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Leaving the man I love 2017-07-03 10:17:43 Post No.18482478
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I'm with T for almost 4 yrs. I fell in love with him instantly, but during our relationship everything he impressed me with turned out to be fake. I stuck around, but was low-key looking for a way out for almost 2 years, thinking "It's not time yet"...
Myth: His hobby is photography. Owns 9000+ cameras and has a fridge full of films.
Truth: He doesn't use them. 90% of his photos are mediocre pictures of half-naked girls. He takes pictures every few months after weeks of me nagging.
M: He has a stable life, a flat, a car, a job.
T: Flat and car were bought by his mom, who also got him the job. When he got fired he would just sit in front of his console for half a year. Went to 3 interviews - one organized by his mom, the other two were his friends saying "hey' my company is hiring". He's 31 and wouldn't apply for any other job because "He still doens't know what he wants to do in life".
M: He's well read and brags abouth it.
T: Reads only sci-fi books. Has nothing to say about them.
M: A charismatic bastard
T: Goes to parties and browses facebook. I asked my dad today what he thinks about him and he said "It's hard to tell, honey, he doesn't really talk to me".
M: Seems to be an active modern man
T: Defaults to playing games if left alone. All the abroad trips, activities, events we went to - I had to drag him with me. He dislikes concerts, doesn't go to the theatre, only movies he wants to see in cinema are sci-fi and superhero movies. Don't get me wrong! I love them! I've written one of my diplommas om Batman but HELL there's more to life!
He's SUPER in love with me, takes me on dates and besides being a passive fuck is an overall good boyfriend. Problem is - I feel I don't respect him? Almost feel like I've found myself a cute, low-maintenance blonde who loves me a lot and who's good in bed.
So, /adv/, do I stick with him or move on?
I AM terribly attached to him and I'll probably hurt a lot if I leave, but he just doesn't feel like the right endgame for me...
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>>18482478
I'd dump him if I were you. I can't stand people who lie to sound interesting or cool and then turn out to have more hollow of a life than the majority of people I know. There's nothing wrong with having a boring life, but there is something wrong with lying about it.
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>>18482486
I wouldn't say he lied about it. I think it's how he sees it. I think the majority of all this shit was me assuming stuff about him based on small scraps of information.
Probably I was just imagining the stuff I wanted to see and then got disappointed it wasn't as great. He never LIED to me per se.
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>>18482492
Well on top of disliking liars, I'm also not a huge fan of people that sit on their asses and play video games while hoping a job falls into their lap. Also, the fact that you've been dating for four years and your father can't form an opinion on him is a HUGE red flag.
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going to the doctor tomorrow 2017-07-03 10:10:12 Post No.18482453
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going to the doctor tomorrow
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I've been depressed for 7 years, eating disorder, anxiety, too. Recently had an autism diagnosis. Also developing signs of OCD. On a waiting list for therapy but it's months long.
My depression and intrusive thoughts have been HORRIBLE lately. I'm on 20mg citalopram/celexa but I'm going back to the doctor tomorrow to see what my options are.
Should I up my dosage? I've already tried fluoxtine/prozac and sertraline/zoloft. Fluox did nothing, sertraline made me self harm. Citalopram seemed to work for a while but now it's back to shit.
I'm sick of it.
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Yeah, but it's kinda situational. Therapy with the pills should be a good combo.
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>>18482470
I don't know when I'll get any information about my first appointment. My mental health is just deteriorating recently and I need to do something about the noise in my head. One option is kill myself, the other option is carry on. Life is marginally more enjoyable than unenjoyable, but I'm carrying on till I try therapy at least.
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>>18482453
Vilazodone + Aripiprazole
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Time scares me, I want to become a kid again, I don't want my parents to be gone, I wish I was a kid watching disney movies with them again, I wish I had my old friends back, and everything was back to normal, and I was in my home country with the rest of my family back when everything was okay there. Anyone else feel like this?
How do you deal with this?
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>>18482389
I'd love all that shit but I don't think it's going to happen buddy. Sorry. But you can still watch Disney movies if you really want to.
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>>18482389
Accept that world is constantly changing. Enjoy things as they last and stop being surprised when they end.
It's like if you were offered a chance to stay in the greatest place you can think of with anyone you want and with the best vidya and car you know but you could stay there for only a week. Would you still do it?
In the same way don't think you're losing things in life. No one ever said those things were going to stay forever. Be happy that you had them for the time you did.
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>>18482389
>Anyone else feel like this
Only every human throughout history
>How do you deal with it
You can't, but don't worry you'll be dead soon enough and then it won't matter anymore.
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I was thinking about taking a community college course as a guest/visiting student (e.g., not for a degree but "personal enrichment"). The problem is, a ton of the courses list basic English/Reading/Math course successful completion as a prerequisite for joining this course. What's the deal with this, do you typically have to complete these prerequisite courses even if you're just taking the course as a visitor for personal enrichment? Seems like an unnecessary (and costly) barrier to entry for those who graduated high school and just wanna take a course.
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Why don't you contact them and see what they say?
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>>18482379
bro just become a degree student, why the fuck would you want to waste your time to learn something with no reward?
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>>18482383
I didn't feel like going in to ask and I honestly didn't think to call until half an hour ago and they're already closed.
>>18482391
The only reason I'd be going is to meet new people - I already have a decent job but I work at home and was kind of a recluse in my teens so I really don't have any friends. I wouldn't quality for FA, so even though I could easily afford it... spending thousands of dollars a year to be a full time college student (community college at that, when I hear it's not necessarily the best place to meet new people - anyone care to chime in?) and having to stick with the full time schedule doesn't really appeal to me.
Also just taking one course could kinda get my feet wet and I could see if it's something I'd want to do more of or if it'd just be a waste of time and money.
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Are trade jobs good ? 2017-07-03 09:31:09 Post No.18482337
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i was thinking of becoming a carpenter but I'm just not sure if i should do this or electrician. Any anons here in trade ? what are good ones ?
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>>18482337
Search job market and see the open positions and how much money they offer.
Google online career tests.
If you lack dedication or willpower for higher education, going to school is just waste of time and money. However realize that you will spend your next 40 years working. So there is no point to jump into low pay jobs straight away.
SEARCH CURRENT JOB MARKET IN YOUR TARGET AREA!
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>>18482337
The society needs more practical jobs.
We already have enough fat neckbeards programming on computers all day.
We already have enough lying dishonest politicians.
We already have enough selfish greedy bankers.
Do not care about the money OP. You are the future of society.
Without plumbers are streets would be filled with shit.
An engineer may design a house. But without actual builders to practically put things together the house will remain a useless idea.
Go forward OP! I am proud of you!
>>18482438
Being a carpenter takes a lot more effort and dedication than going into university.
Most people are in university or college right now. Stop doing what everyone else is doing. Be original for once. Get a skilled practical job.
In the end it will be the waiter that spits in the food of the rich man. (and fucks his wife in the toilet)
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>>18482337
They are a good alternative
just dont listen to >>18482916, I fell for the trade meme and learned its not a job im good at.
Wishing i had study programming or something else than HVAC like i did.
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How do I take out my anger? 2017-07-03 09:28:40 Post No.18482321
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How do I take out my anger?
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I always get in a rage and break things
Wat do
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>>18482321
Find ways to feel less anger. You can't change the world, but yo can change how you react to it.
If your life is so shitty you are constantly angry with a good justification, then work on improving your life first.
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>>18482330
That sounds like a faggot answer for faggots. A real man would go and destroy something, or punch somebody.
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>>18482351
And how's that philosophy working for you right now?
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I was wondering if there is people who go out clubbing alone. My situation atm is that im on vacation with my senpai(turkey) and my brother is to lazy to go out. I sanna get som adv on how to meet new people alone. Note that im pretty shy with my friends absolut when aproachng girls.
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>>18482313
yes. especially in that circumstance. but yes even without that.
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>>18482313
girls will look at you like a creep if you're approaching alone with no group of friends, and any group of friends isn't out to make more they just want to have a good time.
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I think it's bullshit this thing of only meeting girls with a bunch of friends. From my experience the group of friends only creates obstacles if you are really getting along with a girl (jealous, silly, whatever).
Since you afraid of talking to other people, then you won't really have the courage to talk with strangers and you'll chicken out instead of taking a risk of rejection.
To break this situation, try talking to an older lady at clubs. One that you wouldnt find sexy but old enough so she doesn't reject you immediately for being introvert.
Talk to her, believe that the topics of conversation will be similar to what you would find on younger women and this will improve your conversation skills. On the plus note, she will introduce you to her friends and possibly a younger lady is in the group.
Anyways, start talking to people. That should be your priority if you want to get some pussy before you are 50 years old.
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I am in a very, VERY happy relationship with a guy. We also kind of work together and our work with each other is mutually beneficial. We have both expressed we are happier through this combination of things than we have been in years. He is over a decade older than me and has a child from a previous marriage, which i think really burned him out on the concept of monogamy. Although we are in love and monogamous, he has said he doesn't believe in marriage which, given his background, I understand.
The problem is that I want to get married and my timeline on having a child of my own is quickly coming to an end, given I have numerous reproductive issues.
While I am incredibly happy and in love, if I stay with him would I not essentially be "wasting my time"? I don't want to have a baby with just anyone, not nor do I want to marry just anyone. I've dated several men in my life, always telling them I was looking for marriage and they, all men my age or younger, each time expressed that they weren't ready and wanted to date around, even my previous bf who was 27.
Im really running out of time if I want to try to have children or get married normally, and I know I could go to a sperm bank or something if I really wanted to but, as a psychologist I realize how horrible single parenthood often is for child development. What should I do? Just keep being happy with this man I know I have no long-term future with despite how wonderful things are now, or try to find someone else willing to settle down with me, even if I'm less happy?
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Adopt You dumb cunt
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Well your choices seem to be
>stay with him, have a good relationship but always feel like you've missed out on something because you never had kids
>leave him, potentially have a good relationship with someone else, and possibly have children
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>>18482279
As a single mom? That's almost impossible to do and would be just as bad developmentally for the child. What's the point?
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study
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>>18482258
What's the point of studying what you don't understand
How do i understand that
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my best advice is to be sure you understand the very basics. in maths your understanding of that new formula heavily relies on your understanding of that previous formula. also get active in your class es, don't be afraid to ask for an explanation even if you might think it's stupid. most importantly, you have to have the willingness to study.
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Hello adv, what do?
I met this fantastic girl. She is everything I would want in a gf/wife.
But there's a problem, or at least I think it might be. I suspect she might be a bit of a slut. She told me she drinks with friends often, is really easy after getting drunk etc(keep in mind she's 17, I'm 18).
I don't know if she's just saying this shit for shits and giggles. After all, she's really smart, constantly getting good grades and getting awards in school. She also is really hard to get sober(which I've seen myself).
I've observed this at a family get together and she was there as well for reasons to me unknown.
Could she be just having a laugh at this or is it possible she's telling the truth?
What do you think?
Thanks.
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>>18482225
Judge by yourself.
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>>18482225
You are 18 (or younger, we can tell by the way you write), stop thinking about wives.
>I saw an admittedly dumb guy on the street the other day with a 7/10 chick.
She may be your cousin, be careful!
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>>18482230
I'm not good with this shit. Because of this stuff I've lost lots of good friends in my life and made lots of bad ones
>>18482233
I'm 18, I guess I'm just fucking stupid and/or immature.
She isn't family, I asked
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Why do I feel like no one understands me?
It's not logical, there's plenty of room to understand.
I just don't know why it seems like the opposite.
I think I understand people pretty well. But sometimes it seems like nothing is
there.
I just have this vague feeling no one cares about anything
I'm becoming increasingly bitter and have abandoned thoughts of
anyone.
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>Why do I feel like no one understands me?
What do you mean?
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>>18482263
The things that I value aren't the same as what others may value.
I guess I don't understand others.
It hurts to talk about other people when they would not ever talk of you.
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I'm so lost. I hate it so much. I hate how others continue on and never consider it all. I hate that, even when I do consider, it means very little. Likened to someone that nags about the usual.
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Do you think that two people who are emotionally closed off/stoic can date? We both also have never been in relationships before.
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They can date, but it'll be a shallow relationship that lacks intimacy.
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>>18482189
But I want us to open up but idk how
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>>18482203
It will never work.
Stoic people can only be with extraverts.
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>Sale
>50% Discount
>19-35 days shipping
>Going on vacation in 3 weeks
wat do /adv/?
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>>18482177
>buy stuff
>enjoy it when you come back
>???
>profit
>die
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>>18482177
>ship to neighbor
>ship to parents/sibling
>ship to friend
its not that hard
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>>18482186
>nobody to open door for package
>>18482188
>Not social "accepted stuff"
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I am so tired, guys.
I am 19 y.o, and have giant manboobs. They are not regular "gyno" or anything, they look *really* bad I can't even go to pool, even with shirts it's like I've got two bumps.. Painful to talk about even.
I've started losing weight though.
185cm, 113kg now.
Two weeks ago I was 118kg.
But, I'll need surgery to remove them, and until I drop all the weight it's so hard for me to even touch to a hand of a girl.
I will have to work on these for like 6-8 months before I'll have a body of a normal human being.
It's painful, guys. I could've lost weight until now but just starting now. I've just graduated HS and will be a university freshman, people will know me like this..
VERY painful to even think, guys. I'm sitting alone in my home, watching stupid videos to distract me. But I don't want this, guys. I want to be normal. I want a gf.
I'm handsome, and my body frame is good and I'm a cool person overall. I don't want to be a bitch guys.
Don't even know why I'm writing this here.
Thank you for reading.
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Don't worry man. Just lose some weight, take your time, don't be stressed. Just focua on losing 1kg per week. During the first months you will lose more maybe one week you will lose less. Just take your time and keep telling to yourself tomorrow will be better. You will feel alot better phisically and mentallt just because you lose some weight too so it will be super easy. It will not be too hard but please spend 1year just focusing on that, you're very young you have time.
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Well they're not going to go away on their own so there's not really much you can do other than keep losing weight.
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I'm an asshole and everyone hates me.
I don't particularly care, but I struggle with being alone.
How do I not care about that either?
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>>18482142
are you me
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>>18482142
> How do I not care about that either?
You generally can't when you're healthy.
Try to be sufficiently less of an asshole so you can get someone as company.
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>>18482142
Find out why you care about it.