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It's not about how you perform in relation to others but about committing yourself to doing the absolute best with what you have. Often times people with the latter mentality will out-perform people that may be better in x or y due to their dedication and direction in life. Everybody needs to work around certain disadvantages they may have been born with, one obligation in life is that you need to find a way to shoulder yours. This can be a difficult idea to tackle and is one of the things that makes life hard, but it is not a unique situation at all and simply a feature of the game, not the game itself.

For example you have a lot of resources at your disposal if you live in the developed world and are in good health. You don't need to be good at math to make use of a lot of them to create opportunities for yourself. Some doors will be closed to you, but you shouldn't let that bother you since there are so many different ones to take advantage of.

>>18483427
problems with math must be the only difficulties you are having, do I read this correctly? how old are you, say more about yourself. Had something similar, even with major help my brain just couldnt be arsed to solve shit but I never saw this as something bad actually the opposite

>>18483458
The problem is that I'm disadvantaged in probably every area and worse yet, I'm aware of it. My experience is lesser, I'll never enjoy things like people who are more intelligent do and that's horribly depressing. I struggle to enjoy classic literature vs manga, classical music (which I love) vs "muh hooks" music. And so on.

I can commit myself all day, and I do have some things to show for it but they're pathetic and mundane at any rate.

>>18483417

sounds like you want to give up. you are the one insisting that it'd never happen before anyone can even chime in. so why bother asking?

find out why you havent been in a relationship and fix that.

>>18483426
>>18483426
>find out why you havent been in a relationship and fix that.

Well in high school I had a reputation as a clown that I couldn't shake off, in college I had no idea where to even begin with trying to get a date so I didn't try(and just put back on the weight I lost in high school), and now I'm out of school and working sporadically in the middle of nowhere and like I said before my social life is nonexistent. So I dunno. I just seem kinda fucked.

>>18483473

>its just circumstance

llikely not. post a picture of your self and lets start there. everyone else in your middle of nowhere is dating after all.

>>18483392
story?

get over it. you werent raped, and those who were raped tend to get over it well enough, so why not just chalk it up to something you tried and moved on?

>>18483396
I'm going to bed so have fun waiting on that story

VIDEO https://youtu.be/dQuDx3UTiZM

>>18483338
hypocrite

>>18483338
Listen to diffrent music then retard

Black metal and dungeon synth is where you should go

>>18483233
stop shitposting on /adv/ and go meet men

Go post on /soc/

>>18483233
You don't.

>my hands feel like a 50 year old mans

bruh if professional melee/starcraft players have hands that are in better shape than yours you seriously need to listen to your inner voice.

You should just scale it back and do it for fun, make 100 bucks here and there to pay for something special you want but focus on more tangible goals ya know?

>>18483232

>Should I just give up and be realistic that I'm never going to make a living off this?

That's up to you. We can't answer this question for you. You have to decide whether the risk vs. reward is worth it for you, not if its worth it for us.

There's a chance you'll make it and a chance you won't. The entertainment industry doesn't have a high rate of success and I think you know that but, again, we can't decide how much you're willing to sacrifice to achieve this.

Unfortunately this decision lies with you and you alone. We can tell you what we would do in your situation but that isn't informed advice, its just personalized speculation.

You're working 40+ hours a week for less than minimum wage. That's full time.

Dated for 8 months, took me around 2 to feel back to my prior self took 2 weeks after to not care about her. I just accepted it happened and moved on, its that simple just fully grasp she's gone and she won't be involved in your life anymore therefore theres honestly no reason you need to think about her.

>just fully grasp she's gone and she won't be involved in your life anymore therefore theres honestly no reason you need to think about her.
That part I already got, but how do I accept that she's gone for good rather than hurt myself thinking ''She's going to realize her mistake for sure and come back any day now!''?

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>How long had you been dating?
6 years, long story short, she left in the middle of the night to fly across the country to live with someone she met online, deleted me from everything and changed her number, parents refused to talk to me so they obviously knew about it

>How long did it take you to start feeling significantly better?
Around 4 years is when the pain slowly started dying

>How long did it take you to fully heal?
She left me in 2012, still hurts

>What did you do to decrease the pain?
I spent time with friends and family, we lived in the same house together and shared the same friends, so getting away from things that made me think of her was insanely hard, I didn't have the money to move anywhere else so I'm still in the same house we once shared, all my friends have forgotten about her but she still haunts my dreams pretty fucking hard, every room I go into I remember the times we shared in there, it's pretty awful, the thing that helped the most was talking to friends about it and crying as much as I could, holding in my feelings made everything much worse, I spent days crying and hugging her clothes like a pathetic fool until one day I just stopped feeling pain and very slowly started getting better

I realized I had friends and family who cared about me no matter what, and just because she left that didn't mean they were going to leave me too, remember the most important thing

You're NOT alone during this, you have people who care and want to help you heal, you don't have to feel alone, even people here on this board care and want to help, sometimes it takes a long time to heal, but the best thing you can do is spend time with friends and surround yourself with happy people who care about you.

>>18483149
Find out what it is, and stop doing it.

>>18483149
Whenever you feel like doing it,try going for a run or to the gym. Using hobbies or doing exercise can help take your mind off doing it. Set yourself a goal,like only do it once a week.

>>18483153
It's masturbation.

>>18483149
Cut out porn and find a new hobby. You're addicted

>>18483123
Which city? I'd hang with you if you are living in Chicago.

what do you like anon?

You make friends through shared interests and repeated contact, and after that, shared values.

many people our age are really trying hard to focus on "making it" or are beginning to start families. It's a sad fact of life, but friends often get left by the wayside.

>>18483123
>I've tried joining sports clubs, going out to concerts and bars by myself


fucking cringe OP.
the only people that do that are autistic kids who are forced to by mom and dad to be able to develope social skills so they can move out and mom and dad can travel again and be free.

did you really do that bro?

did you not check your calender? 2017
no one has friends anymore. not real ones anyway.

but I have to know please anon, did you really join "sports clubs" in order to try and make friends?

>>18483102
tell her over the phone that you are breaking up with her

>>18483147
Ight,thanks m8

>>18483102
> 1 month
> nigga, who gives a fuck? Move on

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Don't get a script, ittl just make it worse in the long run. I was a lot like you my first few years of college, but now I have a fairly large friend base that I engage in actively. I'm just gonna keep it simple because that's what socializing is, so don't over think it. Just go up and talk to people, chances are they feel more awkward than you when you approach them so just fake the confidence until you slowly but surely come out of your shell and realize how piss easy it is.

Social skills are what the name implies, a skill. You're not going to be amazing from the start, no one ever is and it takes practice. It can be difficult at first but it gets progressively easier over time until you become adept at it and from there on out it's a cake walk.

I wish you luck in your efforts anon, I can understand how hard it is to socialize at first but it is a vital skill that will improve your life many times over if you learn how to do properly now while you're still young. Just remember not to take it too seriously, as with anything in life.

>>18483088
It really does take practice anon, I made no new friends my first year in college but after a while I think I got the hang out it. Truthfully, the anxiety never really goes away, but it gets better. You've just gotta go out and do it. Faking confidence helped for a while, but it isn't something to rely on at all times.

>>18483088
Say something to everyone you meet. Say hello or how's it going in an offhand way to everyone you come across. It's goofy as fuck at first, but it works.

>>18483064
Stop tying your self worth to dating. Find something you are passionate about and do that instead.

>>18483064
First problem: nobody can tell you how to do this, you need to gain confidence yourself, your own way.

Second problem: if you want more epage views, try being attractive.

>>18483076
I don't think I am passionate about anything.

>>18483091
>Second problem: if you want more epage views, try being attractive.

How?

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>demanding compensation as a minimum wage nobody
Haha, looks like the goyim are getting a bit uppity!

>>18483191
Yeah, I was still feeling like crap, and very angry when I wrote that bit. Whups.

Fast food really is awful work with clueless managers that make everything worse. I'm not going to tell you not to quit, but what will you do then? Let's pro-con this a bit. How will you support yourself without a job? If you're living at home will your parents really be on your back about this? Maybe you can explain your feelings to them and try to figure out something else.>>18483305

Dinner/drinks and then go see fireworks. This is pretty cut and dry mate.

>>18482991
try both or if you can't squeeze 'em in together just have a nice dinner. don't waste time@movies

The event should have food stalls and drinks there. Still go with the restaurant?

>>18482945
thats not a catch 22 stupid stoner

Play dumb and say it is a tobacco pipe.

Why even have it?.
>>18482959
Lol ok bud.