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Well, what have you got so far? You'll need to convince the advisory board that not only are you no longer in what I can only assume to be academic decline, but that you are in a place to steadily improve yourself and your grades. Why did you fall below the SAP standards in the first place? What's changed?

>>18419448
I was juggling between two schools, one I have finished completely and graduated, and I transferred all relevant credits to school 2, which I only had a handful of courses , but that and driving to and from both schools burned me out so I withdrew a semester, but one professor gave me an F which killed my GPA, with such few courses in school 2. The situation is totally changed and I'm already signed for retaking that course, in one school, which is now nearby.

I didn't expect coming into this term with that grade, nor the SAP, so I'm trying to make a case that there isn't a decline, as that implies a downward trend, but more of an isolated case, that can and will be easily remedied practically immediately in the coming term. I just, this is coming inbetween that remedy, that financial aid was supposed to cover that grade,which is the real problem here, as that needs fixing for any and all schools I'd like to transfer to. Everyone I've spoken to agrees, it was one course, my record is otherwise spotless.

>>18419469

Explain in your appeal precisely what you stated here, fleshing it out with the relevant details that will illuminate the nuances of your situation to whoever will review your submission. That you were not in "decline" but had a hiccup or two sounds compelling to me. Most people can probably relate to the strain of being spread too thin -- express how the distance and differences between the two schools wore you down, but emphasize that that situation, and its academic consequences, has passed.

You should elaborate on HOW you will remedy the circumstances of your "isolated case", WHAT said remedy will look like, and WHEN you will do it. Concrete terms are vital to your credibility.

Bring things back to your history, too: you have a consistently good record? GREAT. That's a huge boon. Point to it. Prove that you have not strayed away from it, despite a misstep or two.

I say you ought to speak frankly and plainly, though do not be flagrant or plaintive. Speak your case, and show that your enthusiasm has not dipped despite the headaches caused by this whole process. Demonstrate that you are still a firm-willed and diligent student -- or, at least, that you have the capacity and inclination to be one.

Is there any way you could speak with the F-giving professor and tide things over? Maybe get them to write something that would allay how hard the F hit you? You could mention that you are retaking the course they taught -- might hit a soft spot if y'all were on good enough terms.

Don't be afraid to mention any extenuating circumstances (e.g. family strife, medical issues) that may have factored into things. But DO NOT play the pity card. If you are moping and whining, you are obviously not sufficiently emotionally beyond wherever you were from which stemmed your difficulties.

>>18419086

depends on the agency, but as a general rule you gotta be very attractive.

suck dick

>>18419095
is there a height requirement?

probably find a job.

>>18419057
Sounds an awful lot like my ex. Kill yourself

>>18419057
Craigslist jobs postings. Click all and unselect "Transportation" since they seem to spam those postings.

>>18418975
Go for it mang. What have you got to lose?

>>18418975

In their life, all women reach a certain age where they become too old for men to regularly pay attention to them.

You know how it is. When you see a nice looking woman on the street, you look at her. If you see some old tart, you pointedly look the other way. These women essentially become invisible.

This doesn't have to happen at any specific age. Sometimes women in their thirties are already well into this category, sometimes it only happens when a woman is in her fifties or even later.

Women in this category are extremely responsive to receiving eye contact, smiles, pleasant conversation, compliments from young men. They will always give you the time of day. It's not because they're lonely, it's because it makes them feel desired, which is a feeling they might've been very used to, but which has gone missing from their lives.

It's a very interesting phenomenon, but I've never explored it beyond any level more intimate than superficial pleasantries (quite simply because I don't want to). But it's a great social hack that can help you in lots of social situations if you know how to perform it.

I don't know how the woman OP is talking about looks, but she could fall into this category. I don't know if taking it any farther could work. But it's probably an important part of the emotions at play here. If you're up for it, go for it.

>>18418979
True, I just wanted a second opinion

>>18418950

Just keep trying. I know that sounds cliche but it makes a difference. If you ask me, your failures aren't REAL failures until you decide to give up. Sometimes failures are just mistakes, like bumps in the road. Learn from them and change how you act based on them.

Don't think of life as a race. Some people are always going to be ahead of you. Some people are behind you too. Just go at your own pace.

Giving up is what failure really is.

>>18418950
>Everyone around me is doing all sorts of amazing things
No.

>>18418950

every famous over night story has a prequel that spans years and years of failures like your own.

in the end do things because you love them, and even if you dont succeed you'll certainly enjoy it.

It's only the first real day of summer vacation for everyone, and I already fucking hate it.

I sincerely hope you're not escalating cause you can't take the attitude you dish out.

Just a friendly reminder that 4chan is not indicative of real life. Many, if not most, people here have a skewed perception of reality that allows toxic beliefs and attitudes to thrive. Don't stay here too long and give yourself plenty of breaks--this poison can and will infect you otherwise.

This place isn't healthy. Don't ever forget that.

>>18418919
I've gotten bored with hobbies before. It's fine. Get a different hobby instead.

Don't forget that the reason you are engaged in any hobby is because it's supposed to be a fun and relaxing activity. If all you're doing is constantly forcing yourself to become better than you are and it's making you anxious and stressed out, that means it's not a good hobby anymore.

On the other hand you need to realize that any hobby is going to take effort and it won't be fun every single time. Getting better at something takes a lot of effort, and if you feel you can get gratification out of getting better then that's a great thing. It just depends on whether you can get a good return on your investment.

One hobby I have involves deliberately putting myself through activities in a distinctly spartan setting, but most of the gratification I get out of that is the extremely close bond developed between members of the group and the way we redirect that stress through humor and relaxation. Essentially it's a hobby that makes you question what the fuck you are doing while you're doing it, but everyone feels the same way and that's the shared experience.

Another hobby of mine is a fairly complex game which involves pretty major elements of chance (but it's not gambling) and is nothing but endless and pointless suffering during those times you're having bad luck, but it feels great when you're lucky and winning all the time.

In short, if you hate your hobby, stop doing it, but if your hobby inherently involves dragging yourself through some shit and getting good stuff out of that, then you need to consider whether it's worth it.

Always a fucking eye.

>>18418919
Is that your drawing?

>>18418914
Apply for financial aide. Pell Grant, student loan, private loan. Etc.

First step: go talk to an admissions advisor

>>18418914
if you're poor and so is your family and it's a good university they'll cover everything.

>>18418965
Will do

>>18418972
I'm a straight white male tho

You already know the answer, dude. You always give a stated reason unless you're a flake with no interest in personal integrity. How hard is it to say "You always ignored me?" Maybe they felt bad? Maybe not? I guess you won't know and it'll probably bother you until you do.

>>18418884
Why wouldnt you give reasons? Maybe its just your point of view, maybe you have some weak fucking beta male opinions and views and there was no simpler way to deal with you other than ignoring you.
Would make sense.

>>18418884

You sound like a guy I know who recently cut ties with me.

I don't care, and the me of your situation probably doesn't care either.

The you of my situation was (I should say is) an autistic, passive aggressive, manipulative manchild who thinks he is king shit. He thinks he's always right and he thinks everybody is below him. He cut ties with me for a retarded reason and it's no skin off of my back - but I digress.

You do you senpai. Tell them, don't tell them, who cares? Why does it matter? My advice to you is to do whatever feels right and then get past whatever happens next.

Shameless bump fellas... I'm really at a loss here

>>18418866
The point here is she lied to you. About something serious which you asked her to be honest about. Please take that into consideration

>>18418866
Dont invest time in someone who lied to your face.
Had a similar issue and just left her. There are millions of fish and when you understand that you would just move on.

Can see why you're mad, I'd be livid too. But at the same time I think revenge is an over-reaction over $100.

Would probably be best to resolve to never do anything for this person again and leave it at that.

you should probably kill him

it's the only way to get your respect back after someone disrespects you, don't you know that?

>>18418863
How are you this new to the internet. Go brush up on 4chan harassment tactics.

Does he work. Have a home? You have an address. Start sending free gay open , files, bibles, ups boxes, diapers. Put his home address up on back page or Craigslist with hookup posts.

Have a phone number? Set him up for all sorts of solicitation. Call from a phone that isn't connected to you, report a bit and run, give the license plate of his vehicle.

>>18418791
If I've whined about it before, I feel more compelled to help. I feel like I could give better advice since I've been there

>>18418791
It usually relates to something I'm going through. currently i browse alot of "how do I get laid" posts cause I'm dry spelling at the moment. I dont take anything here as serious advice. I just pick and choose what bits and pieces I can use.

>>18418791
whichever sounds relevant to my experiences or what I can help with

and whatever catches my eye like this one

>>18418772
Naw man this forum is for betafags who cant get laid

You wanna be in /g/

>>18418856
lmao. well regardless, what do you think?

>>18418856

To be more specific post your question in the stupid questions thread.
Not because I think it's stupid but because I don't think this needs its own thread to be answered properly.

>>18418604
what helped me:
-lifting
-nofap
-meditation
-jordan peterson

>>18418604
Do you have kids? Or the uncontested patriarch of any family setting?

I would guess those are the times you need a one on one mirror talk with yourself. You'd have to tell yourself your a serious man now.

But when it comes to the insignificant thought or two, i wouldn't worry too much about it. Its just your way of humoring yourself, maybe.

You can also look into self-hypnotism as well

>noko
4chan has automatic noko now fellow oldfag

>>18418597
puzzles like sudoku and crossword and chess

You can't really do anything "entertaining" if you're not even allowed to use your phone (lol). The only thing that comes to mind is meditation.

Basically the number one rule of work is this: when you're at work you should always be working unless your boss specifies otherwise. Being too lax can lead to you being fired for obvious reasons, or could prevent you from getting a good reference or better job at that same location. Your priority should be to impress them with your ability and ethic.

There's always something work related to do and 3 hours isn't a long time when it comes to your job. Ask them if there's something else work related that you can do during your down time, or try to come up with something on your own and ask if it'd be okay to work on it. I'd be really surprised if they didn't have SOMETHING for you to help with.