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>>16446161
It's your choice. I wouldn't give her a second chance, simply because I'd be always worried that she might meet him again.

>>16446161
Well not your fault on this one.. Sometimes people do shitty things.
You did right, but I m sorry for you tho

Ask to see her phone, if she says no, she's not marriage material, so move on.

My buddy died on his motorcycle, brother killed himself after his dad killed himself. My dad says the same thing "if you ended it, I don't think I could handle it" If there is no reason in your mind to live, there is no reason. For me, if there is no creator or purpose id just fucking shoot myself, so I believe simply and unjudgementally in a creator (whether or not it's a fucking alien is up for debate) and that deepness gave me purpose and hope.

Suicide is entirely selfish.
You can kill yourself if you want.
Once you are dead, there is no more worrying about the past, present, or future.

Who cares about your parents? I won't be your problem if your dad can't handle it.

Logically it's hard to keep someone from killing themselves, so let me say this, before you do it, you better hope everything goes black after you do that to extremely selfish act. I'm positive it doesn't go black, that's why I'm not going to kill my self, so study and make sure everything goes black after you die b4 you do it.

>>16446103
You will never find a girl if you continue to internalize this negative attitude. If you think the world is shitting on you, it will. It doesn't matter what these women are doing. You have no control over it. You can only control your own actions. Choose to better yourself and live with a positive attitude.

>>16446103

you're right, you do come across as a bitter lonely virgin. Because you're generalizing an entire demographic, more than half the population of the planet because you're butt hurt over rejection.

Yes, women get the pick of the litter. That's what happens when 20 or more men compete for the same prize. If it was the opposite men would do that shit too, and they often do, so whining about it won't solve anything.

>burr hurr do genuine nice girls exist womp womp
yes, they do, they're probably avoiding you like the plague because you reek of ingratiating self-pitying miasma instead of making yourself a better catch.

Either you can sit around and simper about how bad you have it or you can get up and do what every other sexually reproducing creature on this planet does, make yourself a more attractive, more fit mate

>>16446112
>>16446114
this and this

fuck of OP, stop wallowing in self pity and crying hurr durr I'm such a good guys and all girls are bitchesss

I really start to sympathize with bitches after seeing how many guys are like you, just huge crybabies blaming everybody else for their shortcomings

How physically fit are you OP?

If you can make it through basic the military can teach ya some very marketable technical skills and set you up nicely for government contracting work.

>What would I do during offtime if they're not willing to provide a roof over my head?
I'm pretty sure you'll get a housing stipend or live on-base

I say go for it, but really make sure you do your research first. Check out some military forums for sure.

>>16446110
>How physically fit are you OP?

I'm about 5'11" and around pounds. I like bike-riding and hiking and I don't have a problem with physically-demanding work. The grounds-crew job was a year of heavy-lifting, moving furniture, outdoor landscaping work, using power tools, etc. It sucked balls the first week or two but I quickly got used to it. When it comes to physically demanding stuff, I try to power through and ignore pain/exhaustion if I can until it gets to a point where I'm accustomed to it.

I'm out of shape at moment, so I would definitely have to, at the very least, get into the habit of exercising before boot camp.

The only other health issues I can think are:
Ibuprofen jacks my blood pressure to hypertension levels

I take medication for a benign muscle tremor (no real side effects as far as I can tell).

I usually take Melatonin to help sleep at night.

The one big health problem would be a histroy of mental health issues, but I've heard conflicting things about how the military handles it. Some people have said they got in fine, others have said recruiters will just plain tell you to fuck off.

Like I said, I'm willing to put with drill sergeants or the hell of bootcamp. The whole point is that I'm looking for an experience that will break me down and build me up if it'll help me get my life on track or at the very least give new experience and opportunities.

What military forums do you recommend? I've tried getting information before on reddit (yeah I know, reddi-scum, that's not the point) and 9 times out of 10 assholes just tell me to fuck off whenever I mention the mental health part.

Join if you want. It's a decent starting area for people without a lot of options. I wouldn't join the marines if you're trying to avoid deployments. Go Air Force. Most jobs rarely deploy, and your quality of life will be better.

Joining isn't hard at all as long as you don't have any serious medical conditions and aren't retarded, but make sure you research your job. 4-6 years of doing something you don't like doing is a long time.

>>16446061
So today I finally told her that I can never get over her if she is still in my life, so I recommended we take a one week break from one another, no contact, so that we can evaluate how life would be without one another, and so that hopefully she will see the value I have in her life. I don't know what to do. I think of her twenty four hours a day and shake from fear that she won't love me again. Please help me in any way. I'm so stressed about this. I can answer any questions if I wasn't clear at first. "Other fish in the sea" posters need not apply. It's either her or no one for me.

>>16446061
Don't communicate with that bish, there's your advice. She appears to be toxic, lose those feelings for her. GO NOW!

>>16446061
If your mental health is in any way shape or form dear to you, you'll have to take some time without her in your life.
I know this is not what you like to hear but you knew you'd get this answer, right?
Girls do this a lot, keeping ex's around "as friends", for guys this usually doesn't work (at least not right away).

He looks so sad
Like he's in deep thought about the girl that got away

>>16446054
Or about the Hamburger he's going to eat back at the hotel.

How do I start re-using my old, untouched-for-six-years Facebook without looking like a complete autist?

Similarly, if I were to make an Instagram and Snapchat account, what should I put there to make it look good and not just an empty space in the world? Would people just enjoy some nature pictures from wherever I was walking around in?

>>16446015
I've been in the exact same situation. Trying to keep the friendship normal ended up ruining it. It was too late by the time I learned she had the exact same feelings for me and kept them equally secret.

Shit hurts like a motherfucker if you decide to hide this kind of stuff.

Is there a reason that you two couldn't be together?

>>16446030
well for starters he's 9/10 and i'm 2/10

>>16445968
Do you have the GPA and LSAT to get into a top 10 school?
Otherwise, it's probably not worth it

Unless you want to practice in Canada or something

>>16446101
Haven't taken the LSAT, but definitely not GPA to get into top ten.

Why wouldnt it be worth it?

>>16446109
because you're going to rack up ridiculous debt with few employment prospects?

>Shit was sooo cash!!

You're gonna pay with cash too bro.
Child support.

>>16445875
There is a risk. For some anecdotal evidence, I creampied my ex at least once a week for two and a half years and there was never a problem.

Congratulations btw

Are you me? I came inside my gf for the first time (in the 5 years we've been dating) Saturday night. It wasn't as good as I thought it would be though. My gf has an iud but I'm also worried and found myself researching abortion costs. Anyways I have no idea how to answer your question but thought I'd bump your thread with my story.

Dude it was an art event. Didn't you realize you ended up being part of performance art?

Women are cruel. Did you text her too late and now you're a dick who plays games or too early and you're desperate. Did you compliment her and it was seen as trying too hard or did you not and she sees you as disinterested.

Text her again in two days. Do not be pushy. Ever.

Not really but as close as i got was:

>Strangled myself a bit with a cat-5 cable i had made a snare out of.

>Took lots of sleeping pills..and other pills. Generally raided my medicine box.

Woke up the next day and my phone was next to me. The glass was broken and i had texted a bunch of people "asdf", and apparently thrown it into a wall afterwards.

>>16445903
why did you stop though?

>>16445934
Life sorta got better.
I also got prescribed pills against anxiety instead of anti-depressives.

>>16445741
lmao the shit that some people think about, I swear.

Its not out and out gay, guys do some weird stuff when they're young. I remember watching porn with mates. I never jerked off with them, but I used to sneak off during sleepovers to jack off in the bathroom.

If you are confident in your current sexuality why does it matter? Why do you want to bring it up if you have a girlfriend and haven't talked to the guy in a long time? Was he older than you? If not then why do you think he might have taken advantage of you?

>>16445761
No he is the same age as I . I thought he would take advantage because I was a really dumb teen. He would tell some lies about touching some girls boobs and I used to believe it. But I dont think that was the case.

I was thinking about talking with him because sometimes when I think about doing again it gets me excited. I don't have a lot of male friends and he was one of the few I was really close to. We know each other since kindergarten. And I know some folks may find it weird, but being naked and wanking was a great type of male bonding.

death grip

stop fapping for a month

>>16445721

But literally just yesterday I fapped and had no problem getting off

Nerves. Keep fuckin, make sure she's happy and you'll get comfortable and it will be fine.

>>16445694

simply by moving on. every person has their own healing process and there is no trick to just make it end. but here are some tips.

>cut her out

she used you. plain and simple. she broke up with you but kept using your money. she just wants to be 'treated' in life and thats the real issue here. i mean i can only tell from the context she gave me, but isntead of saying 'hey that trip sounds fun, but i was hoping you and I could go on a trip to XX one day" instead she got mad about this lump sum and broke up with you? assuming I got the story straight.

point is, she used you, only wants to be 'treated' in a relationship and the only way to remove her from your life is to completely remove her. having her there will only cause regressions. dont see her, dont text her, dont talk to her, you two are done. aiight?

>savor the moment

this works for a lot of things, mostly depression, but it works great here too.

whenever you think about your girlfriend, you are going t o feel sad and conflicted. so stop yourself and say 'what is good about this moment?'

no matter what you are doing think about how nice something is. is it the nice song playing? is it how comfy your bed is with your dog? is it how tasty the burger is? how nice the clouds are? find SOMETHING and appreciate it.

this trains your brain to automatically process these little things as HAPPY instead of normal. by taking the time to appreciate them, it creates a long term pattern. as you do this, it forces yourself to be happy about mundane things WITHOUT your girl. your girl is associated with sadness and being on your own, enjoying those little moments, makes you happy.

if you absolutely cannot remember, program it into your phones calendar. set it to vibrate once or twice a day, at random times. just pick random times RIGHT NOW on your phone for the next week. whenever you feel it vibrate. you know to stop and think about how nice that moment is

>>16445694

She wants to use you as a hotel plus gift card, while entangling you in her personal bullshit, and she broke up because you didn't spend money on her.

Can't you see the problem in that?

She does not belong in your life. Not with that kind of behaviour

>>16445716
You had it about right; I guess to give you a sense of time, my friends and I had planned this trip since about April, she was very much aware of it and was helping me plan it and all - the trip itself was for the end of June to the first week of July. She never once expressed disdain for my going and in fact was more concerned with my friends girlfriend and her attitude towards him going.. now my buddies' girlfriend was definitely upset about him spending money on the trip so I might just share your advice with him too - though they didn't break up.

As for savoring the moment, I haven't heard of something like that before to be honest - setting the schedule on your phone and all - and I'll be trying it for sure. I guess right now I'm going through the conflicting emotions of it all - I feel sad she's gone, betrayed by her actions, lied to by her going with another guy (whom is 3 years younger than her of all things..) I dunno, it's a mess.

>>16445735
Agreed man, I see the problem, but getting over it is a bitch and a half - I wanted her in my life because we connected well; at this point I feel it's more loneliness than actual desire to have her back.

Communicate.

>>16445710
I'm afraid I'd be going out of character somehow, if i do. he's in control, he's the dom, so how to introduce new stuff without changing that... I also don't want him to do stuff because i want him to, but because he wants to. I guess I can be very subtle about it?

I had a cumslut whore gf, she would get feisty and resist me because she liked it when I had to force fuck her.
So I was often covered in bruises and scratch marks, especially my chest because she would bite it fucking hard all the time.

she would for example sometimes climb on top and would fight my while I flipped her back down where she belonged.

anyway, I would choke her and bite her throat and stuff, put a collar and metal leash around her, wrap the chain around her neck and pull really tightly so she couldn't breathe, or around her body so it hurt. and she would keep asking for more, harder..and it had escalated to the point where if I grabbed or bit any harder I'm pretty sure we would be taking a trip to the hospital. Like it wasn't safe, might have needed to hide a body kind of shit. and I wasn't comfortable taking it as far as she wanted all the time.

I don't really know how this helps your situation but take away from it what you will