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>>18527052
She's not coming back, look at the pictures if you need to see them to accept that. If you don't need them to do that, don't look at 'em. You'll find someone new.

>>18527052

A typical solution to your problem would be to do new things and meet new people. This would create new bonds and passions.

Alternatively, perhaps examine the relationship and understand why it ended and that if it ended on such terms it was not without good reason.

Perspective is important during these times as focusing on the past creates a narrow, self-centered and nostalgic view rather than a positive and progressive one.

>>18527083
Thanks. I'm pretty sure all I need is some time to get my feelings back in order and I think that looking at the pictures would just set me back more than anything.

>>18527097
Right now I'm visiting family abroad for two more weeks so I can't really go out and meet new people, maybe when I come back? Also I am pretty well aware of why our relationship ended (she was pretty abusive and I dealt with her outbreaks pretty poorly at times. also monkey-branching)

Thanks for the advice you two.

>It seems my art is not too left enough too be accepted

For a moment I thought this post was about former Führer und Reichskanzler of Germany, Adolf Hitler, but he was rejected for other reasons.

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>>18527047
I inquired about the reasons of the rejection and Baumgartner dodged the question multiple times. This people are like a parasite and parasites need to be all gotten rid off

>>18527039
well, whatever you do, don't look to Italy for help

>>18527038
>turns out she had a boyfriend after all.

Boyfriends aren't husbands. All women keep a line of backup men for when their primary relationships fail. Be that backup.

>>18527479
That's true. The situation has forced me to have a good look at myself anyway.
I find myself imagining a future where she's single again and I want to be the best version of myself to take advantage of that.

However, there's every chance that may never happen. She's 37 and been married once before so it's not like we're talking about fleeting high school flings here but I really wouldn't know. I got the impression she was single so maybe she just picked that as an excuse to try to let me down gently.

It's frustrating being so motivated and having no way to act upon it. I just want to be able to get on without thinking about her all the time and get to a point I could look elsewhere without it feeling like second prize.

>>18527479
>women keep a line of backup men for when their primary relationships fail

I love biology

To me, yes, absolutely weird. It's too much at your ages and the fact that he got to know you as a thirteen year old girl makes it grosser still.

>>18527035
>is it weird?
definetely, won't be weird if you make it for another 15 years though
and as long as you are happy together, does it matter that it's weird?

>>18527035
how did he do it? did he say hi to your parents when he went to your room to pound that teen pusy

>>18526998
Get a small part time job and use that money for fun. He's looking after and planning your future.

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>reward ourselves

>>18527011
not OP but don't think taking care of the house is easy
they apparently split their work and she is doing her part that also deserves a reward every once in a while

>>18526998
make sure he knows that you don't want to spend money pointlessly, but feel like a small vacation for a weekend is in order.
apart from that, I think he's doing a good job, going out is overrated but doing it once every month is often enough if you don't have a cash overflow

Get a degree in weed selling

Kys
Become a petroleum ing or go to trade school.

>>18526974
ME+physics or EE+comp sci

>>18526931
I should also mention her parents have been involved with it for a long time which is surprisimg because they dont have much money and are divorced (moms lesbian with bpd amd unenployed, dads a teacher and I honestly can't say he's the smartest guy or a great parent although the parents are best friends still). She sounds so brainwashed I cant stand it. She thinks the business has "integrity" and I try to tell her it's another corporation that wants your money with massive revenue. At this point I'm kind of disgusted by the whole thing and don't see her deepening involvement helping her "create new possibilities" aside from losing $ and time and pushing her friends to do it.

More context to bump. Im 18 and about to start college for Chem E and finally sober from 3 or 4 years of physical opiate and benzo addiction and a nasty amph/coke habit. I feel like I'm the type of vulnerable person they'd prey on cause I'm trying to find a new way of life. She also seems susceptible i think because of bpd and dropping out of highschool and stuff so she doesnt have a whole lot going on just like me. She's 17 so her parents pay for it and they've been involved foe years but that almost makes me trust it less cause i don't really respect her parents very much. I wish i could get her out of this but she's so fucking into it and I feel like itd be selfish when sue gets something out of it. I just hate to see her invest so much time and energy into it.

I went, personally, it didn't help me seems like a placebo effect.

So how can we help you? what is the issue that needs advice?

>>18527032
Should I take Accutane or will I end up killing myself?

>>18527111
well anon i did a course of accutane and it destroyed my sex drive. I literally no longer feel anything and my dick straight-up does not work. i would reccommend against it. acne might be bad but your life could always be worse

>>18526786
She was enjoying the show.

>>18526786
Doesn't matter what it means.
What do you want? A date? To fuck her? So go talk to her and stop worrying about whether her checking her cellphone two times in 32 minutes means something or not.

What political things do you say anon? Is she red pilled

I don't have any sort of career going on, I'm assuming that's part of it. Is the answer just "Have a ton of money" ?

>>18526769
>>18526764
find a place where you can both find a job and live there together

Talk to a lawyer about it.

They will give you the most realistic path to this goal, and the consultation is usually free with them only charging you when work is actually done.

>>18526760
While on a date, which are the cues that make it obvious what to do? and how do you go about the transition?

>>18526763
Well I usually break the touch barrier right away and try to slowly up what I'm doing when it comes to that. Seeing how she responds and if she is okay with it. Then I pay attention to the mood. Do I make her laugh a lot? Is she happy? Then she gives me signals like touching my arm when she laughs, strong eye contact, touching her neck or hair, stuff like that. If all is right I will go in for the kiss. Either at the end or at the middle of the date.

The thing is, on a date you have one on one time for hours. Last time I was at a party one girl started talking to me and she gave me so many signals that she is into me. But we only talk for like a few minutes then we are occupied with other people, then we talk for a few minutes again and we are occupied with other people again. Know what I mean?

small talk
be fairly direct and ask to move to somewhere else in/around the house.
there is not much into it if she is attracted to you.

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>>18526758

>Become handsome even if short
>Become smarter
>Become more interesting
>Become more talented

>>18526758
Change your mindset.
Getting a gf is the least of your troubles; you really need to do something about how you see and understand yourself.
My advice is to sit down with a paper and pen and be brutally honest about yourself, but without falling into the trap of self-hatred or self-pity. Try to be as objective as you can be and try to go as deep as you can. Once you admit what your real problems are, you can go about solving them. Once you feel comfortable with yourself you will find a gf won't be nearly as hard to get as now.
Fix yourself up man, you can fucking do this.

tell him he isnt more of a man hiding his emotions and that faking it isnt a good strategy dealing with losses since you can clearly see hes having problems

its actually a very bad sign for long term since someone who wishes to run away from his problems by distracting himself are more prone to alcoholism, cheating, drugs etc etc

>>18526756
I don't know if being aggressive would help. I'm scared it'll push him further away.

We've been together for 5 years and he has been nothing but loving and compassionate.
He's hurting a lot. I just wish I knew how to get him to share his burdens with me.

That's how some people deal with loss in their lives. Some openly grieve, some hide it as a coping mechanism. Be there for him if he ever needs it, and you've done a good job trying to openly be there for him, but this seems like one of those things where he has to deal with it on his own and if he needs you in this regard he'll tell you.

>>18526744
Are you willing? Your jawline is undefined, just like your chin. You'll need to fix your entire lower jaw to correct your chin, as well as your jawline.

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If I was in your position, I wouldn't.

>>18526794
My jaw looks undefined because of the plain light but it's pretty average otherwise.
Why wouldn't you ?

>>18526744

Im against corrective surgeries unless you have a visisble cosmetic problem like polyps, extra lobes.

You look fine my man, if you think you'll chin will win you chicks, boy, I've seen fat guys pull 9's out of the club with ease. Well, they had money and a nice car, but it says a lot of the priorities of some women.

I miss my ex, a lot. Why did you turn against me?

>>18526721
I love you Kelsey.

I posted in the last thread about my roommate.

He wrote a letter to me shortly after. He took blame for a lot of our issues and how badly it ended between us. He wished me a good life.

I want to write a letter to him about how much I love him and I want to be friends with him again. I feel like a chunk of my heart is gone, like a part of my soul is missing. I feel relieved, in a sense, because I don't feel guilty anymore. But I miss him.