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How does one build an identity as a man despite of not being fit for physical labour or war?
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>>16449554
Increase your intellect and knowledge. Learn.
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>>16449554
Read the Way of Men. A lot of it can be pseudo-intellectual, but he talks about masculine substitutes for warfare, labor and conquest.
Are you not fit for health reasons, or not fit because you are lazy?
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>>16449562
How do you increase intellect when you're dumb as shit?
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How would you feel if your daughter came home from school wearing a guys jacket, implying that a guy gave it to her to wear since it was cold and raining? How would you feel, knowing it was from a guy you're not very fond of?
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>>16449553
but why are you not fond of this guy?
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>>16449553
Be honest with yourself. Are you EVER going to be fond of a guy who wants your daughter?
Scuzzballs aren't likely to do such a gentlemanly gesture. So at the least. be glad your daughter goes for guys who treat her like a lady, as opposed to some punk ass.
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>>16449553
>a guy was polite enough to give him her jacket when she was cold
why would I bitch, at least he's a gentleman.
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My gf told me a coworker of hers asked her if she wanted to go for coffee after work. She said no politely and left it there, not wanting to say that she has a boyfriend because she wasn't sure if he was just being friendly or coming onto her.
To me it seems pretty clear because he's also been texting her in the mornings (though seldom). It's not that I dont trust my girl but is it natural to feel uncomfortable about this? I know the guy doesn't know she's taken either so he's not doing anything wrong. How should I handle this situation without looking jealous or controlling?
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>She said no politely
How is there even a goddamn situation here that needs handling? I wouldn't bat an eye at my gf going out for coffee with a co-worker, much less her DECLINING it immediately to protect your fee-fees.
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>>16449525
The guy's obv going for her, kek
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>not wanting to say that she has a boyfriend because she wasn't sure if he was just being friendly or coming onto her.
This statement bothers me, OP.
To me, I would see this as "she is keeping her options open" and may not see you as long term material.
You might want to consider talking about this in more depth.
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How do I get my girlfriend to not be nervous around me and be comfortable? She said she feels really nervous around me. How do I fix this?
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>>16449474
Break up with her.
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>>16449474
Well I guess the relevant question is why is she nervous
if she's nervous because you're a creep then it's more of a Stockholm syndrome thing than a relationship
if she's nervous because she thinks you're HOT ROD TOD then you pretty much have to find a way to humanize yourself while also not devaluing your status. Slightly embarrassing secrets work just fine, especially if you're making it into a quid pro quo sort of thing
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Communicate.
Ask her why. Tell her some "personal" stuff about you. Make her feel more comfortable.
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Almost 4 months ago i was in a car accident and became 'disabled', I've been having a really hard time accepting this as my new reality. I come looking for advice on how to deal with being so different and any advice on adapting to having to do things differently. I hate being in public or around people because my disability is not easy to hide and I still have to depend on those around me for a lot of things.
Any advice is appreciated. In return, I will answer any questions that I can answer about being disabled.
Pic semi-related- I lost both arms, my right being pretty much same as the picture and my left being a little bit shorter.
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>>16449462
Shit, idk.
Epictetus was born a slave and beaten so savagely that his leg broke and it was not allowed to heal, making him crippled for life. He still went on to be a beloved and renowned philosopher of stoicism, preaching about how events beyond our control had no bearing on us as people, as long as we can rightly examine ourselves through reason.
I have no personal advice though.
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>>16449462
How do you post on 4chan without any arms?
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>>16449502
somettimes i use my feet for typing or a pencil and my mouth. i use my feet for the mouse stuff
What was the main reason that has led to your breakup/s?
I'm asking because i just met somebody truly awesome and i really don't want to fuck it up this time, so any pointers to what can ruin a relationship would be apprecciated.
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>>16449455
getting too comfortable.
I was with a dude who made a bunch of promises he didn't intend to keep. Worked 100% at the beginning and as time went on and he became more secure with the idea that we'd be together (forever? I guess? in his mind) he decided that those things weren't necessary any more. So when I would call him out on it, he'd make those promises again (communication, spending time together, work habits) and then keep them up for about 2 weeks and then stop doing them again.
don't say you're capable of something you're not. If your partner asks if you can do some thing (like keep in contact when doing xyz), you either say "yes, I can do that for you" and do it, or don't promise it at all. Don't say "yes I'll do that" and then make excuses why you don't do it consistently down the road
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>>16449482
Ok, i can definitely see the problem here and will keep it in mind. Thanks anon!
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>>16449455
- constant contact
- passive aggressiveness
- finding pics of random dudes she was talking to on snapchat
FEMALES: Do you mind if your partner saves porn on his computer?
MALES: Why do we feel compelled to save porn when we're in a relationship?
>On one end of the spectrum, I can understand that I should be respectful of my partner and women in general. On the other end, I'm very visually stimulated, and masturbation is sort of a "meditative" practice in my daily routine.
>Is it wrong for me to save images and passively fantasize about women I don't care about? Is it wrong for my partner to get jealous and try to act upon her insecurities by asking me not to look at porn?
When is porn problematic? How is that any different than her reading vampire novels or watching TV series geared towards romance with a big, masculine protagonist?
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It all depends on personalities. I have to go now.
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>>16449451
The same could be said for most of /adv/'s questions. But you're right!
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>>16449442
femanon here
I don't care if a dude watches porn as long as it doesn't affect his abilities in bed, which has been an issue in the past for me.
Saving porn is kind of weird for me. It seems obsessive. If one person had a hundred pictures of one celebrity you'd think they were obsessed. Having a hundred naked women, even if they're all different, still signals a fixation and is a glaring red flag to me.
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>used to be a good looking fuck
>had bitches, friends and confidence
>could take a selfie and feel good about it
Now overweight, ugly and halfway through 34. How do I deal with it?
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>>16449437
Get fit lazy bones.
Also start focusing on your future instead of your past.
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>>16449437
you kind of answered your own question, OP.
>become a good looking fuck again by losing weight.
>get bitches, friends and confidence
>take selfie and feel good about it
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>>16449437
You must eat poorly or have bad genetics, 34 is too young to start losing your looks. It might be your self esteem, not your outside.
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bf pissed in bottle again but drank it
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I'm the girl the other day who made a thread about her boyfriend peeing in the bottle in the middle of the night and leaving it on the floor under the bed while I was asleep next to him. Well, I brought it up to him and he said it was just laziness. I just said okay, and asked him to at least throw it away next time and not leave it there.
This happened again last night. He woke up and sat up. I heard him peeing in the bottle, so I turned over with my eyes barely open when he was done.
And then he drank his own piss out of the bottle.
I have not kissed him since or let him knew that I know. If he had just pissed and threw it away, or even left it there, I would have let it pass. But he fucking drank his piss. What the fuck?
I don't even know what to do or say to him. How do I bring this up without it being awkward as fuck?
Tldr;
> bf peed in bottle and had left it on floor
> said he wouldn't do it again or throw away bottle
>he does it again
>and then drinks his piss
> what the fuck and what do I do?
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Lol you sure it was his pissed?
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Tommorow night he is going to make you drink it
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>>16449428
Yes, I'm positive. It was the only container or bottle that he had at all, so its not like he just picked up a different one.
He pissed in the bottle and then drank out of the same one.
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Hi,
Femon here today at work I had something odd happen to me. I work as a cleaner but I dress like the lady on the far left to be professional only I wear yoga pants that do not look like yoga pants because I have crohns and can not wear anything that restricts my stomach. There was a meeting this morning and someone ratted me out saying I wore yoga pants the boss got a girl to go up to me and yell at me saying I am not allowed to wear those at all and then when she was done yelling at me she called my boss over saying she told me and he told me to go away so they could talk. The odd thing is I have been wearing pants like these for three months and no one has said anything to me until now. I explained that I had a medical condition and I can not wear jeans or tight pants because I would not be able to do my job then which is most important to me.
Now the thing that bothers me is that almost every female employee was wearing lagging and yoga pants I asked some and they told me they did not get in trouble for it.
What should I do?
The two pictures on the right is how the women dress at my work.
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>>16449355
Nice dubs. Also fuck off slut
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>>16449360
That is not nice Anon.
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>>16449355
You probably look trashy in them and the other girls don't.
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I'm constantly unfocused because I'm angry about someone or something.
I don't know how to stop it.
Any advice?
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Just don't talk to fags
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Find the source and eliminate it.
Try talking to a professional.
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>>16449294
anytime anything remotely angering happens, walk away. if its something you can't walk away from, recostruct your life so you are able to cut those things out.
if its 'customers' get out of the service industry and focus on something else.
anywho, whenever one of the unavoidable situations happen, just go away, listen to a calming song, and never ever ever ever ever engage.
if you teach your brain not to acknowledge these things that make you angry, it becomes an automatic pattern. it will become second nature.
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i recently had an experience on a bus where a really hot hippie dippie type, not well shaven, not well taken care of, smelled like pot, read pretentious philosophy book while wearing a stupid headband and I kinda hit it off.
and i now realize this is my fetish. pic related is the type of headband, but this guy is way too er... clean? i guess.
point is im not even sure what look im describing, is there a word for it? im google searching like "hippie headband guy" and stuff like that but nothigns coming up.
so exactly what 'scene' is this? where can I go to find more guys like this? just the 'i dont care, i just want to smoke all day' kinda pretneding to be spiritually enlightened types?
I manage an office and dress the part even when im not at work, but would love some messy dude to hang with. what kind of music event am i gonna have to sit through for this? help me out? help me define this?
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>>16449272
i think this picture is a little closer to what im looking for. the more hippie and pretentious the better i guess.
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>>16449272
>smells like pot
>not very clean, or well shaven
>hippie type
There you go. But one location where there'd be tons of these types is beachy areas like the californian coast, or neat beach areas of europe. Beach bums and surfer dudes are like this, but probably arent as inclined to read philosophy
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>>16449292
I live in los angeles so it wouldnt be hard to go out to the beaches some weekends and see what happens. i remember somehow ending up in some hippie drum circle one night.
are they still called hippies though? is that like a group? like what do these types of guys identify as?
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Not having sex due to not knowing quality of own dick.
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Sup /adv/ can someone give me a definitive answer? Like i always knew It was an unhealthy obsession before but now its gotten to the point where i have passed up sex (as a virgin) for the sole reason that not so much I'm small (or maybe i am fuck the internet is useless when it comes to dick size) but all woman rlly do want 7+ inch dicks, none one wants average, and its natural for everyone to want at least slightly better then average in not just partners size but everything in life.
Also Its a stupid question i know but so far out of most of the pictures iv had to suffer through in /soc/ and the rest of the web most of the dicks rlly are 7+ and I'm starting to consider the study's are wildly inaccurate or made as a condolence to smaller guys.
I don't know i find it hard to phrase what Im trying to convey but it boils down to what penis size to girls consider to be meh and at what point do they start appreciating. Im close to paying a prostitute just to honestly tell me if im slightly small, average and boring or slightly big.
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You and me OP.
Once I admitted I was bi I thought things would be different but that made things even worse.
Then I started hearing stories about how even straight guys experiment with bi/gay guys with big dicks.
Life is hell OP. Life is hell.
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unless you stop worrying about this, and start fucking women, this will lead to you not ever fucking any women.
continue? y / n
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i dont know OP
but i can tell you this:
I am 5 inches and have had some mind blowing sex with girls in the past. slept with 10 or so girls? so yeah, size doesnt really matter
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I just went to the hospital and of course I get helped me the female doctor, should I have asked her out? She was very Milfy.
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>>16449185
Sure why not?
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Don't bother. Almost all female doctors are married.
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>>16449351
And the ones not married are getting doctor dick.
Are Ou a doctor? No, then don't waste their time.
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My brother killed my bird to spite me 2015-11-10 20:44:15 Post No.16449163
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My brother killed my bird to spite me
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I had $1500 macaw who is about 7 years old. great personality, super friendly, and very silly. she was practically my baby and she was expected to live another 20 years.
Yesterday I came down stairs and my brother had the backyard door wide open. i asked him to close it since she can fly, and he started to get mad at me. so I said "you have no place to complain. you're the reason we lost two of our cats" (it was for the same reason.) that tipped him over the edge though, and I came down this morning with my macaw on the ground with a broken neck!
I want to get him thrown in jail, but my parents are saying I shouldn't. I'm so frustrated! I just don't know what to do!
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>>16449163
Send him to the shrink if he breaks your pet's neck over that shit.
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and yes the signs were very obvious that he did it. he even kind of laughed when I confronted him about it. all triumphant.
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I'd beat the shit out of him with a bat but that's just how it is where I live