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>can't be assed to look shit up

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>>18527863
But all it says is "you have been bffs for two weeks" and i had the red heart and now its gone even though we didnt stop snapping?

> Yellow Heart — You are #1 best friends with each other. You send the most snaps to this person, and they send the most snaps to you.

God, it's like you can't read or something.

a suicide note? like what the fuck you don't tell people you're gonna kill yourself unless you want to be stopped

>>18527812
You can't.

>>18527814
What the fuck am I supposed to put in a suicide note then?

I'm not gonna write a goddamn novel full of emotional pussy shit, but just saying "Yeah I killed myself" comes off as a little condescending, no? Just because I'll be dead doesn't mean I don't care about their feelings

they are looked down upon but any woman worth a damn would be proud of you for overcoming it for so long

if you feel like the woman you end up with doesn't know you it wouldn't be good anyway

bro everyone makes mistakes. You're aware of them now and have a plan to move forward, thats a big thing.

I have to concur with other Anons here.
If you want to be straight about it then be straight, but do it in a presentable manner - say that you're through with it in the same sentence you mention it.
Convince them that overcoming it is a much bigger deal than falling for it in the first place.
Don't forget to add how great of a learning experience it was, etc.

You know the drill - drag the attention away from shame and into the glory.
This way you can both be straight about it *and* score points. A win/win.

And if a woman doesn't buy it - then she sure as hell wouldn't buy it if you were completely blunt about it.
After all, it's not in your best interest to get into a relationship with someone who *wouldn't* like you if they knew.

Keeping it to yourself is a bad idea, unless you're not looking for anything serious - then it might pass.

Why does everyone post the picture of the girl they are talking about? It's really not required, you know...

>>18527782
Think of fun local event
Ask her if she wants to go
Go and have fun
?????
Do the sex!

>>18527785
it's not her

>>18527756
We've texted since then, met in mutual friends groups. But I don't know how to crack this guy. He's seriously very hot, super kind and knows so much. I've slept with a few guys since then, but none of them really do anything for me and this guy has been very understanding of me; but keeps on saying that I need to give myself breathing room. I invite him to parties all the time, but he refuses yet will pick me up from them and drop me off home when I'm plastered and bring me home cooked meals in the morning to recover. He's seriously amazing. How do I get him?

He can tell you're a stupid toxic hoe and wants nothing to do with you. Your entitlement thinking you can basically go around sexually assaulting men whenever you want because you're a woman makes you look even worse.

>>18527757
>I go to parties all the time and get so worthlessly drunk I can't even make it home

He's a clean, non-drinking, fairly successful athlete who has his shit togather You're a drunken college girl thot who keeps gaining more weight.

Work on yourself.

It's her or the roommate.

>>18527732
i want die

>but I love my ex gf which I guess is a story for another day.........
No it's not. This sounds like a pretty important detail so elaborate on that a little.

Nigger

don't be that guy damn

>>18527730
>>18527728
Icant stop myself. My existence is cringy Ive tried forgetting her but I cant. I NEED her. The reason I left was because I didn't think I was worthy to be with her

>>18527673
How I see it anon, you should continue dating her. You yourself said that you want your relationship to continue.

Also put yourself in her shoes, once she'll start recovering she might need your support to make sure she doesn't fall back into the disorder again. I don't think she'd want you to leave at such a important time.

>>18527673
Well, a relationship with someone like that is probably doomed, *but* I don't see why breaking up would necessarily help. Relationships don't have to be intense and serious. You two can date each other without thinking of marriage and all that.

>>18528600
This anon has a good point. Having someone to turn to for emotional support is healthy, and so is sex.

>>18528634
>>18528600

That's kind of what I've been aiming at for best case scenario. I doubt that we'll make it to marriage or anything, but neither of us are ready to give up on the relationship. My main concern with that one though is how much of the relationship was genuine and how much was her just latching on to someone cause of the disorder.

Absolutely not. And realize that lonely men believing that they share a connection with an escort are a big part of their income.

>>18527652

No. You'll feel better for an hour, then lonely again. I don't think you have the capital to see one every day, so you'll have to deal with your loneliness in a more permanent way.

>>18527662
>more permanent way

My first though reading that is suicide but I assume you mean something else

You don't have to tell them to get blood work done, just tell them you won't sleep with them until they're tested. If you're against one-night stands it means you'd be asking people you're already talking to, in which case it's not awkward.

>>18527586

yeah no one ever will. a girl might show you her most recent results but no girl is going out and getting her blood drawn for you, and it takes up to two weeks to get results back depending on where you went, and by then she could have had sex with any number of men she wanted so its not an effective strategy at all.

even with a condom there is only 40% protection from herpes. the only way would be to connect your condom to even more latex that covers your entire pubic region.

as for HPV, you can get vaccinated. its not usually recommended for men but you can insist on it if you're willing to pay for it. its only recfommended for women and gays because of how much sex we have.

>>18527586
Clean girl here.

Nope, it's not odd but only shows that you care about your health and don't sleep around. I never sleep with anybody before exchanging bloodtests (costs around 30-50€ depending on what you want to know). Takes two weeks.

It's also a good way to select herpes roasties out which will already know that they will fail. Don't let them tell you that it's all right. Whores will always try to talk it down because they know that their market value is shit due to having a STD. Stay safe anon and get a nice and clean girl.

If you want one, get one. The only thing I'd say is to make it tasteful and to place it somewhere only a few would see but it looks like you're already doing that. Not sure what advice you want.

>>18527585
I just came out of a tough breakup, and I got a tattoo more or less because of it. If the tattoo means something significant to you and you truly know you won't regret getting it, then by all means get it.

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Become a Chinese Buddhist, get the ritual incense burn scarification done on your inner arm; become a new man and bear the mark of your commitment. Pic related.

Don't waste your time

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Learn python or drawing and soon you can draw this

>>18527551
Keep calling more. Till you find one where there more accessible.

>>18527606
I'm trying. Seems so hopeless.

>>18527609
I know anon. But you gotta be persistent. There is one out there for you!

>>18527505

Well, it can be because of low self esteem, too much free time, a deeper problem that you'd rather ignore instead of confront, real concern, or a combination of these.

For example, the guy. Maybe you are worried because you think low of yourself. Maybe you are worried because she might actually cheat. Maybe you are worried because you literally have nothing else to think about.

Here's my strategy for them:

In meditation there is a concept of keeping the mind still.


When negative thoughts or mental content arise, discard them as soon as possible.

Maintain a neutral or positive state of mind and refrain from listening to negative stories and perceptions.

When negative thoughts arise, I like to block all the senses. I do this before I sleep, I simply watch my mind and all the things that arises, if it makes me feel bad, I note it and discard it. If it makes me feel nice and comfy, I keep it. I end up falling asleep but maintain this presence of mind when I wake up. It was like I just closed my eyes and I was still awake the entire night.

>>18527505
I'll let you know how to solve it once I've been to therapy more, I have the same thing as you so I decided to go get it fixed. Looking at CBT and mindfulness exercises, been working on narrowing down my feelings of why I worry

For sleeping I'll lie as flat as I can on my back, and utterly still, trying to focus only on my breathing for as long as I can, deliberately zoning out. Helps me sleep in about 10 or so minutes.

>gf issue
That said if she knows you over-think things and are stressed, and it's a new relationship, she's doing that deliberately to stress you out, make you desperate and need her
Be careful around her, that's a pretty big red flag

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>>18527495

Very informative.

Random as fuck, but thank you.
This is exactly what I was looking for.