What general skills are extremely valuable in life?
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It really depends on your environment. The ability to create things tends to be up there. Stuff like carpentry, cooking, etc. Crafted products generally carry more value than straight labor.
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Time management
The ability to budget
Being able to cook and clean
Able to dress decently
Research skills
Good communication skills, in writing, in person and over the phone
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Time management
Discipline
Charisma + good communication
Learning from past mistakes
Constant personal growth
Research skills
Humility
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Guys I am fucking terrified please help.
I want to start by saying that I have never had a problem getting a boner. Usually just sitting by a girl or thinking about sex can get me up and ready. And masturbating I can get myself hard in less than a minute.
Well Saturday night a girl came over and after a while of watching TV we decided to have sex. I had a 6 pack of beer so I had a little trouble getting hard but eventually got there. We fucked for like 30 minutes and even though it was really good and she was really into it, I could not cum. I thought it was probably normal because of the beer and so did she. We stopped and laid there for a while but my dick was still hard. After about an hour she asked if she could ride me so she did and she got herself off but I still couldn't cum. Even after that I still had the erection but for some reason didn't think anything of it at the time. I must have had it for 3-4 hours. Maybe more.
So then the next morning we were on the couch and she started kissing me and biting my neck but nothing. I thought it was maybe because I didn't sleep well and was slightly hungover.
But now it's 2 days later since we had sex and I still can't get myself hard even masturbating.... Is it possible that that long erection has permanently damaged me? I know I should go to the doctor but I live in the US and am not in a good place financially for a doctor's visit. I'm also terrified to hear that I could be permanently impotent
What is going on????
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>What is going on????
Give it a few more days and try again. It's possible that you're desensitized as well.
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>>16449080
But how could this desensitization happen overnight?
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>>16449041
This basically happened to me and I'm now 100% impotent. Shit sucks.
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>Want to join the military
>Can't pee in front of people
>FML
My goal is to do the minimum years of military service, then pursue a career as a police officer. Problem is I can't pee in front of people, and I know you pretty much get zero privacy for military drug testing. I can't really remember when this stupid problem developed, but I'd like to get rid of it. Any ideas?
Just FYI, I usually go stand in a stall when using public restrooms.
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just pull your pants all the way down it'll be fine
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>Visualization, think of rivers and waterfalls and the touch of aquariums.
>Tell yourself stuff like 'I am alone, I am free, there's nobody here, everything flows, it's already over, I am relaxed."
>Relax your shoulders.
>Deep breathing exercises.
>Smile
Go, go, go!
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i have the same problem, I usually think of pinetree needles and the colour green in general
/adv/ my fiancee and I have been having some troubles lately and I want to get some advice on what I should say/do to resolve some things and make her realize that it's her that's causing problems, not me.
We first starting arguing about a week ago because while I was on a business trip my ex texted me and I talked to her for about 5 minutes and decided to fuck off because i don't like talking to her.
My fiancee went through my phone (I believe in complete transparency in relationships) and saw that I texted her and she got really upset that I didn't mention it to her that I talked to my ex. I told her that she had nothing to worry about and the reason I didn't tell her was because I completely forgot about texting my ex back because that conversation was meaningless to me.
More recently she got pissed at me because while she was cleaning the kitchen, extensively might I add, she asked if I wanted dinner. I said yes. She continued to clean while she heated some food up for me, she placed a plate of food down on the table in front of me and I started eating because once she placed the food down she went right back to cleaning. She got mad at me because, "I didn't wait for her to eat like we always do", like how was I supposed to know you were going to eat with me when you went right back to fucking cleaning the kitchen after putting food on the table?!
Later that night, after we resovled the whole dinner thing, at 9pm I asked her if she wanted to watch a movie. I asked her then because I have to wake up for work at 5am and staying up past 11pm is terrible for me at work. She said yes but wanted to shower first
We showered and everything and by that time is was 10:15pm and she still wanted to watch a movie and I put a movie on but started to fall asleep around 11pm. Yet again she got pissy with me and said forget it just go to sleep. I asked her what was up for about 2 minutes and she ignored me so I left it alone. Now i'm fucking mad, the fuck did I do?
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A little more info about the movie thing, earlier that evening when I came home from work she was tired and wanted to take a nap so I let her. I came home at 4:30 and she slept till 6:30... I wasn't mad but she loses her fucking mind when I fall asleep later than usual because I tried spending time with her.
I don't fucking get women
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OK, I see how the thing about texting your ex was kind of silly. I wouldn't flip out unless I thought my boyfriend was flirting. Other than that I don't really care if she texted him first. So I'm not really sure why she flipped. Maybe try to delete the messages next time, or block your ex. Or even change the contact name to 'delete'. The dinner thing, I can sort of understand why she got upset. She was cleaning, then made you food, and got upset that you didn't wait. I think I'd be a little upset about that because dinner is one of the only times I can sit down with my boyfriend. So next time, just wait. However, I don't know why she got pissed that you dozed off. She should understand that not only did you wake up at 5am to work, but she took a nap when you attempted to spend time with her. You need to explain to her that you work long hours and need sleep.
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She sounds a little nuts.
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I came and it freaked my girlfriend out and she literally left and went to her house
i dont know what to do
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what? going to need more details than that anon.
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This doesn't make any sense. Is she 13? Does she not know what cum is?
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>>16449006
Uh... Was she never taught about sex-ed? Where did you shoot it?
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Hey /adv/
I just got out of a long relationship with a girl I really loved, and to make a long story short we just grew apart.
Anyway, about a week after we broke up I sent out an e-mail with my phone # to a girl I had a class with who was really friendly and seemed interested in me, but I couldn't pursue her because I'm not a cheating sack of shit.
It's been about a week since I sent it and she just texted me saying she's been really busy. We talked for a bit and I asked her if she's seeing anyone, she said she really doesn't have time to see anyone because of school and work. I gave her a compliment and asked her if she wasn't too busy for one date, and she said she could get lunch one day next week.
I'm nervous about it because she's miles out of my league (kind of looks like pic related) fit and hot for days. I'm a fat son of a bitch (250) and I'm out of shape.
I don't want to blow it, I think I like this girl.
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Tell her you're tired of being a lazy fat fuck and want to know if she will help you get into shape.
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>>16448984
You just got out of a relationship. Why don't you spend sometime on yourself before chasing tail?
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>>16449008
even if I did want that it seems desperate to say on a first date
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I know it hasn't been very long, but I honestly feel ready to put myself back out there
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Completely serious. Not trolling.
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I'm 22 and only had sex with 1 girl in my entire life.
It seems like the average partner count for guys my age is like 10+ and there's no way I'm ever going to catch up to that. Even if I turned my life around I'd be so far behind the curve, I'd just be a loser forever. I feel so emasculated and beta. I'm probably going to end up married to a girl who's had 5-10x many times as partners as I did, and I don't know how to deal with that.
I feel like killing myself over this, and I'm being serious. I hate living a life as loser and...fuck guys. It hurts. It hurts so bad.
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If this is your biggest problem, then the world doesn't need a waste of space like you
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>>16448957
this is seriously the worst thing that has happened to you
jesus christ humanity is doomed
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>>16448963
It's not my biggest problem, but it's a massive knife in the gut.
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How do you deal with the millenial ennui?
How do you just accept that the previous generation was a freak accident and unlike them, we'll just be peasant serfs with no dreams for a say in our futures, just like all the other spans of humanity were before?
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mass murder
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I'm keeping plans for suicide on the backburner, but I'm kind of hoping I can hold out until my mom dies first.
I don't dream about violence, really. I keep fantasising about the massive societal collapse that I know won't happen. That sooths me sometimes, though I try not to get carried away by it.
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Alcoholism, if you can afford it.
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I want to move in with my boyfriend next summer, but if I do my parents will probably take away everything they are helping pay for and do everything they can to make life harder for me (for example: say I stole the car they gave me - which I have been threatened with once before).
How can I possibly convince them into not hating me? Guilt my parents (who did the same thing at my age)? Save up a lot of money in the next six months and hope for the best?
I am stressing out because this is the plan I want to go forward with. I get along living with my bf, I won't pay rent, I still get to go to school, I keep my cat...
otherwise I will have to get rid of my pet and pay about $500+ a month to live with strangers.
For reference I will be 20 when I move in.
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You can't talk hateful people into not hating.
Yes, start saving up money.
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>Save up a lot of money in the next six months and hope for the best?
lots of $$ is always a good idea
giving up on your crappy parents is another good idea but them saying you "stole" the car can be a problem - do you pay insurance on the car ? so you have a policy with your name on it ? the police will wonder why your parents are claiming theft if you have these papers
do you have receipts for maintenance work on car ? get some, see above
good luck
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>>16448834
Unlike a pet, "who maintains the thing" is not the question of ownership with a vehicle. The name on the title is where that question starts and ends.
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hello. i really could use some advice from you folks. who's possibly this baby's mother? a or b?
i appreciate any serious replies.
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>negroid features
Could be any one of them.
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DNA test
I'm guessing A
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Fuck buddy left my house 4 hours ago and already texted me "I miss you"
Is she getting emotionally attached?
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Pretty much.
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pics or it didnt happen
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The only reason you're even asking this is because your dick is telling you to ignore your actual brain.
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I have doubts about the relationship.
How do you know if you should break up?
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You either continue to doubt until everything about your partner start to annoy you and you can't stand it any longer...
or you stop doubting.
In either case, you stop doubting and do what's right.
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Q
>How do you know if you should break up?
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> have doubts about the relationship
there you go, champ. It means the relationship's already over.
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>>16448789
As someone who just went through a very painful breakup, I hate to tell you, but when your doubts are serious enough to make you consider breaking up, it's probably already over.
Can you express better what your doubts are?
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How do i get my ex back? 2015-11-10 18:26:41 Post No.16448761
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So about a month ago I broke up with my girlfriend. I thought I didnt want a serious relationship and I felt like I was losing my friends due to me being in such a serious situation. I was so wrong. Now I regret my decision entirely, as my girl who I loved was also my best friend.
About a week after we broke up I kissed some girl at a club, I barely remember it, but I think my ex found out via her friends who may have saw it.
I have no interest in that girl, I still speak to my ex and we spoke about getting back together next year. We spent some time together however things just dont seem the same, she is obviously angry at me and needs time. I have apologised over and over. I really do love her. She says she still loves me but she is very distant with me and I see she has been speaking to other guys. We still spoke about getting back together next year, however she is worried things might never be the same. She is scared that I might hurt her again, that I might end things out of the blue. Which I know I would never do now that I realise what I have. She is mad at me and snaps at me every now and then, which she never used to. We still go for coffee every now and then, but things just dont seem the same and I dont know how to fix things.
After our exams I will not see her for 3 months. I feel like giving her a letter or something before the holiday starts, somehow apologising again. I just dont know how to play things right now, do I still spend time with her? Even though we arent showing any affection to each other, as she doesnt want things just to go back to normal. She keeps on saying its unfair and gets angry whenever I try hold her hand.
She has not spoken to me about the girl that I kissed when I was drunk, but I have a feeling she knows.
I just really dont know what to do. Ive cried myself to sleep for the past 2 weeks. She knows how I feel. How do i fix my fuckup?
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I sent her this
"truth is I cant even sleep, I feel sick to my stomach knowing that I have hurt you. I just don't want to give up on us so easily. I dont want to lose my best friend nor do I want to give up on the person that I love. I know this is going to take time, just take as much time as you need. I will always be here and I am willing to wait as long as it takes. I am willing to change if need be and who knows things may be the same or better one day. Goodluck with your exams froo, hope you managed to get some more sleep than i did. Love you"
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She replied with this
"gord while i couldn't sleep last night i thought a lot and then i got your message...i also don't want to give up easily or lose my best friend i really do just need some time to get over this bump and fix myself properly instead of just crying and eating. like i said i can't give you a set time that i can try again because i don't know how long i will take but i do know i don't want to lose you... you are way too special to lose gord. just give me some time okay? i do still love you so much however i am just sad and hurting right now"
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Sometimes she seems like she wants things to workout and sometimes it feels like she doesnt. She either will send a long message like that in the middle of the night, or just one word replies to everything i say to her. Shows no affection when I see her and gets angry at me when I do. I just dont know what to do. How do I fix this?
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Females of /adv/.
What would it take to get you to forgive a man who cheated? Assuming this cheater actually did something like go on holiday with his mistress.
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I've been cheated on once and I forgave him pretty quickly. It's just who he is. I don't think he did it out of cruelty. I honestly think he doesn't know how to behave better than that.
I'll still never speak to him again. I forgave him but that doesn't mean I'd ever be stupid enough to be with him anymore.
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You're fucked, man. Just cut your losses and find a new woman.
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>What would it take to get you to forgive a man who cheated?
You're going to get a lot of varied answers.
For me, if it was a one-time thing and he never saw that person again, I wouldn't hold it against him. But I could no longer be with him. If he actually had a mistress and spent a lot of time/money on her, to where they were at the point where there's emotional investment, I'd be gone in a heartbeat. Because that means he deliberately went behind my back, kept these secrets, and invested in another person.
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Life is nothing but studying
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I'm in college, this is my first year. I'm turning 21 soon and by the time that I'm done I'm gonna be 25. Twenty-fucking-five.
I know I chose the right major and all, there's no question about that. It's just that I find it hard to motivate myself to read all these books when getting my dream job seems like such a distant goal. After 3 years studying must become interesting cause my master's studies are going to be more specific and focused on my actual interests.
I don't enjoy studying. The student life sucks. I just want to be over with this, get a nine-to-five job where I can actually get something useful done, get payed for it and start saving for my own apartment. I also wanna be mature already and going to school just makes me feel like a kid.
I know that this is a phase I can't possibly skip, but how the f* am I going to deal with this for 5 fucking years? Feels like forever. I feel like I can't start living my life until these "preparations" are done. Being a poor student sucks so much.
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I hate you because I'm 29 and wish I was still in university
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>>16448716
Grit your teeth, stop complaining and just do it. You're not the only one who had to go through all that.
Alternately, you could simply drop out. You know, if you don't have the balls...
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i feel ya man, after highschool i started applying for colleges and i was like 'this is it? i spent four years hating myself and strugglign to learn things ill never use just so that i can go spend money to learn most of the same things again and then a lot of stuff ill never use, just to get a degree that says i should earn more money but maybe wont?"
i decided to quit that race then and there. i didnt want to take calculus. i didnt want to take trig. i didnt want to spend another 4 years writing essays.
i quit, went to film school, and now manage an office for a psychic.
if your sure about what your dream job is and are definitely going to need a degree to get it, stick with it, but yeha it feels like life is always just too far away from actually starting.