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>>18533755
Don't do it in the car then, get a motel or something. She initiates it, yes, but secretly she wants that you tell her to stop and go do it somewhere indoors.

>>18533765
>secretly she wants that you tell her to stop and go do it somewhere indoors
I wish I could. We've been to motels before and it was obviously much better but we can't afford a motel every time we're horny

>>18533776
>paid for a motel
>virgin
this guy

>>18533719
I feel you dude, it has happened to me too.

There is nothing you can do. You gotta move on. I know it's hard, but it's even worse to hold on to this girl and keep getting ignored/burned.

>>18533719
Just apologize and see what happens. Don't talk about your feelings for her, just apologize for being an asshole. Then simply "ok, I'll quit bothering you now. Have a wonderful day." if she wants you, she'll keep the convo going. If she says bye as well then leave her alone. If she says bye, it's guaranteed she's showing her friends what you just did. If the friends liked it then they'll convince her to message you back. But if you don't get messaged back then it's time to move on.

Text her and say something like "hey I just wanted to apologize for (whatever you did), been feeling really bad about it lately" and see where that goes. If she doesn't respond DO NOT text her again

purposefully go to bed early and lay your arms out across so that she has to touch you in order to share the bed

>>18533662
If asking her about the experience doesn't seem right, then you probably shouldn't do it.

While were at it, kiddo, you should respect and love this woman in your life instead of trying to just get a fuck.

PS: Have some respect for yourself, you horny fuck.

>>18533662
Most of human history, people have fucked their cousins and whatnot, only relatively recently did some royalities find out that the offspring will be more likely a retard, so they started marrying into other royal families instead. For general population, it was even more recent, See this quote

>Nonetheless, the practice soon fell out of fashion in the United States. Although never outlawed in England, during the second half of the 19th century, many states began to ban marriages between first cousins, as part of a larger movement after the Civil War for greater state involvement in a variety of areas, including education, health and safety.

Source: http://www.todayifoundout.com/index.php/2014/02/people-stop-thinking-appropriate-cousins-marry/

There is nothing "wrong" with what you are doing per se, just higher risk of retarded kids and some social ostracism involved with the practice, especially when you live in a small, tight-knit community where everyone knows one another. What generation cousin is she btw?

>>18533631

by your own admission those girls were 'pretty cute' whereas you need one that is just 'average'. so you should have nothing to worry about.

but lets deconstruct anyways

>one guy fucking two girls

and its great that you noticed that, but what makes you believe each of those girls isn't also fucking two guys? you referred only to sex, and without some sort of dating involved i wouldn't worry about it being monogamous, why should you?

just chat up, hang out with, and ask out average girls. thats all it takes.

>>18533636
How it should be
>3 hot guys fuck 3 hot girls
How it really is
>3 hot guys fuck 9 hot girls and 9 average girls on the side

The type of girl you seem to be looking for will likely have no interest in involving herself with a bunch of casual sex. The "everybody's doing it" mentality is not true and you'll quickly realize that. Have fun in college and find the right people to hang out with, good luck anon

>>18533582

ehhh. i mean its a little sketch that you'd 'fly out' for this but many people have done this both locally and internationally and survived.

not sure its smart for a first time experience. its hot but a little advanced.

>>18533588
Yeah I know, it does feel a bit weird. Are there any precautions I should be taking here?

>>18533600

have someone know whats going on and what to do if they cannot reach you / get the texts you send out to prove your okay.

if you aren't comfortable having someone in your life be your security, then you shouldn't be doing this cuz you'll just end up missing.

don't do it if it means leaving your country.

make sure you webcam with both of them for more than 5 minutes to prove they are both real.

make sure you have enough money to get out of there if you need to / stay at a hotel until you can get back on the plane etc. in case it doesn't work out.

>>18533581

>Is stealing precription painkillers from your mother a "low " thing to do?

why wouldn't it be?

>I don't really feel bad when doing this , should I?

yes.

>Also is it fine to use painkillers etc to feel better?

no

> I only use it when I'm feeling down
>I'd never abuse

thats the definition of abuse.

>or get addicted i think

you wouldn't really know until its too late.

>stealing painkillers from your mom
>i'm not abusing the drug

Mate if you need this drug enough to steal it from your mum you are an addict and also a lowlife.

I'm not gonna appeal to your sense of moral since you have none, but instead please realize it's a felony to steal prescription meds like painkillers. When she catches on, or it shows up in a blood test, or something, you can say goodbye to freedom as well as goodbye to having your mom pay for your shit. I'm assuming you live with her because you cant get a job. You already sound mentally fried from painkiller abuse

>>18533581
You're literally stealing from your mom to feel better when you're down? Would it be low if you stole money from her purse to go gambling? Of course its low. The fact that you don't feel bad means you are either conditionally addicted, or are a sociopath.

>>18533544
Syphilis.

>>18533548
This

Hey man, Hitler had syphilis

and he was a pretty cool guy

>>18533539
Did it occur to u he might have more going for him than just his appearance? Regardless, I don't see how that would make her a slut.

She's a slut as are most girls in today's society.

"Playing the field" destroyed relationships today as anything that happens before the exclusive talk isn't shamed when it really fucking should be because having sex with people while dating someone even in the early stages is just shitty behavior and should be shamed accordingly.

>>18533539
You can talk to her, but tread lightly, you could scare her off if you show insecurity. Just remember that it isn't a competition, women don't define your worth, and sex and relationships have as much to do with time, place, and circumstance, as it does the value of the people involved. She slept with him because he caught her at a time when she was down to sleep with someone. She is dating you in part because you came along at a time when she wanted a relationship. Don't overthink it and don't compare yourself to him.

i like it when you suck my dick now someone elses

>>18533525
eh, not*

Girls dont have to be experienced like guys do
Guys just like the fact

>>18533502
You got to tell us what neglected is first in your view

If they abused you and smacked you around and yelled at your for no reason then that's abuse not neglect

>Be me
>Asian background
>Have typical asian parents. Never said "I love you" or got to involved in my life any of that stuff
>Grew up feeling "neglected"
>then really grew up finally realizing parents Fed me, clothed me, sheltered me.
>Became content that they did love me enough
>Moved on.

>>18533502

nah. plenty of sexual, physical, and verbal abuse for me.

>>18533535
Nah, it was pretty non-confrontational.

I started to greetext it but I decided that it would be too long of a story. But tl;dr:
>parents divorce age 8
>dad raises me as single father the majority of the time
>makes over $100k a year
>I live, essentially as an only child
>two outfits to wear
>one old, ratty pair of shoes
>no school lunches (dad made too much for assist, didn't pay for lunch anyway and there was no one to pack lunch for me. he didn't pack any lunches either)
>barely any food at home. cereal. ramen. same thing every day
>performed shit in school, was one of those kids that got sent to the school counselor because he had "low self-esteem"
>I was 10
>meanwhile my dad was building up a project car, and investing thousands every month into his hobbies

Things really only got worse after that too. Especially around 15, but that's a while different story. It never really stopped until I moved out.

>>18533613
I'm very, very sorry. If you want to talk about it you can but I'm not sure I'll be able to relate.

>>18533428

its pretty bullshity from what I've read so far. It basically boils down to 'women are worse than men at everything'.

any guide that suggests you treat a girl like an animal is goign to give you a hard time. if you are having issues with women I can assure you treating her like a dog isn't going to fix it.

>>18533428

oh boy. have you ever actually dated a woman?

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>>18533428
pt 2

>>18533437
yes, both a woman and a woman (male)

>>18533419

unfortunately girls are hard to find single. not impossible, but yeah its going to happen. if a girl is 1) attractive and 2) interesting, shes going to have guys hitting on her, and we unfortunately live in a society that tells us ot pair up with the first person who we might match with instead of playing the field.

all you can do is put your self out there, talk to anyone who passes your way, and dont be afraid to make a move early on.

>>18533419
You have one of two options
Be a fucking vulture on a girl you like and just sit there waiting till she breaks up with the cock du jour and then push hard to get in on the other 20 guys competing with you.
Or wait till she has a kid and then raise some other guy's spunkfruit.

>>18533439
Your life sucks

>>18533397
>if a guy persistantly keeps in contact with a girl for years even though by all accounts she's been the cold one in the relationship does that mean he's interested in her for more than just a fap?
It's hard to say. On one hand, he obviously sees you at least a friend, but on the other, if he was interested in you as more than a friend, surely he would have asked to see what you look like? This is something only he would be able to tell you.

>Also, if a girl started confessing feelings like this to you even though you've only had text-based communation with her how uncomfortable would you be?
I'm not a guy, so I really couldn't answer this properly. And I suspect this is something else we can't really tell you because there are far too many things we don't know

>Most importantly, should I have this conversation with him now since it's bothering me so much, or should I wait and see if theres any chemistry face-to-face first?
I think you should wait. In-person chemistry is much different to online, and you could be absolutely repulsed by his appearance but you'd be committed to follow through if you said anything earlier.

>if a guy persistantly keeps in contact with a girl for years even though by all accounts she's been the cold one in the relationship does that mean he's interested in her for more than just a fap
in general yes

if that is the sort of direction you want the relationship to go, tell him to bring condoms

If you'er a 25 year old virgin woman you should be more concerened with scaring him away with how ugly you must be.

>>18533342
You should only get a degree if you want a job that requires it. Even then, you should make sure that said job is in high demand, with few applicants.

That said, if your grades are high, you could qualify for a scholarship.

>>18533342

well, whats the degree, and what job do you want?

>>18533342
Only do it you have an exact plan.

I was like you. I had graduated salutatorian.
So I was like shit, I can do school.
Did it. Fucked up. Didn't follow it up.
Now I have a degree with no future because I hesitated for a few months.
They only hire the youngest and best.
It's like porn.
No room for second best unless it's degrading.

>>18533125
That really sucks anon, to have such strict parents. You should try to graduate school and then fuck off to a college somewhere to get away from your parents.

>>18533134
I did graduate, but I'm going to a community college for my first two years before I go off to a new school, for money reasons.

>>18533125
Be more discrete next time. Shoulda used WutsAp or shit like that.

Live and learn, it aint like you were raping babies so the underage drinking is no big deal. Good luck, just be respectful toward the parents and build trust. Then have a fun night here or there. That is how I got to fucking in the house when both of them were AWOL.