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>>18529337
You are not gay. You are tired of the bullshit and the fucking. Nothing changes in sex. All you're doing is the same shit to a different bitch every night. Dicking them down like a gigolo.

You aint gay lol you are just maturing and need a break. Hell maybe you reached the age where it is uninterested.

you are at the point in life, where mindless sex doesnt cut it anymore, for me the goal then was finding a decent girl to settle with, who is pleasing the mind more than the dick.

Stop having meaningless sex and settle down with a wife

Or go gay and have even more degenerate sex, then die alone from aids

>>18529303
lonely but not when you hold me
>sad and happy at the same time
>like if you want: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lZEWeHvUTJQ

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>>18529303
Nothing compares to the sadness of having a broken mind
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cVQUYtEB3aA

>>18529303
"Into the West" from Return of the King and the John Cale version of "Hallelujah."
https://youtu.be/JgcoBKWTW14
https://youtu.be/DinEKqtCDkg

Is your mother a teAcher? Does she work in education? No?

Then she is being a busybody and talking out of her ass and you're an idiot for believing her when you are the actual teacher.. She's just being worried for you but many teachers have their own kids and nice marriages. How is having a whole summer off gonna keep you from pkaying video games?

>>18528899
It can end up consuming a lot of your time, but the idea that you can't just time-manage, live within your means and only take as much work as you can do is...ridiculous. If anything, most of the work is going to be mindless, considering the majority of classes before college are easy to the point of being patronizing (unless you become an AP teacher in a good district, but maybe even then). Most people have trouble finding meaningful, engaging work with enough social interaction, so I would see being swamped with children's papers as a gift. It's all about perspective.

Op here. My mom is not a teacher, but she assumes a lot of stuff. My main problem is I live in California and will hopefully be teaching junior high. All these people, especially my mom, are saying "It's gonna be hell. Say goodbye to your social life."

>>18528884
>how am I going to keep it from coming back?
By following instructions and taking the antibiotics for the fucking prescribed course. Doctors don't just give you them for 10 days for shits and giggles.

>>18528900
This.
OP you fucking piece of shit all you're doing is creating a super strep virus that will be immune to antibiotics.
Take the full fucking dose even if you start to feel better, by god they tell you this literally every single time they prescribe you antibiotics for a reason how are people this stupid

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>>18528884
You damn idiot. Just because you feel better doesn't mean that it's how it works. You keeping said antibiotics until way way WAY after you're feeling better to ensure that all those fuckers are purged from your system like hilter purged the jews.

>>18530859
IDK. Why don't you ask her about her family background?

>>18530859
She seems to be ugly. Also probably native/ Mexican

>>18530859
Argentinian or Brazilian

t. BRfag

pack up her shit and leave it on the front porch. Why would you want to go back to her? You will never be able to trust her again.

Move on, man. Easier said than done, I know, but it is necessary

It also might be helpful to know she's 22 and I'm 30. Been together for 1 year

Just pack it up, leave it on the porch and change your locks. She has no respect for you whatsoever.

>>18530754
Bump come on guys i need help

organic chem master race

>>18530754

Math

> no labs
> 300k starting

>>18530743
normally by that time you realize that earning money is more important than getting another degree
or you're like witten and say fuck it and just start another major

>>18530744
I can't work due to disability but want to get another degree for personal growth what do

>>18530745
autism isn't a disability

Cubase

>>18530621

Would it be good for something like this? I think it's a guitar synth.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_T3skSSt1xU

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ti4-WstzvmI

Csound

>>18530550
Could be a romance scam OP. Better off just stop talking to this person

By running the fuck away

>>18530556
nah lol im not gonna get scammed
im poor and shes in another country
im just wondering what am i supposed to do now
do i text her once in a while and check what shes up to?
how do into nudes????
i know her name and photo
she doesnt know my name where im from how old i am

Go to her mate and talk face to face

>>18530549
she is almost 2 hours away, should i tell her that i'm coming or simply tell her when i'm there?

>"i need to stay alone, i fell like that now"
Code for "I'm currently bouncing on Chad's dick but I don't want to hurt your feelings by telling you"

Two ways
1) Just stop giving a fuck, you go there and repeat a mantra in your head
2) Bulk up at home and then hit the gym

>>18530507
You realize everyone who went to the gym were probably the weakest there at one point as well..

Same with me, I used to bench just the bar with no plates but slowly progressed, having the people there throw you "nice progress dude" or other kind of compliments is very nice desu

>>18530507
This is coming from a person was 360 at 6'3, and has lost over 40 pounds. Do it after awhile it becomes a habit and you stop giving a fuck and you get stronger.

Why don't you love yourself?

>>18530437

By becoming someone you could love. Improve yourself where you know you can improve and say "fuck it, this will do" when it comes to flaws you can't fix. Become good at something, so you can be proud of yourself. Be the sort of person you'd like to be. Figure out what you admire in other people and try to be that kind of person yourself.

If you want a shortcut take LSD

fuck the pretty one once or twice and date the engineer chick, you dont need a leech

Choose the one who you prefer to spend time, has the better personality and you think will be a better wife long term

>>18530394
What do you want from life? I careerwomen which will not get any kids and spend more time on work than you or the perfect mother for your children for which you can be a provider (and which also looks good).

Don't be stupid, no one gives a fuck about female education.

However, I like to think that we are both mature enough to be real with each other. I just really don't want to lose her, because I know it would be entirely my fault. I just want to be able to pull her in and kiss her with the passion which I feel. I'm sort of worried that this is just an expression of some immaturity which I'm in denial about, but I like to think of myself as a fairly mature, reasonable guy (humble too!) It frustrates me that my friends can put on facades of passion and feeling which girls find convincing simply for physical fulfillment, whilst I, with genuine feelings to express, lack the faculties to communicate them.

>>18530342
>>18530348
Your feelings are quite normal and average, lots of people have problems with being too self-conscious.

Usually people are too self-conscious when they have been too sheltered most of their lives, so they become the people-pleaser types who are overly worried about how they appear to others. This is fine though, everyone go through it, especially teens.

I could rant about that precise worry you describe for very long, but after you nod & agree and close the 4chan tab, you will forget about it and it creeps back again to you that you are inadequate or "ugly", because it's an irrational kind of feeling, you can't reason your way out of this. You can listen to a long-ass motivational speech on youtube and even that won't help 1 bit, because it's a behavioral/cognitive thing, not a philosophical thing.

In very short, what helped me is to make it your habit to constantly break your comfort zone. Read the wiki definition before I go on:

>A comfort zone is a psychological state in which things feel familiar to a person and they are at ease and in control of their environment, experiencing low levels of anxiety and stress. In this zone, a steady level of performance is possible.[1]

>Bardwick defines the term as "a behavioral state where a person operates in an anxiety-neutral position."[2] Brown describes it as "Where our uncertainty, scarcity and vulnerability are minimized — where we believe we’ll have access to enough love, food, talent, time, admiration. Where we feel we have some control."[3]

You can't fully express what you feel inside to your girlfriend precisely because that expression is outside of your comfort zone, and you are not used to break your comfort zone in general.

How to break comfort zone? Occasionally do some crazy shit. Not dangerous, but courageous/bold/extroverted.

I'd say overcome it in small steps, find reassurance in success. E.g. you might sweetly ask her "Would you like a kiss?" when you're cuddling, and then when she happily smiles and says yes, the whole thing hasn't been any less romantic, but maybe easier. (I can't feel your feeling here, but for me it is this way.) Then next time you'll be less afraid about just kissing her without asking. Or btw you can also 'ask' by looking her in the eyes like that, yknow, and you'll see that she'd like a kiss and then you can go for it--

Never force yourself to do anything either just because you feel it'd be 'romantic' or you should do it. Go with your own passion. And if you can't directly, find small steps to get closer.

You can also consider a smaller sign of affection than a kiss, that might then lead to one.

Just spend more time together, don't force yourself, it'll become easier, you'll sense how she feels more--