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I'm the guy who was going to see a lawyer to have a defamation letter made. Well, I got to see her (female lawyer) today and she agreed to make me a cease and desist letter.

Recap of what happened:

>was trying to go out with a girl
>it didn't work out
>we were still friends on FB, her account started liking lewd articles (seems like a victim of bait and switch)
>asked her about it through chat in a caring way, sent screenshots
>she took it badly
>we managed to talk, I told her it was a misunderstanding
>woman started telling people I was a pervert

I asked my lawyer to make a personal C&D letter: she's going to explain the timeline of the events (kind of like what I posted here), what her crime (not sure if it's just a tort or whatever) is, the possible damages I'm allowed to seek right now, and a legal threat for her not to do continue defaming me else we will file a lawsuit.

I don't know her address so we're having it sent to her place of work. She isn't a permanent employee yet; this might get her let go.

You think I should pull the trigger? Is it too cruel?
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>>18530326
You haven't explained enough for us to really know.

>asked her about it through chat in a caring way,
>asking about "lewd" articles
>in a caring way
Were you a nice guy about it?

>sent screenshots
..of what?

Sounds like you got creepy like an autist and she overreacted from what you've said. What articles? Why are you even asking about her interest in "lewd" articles in a caring way? Is she 13 years old, and too young for it? As for the whole screenshots thing, that sounds creepy as shit without knowing what exactly you sent.

This whole thing seems like one misunderstanding and stupid reaction after another.
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>>18530344
It went something like

>hey, you're liking really weird stuff on FB
>huh? like what?
>[title of lewd article x3]
>Idk about that !
>sent screenshots of stuff I'm getting on my feed (most of the browser)
>that's not me
>sent one last screenshot
>STOP SENDING ME STUFF U PERVERT
>blocked me

We did talk the following day about it and I told her I was seeing them on my feed. She said I couldn't explain it anymore. We went cold after that. Around 2 weeks after, all her friends blocked me at the same time. When I saw them, they'd split from me with a bad look.

She was 22.
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>>18530344
One of the articles she was liking. ss shows her profile liking it ("________ like this")

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Anyone have experience with a broken penis string? Had sex with my hot as hell girlfriend and it sort of just broke... It din hurt but it bled. A lot. Oh god the bleeding /adv/..
Please understand it is not flayed. It is in two pieces. Anyone had a similar exp.?
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>>18530274
The fuck is a penis string?
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it's not supposed to be tight enough that it would ever break, your dick was deformed.
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>>18530274
the fuck is a penis string?

I think I fell in love for the first time last year during a summer fling. I guess. I don't know. I only knew her for about 3 months. The 3 months were pretty great. In the end we had to leave for different colleges. We fought. We had a horrible breakup.

For about 2 months after this I was horribly depressed. Like "I can't get out of my bed" depressed. I nearly dropped out of school. I've since recovered and now I'm mostly back to normal.

But, to this day, over a YEAR later, I can't shake the thought of her. I just can't stop thinking of her. I sometimes stay up late at night thinking about the way that she just drank coffee on our first date because she was too nervous to eat, or about the sundress she loved to wear, or about how she used to ride her bike next to me when I would go on my morning runs, or about how she didn't like the music I listened to, or about how I would do the dishes for her and I after we ate lunch in her backyard and I'd come out and she'd surprise me and jump on me and kiss me.

I used to see her on social media with new guys she met at college. I'd hear about her from our mutual friend. She's been partying and getting blackout drunk 5 nights out of the week. She's been fucking every guy in her dorms like a rabbit. I think I'm going crazy. She doesn't care about me, that makes sense. We didn't have something special. She hates me now. That makes /sense/. I understand that.

I know this is an essay post, but I really need some help here. I can't love her, right? That would make no sense. That would be crazy. So what is this? What can I do?
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>>18530266
You literally can not love her, no. 3 months isn't enough time to fall in real love. Also, it sounds like you dodged a bullet by breaking up with her.
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>>18530268
I agree, of course I can't love her. I'm just really confused.

And about dodging a bullet-- I've heard that a lot. She's a nympho. She got that from being cute and popular in high school.

What steps can I take? I've started using tinder to get hookups with random girls and it just makes me feel even worse. I don't know how to move on.
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>>18530280
Assuming you were successful, how have you come to the conclusion that sex does not equal love? Sure, sex is a piece of the pie that is love, but it isn't love.

Maybe get some actual dates and try entering a relationship, instead of just fucking a wet hole that's willing to give it up to a stranger.

Has anyone tried living in a large mall or Walmart?

What would be the best way to go about doing this?
>What store would you chose?
>Where would you setup camp?
>Would you scavenge when the store closes or when it is busy?
>What tools would you bring (lock pick, crowbar, ect)?
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>>18530256
Walmart would ideal since it has fucking everything honestly. curious to know if anyone has pulled this off.
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>>18530256
No, OP, I'm white and honest and hardowrking, so I have a job that lets me live in an apartment and buy things that I want like a white man. Why aren't you white?
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>>18530256
Mall wouldn't work, as they aren't 24 hours. Walmart would be ok until you needed to sleep. Cameras are everywhere, and they WILL find you and kick you out.

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I live in a town 45 minutes away from amarillo, i should get my package today, correct?
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>>18530218
When does it say your delivery date is? That's probably when you are going to get it.
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>>18530229
yesterday, but it got misshipped
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>>18530232
They haven't updated it the date? They should have by now. Anyways, if it isn't at your local USPS, it's not getting delivered today. Maybe if it was UPS or FedEx.

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My gf went away to Africa for 1 month to help in some church charity project. There are 4 more girls and 1 guy in this project. They're going to stay in house rented by church and they're going go play with children and donate the money/stuff.

We have been together for 3 months and she is really in love with me, before she left we went on holiday together and it was really nice. When we arrived, she was leaving the next day, so we had a talk. She was crying all the time and told me she really hopes we continue hanging out after she comes, she also told me she loves me for the first time (I didn't say it too before). She wanted me to reassure her that we're gonna hang out after she comes, but I said that I can't do that. I said that I hope and I think that everything will be fine, but 1 month is a long time. We agreed we'll keep in touch on skype (there is no good internet connection there)

Now, she has been gone for 3 days and I'm really missing her. At the same time, I don't how I'll be able to manage the whole month apart. I'm also paranoid as fuck and I fear she may cheat (she is not a girl like that, but I've been too much on /pol/ and redpill so yeah, I constantly fear she will cheat and then come back like nothing happened, it's the worst) I'm thinking on breaking up, but I really like her. I try to keep myself busy and study, but during 1 month we can really grow apart. I know what I wrote is a mess without connection but I had to get it off my chest. Thanks for your advice.
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>>18530167
Cheating is the least of your worries. Google Amy Biehl.

also see here: https://aidworkersecurity.org/incidents

sorry man.
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>>18530167
>has been on /pol/
>lets his gf go to africa to help niggers waste money and risk her geting rapped
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>>18530169

The country she's traveling to is pretty safe and they'll mostly work with children.

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First, I will give some background info on how I choose my major.

>be me.
>like girl.
>want to go to college in the same foreign city as said girl just to maximize chances of potentially fucking her
>realize how ridiculous this is
>go trough the list of public universities there
>decide that you would like to go to a faculty of philology
>choose linguistics and the japanese language as your major, because it genuinely interests you

I really don't want to say that I choose linguistics because I've been learning about it as a hobby for a few years. What excuse should I make up? What kind of job opportunities should I cite?
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>>18530068
Wait. You don't even know what you want to DO with that degree? You realize you're paying tens of thousands of dollars to get it, right?

The degree isn't the goal, anon. The JOB that comes from getting the degree is the goal. Don't go to college just because you find it interesting. Philosophy is interesting, but it doesn't mean that anyone is hiring Philosophers.
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>>18530075
I got gud grades and now i habe free college xS
So no tens of thousands of anything.

I'm also obsessed with being in this city.
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>>18530082
Ok. But what are you wanting to do for a job once you're out of college?

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Hi /adv/, so basically I have major feelings for a guy I've been friends with for the past say 3 years and I just recently left a toxic long-term relationship with someone he was friends with on/off. He's always taken my side and been a shoulder to lean on during break-ups and stuff and at one point we almost hooked up during one of said break-ups. I'm aware there are feelings there that still exist (he's a total loner, not really interested in having friends or anything) and we can hold conversations for longer than 14 hours on any given day, I just don't know how to pursue anything. I'm usually really direct when it comes to uncomfortable questions but I can't seem to pop the one of "are you still into me?"

The strangest part about all this is with any other "fling" I've had, I immediately became bored once the chase was over but this is the first time it hasn't happened. What do? I'm so fucking comfortable with him but I'm so lost on this one.
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Background info I probably should've mentioned

He's never had a serious relationship and doesn't pursue girls so basically not a 'fuckboi', he's just not interested because they're literal normies, he's far too shy to admit he'd like me though
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Nudge him into the right direction. Go out for drinks, or to a venue that inspires one on one get to know you on a deeper level time.

>mfw I'm all fucked up and tired giving adv
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>>18530042
A tad half assed response but if you want to bounce some questions of me I'm here.

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So I was helping my dad get an amazon account, and when he went to his email to confirm it, I noticed him responding in a craigslist thread. When I checked his email later, it was deleted, but he didn't know it wasn't destroyed yet.

I went into his trash folder, and he has been responding to ads and posting his own for 3 years.

I live at home with my mom, dad, and sister. There's no abuse and we all love each other, at least I thought.

My question is whether or not I should tell my mom? Should I confront my dad?
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>>18530024
Maybe its a consensual thing between them.

I would try not to assume the worst and mind your own business. Just because your dad is fucking other people doesnt mean that he is cheating.
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>>18530024
Why the fuck were you rooting around his trash folder? I'm not saying what he did is right or wrong, but you most certainly were wrong.

That said, it amazes me how fucking stupid people are about their privacy in regards to the internet.
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>>18530024
Men have urges. Monogamy for men is a social construct. That's why we got ahead. By making it more likely for non alphas to get laid, they contribute more to the group. Thus was born the tribal society. Nowadays there is no such need. It was always likely for a man to have more than one woman. A good man will put his family first in his priorities. A bad man will get confused by all this and make his side women his priority. Your father seems to have his priorities straight.

So I'm kind of a stoner. Nothing wrong with that. I recently moved in with my dad for college. Medicinal marijuana is legal here so I took advantage. He smelled weed in my room so I handed him a couple joints. He got rid of it and talked to his girlfriend about it. He said if I continue to do it he'll kick me out. He thinks I'm going to turn into a lowlife piece of shit. Fuck that. My mom and family in Ky didn't have a problem with my pot habit. I didn't really fit in there and now I don't think I fit in here. I feel like they look way down on me now. What the fuck do I do? Ain't nothin wrong with smokin weed. If anything weed makes me more motivated. I wish I could prove my dad wrong. I don't know. Him and his girlfriend can kiss my ass. Fuck.
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Either move out or respect his rules and don't do it in his house. It's that easy.
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Oh my gosh you're totally right. Thanks a lot I owe you my fucking life.
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Just smoke outside so they won't smell it(?)

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Hey there, I'm a millennial, and that sucks. I already have chronic fatigue and depression, and the fact that even after college, if I can get through that, I'll probably be working 50 hours a week to eat ramen most days scares the living fuck out of me. I can't afford insurance so I can't get medicine or therapy to numb the pain. Basically unless I hit the lotto or something, there's like a 50% chance my life will be consumed by exhausting, miserable work until I die. I don't wanna live like that, it simply isn't worth it. So should I just kill myself after I have no choice but to full on enter the job market? Like, I'll try to have fun in college and some while after it and stuff, but then end it when I have to grow up. No, this isn't me being dramatic, millennials kill themselves at record numbers because of this shit. I wanna hear some opposing views as to why I shouldn't.
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>>18529992
I'm a millennial, and am living (in the US) in a town that charges 400/month for rent, ~200/month for utilities (gas, electric, water, sewer, and internet), and am paid 46.50/hr to do my job (40 hours per week - 10 days in a row, then 4 days off).

So what's your excuse? You haven't even tried, and you're already giving up? Also, if you're gonna kill yourself, do it before you take on college debt, not after. Don't stick your parents with the debt.
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>>18529996
I have depression and chronic fatigue, and also the thread WAS posed as a question. Like I said I haven't seriously entered the job market yet so I don't know what'll happen, I've just heard all the horror stories.
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>>18530001
Ok, so see a therapist, start taking an antidepressant if they recommend it (won't make you happy, but it will make you numb). As for fatigue: the human body naturally desires to stay at rest. It conserves energy. You just have to deal with that. Get up, start moving, and go about your day. Then you'll start accomplishing shit, and feel better about yourself (which fights the depression, and, to a degree the fatigue).

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I cry almost every damn day for what I feel is small, but I don't even know.
>husband suggests putting music through speakers
>I try to hook it all up as he's in another room watching TV
>too autistic to figure it out so I ask him

Then this is where I'm confused.
>He gets quiet, sighs, irritated, etc. (Confused because he suggested but probably didn't want to do it?)
>I try to pass this off but then he says in what I feel is an angry tone that I turned off the home phone by turning off and on a power strip.
>Gets angry at the dogs for being near him as he hooks it up
>I just go in another room and try not to let him hear me cry because it upsets him if I cry.
>Tell him multiple times its fine and we can figure it out tomorrow
>No response
>He later asked if I was crying
>Said yeah then i tried to explain I felt he was angry at me.
He says he wasn't and doesn't get why I thought that. He almost always has this quiet, irritated mood at little things. UNLESS its ME that's the issue. I need to know what to do.

I'm sorry for the personal blog and shitty writing, but I have nobody to ask an opinion from. Am I just a sensitive fuck? Do some men just not gauge certain emotions and are more passive towards them? What do?
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>>18529981
Put it all into context. It's not that big of a deal.

That said, I would just invest in a soundbar that hooks up to your TV and stuff, but also has bluetooth so you can wirelessly connect your phone to it simply by pressing a button on your phone.

Another idea is to get a sound bar that doesn't have bluetooth, and just use a roku stick to connect to pandora or youtube, and listen to music that way.

I mean, it's music. It's not a big deal. And if you can't figure something out, you obviously have the internet to turn to.
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I'm sorry to be the one to tell you anon, but your husband is quite obviously cheating on you.
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>>18529993
But these little things that shouldnt be a big deal happen constantly. He gets angry, I cry, he gets more upset. This was just the last straw where Im desperate for feedback. And I have roku. I put on Pandora on it and we have some shitty speaker that sounds better than the TV speaker, so that's what we were trying to set up tonight.

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So my dad gave me the run down about how important family is, and I agree with him. However what I was ticked off about was when he said that friends are incapable of treating you like family. I do not believe this at all, I know that cannot be true and right now I'm trying not to give into his belief. Currently I'm not experienced enough to have a definite answer for myself. I believe with a hundred percent certainty that if I were to treat an incredibly long time friend in the future as if he was my blood brother then I can expect the same back. Has anyone experienced the bond of family from somebody who has none of the same blood as you?
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>>18529956
The bond of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.
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>>18529956
I've been friends with my best friend for 15 years, and he would do anything to help me without question, and I him, but it just doesn't even compare. Nothing is thicker than family. If I had to chose between him or my direct family, the choice would be family without question, and I don't even get along with my family members that well.
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>>18529956
Yes. My own father, despite being a bigshot manager in a large company, never gave me a break, not even summer work, when I was younger, despite high school classmates whose parents worked there getting their foot in the door. Had to do all manner of shitty menial jobs instead. Never got a word of encouragement or any meaningful kind of support during tough times. Or at any other time either. Just the usual "firm handshake" and "keep sending your CV out" kind of b/s.

One of my best friends, on the other hand, set me up with interviews with influential relatives of his, sent freelance work my way and generally encouraged me more than any family member ever did. His mother who did volunteer work helping NEETs get their CVs and shit together also gave me a lot of help doing just that.

My own family: zilch. Letting me move back home after I got unemployed was the height of their helpfulness. (we're not even talking white trash types, upper middle class, afraid to say).

Get invited to stay with my friend and his folks a couple of times a year and it breaks my heart I've been too depressed recently to have taken him up on that this summer.

Sometimes blood doesn't flow thicker than water.

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What do i do?

My heart is beating abnormally. Phone is too far away. I'm getting dizzy.
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Get up and call 911
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>>18529947
elaborate on "abnormally"
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>>18529947
I hope you die
have a nice afterlife

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How do i not feel bad about missing work?

I called in sick yesterday to one job, and for my second job i had called in sick once the week before. On both occasions i was legitmately ill and since both work environments involve close proximity to young children its not some desk job i can just power through and not get anyone else sick.
But even so I feel like a horrible employee for missing a day.
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>>18529927
Missing a day is fine nigga, fuck those kids
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If you're sick you're sick, the kids will understand and worrying about it can keep you sick, you'll be fine. Keep up the good work ethic.
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>>18529966
>>18529959
does it change anything if i mention that both are only part time jobs and i dont get sick days?

I just cant shake the feeling that im letting someone down.

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