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I really don't like being black. I am deeply bothered it unfortunately. I just don't see being black is anything good. Especially in the USA. My dating life is ass righht now because my self confidence shit. Mostly because I am uncomfortable being black.

I am also REALLY put off by black women. I hate how they buy into that "woke" shit. I also dislike how most of them look really unattractive to me. I use OkCupid and the black women on there and in real life look like lord of the rings orcs or some shit.

Not all black women look bad but the ones that look average are mixed usually. I deeply concerned at the high amount of unattractive black women.

Why is being black so fucking aids? I just want a healthy dating life. I am not looking for hookups or freebies and shit.

I just want to be a regular dude.

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I've been married for 14 years. My wife is a ballroom dancer. I knew this before we got married and I am okay with her going and dancing with other men. Let's be honest, most of them are in their sixties or seventies and I was not concerned. There was one man that she started to dance with who was very good, in his late sixties, and they really enjoyed talking. I knew that she like dancing with this man and if it made her happy I was all for it.

Then I found the texts. The first time I realized something was wrong we had just finished having sex on a Sunday afternoon and then we both fell asleep. Later that day when we were going to bed for the night I got her cell phone and I checked it to make sure that the ringer was off. When I unlocked the screen I saw that she had messaged this man and the message that she had sent was " I just took a nap in my" followed by the birthday cake emoji and a suit emoji. I got a sick feeling in my stomach. I went through her texts to see what other kind of inappropriate things she was sending to this man who was old enough to be her dad hoping I was wrong. I found more. He would talk about her body, and the way that she moved, and she would reply with "blushing", or telling him that he was an amazing man. There was a lot of flirting, and it was way out of hand. So I confronted her about it.

After all was said and done, this is what I found out had happened. They would go dancing and after the dance they would sit in either her car or his car and talk, sometimes for an hour. Mind you, this is all while I am home with our two kids at the time. When they would dance there were a few times where he grabbed her butt. He asked her for a kiss at least three times. They would carpool together. She said she never let him kiss her and it never went beyond the flirting. I asked her why she didn't slap him when he grabbed her butt. Her response was she didn't want the fun to be ruined.

More to come (pic is her)

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How do I find a girl to hook up with?

I'm fucking thirsty and dying in the Sahara desert, mentally and spiritually.

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I just realized I'm in love with my best friend. It isn't a crush - in the past, when I thought about girls I'd go for, I always rejected her in my mind as not being attractive enough. I've dated more attractive girls in the past, and she isn't someone whose picture would impress my friends. She isn't cool in a superficial way - she doesn't know cool underground bands or bullshit art. She isn't this cool, savvy partying socialite.

But today it hit me, none of that stuff fucking matters. She makes me happy. The idea of her not being around is terrifying. The thought of her doesn't make me horny, it makes me feel warm and happy.

How do I communicate that to her without poisoning the friendship? Really, it's just a friendship I want to go on forever, like she's someone I want to start a family with. Sexuality is almost beside the point. Which is weird for me, because I'm normally a horny fucker.

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I'm at PCB for a week and there's tons of good looking girls here. I'm 18 and not completely awful looking. I'm not an introvert either. my problem is that I can't come up with a way to approach these girls without coming off as creepy or annoying. I don't know how to start talking to them/get their number. should I just straight up go right to them and say, "I think you're really pretty. would you wanna hangout or something?" Help me out Chad's and guys that have been with a lot of girls?

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Basically i started talking to this girl for the first time in a year and we were catching up on everything, she asked me a question and i answered it and expected her to respond but she left it on read, Idk what i did wrong and i thought she might have fallen asleep but she tweeted like 30 minutes after so idk. What do?

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Any advice on dating/finding a gf for someone who has only had 2 very short term relationships in the past?
Idk where i'd be on a scale of 1-10, I'd like to think I'm like 6-7, Could be a solid 8 I think if I focused more on exercising (got a bit of a beer belly).
I am pretty busy with school cause I am in a phd program and studying for qualifying exams so preferably if there is some kind of time efficient way to go about this that would be nice.

I'm kind of introverted (always been that way) and I just don't know what girls want to talk about most of the time. Every time I match with girls on tinder or bumble it seems like an annoying fucking game, like I need to say just the right thing, I try jokes I try just asking them how they're doing, I try bringing up like current event or whatever, but they never seem to want to talk. I'm not delusional enough to think I am particularly interesting or anything, but I can't get anyone to even want to go out and do something mildly interesting.

I'm not looking for a like a 10/10 goddess or anything, just someone who is in half-decent shape and takes care of themselves in terms of hygiene.

Thx in advance

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I need advice in figuring out why do I hate people so much
I mean I don't hate everyone, I just hate people who hurt or take advantage of other people who never did anything to them
Wich is pretty much everyone except a handful of people

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I sometimes feel like I'm doing something wrong when texting to a girl, I usually ask something, and when answered make an observation about it and try to relate or tell her a similar experience. When that proves effective it usually goes down to talking about random shit and then meeting up for some irl interaction, Any advice? Maybe some girls like to be approached in other ways?

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This bathroom sink hasn't been used much in the past few years, and the water seems to have developed a light musty smell.

I thought the smell was coming from the main drain or overflow, but after bombing them with vinegar and baking soda, I realized the smell was washing off onto my hands and lingering. I did a taste comparison, and the bathroom water tastes slightly inferior to the kitchen water, which tastes very clean. The house uses city water btw.

I replaced the faucet and the water supply hose, but I can still smell something on my hands. I get the feeling that something has grown in the pipes leading to this bathroom, but beyond this I don't know what to do. I'm no plumber, and the pipes are tucked away and physically out of reach; would rather not mess with them anyway.

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I start my new job tomorrow, but I'm not getting any sleep... Advice on methods to not have droopy eyes/drifting off tomorrow? It would suck to give a bad impression. It's a programming/software job.

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Basically in the past 48 hours I did over 200 mg of diazepam (diazepram/valium is 5 mg each ) plus I took ( only 1 Hydrocodone 5 mg). I will be drug tested tomorrow due to my parents suspected I was "high on something". How fucked am I to test positive, I'm there will be some traces of benzos? It probably only gonna be a piss test, maybe blood. Long story short what do I do? Go with the drug test and say fuck it man up? Or show my parents the 6 diazepram/valium pills I "obtained" and say some shit like I was having anxiety with life struggle s I'm having and needed something to ease off. My parents are closeminded so anything that's not OTC or doctor prescribed is considered hardcore drugs to them and I'm seen as a druggie.

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If a girl I'm seeing took 30 hours to reply to a text, but the response was an enthusiastic apology with emojis and whatnot, should I bother responding? Or is she just not interested anymore and trying to be polite.

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Am I a racist? I treat people the same no matter what their skin colour is or ethnicity. I would date a black or middle eastern person but that's just preference.
Despite this I constantly find myself finding incredibly racist memes and songs funny. For some reason I find moonman songs to be very funny. I'm not 18 and I feel like I've moved out of my edgy teen phase and I would never actually call someone a tacky slur but I just find these things incredibly funny. Am I racist or is it just a joke?

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is it possible for somebody to hold back their thoughts on how they most likely have a mental illness to the point where they believe they are normal?

think im having this probably right now