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>>18414028
What do you have to gain from this OP? Most people end up in a relationship with someone they are in close contact or proximity with. Odds are heavily stacked against you in this case, so why play?

>>18414036
Cause I wan that fugg
Bad jokes aside idk, I take your point but I mean I'm not in contact or proximity with anyone anyway so I might as well look around. Doesn't even have to be a relationship or even friendship, I'd just like to generally be able to talk to people (although my own admission "people" does mean mostly girls) and I probably watch too many movies and of course reality is never like that.

Also it's really hot today so I might as well waste on my time on this gay thread.

>>18414036
What if he's not part of the majority of people who actually have someone they are in close contact or proximity with?

Move on or just kill yourself loser

>>18414140
I would never kill my self. That means the enemy won. And I will never let the enemy win for free. It will be one hell of a battle. You hear me?

>>18413967
Sigh... Kids these days. Man the fuck up and ask her out, without being convoluted. If she says no then move on. It's a win/win

>>18413793
>best way to immerse myself (different threads that are good),
Lurk moar
That means just go on different threads/boards and read
Don't post anything unless you know the "unspoken rules" of the board
>and is 4chan what I'm looking for?
What are you looking for?

Don't do it. It's only a waste of time, a place full of negativity that will eventually make you depressed . Please don't do it

>>18413793
no, fuck off you summerfag. get >>>/out/ and go back to >>>/tumblr/ we don't need new sensitive nornalfags here.

>>18413731
Not sure what to say.

But I can say this. My girlfriend thought the same about herself before she met me. She had a pretty terrible childhood and had some horrible boyfriends too who took advantage of her because of how she was. And she thought like you do. But just because she felt like that doesn't mean it wouldn't happen to her, it did. And it's the same for you too. If you want it somebody might truly fall in love with you too.

Therapy can help a lot. But just knowingthat it isn't hopeless is good. It isn't hopeless and it never is.

Good luck OP :)

>>18413731
The biggest realization you'll ever have is that us humans are all pretty much the same; we all cave to the same desires, and the only thing that really differentiates us is time spent developing skills.

That's it.

How much time you spend developing your own skills to differentiate yourself from other people is entirely on you.

Not kidding but there is an all powerful God who is literally infinitely times more beautifully perfect than any human who loves you so much that He sent his son on the planet as a human to die for you. He also knows how many hairs are on your head. He loves you more than you can even imagine. He loves you despite your personal failings, percieved flaws, and everything.

You dont have to believe this dude, but when you tap into that idea, and you can do it as a thought experiment, you start to develop self-love. Self love is the most important love to have

Hahaha bro im also 26 and i have had 20+ jobs and im about to get a new job at fucking raising canes chicken because thats where im at in my life. I notice though that a lot of the stuff you say are "feels"
"I feel like i dont have any job skills" that is reasonable, but what is unreasonable is going "well i feel it to be a truth, so it must be a truth." Dude do you even fucking realise that YOURE NOT IN CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE BECAUSE YOURE LETTING FEAR AND DOUBT TAKE THE REINS?
Seriously dude if they can control an aspect if your life that big, they probably control your every fucking action. What i would do if i were you is breathe bro. Start looking at what resources you have and what stuff you can do. Having a shitty job doesnt have to mean you have a shitty job. Its only 40 hrs a week dude.

Also you might want to see a therapist because it sounds like youre experincing a serious issue. Try yoga out

>>18413606
> I notice though that a lot of the stuff you say are "feels"
>well i feel it to be a truth, so it must be a truth
i only "feels" hopeless and not confident.
but the reality is, i had been to plenty of interviews and still failed to land a job despite how low paid it is, or how well i done in the interview.
so that must say something how bad i am and i'm not required in this society.

>40 hrs a week dude.
nope,
the work hour here is usually 50 hours+
and after converting it's a shitty pay with about USD 900 ~1300

Overall,
i just don't see any reasons i should even give a damn about life anymore.

also, therapist is out of question.
I can't just tell them "hurr durr i'm depressed because working crushes me"

>>18413661
The depersonalization not the depression dummy. Its normal to feel depressed but it is not normal to start to fear communication with others. I am a very weak willed american. But find something to live for and fight for it. Even if there are logical reasons for your doubts or fears, that still doesnt make them true. Lots of brilliant minds have been rejectes a lot. Figure out what youre passionate about and go from their dude. Maybe working a shitty job is just a means to an end for your passion, it doesnt matter, the joys of your passion will make it worth it.

And your passion doesnt have to be amazing or permanent "ive always wondered what itd be like to (insert cheap thrill here)" so then you save money and do it. Shit dude sounds like your country sucks cocks, maybe you could hate it more, and use that passion to emigrate

Hawaii is pretty and nice, enjoy the outdoors and see what happens, might be your only time in hawaii

>>18413506
Literally just be yourself, life sorts itself out.

Just cause you're in Hawaii, I would make an adventure.

Personally, I had the GOAT vacation in my living room. Family went to native country for 2 weeks, and I decided to stay home cause I was unemployed at the time and didnt want to spend money and all overseas. But literally 2 weeks of peace. I didnt do anything. Slept. Vidya. Movies. Beers til 3 am. Slept in til like 5pm. Repeat for 2 weeks.

you need to quit that job and find another one
very simple

>>18413433
eat light food that makes you feel good, find what they are, switch up your diet, avoid cheese. If you're having heart burn, ulcers, something similar to this find what it is and take medication(prilosec is good, unless the issue is something simple, in which case it's most likely tums). If you're shitting your pants take imodium.

>>18413433

Following for interest.

I throw up every Monday morning and spend about an hour in bed shivering before regaining composure and going to the office.

What do you do anon?

Diving headfirst into old guy fucking for rent is probably not a savory solution to your housing crisis, especially if you haven't tried dicking your ass yet.

If you're desperate then go ahead, although probably invest in some kneepads and a test dildo to make sure you don't shit on his dick the first time and he actually does murder you. The rest of the time it's only a meager chance he'll violently decapitate you.

He may not murder you, but there's no telling what he could do to you. You'd be in his space, he might think he's doing you a favor and use that to manipulate you into doing other things. Not to mention this man is a complete stranger.

Sounds like you'd basically be a live-in prostitute. I wouldn't if I were you.

>>18413419
He is probably legit. Sugerdaddies is very much a thing. Straight people dont know it because they will never experience being this sought after.

I know people who have traveled abroad with millionaires, been spoiled real good. Paid back their collage loans etc.

Yea get a safety or strait razor. Not only is it less irritating on your skin but you have more control and you will probably end up saving money after a year or so. If you are not showering before you shave theyn start doing it. The hot water will soften the hair as well as open your pours giving you a better shave.

Also what kind of shaving cream and aftershave are you using? Consider switching to an alcohol free aftershave balm. The shitty cheap stuff is just going to dry out your skin and give you worse razorburn. You want to moisturize after a shave.

>>18413424
Not really sure what shaving cream I use. Just regular Gillette foam I think.

I don't use aftershave. When I first started shaving someone bought some for me but I found it so irritating (and nobody showed me how to use it) that I never used it again. I usually just use an aloe vera gel to take away some of the redness.

I always shave after a shower. Haven't notice it do much to help though.

>>18413417
Try one of the new 5 or 6 blade razors. They're ridiculously expensive, but they give a good shave with little irritation (and they last me up to 3 months)

Well we don't have real artificial intelligence yet so you are still safe for a while.

Once it takes over there will be no safe place on earth and no amount of preparation will protect you.

Your probably right but why wouldn't hiding and getting rid of all your electronics work hypothetically

I'm pretty sure the problem is that we don't have any real intelligence yet. My own just failed me in my last post and often feels fake as fuck. I do some stupid shit at least once a day but it seems like everyone that knows a thing or two is using their power to hand our lives over to something that will never be able to care about us

the only person responsible for your dad's alcoholism is your dad desu

I am a drug addict bro and its your dads decision to quit. What i would do is just show him unconditional love man. My dad was an abusive alcoholic who beat me so badly that i have ptsd. Hes dead and i miss him, i wish so badly i could go back in time and just let him know that even though i hated his alcoholism i loved him, and that he is not jis alcoholism and that he can overcome it because i believe in him. You said your dad liked sports? Get him something related to his favorite team and tell him you really appreciate how hard he works for you, and that you love him.

I will say this, as an addict: we hate hearing about how badly our addiction is ruining things, it drives most of us to use more because almost anyone who is an addict is masking a more serious emotion or problem. The reason AA works is because theres not a lot of shaming, most ppl will just tell you what they did to get clean and tell you how they struggle.

I sympathize very much with you, op.

Alcoholics won't stop because someone asks them to, or even begs them too. It doesn't work. They need to want to stop. And drinking exaggerates depression, so he's probably not as upset as you think.

It's not your fault, or your responsibility to fix him. You can be there for him, and be honest and open with him, but the hole he's in is his own doing, and you shouldn't go down with him.

OK but this is the board for advice so if you don't want advice then go somewhere else.

how old is ur mum m8?

>>18413393

65, and shes recently started having health issues which has got me thinking about what will happen.

Become a music connoisseur, like me. Its so diverse and can give me so many tyes of emotions. Its truely amazing for me. You should try listening to alot of classical/romantic era music, desu

Meditate bro. You might think its boring but its actually really fucking hard and you learn a shitload by doing it.

>>18413308
Listening to music isnt a talent, dipshit.

>>18413233
Listen to me man. Move. The. Fuck. On. You are young, many people will criticize you for being young. But now is the time for you to hear this. If you end up in the friendzone, you are doing it wrong. There is no one girl, there are many girls.

To put simply, why are you staying loyal to her when she reciprocates with nothing?

>>18413233
No chance man. Move on, find another girl.
Once you friend zoned, you're done for

>>18413241
Yeah thanks man, your right. I don't know why I thought anything would happen in the first place. Still open to hear from more people if anyone wants to respond

>>18413198

everyone meets differently. some at classes, some at work, some at events, some just their neighbors, some randos on the bus. most people meet everyone in a bit of a different way which can make making friends a bit of a daunting task cuz its kinda like dating: if you go looking to date you don't generally have much luck.

but events and meetups are pretty solid as they at least have the premise of doing something.

most of my friends I met in different ways.

my best friend I met by asking him out on a date... he worked at yogurt stop, and i thought he was cute. turns out hes straight. so i said we could work together on a project together ( i write, he acts). and somehow three years later were best friends. he calls me for the stupidest shit and i love it. just today he called me just to say 'i had an epiphany, i want to work on more projects!' stupidest thing to call about but im just psyched that someone likes me so much that when they get a strong feeling they need to share it with me.

my other friend I met at a graveyard believe it or not. we went to a screening of nightmare on elmstreet they had at the cemetary. i forgot to bring a towel so asked if i could share his. he said sure. we both clearly loved horror so we hit it off. lots of fun.

my other friend i met through a project. i held casting for 12 roles, and he landed one of em and we just got along. he kept volunteering for more projects so i started writing better roles for him to make up for the shitty favor work he was doing me and along the way friendship just developed. when my dog died he came right over with beer and chinese food last wednesday.

that first friend i mentioned came over too with my favorite cookies.

cont

>>18413227
y 4th friend is actually my boss. i just applied for a job and got hired and now hes like a dad to me. we've even gone to concerts together and its great. theres agap because of age so we dont hang out in the traditional sense but if he just isnt in the office often i love going over and just chilling at his place for afew hours and keeping him company (hes been out a lot lately because of surgeries).

then i have one online friend. we met via 4chan. i posted my phone number YEARS ago when i was drunk asking someone to tell me a story to help me fall asleep. he'd call me every week or so and just talk til i passed out. Three years later he asked me to be a groomsman at his wedding and i went. it was so weird but so cool. his wife was really cool about it. hes been calling me more since my dog died cuz i get a little lonely at night without her. right now were writing a horror movie together. its going great.

point im making here is that friends tend to all develop uniquely , and doing something that is supposed to be condusive to friendship doesn't always work out well. friends are more about how you match rather than how you meet. real friends are the kidn of people you could completely forget with some memory erasing machine, then meet agian the next day and just instantly be friends again. there is osmething intrinsic about our chemistry, kinda the opposite of romance which is baout hitting the right notes at the right time, and different from family which is just the luck of a draw.

considering how weird meeting all 5 of these people might've been i honestly believe I could have all my memories taken tomorrow and if i happened to bump into them by chance, we'd hit it off just the same.

i dont believe they will last forever, nothing gold can stay. but im enjoying them as much as I can while I can.

>>18413198
get a hobby. I've made a lot of my closest friends by attending local card/video game tournaments around the city.

Work too, always nice to get a few drinks with your coworkers after a long day.