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>>18698944
explain to your dad why it's important for you and how you are grateful. what do you think will happen?

>>18698944
I dont believe it would make you look ungrateful. The car has no sentimental value, the utility is where its value comes from.

>>18699009
I've brought this up before and they were pretty offended. That's why I wondered if it was "too soon"

>>18699019
No they don't care about the actual car, so maybe you're right. If I spend all the money on a new car which is better I think they won't mind too much.

It's in a repair shop atm. Since it isn't made for these distances I've driven it, I had to change both the generator and the start engine at the same time. So I'll have to save up some money for a couple of months after this is paid for...

what is your digestion like?

>>18698919
it's good

>>18698908
>>18698908
>struggling with depressive realism and misanthropy
what do you mean by that?
do you have depressions?
if yes, what are they like?
do you hate people?

>I grew up in a household where healthy physical contact (sympathetic touching/hugging/warm greetings) and verbal affection didn't happen

same here man desu

>>18698764
what is your goal, OP?
kiss? hold hands? get laid?

>>18698770
I feel bad for my dad, because I know he loves me, but is just as broken, if not more, than anyone else in my family. A few years ago, he said something to me like "I hope you know that your mother and I are always there for you and care about you very much" when we were coming home from visiting my Granddad. At first I was angry and indignant, but then I realized he sincerely meant it. That was one of the saddest realizations of my adult life: that you could care so much, yet be so defeated that it didn't matter.

I wonder if he even realizes how sad and lonely he seemed to me and my sister when we were growing up.

Actually, you could be arrested and be forced to register as a sex offender.

Not to mention, it's a really stupid "plan"

>>18698742
even if you don't expose your penis? just being hard inside pants can get you in legal trouble?

>>18698742
Boner pills work by spiking your blood pressure. Taking them without a doctor's supervision could result in a stroke or aneurysm. You could wind up even more of a moron than you already are.

Just don't do it, faggot.

>>18698662
"It isn't going to work out between us, I know you'll find someone better than me" Just normally

her sister has literal down syndrome?

>>18698668
But she probably won't. Any time I've brought up the possibly of us not being together in the near future, she gushes that there's no way she's dating again, because "I'm not looking for a heartbreak anymore."

She's 24 years old.

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Accept and embrace it. Being bald and confident is 1000x better than trying to hide it.

>>18698647
IF inevitable, I want to accept it.

However I'd still like to know if there's anything I can do against it.

>>18698647
This. Shaving my head was one of the best choices of my life. You know all the worrying you're doing about how your hair looks, OP? Imagine never having to do that again. Worrying about balding can take a lot out of you and shaving your head is worth it just to end that. Plus, it's convenient as fuck in a bunch of other ways, too.

When it comes down to it, no one else cares about your hair as much as you do, so you need to make a choice to benefit yourself. You can spend a lot of time worrying about it, and possibly dump a bunch of money into fixes that don't work very and might screw with you in other ways, or you could just shave it off and stop giving a fuck.

>>18698626
Why do you care so much about politics? Get a hobby.

I am a child free military wife. I know how you feel. Its imporant to have simular beleifs as friends but the trick is to make friends with people who respect your views and decissions. Anyone who does not respect your views is not worthy of being a friend. You can have simular views in moral and not politics so try not to get so hung up on politics being your go to reference. I am a mix for the most part so there are parts I will agree from most political parties. You can try volunteering for the political parties to meet people but most of the people who do that are older.

>objectivism
That's why.
Nobody likes Objectivism except Objectivists. It doesn't work in the real world, much like communism and libertarianism. Ya know how Kmart and Sears are dying? That's why.
My only real suggestion is to temper your views in conversation, and get your fix of good conversation on GreedIsGood.com or whatever forum you guys use.

PIcs?

I personally say you should only get a reduction if it's physically affecting you on a negative aspect. Try not wearing tight or form fitting clothing.

>>18698613
Are you my future husband?

Who told you that losing weight would solve all your problems?

>>18698599
I don't know. Myself. Part of me thought that if I could be more handsome, maybe people would give me the time of day.

>>18698601
There are plenty of fat people out there with lots of friends and a spouse and children. Stop blaming everything on your weight and figure out what the real problem is and work on that. But do keep with your weight loss, not for looks but for your health.

Also I have had suicidal thoughts more and more. More times then I can count.

>>18698549
I've had this all my life. Effexor really helped me, but it's not a cure. But I feel better. Seek help. Get vitamins, no shifty products. Do some research. Iherb is a good place to buy strong ones.

>>18698549
>>18698549
newest research found out that many psychical illnesses do nit really come from your actions, theycome from your gut bacteria.

try out vitamin D 4000 IU a day + Magnesium + Vitamin K + Probiotics.

Also use natural probiotics, like yogurts, apple vinegar and sourcrout.

Meet him and introduce yourself. Unless he introduces himself as "The Professor" then call him by his name. To find out what he is a professor of just ask him you dip.

>>18698560
>To find out what he is a professor of just ask him you dip.

How exactly would you phrase it? I guess that's the part that I'm not certain of. What is the proper way to ask? "What are you a professor of?", "What do you teach?"

>>18698566
Either of those is fine. You're overthinking it. People love talking about themselves.

>>18698538
Use them to level up your game on.

approach the girls you like stupid mangina

>>18698538
Good looking girls don't need to approach guys. They get approached.

If you want a shot with them, go for it yourself.

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>I scoured every resource on the internet, everywhere from this subreddit to therapy sites to self-help. Read entire books on polyamory
>Eventually she expressed to me “maybe if I’m allowed to explore THAT side of my sexuality, we can have sex again”
>Desperate, I literally drive a guy she had history with back to our apartment
>They fuck on our couch while I’m at work the next day, and they kiss in front of me that night
>Of course, can’t go back on it now because “you told both of us you were okay with it, I’m not your mother I can’t be responsible for your decisions, etc.”
>I broke up with her about one also-sexless month later when she said she “wouldn’t be home that night after work, had a hot date” while I was driving to an important training session
>Considered killing myself with drugs from work (landed a decent job as a pharmacy technician), nearly lost my job twice for breaking down on the clock
>Went on a few desperate dates on OKCupid because lonely
>Somehow attracted a girl
>She was sweet and good, and loved me
>We had sex constantly for the ~2 months we were together
>Meanwhile still secretly still living with Kaila, separate beds but unbeknownst to the new girl
>Kaila “open relationships, I don’t ever get jealous” suddenly becomes deeply depressed
>Literally does not get off couch, does not go to class, eats almost nothing for a full month
>Starts talking to me about possibly hurting herself
>I was weak and caved
>I cried with her. We kissed and more and she gave me all the passion for a night that I’d missed for months.
>I went to the new girl and broke up with her. Told her the whole truth and that she deserved far far better than me. She told me, begged me, to see reason. That the relationship I was in was not normal or good. The last text she ever sent me I’ll post here, because I read it every day.

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“I want you to know that nothing she has done is your fault. Not sleeping with other people, not pretending to hurt herself, not ignoring your needs, nothing. I love you and that's proof you won't be forever alone. You're not an unlovable monster. You're handsome and strong and funny and great. I believe in you. This relationship isn't typical or normal. No matter what you did, you deserve better. I'll be here for you any way that I can. I hope you'll call me later but it's 100% ok if you don't feel like it. TL;DR : I love you. Have a good day <3"

>>18698435
emotionnal blackmail
I'd break up + no contact

>>18698394

depends on why your past relationships ended and how.

Doubt is a natural feeling to have when feeling love towards someone. You always have to expect the worst & hope for the best. It seems like you truly like this girl & your relationship sounds healthy but don't think it'll end up like your past relationships. Comparing & dreading from the past will only bring negativity in yourself & your relationship. Hope this helps my dude. Best of luck.

>>18698394
Ever heard of the Honeymoon Phase?
You need a clear anchor to get past the transition.

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Try going to social events or parties through friends

You'll be surprised how easy it is to meet and date new girls. Some (not the hottest ones though) will outright approach you

>>18698348

even the hottest black girl will have lower standards, because we tend to treat the white girls better. so you can get a lot of minorities to message oyu because they need to put them selves out there more.

if you got one girl of every race and lined them up and they were all 10/10s you'd still have the white girl as the hottest, and the black girl as the least hot, with asians latinas and middle easterns and whatnot inbetween.

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>>18698348