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>3) Find common ground as quickly as possible. If you're at a party, ask who she knows at the party. If you're at an event for some activity, ask about the activity. Odds are you're both interested in it. The most important thing in a relationship is, IMO, find a common interest as soon as possible. This will always provide a sort of "safety net" for you if you find yourself at a lull in conversation with the girl, for example. The way I met my most serious girlfriend was me sending her a message noting that she was a huge fan of the same video game that I was. That game provided the entire structure of the beginning of our relationship, basically.

>4) Ask the girl questions about herself. Remember FORD (family, occupation, recreation, dreams), but you want a slightly different version for the opposite sex. Women love talking about themselves, you want to let them do that. But if you become a passive sponge for women to just ramble at, you could probably be anyone. Some people just want a passive audience to talk to about whatever. Hyper-extroverts, I guess. Try to keep this from happening. You want the girl to always have you in mind, even when she's talking about herself. You want to stand out in her mind, compared to the many other men who are probably trying to get her attention. Remember that we are animals, and while men and women are both sexual beings, their sexual rituals are quite different. Mainly, men just want to fuck a girl who's physically attractive. But women know they're desirable to most men who see them, assuming they're at least average-looking. Because of this, they have to be very picky. This is just their biology. Men can squirt semen all over the place, multiple times a day, but women have a finite number of eggs, and only one can be fertilized at a time. This is why women are the way they are. You have to show her that you stand out in some way, you're special in some way.

>5) Don't show a woman your true self until you're in a romantic relationship with her.
If something about you is embarrassing, odds are, it's for a reason. She doesn't need to know everything about you. Do you secretly listen to Carly Rae Jepsen (like me)? She doesn't need to know that. Do you play video games perhaps too much? She doesn't need to know that (I've seen more than one dating site profile that specifically says they don't want to date gamers). Do you post on 4chan all the time? She really doesn't need to know that.

Here's the thing...in modern American society, gender might be becoming skewed, and the "rules of attraction" might be becoming skewed, but all the evidence suggests that women are still very much into the same kind of man they have been throughout history. You might think that a girl who listens to heavy metal is sexy as fuck, but I guarantee you that 99% of women wouldn't feel the same way about a man who listens to feminine music. While they would never admit it, most women simply want a guy who's into manly stuff. It's biological, man. Some women just won't be attracted to you because of how you physically look. Some women won't be attracted to you because of what you're into and what you like to do. Keep that secret so she won't decide you're not attractive before you've even had a chance to woo her.

But there's a caveat: once love enters the equation, things change a bit. If you're lucky enough to have a girl fall in love with you, she'll likely be able to deal with these quirks as just that, quirky things about you. At this point you can hope that the girl just won't find them unattractive.

The point is, the hardest part is getting a girl into you romantically. In my view, you have to really walk on eggshells until that happens, within reason. Don't play it completely safe, after all, you have to be interesting to her. But just don't drop any unusual quirks or opinions until she's already decided that you're a potential mate.

>6) Girls just wanna have fun. If you've been on a date with a girl, that's awesome! Now it's time to shake things up for the next date though. Try to go different places, do different things, be outside, show her that you're spontaneous, creative, and open-minded.

>7) And, another bit of advice which may be unpopular...try to have sex as soon as you think she might be willing, or at least a kiss. This is just my personal experience, but once you've had sex with a girl, so much of the anxiety and nerves about dating is just....gone. I mean, you've had sex with this woman. She's clearly at least attracted to you, and now you have proof. Now you don't need to try so hard, you can relax a little bit, or in my case, a lot. The idea is to get some kind of confirmation that she's attracted to you. Like I said, a kiss will do, but sex is obviously better.

good luck anons

>>18483334
>transgirl
>trans
>girl
Why exactly did you pick a "transgirl" and not a real girl to lose your virginity to?

>>18483334
>trans"girl"
wew lad

>>18483345
Yeah I know I'm a faggot, I've wanted to fuck someone with a dick, it's a fetish I've acquired.

>she doesn't want the kink

well rn she's finding it alluring because she doesn't want it thats how women are OP

>>18483313
Just call her your "good girl" (use exactly those two words) every time she does a sexual favor or something submissive. Women with a real daddy kink will get turned on; all others feel thatthose two words are demeaning and will react bitterly. That will tell you if she really has the kink or not. If she reacts positively, you should start using the two magic words whenever she does anything for you like fetching you coffee or making a sandwich. You'll be surprised how much she suddenly wants to do for you.

Just call her shit tits every time she calls you daddy

Everybody's got kinks, nothing wrong with you until you actually start spanking a little girl so my advice is don't actually become a pedo.

>>18483177
I'm getting pretty desperate. I've probably read every single relevant story on the internet, more than once.

Do you possibly know where I can find a video? Not of an actual child though lol, just not something glaringly fake or sexual.

>>18483186
Sorry dude youre still a pedo even if you dont act on it. Id get help before you ruin a childs life and your own.

>>18482510
Realization is the key.
You can start logging and writing down your days, situations, thoughts and put emphasize on feelings so you can realize whats the cause.

Depression is a chemical imbalance in your head causing you to feel different, usually bad.

This can be fixed in different ways.

You could see a doctor who has dealt with this literally thousands of times before and get prescribed medicine to balance the chemicals, or whatever the doctor says.

You could wait for the chemicals to balance themselves out if it isn't too bad.

You could get other chemicals that do the same things endorphins do but are worse for you, like drink soda for the caffeine or 5 hour energy and monster. Video games are also really stimulating, so if you already haven't tried that there's another option.

OR if your feeling brave you can get into a deep relationship with someone, that'll screw around with your chemical imbalances for a while, or just make it worse.

Hope it helps.

>>18482510
this is a good program to try out (PDF + audio):
http://www.mediafire.com/file/stl5ctg1ptogszt/MWTD.zip

>The mindful way through depression.

>>18482145
be direct
this is the best and most efficient approach to many things

>>18482162
Direct in what way? Do I just say "I like you" at the very beginning of the conversation? It's not very romantic but I have no other ideas.

>>18482204
Say that you like him and ax him out to eat or something.

Stick to your own and spare our from yours

>>18481381
This

>>18481374
Well, this is a loaded question.

If you're looking for someone who will be respectful of your customs, obviously arab. Otherwise just do whatever you want.

How convenient.
I was just looking for this thread.

M
I'm never going to date you. I'm your friend. Please stop trying to be anything more. You already know this.

L
I'm not sure how to feel about what happened the other night. It seems you make the advances but blame others when they have sex with you and don't want anything more. This is the second time dude. I can't help it if I'm horny. You shouldn't do that to people.

E
Thanks for being my best friend. I hope you end up leaving him eventually because he's shit and you know it. Be happy. I love you.

S
I'm excited to hear from you again and I wouldn't mind if we started dating. I was really into you and I probably always will be. I hope you feel the same. Let's see where it goes...

A
I still hate you. I still hope you get your heart broken. I still can't believe you would do this to me. Fuck you.

A

If you die now, I want to die too.

bump please respond I'm losing my mind over this

>>18477301
If you are a heterosexual guy, your dick has to go fully in the pussy and then you have to have a penetrative sexual intercourse

>>18477301
What the fuck of course not

Don't do it OP

She'll do anything to get to you if you get in her radar.

She might send her friends or associates to trigger you on a lot of shit.

Yes and it's terrible, your fetishism is bad and you should feel bad. Crazy girls are unpredictable and will have emotional outbursts constantly and also in public. Not only this but they will consistently partake in self destructive behavior that they will then blame on you, saying that your actions justify any and all of their misdeeds.

>>18476696
>Crazy girls are unpredictable and will have emotional outbursts constantly and also in public.

:3 what do you mean tell me sime stories of what its like?

give me example what tends ro happen when dating psycho girls

>>18484898
I honestly don't fucking get it. I feel like the whole world is going insane. What do they really feel they're accomplishing by fighting with their neighbors? What is the average guy on "the other side" actually doing to fuck up their existence, that could be solved or improved by violence?

To me, we're all just swimming in the same shit, dealing with the exact same problems, with different ideas on what caused it. It makes no sense to fight with each other.

The root of the problem is economic, it was ALL thoroughly exposed & explained in 2007-2008, and nothing actually changed. There's no real mystery about what has gone wrong here, the real mystery is why we aren't fucking doing anything about it. Why we keep getting distracted by dumb-ass arguments with our neighbors instead. It's like we spend all our time arguing about how to treat the symptoms of a disease, when there's an obvious, effective cure to the disease itself, and the symptoms would cease to be a problem if we just fucking cured it.

>>18484909
I wish I could "like" this on post like on other sites.

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Some thoughts from beaver on the topic of violence. Enjoy.

>>18484838
If she has a boyfriend then maybe just talk to her first before going in for a kiss. If you have strong feelings for her then just tell her.

>>18484866
she had, i don't know if she has one now. And i think she wouldn't respond positively to my note if she had one

>>18484871
Well that's a good sign. What are you guys doing together tomorrow?

>>18484623
Rent it. If it needs an access code you're screwed no matter what... unless your grade can take the hit of not doing the stuff in there at all.

>>18484625
I WON'T TAKE NO FOR AN ANSWER. lel

>>18484623
You're better off googling "name of book download pdf" than asking here for starters.
If it's papers, scihub is the place, books are a bit harder to download.
Try to find the book second hand from students who already passed that class.

>>18484482

Food critic
Reviewer
Food blogger
Travel Food blogger

Legit anything where you can say to people.

"I like tasty shit. This place has tasty shit. Come eat here for some tasty shit."

>>18484491
anything that's not a meme job?

>>18484504

Tasting the Kings banquet before he eats to make sure it's not poisoned ?

Seriously you said you were happy when eating something tasty. Those jobs you can eat tasty shit everyday.

>>18484443
OP breaking up is hard. You can fight it but it will not change the final outcome. Accept it, she only changed her story because you flipped out.

>>18484501
Yeah I was thinking that. I just got off the phone with her and she apologized and admitted she was in the wrong. We're meeting up for dinner later tonight to talk more.

>>18484525
Just let her go. It sounds like a poisonous relationship and she doesn't want to be there.