Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 1013. page

>>18535276
look at your government's job listings...
Why wouldn't your own country let you work in a sub if they have them? Stop trying to steal US jobs nigger.

>>18535276
what do you think a nuclear engineer does

i think you just like the name of it

Currently studying Nuclear E.
-You can design new plants to be built
-There's lots of research and consulting opportunities
-Fusion my guy

>inb4 fusion is a meme

Meanwhile kids are being strangled to death in China

>>18535229
Oh no she jokingly called you weird. How the fuck do retards like you attract women

Pic related? If so there's nothing to fear OP, she seems OK with your level of weirdness. You might try to tone it down a little just to be safe though.

Quite the same situation here, can't help much but have a bump.

I have just started Korean recently, mother tongue is Bulgarian, then did English and Chinese, - all 3 have nothing in common so it was a big shift. So far all I could say is that to me it seems that Korean is the easiest if you get to choose between Mandarin, Japanese and Korean. You actually construct words with letters, instead of learning unique signs all the time.

I'm definitely interested to read some opinions about the gaming question since I have the same concern. I think it's not a waste of time if you have limits of course and especially if you do it with friends or meet people in games. For girls it's definitely more of a waste of time desu.

Oh and for the ''live your life'' thing. Now, be careful with people giving you that advise because it often will tell you more about them and how they feel about their own youth. If it means live your life - make the most out of everything, learn, socialise, try stuff, have fun, work hard, then yes dude absolutely do and make sure you have a good balance between having fun and challenging yourself. However if you hear it and it sounds like someone is criticising you because of actually wanting to achieve sth in this life, fuck these lazy bastards that try to tell you you're taking shit too seriously, just because when they were 20 all they did was smoking weed, watching porn and probably smash once in a blue moon, just tell them to fuck off.

>>18535127
Well, the first thing to ask is where are you now in your life? Do you have skills that will earn you a lot of money? Do you have someone to be your future wife?

Playing games and browsing the internet is wasting time, and you should try to minimize the time you spend doing it. You don't need to just stop, there's nothing wrong with playing a game once in a while or browsing 4chan a bit during the day. But you should try to have "experiences". Things that you'll remember 20 years from now. Basically, get some hobbies.

Korean is very different to the european language family. It's not impossible, but it will be hard. I'd encourage you to not focus on Korea so much, maybe it is right for you but you come off as kind of obsessive. Like a weeb but with Korea instead. If you're truly interested you should try to talk to some actual Koreans to get a better understanding of the country.

Don't take investing advice from the internet. That said, if you want something simple and effective, put your money into an index fund and let it sit. Don't sell, especially not if the market tanks (it will go back up eventually, don't be a fool and sell low like all those people in 2008 did).

>>18535224
Rule of thumb: do you identify as a "gamer"? If so, you probably do it too much.

>>18535260
>I'd encourage you to not focus on Korea so much, maybe it is right for you but you come off as kind of obsessive. Like a weeb but with Korea instead.


This is hard question, but is it really that bad to be interested in a culture? I heard about "Koreaboo's" same as weeb but to koreans, but cmon.

>>18535119
Why are you looking at other guys' dicks?

>>18535129
I mean it's a pretty normal thing to do at the gym. Not consciously obviously.

>>18535190
Why are you subconsciously looking at other guys' dicks?

The kind that you 100% no doubt know she is loyal. The ideal wife. We have sexual differences though and even though we have sex a few times a week which is a healthy amount for a marriage, it just doesn't satisfy when we do it. I've given her a great life to continue her degree, have a wealthy lifestyle as we own our house and two cars and we have a beautiful daughter that she can channel love into. I without a doubt love my daughter with all my heart and I love my wife too but I don't see us as compatible. After just recently coming home from deployment, I've been playing a video game in which I have a girl friend that I've been talking to. She reminds me of someone who I have a lot of commonalities with and what it'd be like if I could find someone who has the same views and interests as me. The idea of her alone is helping me want to leave my wife to start my search once more.

I talked to my Dad about this and told him how I want to leave her and I thought I could talk to him in confidence because I wanted to wait to talk to my wife about this or give it time and see what I want but he texted my wife that we need to talk before I even got home and so I told her that I don't think we are really connecting and IDK what I want to do and she handled it well because she is strong. I told her I wanted to keep supporting her and living together and at least get her through college so she can be on her feet with an amazing career lined up but she doesn't want that. She doesn't want to have to live with me if I don't want to be her husband and feel like she's a mooch. I assure her that I love her and I want to be here for her because I want my daughter to have a good life with both of her parents. I grew up with three parents in the same house so to think of her growing up with only one kills me. The next day I talk to her about trying to make it work and she is sort of deadset on just getting it done now so this doesn't occur in the future. I tell her to just continue and we can work on it. I say these things and I know that in my mind I don't want to and she can tell as well. So now we are in this limbo state where I don't know what I want to do.

I know I should stay with her. She is nothing short of the almost perfect wife with her personality, the things she does, and being a great mom. And not only that, I should sacrifice my happiness with finding someone who I feel I belong with for my daughter. My daughter deserves to have a wholesome family not a broken one. At the same time, my heart wants to move on I don't want to do this to my daughter. My wife has already said she wouldn't go after me in a divorce and wouldn't keep her from me and would even try to stay near me where I go to keep our family close. IDK how much of that is true but she is a trustful person. Her nearest family is a bunch of elderly people in a state across the US. My father has been a father figure to her since her mom killed herself and so my dad has already extended his place as an invitation should anything happen, even though I've told her that when I move for work that she can stay in our house and I'll continue to try and pay for it because I want her and the daughter to have a good place to stay.
I don't know what to do ... I know I'm an asshole for this. We've been handling the whole thing fine though. No yelling or anger. It's all about the decision of what are we going to do. And for that, I'm asking for advice on what I should do though I think I already know what people are going to say.
If you need any amplifying details, let me know.

>>18535018
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>>18535018
Also get a spray bottle and squirt a tiny bit of water on her each time she misbehaves. She super cute, I had a cat that looked similar named Magic.

how about, you know, playing with her so she doesn't have the energy/feel the need to act out for your attention?

>>18534989
That's what you get for not wearing a condom. Sometimes you can't escape the responsibility

Fair enough what can I do to help myself. We just went through 3 weeks of fighting about what do. And now need a place to start

>>18534997
Get a job so you can pay your child support.

>>18534824

You deserve better bro.

Stop chasing her right now. Is this how you imagine your future? You doing everything and she doing absolutly fucking nothing?

She aint gonna change. Treat this 5 years as a training grounds for someone that will care for you.

Part 2.
A year and a half ago i started seriously jogging. Half year later started gym. This is helping me build up confidence and I am back to searching for a job properly. I was also hoping this would make me more attractive. I also imagined I could be a active father that would do sports with his kids and they could be proud of me and follow my example. I am moderatly shredded and fit by now.

She, on the other hand started heavily smoking. Wants to drink more alcohol. And stays up till 6 playing games.
All the while telling me how much she wants kids already and that i dont want them.

She has become several things I hate:
Smoker.
A person that thinks drinking is a time well spent.
A person that thinks a child is responsible for fixing their life.

Our sex life is nonexistant. She tells me she cant have a orgasm and refuses to try anything. She told me she never found me sexually attractive and pretty much was just giving me fake pitty sex when she was in the mood.
Pretty much she told me she's staying with me just out of pitty and because of how hard Im trying to show her affection.
Every argument I had with her was based around the fact that she made me feel that she doesnt care about me. She never understood why this was important to me. To her its a trivial thing.

Finale:
She found a new job where theres a guy that looks exactly like her ex-crush.
After a few months of making me look like a retard thats jealous for no reason - she admitted to being extremly horny for this guy. I told her that its fine but that I dont want her spending so much time with him.
Our sex life started increasing in a weird way and she admited she was thinking of him.
One day. When I was supposed to go to the gym she scheduled a smoking date with HIM and another girl. I was kinda angry cause she told me she would not smome so much and it was getting really out of hand. But i spend the next 2 hours cooking and then went for a walk hoping maybe ill meet her mid way.

>>18534824
>>18534900
Holy shit dude. Why the fuck would you torture yourself like that with that whore? Jesus, don't tell me you made this thread to get advice on how to get over her, because you should actually feel a huge sense of relief. Fuck that bitch.

>>18534820
>Please help advice I do not like being like this.

If professionals working for weeks exclusively with you can't help, internet randos can't either.

>>18534820
>I am overweight.
>because my ex had sex with me

loool
whats your gender?

>>18534832
I thought there may be someone like me out there that may have experienced something similar. To be fair the therapists I have seen have not been very good I am on a waiting list currently for another one.

How long have you been together? How often do you have sex?

>>18534810

18 months. About once a fortnight, sometimes less.

>>18534805

Have you talked about it with him? Maybe you are just not compatible enough. If lack of sex makes you so mad, you might need someone with a stronger libido.

Don't do it OP, I did and things got worse not better feel totally disconnected from life and hateful of all people and more depressed, suicidal than ever, pretty sure I hear shit too

Where do you live? also shrooms.

>>18534786
You didn't try to improve yourself. Just angry at others. Drugs will only fuck you up mentally if it already is inside you,

>>18534740

Find a reason to like yourself. If there are none, then work on developing one.

>>18534740
>how do I get rid of this

Ged rid of your lyf

>>18534745
but i already do like myself I'm helpfull, caring, smart (good with teatching myself computer skills and good in education) and considirate, but i still feel guilty about this.
>>18534754
hahaha i'm not a robot

Just get plastic surgery

>>18534707
Why should women give you attention?

>>18534707

Women don't live on easy mode and everyone feels out of place sometimes. Don't let your frustration build up to anger.

Stop thinking on labels. People suffer, everyone suffers sometimes. Everyone struggles sometimes.

Fine a new job-really go for it.

>>18534692
Ill be honest op. You are at the bottom of the barrel if you dont have any post high school education. Get education in something useful like economics or sales and a whole world of better jobs will appear. I know its a pain in the ass but even as of now u should be considering yourself lucky to have such a job in waltmart. If you want a better job go to college. Its lies that they dont open opportunities just because a couple of dudes dropped out and became rich but also most who drop out work shit jobs

A firm handshake should do it.

no, you must start conversation first, that line would only work in some bar, or a strip club. Try dating apps they are lifesavers for betas like you

>>18534554
You can meet girls for dating in strip clubs?

>>18534514
>Do I simply go out on the street, call the attention of some random attractive stranger, and say "hey you're cute can we go out?"

Nope. Flirt at parties and shit. Also, flirt with girls you know that seems interested. If they flirt back, then you can start thinking about making a move.