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>>16451788
so this is pretty much every relationship as it winds down.

Unfortunately there is no easy way around it.

You will feel guilty, mainly because you are not a sociopath.

But remember OP, the person that loves you wants to be loved in return. If you can not provide that, then you are really doing them no favors.

That said, there is no reason to rush into anything. Maybe try spending more time apart and making the time you are together a little more special. See how that goes.

May I ask:
How old are you?
How long have you been dating?
Do you live together?
If so, for how long?

>>16451805
>How old are you?
>How long have you been dating?
>Do you live together?
>If so, for how long?

34yo
1 1/2 years
Yes
for 1 year

>>16451813
How old if your partner and does she want children?

>>16451722
>Don't act as a doormat
>But always act as a chivalrous knight

I will never understand women.

>The bond and trust between me and my close friends is stronger than that of any couple I've met. We can insult each other, play pranks on each other, laugh about each other as much as we want, we don't require proof that we're friends, we never question it. Being there for each other feels like the natural way things should be.
One of the biggest reasons I only date friends and my longest relationshipo was my best friend of several years. It didn't work out, but we realized we just work better as friends so we went right back to it after a few months cooling down period.

I have trust and commitment issues as it is, I simply cannot get into someone unless I spend enough time around them that I know I can lower my guard, so to speak. I've had one night stands but sex for me is pretty carnal so I actually avoid any such things with a girl I might be interested in. Once my mind catalogs her as good to go for sexual thoughts and deviancy, I can't have feelings for her.

Fucking hate dating too, what an awkward and uncomfortable courtship ritual. Pay out the ass and dress up in some monkey suit so you can play a game of emotional poker where you try and win over some girl. It seems absolutely ludicrous to me. Rather befriend the girl and hang out with my friends, go urban exploring, bbqs, swimming, hiking, movie nights and all that. That's how you see the real someone, when they're truly comfortable around you and others. Makes for a longer-lived relationship IMO.

>>16451897
>awkward and uncomfortable courtship ritual
>play a game of emotional poker
Exactly this. Where do I find the girls who are equally tired of this socially constructed bullshit?

>>16452161
I can't tell you, my method (that is, befriending girls and integrating them into my friend-group) has a way of both bypassing that and mostly attracting likeminded individuals. The ones that don't really fit tend to break away eventually.

As should be obvious, I feel at my most comfortable around my friends, so when a new girl is brought I don't feel awkward or anything because they are on my home turf so to speak. This makes me treat them as a friend, like I've known them for a while and I'm naturally very playful and a jokester, so it tends to disarm them.

The best thing to keep in mind is that you interact with them as if you want to make a proper friend, not hook up with them. Proper friends you joke with, playfully insult them, give them a good ribbing when they say or do something stupid, laugh at them, get serious when they need advice and all that. From my experience and if done correctly, they don't see you as an emotional pincushion. That only happens when you serve them hand and foot.

Different people have different levels of comfort when it comes to nudity.

I'm a dude, and I'm one of those guys who doesn't ever wear shorts (unless running/swimming), always wears a belt, only wears long sleeve button up shirts, wears undershirts. Essentially there's like none of my skin showing (and I'm in California btw)

But If you've ever seen me naked, IDGAF and will walk around naked around you because you've already seen it.

I've got a female friend who's got the same DGAF view. And with me in particular, I've just stripped her and thrown her in the shower, held/washed puke out of her hair, and nursed her from killer hangovers enough times to where that sense of modesty doesn't really exist between us.

Maybe it's that, maybe it's the exhibition thing, who knows. Just saying, nudity just isn't as big a deal to some people.

You communicate to her that this is not ok by saying "this is not something that is ok in a healthy relationship, and its not somethimg that i should have to tell another adult to stop doing"

Then you walk away and never look back. As someone who is to old to put up with that shit, you dont have time to cater to people like this.

Well ah'll tell u whut, the 'friendzoned' guy is gonna git yer girlfriend preggers, their gonna git married, then yer gonna git her preggers with her next kid, friendzoned guy and her will git divorced, you'll marry her and adopt the first kid, and then her ex-bf will git her preggers with her third kid, and then she gonna find Jesus and divorce you to marry the preacher.

But its all okay, cause you ain't gay!

It does feel good and when they hit the prostate it feels better than anything feels on my dick
And nothing
I'm a mtf trans tho

>>16451669
Vegetables-sama?

>>16451673
No

Does it hurt? Itch? How long have you had the rash?

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All areas itch like a motherfucker

>>16451566
As fucked up as it is, because it is, I was happy when my cheating ex lilled herself too.

>>16451566
how on earth did you not get accused of shooting her?

>>16451566
>>16451576
you guys are fucked in the head, don't know where to begin even

>>16451559
>invisible to majority of them
Holy shit, I really can't see you in your picture

>>16451564
So funny

>>16451564
Lol

Do the thing anyway, it takes too much energy to keep being scared so you'll grow up after a while.

>>16451557
You just deal with it.

>>16451583
Each night I can't sleep till I'm exhausted and this is affecting my life. No sign of getting used to this

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>>16451553
FFM threesome. This is it, anon. You have a shot at the title.

>>16451553
BDSM yo
Shit's fire

>>16451507

Blunt is best. Otherwise, if you go the more careful route it might leave her with an impression that there's still a chance there or that you just need to take a break or something. Be honest and straightforward, as uncomfortable as it might be, it will result in the best out come eventually.

>>16451507
She's my first girlfriend and I'm her first boyfriend by the way thus me being lost as to what the fuck am I supposed to do here. We're both 20.

Ask yourself, would you rather lie to her and yourself and try to keep it going. People fall out of love mate, its apart of growing up.

She will most likely hate you for some while, but unless shes an absolute psycho, she will forgive you.

I'm going through similar shit right now brother, it sucks but there are definitely days I feel much better.

If not bait, I think you should get off 4chan more...

Honestly, you're being a dumbass.

But if you're dead-set on breaking up with her, tell her why because:

1.) On your part, it's the only manly thing to do.
2.) On her part, it might actually make her feel better because she probably would have suggested the break up herself had she discovered how much of a racist/froglord/dumbass you were.

Just break up .. don't give a reason as you neither need a reason or need to tell anyone..

If you are comfortable with this then that's fine.

I can assure you that she has standards, thoughts and patterns that are unnaceptable to the delicate ears of the population too if it makes you feel any better.

>>16451484
you're being a dumbass that's been on here for too long. break up with her then, tell her you're just not feeling it or whatever. if you're this fickle it probably won't last anyway and plus she probably deserves better.

You'll do fine

>>16451479
How soon?

Dad told me not to be ashamed of our dicks

6 inches is larger than average. Stop looking at porn. You'll be fine.

What uni do you go to where fucking grown "adults" fight like little babies? How old are you even OP? When you hit a certain age you realize fighting other adults is stupid.

Either way invest in some weights and start lifting, keep fit and grow your muscle. As for fighting find a friend that you can spar with, i grew up fighting my brother every single day, we would practice as often as possible and can now kick ass with all we learnt together.
If you are on your own then watch video's online, there are plenty of free ones out there, practice the moves on the air seeing as you have no buddy.

Also actual real fights are not about special moves or knowing kung-fu its all about ending it as safely and swiftly as possible, the balls are always the best place to start, fighting is already dirty, anyone that claims you was fighting dirty is a fucking idiot and deserves to honorably get his ass kicked whilst he apologizes for any damage he may inflict on the attacker.

>>16451422
20, I always thought at this stage nothing physical ever happens. Turns out living in a shithole third world country that that's not the case. Clubs are full of people trying to pick fights. Weekend nights at the dormitory are the same. Thanks for the advice.

>>16451437
What country? I've been to two different universities in Europe and everyone was pretty chill.

It's good to know how to fight and defend yourself, but if you need it on a regular basis at the age of 20 then you've fucked up in life somewhere, unless you really do mean third world as in fucking Africa

I honestly think he needs to be locked away, but my mother won't listen. She still loves him, so I need to know what I should do, should I leave it alone? And if not how do I convince my mother to do something about him?

>>16451392
He is 23 you are his twin so obviously 23. be an adult and call the authorities yourself, he obviously needs SERIOUS help and no one else will make sure he gets it. Are you going to wait for him to kill someone or himself?

>>16451392
>Habsburg's
Unless it's closer than three generations away that family tree's inbreeding shouldn't affect any of you.
If he's violent, a threat to himself or others, he needs better care than just you locking him up. Manic crap like destroying animals and smearing his shit n blood on the walls means he might need medicating or restraint. Get it done.
Unless you're a bad roleplayer attention whore.