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>>18703943
You should not bother with girls for the following reason:
>you are autistic as fuck
That's the biggest turn off there is

>>18703946
Pretty much this

>>18703946

This

Nothing you can do, but love her. She's dealt with your shit, even if it might not be as bad as hers. She's blood.

My dad pisses me off too, but he dealt with me when I was a NEET and I wouldn't turn my back on him, ni matter what dumb shit he does.

>>18703926

Your mother has some serious issues. You don't necessarily have to be her best friend but you can at least just shut the fuck up and love her simply because she's your mother and you owe her.

I didn't say I don't love her, I said I'm losing respect for her. And I think that's fucked, I hate feeling like that. It's like I love her the way I love my dog

>>18703899
I don't see an art logo in that pic.

>>18703899
>What did you major in and why?
Mechanical Engineering because I wanted to keep my options open

>Did you enjoy university? Was it hard?
It was okay. Was a real grind at the end. Better than High School

>How were you compared to everyone else in your classes? Average? Above average? The best?

Slightly above average

>What do you work in and how is your pay?
I make $100k+ a year being a glorified maintenance man. Its comfy but can be a bit boring. I only do a couple hours of real work a day and spend the rest shitposting or looking at car parts on Amazon.

>Do you regret anything?
Ehh, kinda wish I had just sucked it up and knocked out a masters because I'm going to have to go back eventually if i don't want my career to stagnate.

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>What did you major in
Physics.
>and why
I did an Astronomy project at school in my last year and so that was close to my interest
>Did you enjoy university?
Yes
>Was it hard?
Relative. But no, not really. The first 3 were a bit hard.
>How were you compared to everyone else in your classes? Average? Above average? The best?
Above average
>What do you work in
Plasma chemistry (PhD), statistics (side jobs), Quantum computation (mostly just coding here), Augmented reality (my job now)
> and how is your pay?
Extremely good
>Do you regret anything?
Not learning programming earlier. I wish I had started with Haskell, then Python and then C for the first work cases. I also regret not having bought bitcoin when I first heard about it in 2010. I also dumped that one girl because I finally had a flat and wanted to be a slut and not tied down. Probably a bad move. Maybe I should have been going to the gym earlier. Then again, I think you gotta focus to get good, and I was focused most of my life. Now my interests spread out, and I feel that's actually a bad thing.

bump

I'm desperate guys

>>18703881
Have you ever... Nah, it would never work, don't even... Forget I said anything.

>>18703881
Sorry anon, dont chase. You've chosen the right path. You arent retarded, she's just a bitch

I was KV (22 years old for reference) until just a few months ago. I'm still a virgin but it really is indescribable.

Like even if it is really brief that moment lingered with me for weeks after and I still have the feeling of her face against mine burned into my memory.

I walk past the building where it happened a lot. Just the area itself somehow feels nicer.

It's pretty great. For me, the small meaningless shit became fun. Making breakfast early in the morning so we could both chill and watch some stupid movie/series like tales from the crypt was nice rather than mundane, planning on what to eat that night and going grocery shopping with a real goal in mind other than to just keep yourself alive, everything has a better purpose imo.

Somebody who lays/cuddles on you and, without telling or hinting, has already established that you have complete permission to do whatever you want with them. So you'll just be laying there and you kinda feel like pushing your hand down their pants so you do, and their legs naturally spread apart and she kinda smiles or rolls her eyes or both. Or you just like the small talk and don't really feel like doing anything right then so you just kinda bullshit or not, doesn't matter. It gives you a reason to get up early on weekends even if you can sleep in until noon. And, as far as my experience, you just never feel useless/alone, you feel like a team and you wanna make sure your teammate is included in whatever it is you are doing, even if it isn't anything. Somebody else can probably do a better job, but its just like your comfortable all the time (minus any giant problems/debt/whatever you've given yourself). That's my experience anyways.

>>18703860
Relationships are great!...For the first 3 months, then it's a slow and awful trudge to the end of the relationship. You're 26... you can at least go to a strip club to feel up a girl. You can also go to the bar and find an ugly girl to practice on.

>>18703856
And i mean flirting as in girls btw

Just treat them like they're girls

Weird problem.
Maybe you're attractive but not very interesting?

I have this same problem my dude. I get obsessed with a girl if I am attracted to her and I can't get the thought out of my head that I need to be with her. It's hard not to obsess but I think you just gotta realize that you don't "need" to be with every cute girl you see. If you have an opportunity to talk to one of them you can, but don't approach them with the thought that "she better like me, if she dislikes me I'm a failure" blah blah blah. Cause you aren't a failure or unattractive if a single girl is not attracted to you

>>18703876
>It's hard not to obsess but I think you just gotta realize that you don't "need" to be with every cute girl you see.
Yeah, that's true. I've tried to tell myself that, but my brain just keeps fucking with me no matter what I guess.
A part of the anxiety also comes from the fact that I've never had a girlfriend and I have a huge fear that the time where most people meet their wife's/husbands is passing me by. I go to a commuter college (I'm in NYC) so dorming and parties are already not in the books. I'm also a compsci major so once I get the pre-requisites everyone takes (english, history, one or two science classes, and basic math) out of the way my opportunity to meet someone will pretty much be 0 since compsci classes are pretty much all male.

>>18703850
it's because you think you're worthless that you are longing for all of these women. you want to justify yourself in them, which is actually a way of using them and a good way to get into a dysfunction relationship.

so I think that getting laid would help your confidence, but what will really help your confidence is changing the thoughts that matter and improving the things about yourself that need improving

>>18703820
Make out and rub her clit with you hands. After wards sniff fingers and report back.

>>18703820
Ask her opinion on the sex part. Best case scenario imo is to wait it out the both of you. You can both postpone it a week.

>>18703857
~continue~
Or so id like to believe

>>18703811
What job did you get that you travel 5 days a week?

>>18703839
Basically a traveling repairman for a medical technologies company. If a CAT scanner owned by my company suddenly breaks down and their local techs can't fix it, then they'll fly me out to see what I can do about it.

There's usually a backlog of repair and preventative maintenance orders so I'll have somewhere to go every week. Every once in a while I'll need to stay on location over the weekend to get the machine working again faster, and every once in a while there won't be much for me to do so I'll stay home a week. For the most part though I'm told it will be 75% travel.

My suggestion, if possible, would be to just live with your parents/family over the weekend.

This is the best option as far as not wasting money on a home you won't be using 5 or so days a week.

I think it would be hard to find people willing to rent out a room to you since you wouldn't want to pay much because you're not even going to be there most days of the week. If they have an available room they're looking to rent, they're going to want to get the full value out of it such as by having someone live in it every day of the week, so you won't be saving much over getting an apartment on your own.

Do you have a car? What do you plan on doing with it while you fly out to work?

When experiencing withdrawal sometimes I just liked to go to a website like 7 cups or another bullshit website like that and just be angry for a couple of hours to strangers
I didn't go there for advice, but to have a place to vent frustration without having to care about any serious feedback but still having another person that has to listen to your angry bullshit rants, that's good shit

and hitting weights is nice. I fucking hate going on a walk during withdrawal, just makes me paranoid and sick

>>18703808
That image is basically how the Mayweather fight ended.

>>18703808
Do you feel like smashing your face in as well anon?

>>18703794
You're fucking retarded it's a big buzz kill
*breathing hard, whole body is relaxed...*
"Hey so you know that thing about whatever..."

From there on sex will be disappointing and associated with your fuck up

>>18703798
No I mean like I would specifically tell him before sex that I want to talk. And then have sex knowing that the purpose is to put us in a relaxed state. I'm not trying to trap him without communicating my intentions.

>>18703794
>>18703803

>I'm wondering if it would help discussions become more empathetic and less likely to become tense or evolve into an argument.

No idea. Try it out. I don't know if I would really be able to focus on the sex knowing a serious conversation was coming afterwards but that's just me. It doesn't sound like a terrible idea to me.

>>18703764
Definitely a unique style... I think you can make something good out of this if you grab more attention to it; definitely a fanbase; becoming a better writer is something hard to explain in just a couple words. I say, find your own way; develop yourself through mistakes and personal doubts.

>>18703764
>what would make me a better writer
reading

>what would make me a better poet
studying poetry and maybe learning a few languages

your graphic design is kind of a bad art mashup without much cohesion. I like the color scheme though and of course I like flowers.

I like the music.

I can't hear your voice over the music and this is la dispute wannabe stuff. what doesn't make the la dispute wannabe stuff is that the poetry seriously needs improvement.

the poetry is made of cliches, too self-referential and not interesting

try not being as self-important. try offering the audience something.

stop with the vaporwave text. stylizing the name of your band or whatever is fine, but the album titles and the song titles and the album names being vaporwaved out is just making up for a lack of substance

>go to YouTube
>type in youtuber
>Terrible writing advice
>click video to suite your needs
>dont follow his sarcastic advice
>follow the actual advice he gives

>>18703743
Pls halp

>>18703743
>What do I do?
Meet new people who are actually interested in you or turn off the companionship bullshit in your lizard brain and drown out the loneliness with distractions
Kind of in the same spot myself, friend.

Well, that text example is awful. Don't do smalltalk over text. You gotta start with something actually interesting, like if they've ever heard of a certain music artist or if they've seen a certain movie and have a conversation about that.

About the best friend thing, talk to him about it, say it hurt when you found out and if he doesn't give a damn, drop him like bricks.

Try going to another city for a weekend and try and meet some folks. I don't mean in bars either, I mean, go to stores and cafes and such and chat with the employees, find out what's going on around the place.

Sleeping under a bridge is also very cheap, your option only seems slightly better

>>18703727
Don't you have a 24/7 library? Just do your school work somewhere else and sleep there.

>>18703745
True, but what if they keep me up at night

"There is nothing like writing to force you to think and get your thoughts straight" - Warren Buffett

If you can't write about it, you haven't really thought about it. This is why every year Warren sits down and writes a long letter to his shareholders explaining the last years events. This exercise has helped him immensely to fine-tune his thoughts on how to make billions. Writing about something makes you think about it, and thinking about where to invest your money is a good thing. Which is why writing about it is an EVEN BETTER THING.

Fine tune your thoughts like Warren did.

>>18703704
bumping this. i'm a grill and want to send feet pics or some shit to people but idk where to start

no, not gonna camwhore im a business major that won't fly

>>18703711
Write about it until you get your thoughts fine tuned.