical, I need some sort of backing to believe something, I don't just have blind faith. That's why I could never get into religion lol. I know electricity works because you can physically see it's results, and yes, because how it works was fucking taught to me in elementary school.
Like, medication makes sense to me. It's just chemicals, you put chemicals in your body to replace or create the one's you're failing to. I'm depressed because my body is malfunctioning and failing to create the chemicals that the normal person creates. Drugs will create those chemicals or help my brain stop misfiring and create them itself. It's the same as taking insulin. Body quit producing it itself, so you take medicine to get it in your body. That's logical.
If it weren't for the social stigma I'd be jumping on the drug train completely.
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>>18700872
Would you consider yourself >to intelligent too be happy?
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I'm trying my very best to enjoy raves and parties and nights at bars but:
- Can't/don't know how to dance (I'm a girl if that makes any difference to advice on this problem), every time I've tried I've gotten bemused stares
- When I drink or do drugs I just become an emotional wreck or abusive
- I don't enjoy party music
- I've tried hooking up/sex and didn't enjoy it, too insecure about my body and masturbated too much so not sensitive down there
However I know that I have to make the most of my youth and I won't always have the opportunity to go on nights out and party
So is there anything I can do?
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>>18700779
Stop fapping so goddamn much and start going to rock/metal concerts instead, or classical concerts, or whatever.
You will never have a good time if you keep seeking out places where you don't enjoy yourself and where the enviroment doesn't agree with you.
Also, you will never meet guys that you click with easily if you go places where you don't click with the enviroment itself.
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>>18700834
I stopped fapping so much years ago and now rarely masturbate, unfortunately I still haven't regained sensitivity
I don't know how to find somewhere that I can enjoy myself, I've tried many kinds of places
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Raves are not supposed to be enjoyed, matette.
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My husband is lying to me about the porn he watches.
I checked his history on his main comp and laptop and found NTR/sissy/hentai/more.
Now everything but the NTR is fine by me. NTR is cheating stuff, though. It's got me worried that's a fetish of his.
I tried roleplaying the sort of things I read about on the NTR thread where the guy is cheating on his girlfriend. He said it was turning him off and that's not his fetish.
But he's looked at the same NTR thread on /h/ maybe seven times?
The hentai is fine. I'll find him looking at vanilla hentai while I'm cooking dinner and I just leave him be while I finish up with things and he usually comes to find me after cumming.
When I asked him about the NTR he said that he just randomly clicked the thread. Then I asked him if he's ever looked at sissy porn and he said no, when I know he has. I asked him if he looks at dicks to get off and he said no to that, too. But both of those things showed up in his recently closed tabs. Not in his history, though. So he deleted the sites from his history and lied about looking at them.
The marriage is great besides this. Two and a half years. Sometimes I can be a little overzealous with worry though.
Advice?
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People get off on some weird shit, and that's all there is to it.. You honestly shouldn't look through your partner's porn at all. It undermines the mutual respect and trust that a relationship needs to be healthy.
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what is ntr
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>>18700719
Well shiii
That's not what I want to hear but I value what you have to say nevertheless.
I guess it's that... I expected better behavior from my partner.
>work with Indian
>he is lazy, unclean, forgetful, argues about every direction I give him, refuses to follow orders, claims he is not responsible for anything, etc
>management asks me to watch my tone of voice
>later that day he's abusing me for finishing his work, and threatens me when I tell him that's really inappropriate and unnecessary
>argument at work today over his behaviour
>management again sides with him
What the fuck am I supposed to do?
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>>18700693
Quit your job at mcdonalds so you don't have to be around smelly pajeets all day.
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You should have a one on one with your manager and explain how things have been. But I wouldn't leave it at that, ask for advice on how you can overcome working with this douche so that it doesn't jeopardize your work or the work getting done for the job. That way it doesn't sound like you're complaining to them.
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>>18700693
When you finish someones work and management sides with them, you should perherhaps get a clue that you're overstepping your bounds.
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I am a literal meme. I have fallen head over heels for this guy at work and I live with my boyfriend of 4 years.
The weird thing is and the reason I can't get him out of my head is that all the reasons I love (actually think I fucking love this new guy) this guy is that he has every quality I love about my boyfriend.. just better.
He is more handsome and all that. But whereas my boyfriend is a goofy playful type, the work guy seems so much more "devil may care-ish". Where my boyfriend is overly trusting to the point of endearment, the work guy is just a friendly open guy.
I fucking find myself comparing them to each other every single day and the work guy is really just like my boyfriend 2.0 and I hate it because this is EXACTLY the sort of "trade up" behaviour everyone says about girls and I realise I'm just a fucking bitch like everyone says I am.
The only saving grace is that he has no idea. We're just work friends as far as he knows. He has never tried anything with me.
HOW DO I STOP THINKING ABOUT HIM WHEN I'M BASICALLY ALREADY IN LOVE WITH THE SAME VERSION OF HIM??
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>>18700674
>it's another one of these threads
Look, just break up with your bf. If you have morals, don't cuck him
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either break up or suck up
you can only have one relation choose wisely
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>>18700674
Stop fighting your nature, you whore, and make the trade for the better one already.
You treat men as success objects as you should because you could not amount to much without them anyway.
Do it.
Make your dreams come true.
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How to stop hoping and dreaming
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I would love to stop getting my hopes up that I have worth or any future. I want to stop dreaming of a bright future. Is there any way to repress this or just cut it away? I'm so tired of feeling good about myself to only crash and fall so much farther. Help
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>>18700665
Where do you want to be. What's your dream anon?
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>>18700690
I wanted to stop driving the school bus and get a position in a school. I don't even get interviews. Thanks to the shortage of drivers in my area, I am not allowed to transfer positions. I am stuck and I want to learn to be comfortable with inadequacy.
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>>18700724
>shortage of drivers
Demand increase of payment.
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i feel like i'm very bad when it comes to thinking about meeting girls i could date at places where i meet new people, do you set expectations like that?
i can't stop having fantasies because i'm going some place i'm very interested in soon, and since i don't go out much i create flawed expectations about meeting somebody there, also i'm sick and can't think well so i'm asking for input
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>>18700635
Stop thinking nonsense and install tinder.
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>>18700840
just installed it, this is terrible, gonna go kms
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I was sexually assaulted and the detective won't investigate. How do I get justice? Through the legal system or not. I have his phone number with a little effort I could probably get his address. What do I do? He's a musician. Maybe I could try and make it hard to perform? I dunno what to do.
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>>18700626
Dude sounds based. Should have gave a firm no.
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>>18700626
What happened? Did he rape you? Grope you in a club? Your bedroom?
Why couldn't you leave when he was moving his hand again and again, instead of giving him a non-answer like "I don't know" as opposed to "No" if what you consider what he did was sexual assault? Harassing him in public or over text isn't going to speed up the justice system.
I'm having a hard time believing you filed a police report, and they told you they refuse to investigate. Give us details about what happened and we can help if you're serious about him getting justice.
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your word against his word not any further evidence i believe. what could a private detective do?
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why in western society being virgin (male or female doesn't matter) is look down upon?
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>>18700604
(((Them))). Leftism, broadly, given its obsession with tearing down moral pillars of society.
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well if that's so then the "moral pillars of society" are so fragile
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>>18700604
People are very insecure and shallow and can only attribute success to putting your pee pee in a vagina. So basically 40IQ bastards.
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Recent concussion, can I get drunk?
The internet answers range from 'its fine unless it's masking something more serious' to 'no amount of alcohol is acceptable, it will permanently halt recovery resulting in reduced cognitive functioning.'
Anyone know anything definite that is not just fear mongering and wives tales?
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>>18700582
alcohol isn't going to fix or unfix your smashed brain anon.
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Why risk it?
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>>18700584
But it will fix my broken spirit
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How do I fall asleep quickly as possible?
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>>18700577
There is no proven formula
I had a lot of issues with the same but recently started listening to "chill" music. Focusing on the beat instead of my thoughts has helped tremendously to the point where I'm not losing hours trying to sleep.
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>>18700577
Take some Melatonin
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Take a bat
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Today I visited my mother for her 50th and found what looked like a suicide note. She didnt know I was coming so I dont think it was for me to find.
What do?
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>>18700555
>What do?
"hey mom I found a suicide note you wrote. What's going on? lets talk about this."
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>>18700559
I've never been good at that.
We've never really been close either, I lived with my grandparents a lot as she was an alcoholic. Within the last 12 months her bf up and left and she had to move to afford any rent and shit and shes a bit lost. She hasnt worked for a long time and a lot of jobs she could probably do arent worth it as she'd get more money unemployed.
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>>18700569
Nigga nobody cares, talk to her
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I am a kissless virgin going to a party tomorrow. There are two girls that like me and might want to hook up there. Now here is the thing, I really want to finally do something with someone but I dont want to disappoint or make the other person sad. What do I do? I am pretty clueless. Both of them are going there pretty much just for me.
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If you chase two rabbits you will catch zero
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>>18700589
This.
Pick one and stick with it.
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>>18700595
Yeah, my problem is that I don`t want to hurt the other person`s feelings. What do I do
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Every girl I've tried to date has been a tease. What am I doing wrong?
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>>18700541
Provide more context.
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my best friend's sister spooned with me all night and locked hands ect. Ask her out next day she says she sees me as a brother (saw it coming so not that big of a deal) few other girls seem interested in me (flirty and very talkative) as soon as I ask them out they puss out. Go on date with girl who was pretty out going. When i get to the date she clams up and has little to no body language. Later find out from friends that she was super into me.
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i've been told by multiple people that I'm "cool" and I consider myself to be a pretty laid back person. I'm just wondering why this keeps happening... It's infuriating.