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Wait for her to get into an argument with her BF. Then take her side and basically drive a wedge between the two of them. Of course don't make it obvious, but make her stand her ground and reassure her that she's right and he's wrong, etc. Then take her out on a date except don't frame it as a date. Something like that. This is how I stole my friend (who is no longer my friend for obvious reasons) GF, true story.

this situation is called the the friend zone
if yall are so close come out to her and say it if she only sees you as a friend its fine. the only thing you have to really worry about is regretting not ever saying anything to her if it doesn't work out. it might be embarrassing but I feels better then thinking "what if" to yourself for the next couple of year.

friendship is like plants. they can die a natural death. just be grateful for the time that you spent together instead of lamenting that it can't last forever.

>>18479720
You should just take her aside and explain that you don't enjoy it. There's no real comeback to it without a risk of backfiring entirely. If she's actually your close friend, she'll get that she needs to lay off it.

there isn't any is all you can do is tell her to ^lay off.
and if she doesn't stop you don't need to be hanging out with her if she doesn't care about how you feel. plus if seems like you still like her the best choice is to just move on no other girl likes having to compete with other friends and especially girl/ friends

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>>18479720
Best sort of revenge?

>try new things
>go outside your comfort zone
>hit the gym
>eat healthy
>take up hobbies
>expand your friend branch
>do spontaneous things
>your dress casual should be attractive casual
>be happy

worked for me. She came crawling back after she noticed how interesting my life was becoming and how much I was enjoying myself. By the time she confessed "Oh I missed you so much, you're amazing, my heart belongs to you, etc." I had already realized how shallow the whole thing was, rejected her in a non-vengeful way and continued to live a fulfilling lifestyle to this day

Suck it Kaitlyn

White men who prey on vulnerable Asian women are the worst. Western society has brainwashed Asian women into hating themselves and disgusting virgins like yourself try to take advantage of their insecurity. Frankly, I find it disgusting.

>>18479705
Who cares what you think?
Hang around college towns and have something to do there, tends to be tons around that area, statistically one will like you, the rest is up to you not letting the autism out

>>18479705
Are you an Asian woman?

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>>18479649

same

i did that once
then we met
then my life was torn apart

would not recommend

>>18479644

talk to a therapist.

>>18479662
How do you feel when you think that your life is going to end? How should a therapist help?

>>18479685

well if your life isnt going to end the therapist will help you understand your fear. and if your life IS going to end, a therapist helps you deal withe the fact that its ending.

>>18479437
Get off social media. Been off fb close to 8 yrs, dont miss it a bit. I was hooked on myspace, prob had close to 900 blog post and like 3 or 4 pgs worth of info on my profile. Also had custom music and background. Just giving you some inside info about my social media use back in my younger days. I am off all that shit now and I'm perfectly happy and normal

>>18479451

I know, I have been off for a long time, and I used to be very active before too, that's how I crashed, partly, I'll need social media though, I am a musician, I'll have to use it for promotion, and considering I'm 19yo and not studying I'll need it to get dates too

I can't just settle like this, I have to get shit done one way or another

>>18479437
Tl;dr and most of it is too vague and abstract to give a solid advice.
All I can tell you is that the feelings you are having come from your thoughts, which are influenced by environment, which your habits determine.
Change your habits. Excersise and take the extra effort to talk to people, read and gain a new perspective. Work on any of these things with the intent of making them an everyday thing.

Also I wouldn't recommend social media. It's fine for just talking to people, but for the most part it's just a big waste of time.

HELP MEEEEE

>>18479391
Sex makes your dick feel good.

That's literally all there is to it.

Without a dick you couldn't even have sex.

Again, everything else is secondary to the fact that sex makes your dick feel good.

In conclusion, your main objective is to ensure that your dick feels good.

As long as it's done consensually, she'll probably enjoy it too.

>>18479391
>BENIS IN VAGINA
you're over thinking this shit OP. it's probably gonna suck your first time, and if your gf isn't a virgin she'll understand that. it's just like a first kiss, the first one always 100% sucks, but you just need practice and experience to get better.

Once you find a med combination it gets easier but it doesn't go away.

Have you been assessed for autism/aspergers? It's often misdiagnosed as BPD, especially in girls.

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when you look into a mirror what do you see?
do you see your face or a jumble of shifting shapes?

im disgusted with 3d women but cant really get into anime

>>18479167

anyone who claims they are content are just fooling themselves. they just become 'lethargic' towards women, over masturbating to satiate the desire.

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How serious are you about this?

If not serious:
Just watch anime or play visual novels when you can, you will get over this phase eventually.

If semi-serious:
Find a cute 2D girl from some anime or visual novel and learn to love her, making her your official waifu.

If very serious:
Consider tulpamancy. If you go down this path, you may succeed in creating an entity (tulpa) in your brain that you can see and communicate with. A tulpa will act independently of you and you may very well end up with a cute 2D anime girl that you can actually communicate with for life. This is a time-consuming process with potential risks. Check out https://tulpa.io/ for more info. You can also check out the tulpa threads on /trash/: >>>/trash/10191090

>>18478707
So how old are they and what's their class? Also are you the guy or girl and which countries (any cultural differences?)?

If you've already cut contact there's no harm in telling them how you feel, I think you should do it

>>18478744
I'm a female. They are 19 and from a better family and richer and more influential environment. And no, no major cultural differences.

>>18478744
And as for contacting that person, I just don't know how to do it in the least strange way...

>>18478619
"Girl" is probably a guy that your gf put down with a fake female name in her phone's contact list.

>>18478966
Bingo.

>>18478966
Could be so
Really confront her about it and make sure she's aware it worries you

What did you do

>>18482958
I supposedly shanked a guy

>>18482973
Well did you or didn't you. Why do the cops say you did?

>>18482832
you don't. you pressure them to get help.

>>18482836
You beat me to it

If the person spans to the "pressure" of getting help, he/she more than definitely needs it

>>18482836
>>18482839

What do I do when they're against treatment and don't think it would help?

Put stuff in it

>>18482831
Get ride of that excess furniture. Just the bed, plain white sheets, nothing else. Minimalism is the ultimate comfort because it subtracts all superfluous detail from existence.

>>18482855
I don't really own all that much....stuff.
what types of things?

>>18482856
That's, a thought...Although it might appear odd to the occasional female.

>>18482642
dumped them.

>>18482642
Tell her that the only solace of inevitable mortality lies in loving the children we create to carry on our spark through the years after our own fires have been extinguished. We die, but our blood and ideas and greatness live on in our offspring.

>>18482642
>What did you do to get over them?

A lot of things, none of them worked. The only outcome was that I got depressed too and everything good went to fuck itself. It's cruel but >>18482648 is right. If meds/psychologist won't help, dump her and move on with your life. You have to understand that if her case is hopeless, then she is a sinking ship and you will sink with her if you stay. I know that many people have this notion that their love and support can heal mental illnesses, but unfortunately it is not true. And before you say something stupid like "I'd rather go down with her than leave her", I can honestly tell you: you don't want that. It will destroy your life and probably have a detrimental effect on other people close to you.