If an 18 year old girl has slept with 5 guys is that too many for that age you think?
Would it be any different than an eighteen year old male who'd slept with five girls by that age?
Right on the edge. You can either rein it in from here or dive on into full grossness.
>>16440919
What do you mean?
So I've been texting this girl for the past few days and we had plans to hang out tonight. I went to a concert and told her that she could come over after. She said cool. Then we had this conversation
>Still wanna hang?
>I'm fucking drunk
>So no?
>Haha no I'll fall asleep on you
>No I'll keep you awake
>How?
>Aggressive music
>Are you shy?
Why did she ask that? Was she baiting me to suggest sex? Did I just miss my shot?
>>16440848
I'm a woman.
Let's get you laid.
Say, "lol, I wouldn't say that. Are you?"
Damn, Op. You could've been smooth af like "Oh, I can think of a few ways." You can still recover from that minor hiccup.
>>16440924
This. Try it out and see what happens.
it's kind of a weird question but I recently told my gf I had a dream she was feeling a girl up with me sitting and watching, got onto the topic of threesomes and my girlfriend said she would like to be in one with me and another girl, my question is how do I find these kinda girls? fetlife? craigslist? bars? never had this kinda offer before so I would like some insight.
>>16440787
Fuck you OP.
Good luck and god speed, I have no knowledge of such debased lifestyle choices. I hope it works out for you.
>>16440787
It's difficult to find a single girl for a 3some. They're called unicorns for good reason.
I used to do 3somes with my gal and my best advice is let her find the girl. It works out better.
>>16440787
Let it ride, the opportunity will present itself....
What separates a creep from a regular guy? Obviously appearance is one large one, but what are some other factors? Everytime I think about taking to women I'm afraid I'll be viewed as a "creeper". Most advice about talking to women on here boils down to confidence, but it seems that even that is nullified if you are defined as a creep.
I'm not sure if I actually fit that definition or not, but most people have said I have pretty average looks with an eccentric personality. I have a pretty shit self esteem though.
Creeps jump the gun.
"Hey, you wanna do anal?" Is best saved for the fifth time you have sex, not the first date.
"I think I love you" is best said once she is completely yours.
Creeps are guys who miss obvious social cues.
>>16440798
It's easy to not drop your spaghetti that hard though.
How can you tell if you're ugly /adv/?
>>16440777
Nice trips
If you don't know, you're probably ugly, but you can always post a pic, I will give you an honest assessment
go back in time to 1999, then visit hotornot.com
>>16440782
Thanks
I got a nice idea but some brutal honesty, besides the inevitable "NIGGER" response would be appreciated
Is California all that it's propped up to be? Thinking about ditching my shitty life here on the East Coast for living out on the West Coast in a few months. Once I have some decent cash. which by then I should have about $6,000 and change.
Without a job lined up it will suck and make you a twisted version of yourself.
>>16440698
Only if you're a liberal, and don't like the 2nd amendment
>>16440698
Propped up to be what?
Born, raised, and current "Angeleno" here.
I have been with my boyfriend for a few years now. When we first got together sex was regular and awesome. But over time sex has become quite rare.
For several months now I have had to nag and (I am ashamed to admit) force my boyfriend to have sex with me.
I tried talking it out of him. To find out if there is an issue, or why he just no longer wishes to have sexy fun times.
He told me he is 'kind of asexual'. He said he is happy with the relationship the way it is, but sex doesn't interest him.
I get that and I want to respect that. But I am finding it hard. I have always had a high sex drive, I love sex so this has all been very frustrating for me.
He is by far the greatest boyfriend I have had, but the lack of intimacy is really just starting to turn me away.
I don't want to leave him, but I don't want to have to nag/force him to fuck me. What should I do?
>>16440565
>(I am ashamed to admit) I forced my boyfriend to have sex with me
Oh geez, don't do that. That's rape and it's an awful thing to do.
Have you thought about proposing an open relationship? You could stay in your relationship but just have sex with other men.
Or you could masturbate. Have you tried that?
Put up with it, or leave him. You two are fundamentally incompatible. You can try to make it work, but there will come a point where you can't handle it anymore or you start to resent him
I'm pretty sure you have to either figure out why he doesn't want to have sex and somehow augment that (may be totally impossible without his help), negotiate an open relationship where you get to get fucked by other guys, get awesome sex toys or break up.
Wish I had better news but you can't just fucking sexually die.
Ways to commit suicide that will pretty much guarantee death? I don't plan on failing and ending up a vegetable. It would be preferable if this doesn't involve a lot of pain or endurance. I have no access to guns or pills that are actually potent enough to harm me.
Shut the fuck up dude. Either kill yourself and get r done or actually grow some balls and deal with problems. Nobody will understand what you're going through, and 99% don't care. Life sucks, but there's good stuff in it if you actually put in the effort instead of whining like a bitch on advice forums. No sense in wasting a perfectly good human body. Put it to use.
exit bag dumbshit
jump in front of a full speed truck on the highway
100% deathrate unless you fucking miss
place head on train/trolley tracks in the middle of a bend/corner so that it can't see you from far away and cannot slow down in time. you can also jump infront of this thing too
you can also just go to a shooting range, and kill yourself there. if you have no money, steal it.
you can also go to the grocery store, steal/buy bleach and drink all of it.
if you have a car, park it in a garage, turn the engine on, close the garage, make it as airtight as possible, and die of carbon monoxide poisoning.
prepare yourself a hot bath, slit wrists ALONG your forearm, not across the wrists and bleed out. not actually that painful, plus as youre sitting there, waiting to die, you can make sure you actually want to die. this is my method if i ever end up actually going through with it.
helium exit bag method (google it, fairly inexpensive to make, no pain)
hang yourself, an easy way to do this is the place a thin leather belt around a door handle, and around your neck, slouch with your back against the closed door, and wait to pass out from lack of blood to your head due to compression of arteries
Tell me your problems /adv/
>>16440295
I don't have any
>>16440295
I don't like people, and I don't know what to do with my life
>Move to South 5-6 months ago
>Living with G-parents right now, family expects me to move out and live on my own here or with sister, or someone else
>Dont want to live here. It sucks. Also want to at least go see Germany, preferably live there or Austria.
>Have fine to pay, but after that ill have nothing keeping me here
>However have to get out of G-parents house as soon as possible
>Moving out will cut in to cash I can save for trip, heavily.
>Pissed because I just want to be there already
What are some high in demand stay at home careers?
I have a lot of health problems.
Child care?
>>16440244
Childern are scary I would not mind teaching art leassons on the side but would never do a day care my mother had one when I was growing up and I saw how poor the parents would treat her and I honestly do not know what I would do if a kid I was taking care of told me their parents are abusing them.
>>16440238
Translator, those survey jobs that don't seem real but some actually are, graphic designer (in some respects) What do you want to do?
Married guy here, I'm friends with a female who recently got married. We worked together and got to be friends, but live about an hour apart so we are friends but run in totally different circles of people so our lives don't really overlap. Anyways, the issue I'm having is that about ten months ago she built a new house with her fiance( now husband), and for the past ten months she has said many occasions that we should come out and I always tell her anytime she can have us, we would love to, but she never actually invites us. So I assume it's a bullshit invite. The part that pisses me off Is that I'm not the one that brings it up, so why does she make these false offers. I finally said to her the other day " listen, I appreciate that you say you will have us over, but we both know you aren't going to actually invite us, so please just stop saying you will, kind of a disappointimg to hear all the time when it never happens. We talk fairly regular, but if we aren't those type of friends, no big deal". She got kinda irritated and was like " come this weekend or next then" we can't cause my wife is working shift work so I said no and said why.was i wrong in saying it cut and clear like that? She doesn't have the right to be irritated that I called her out. Should add, I don't know her husband at all, met him like twice, she knows my wife a bit, but like I said we run in totally different circles. Is some of that what the issue is? It's kinda like we are acquaintances but not friends I guess, but I mean we went to her wedding and stuff which was really just family and pretty close friends, confuses the fuck out of me.
If she's always asking you to come stay, all you had to do was say "hey would it be cool if we came and stayed this weekend?" and tried to sort out some sort of arrangement that works for her and her husband, and you and your wife. There was no reason to go all autistic on her
>>16440210
heres some advice: paragraphs.
that being said, dude wtf you showed your power level. dont get me wrong its irritating to hear that my mom does it all the time with 'oh i saw this thing online, ill send you the link'. i have never received an email fro mthis woman.
but do you think i say 'no you wont, stop acting like we will, were not that close' i mean JESUS.
its something people say 'oh you should come out sometime itd be fun' i mean fuck, onsidering how busy you were these next two weekend do you not think that maybe her social calendar is busy so she brings it up but knows it cant be in the immediate future?
i mean why get so mad about this its work conversation
Op here, I tried that once or twice. Didn't work, she answers like" no can't, I'll let you know when it will work"
Ask someone who is skilled at making decisions anything. Name me your dilemma, I will help you choose the best course of action.
>>16440147
I come on this board just to chat with sociopaths but lately there aren't any sociopaths to chat with, how do I deal with this?
Girl is dating someone. Girl openly tells me she's physically attracted to me and is trying to suppress her feelings for me but it's difficult. Her current bf is an LDR and he's kind of an asshole. People assume we're dating and we really like each other. How do I convince her to leave her current bf?
No, she's not the attention whore type. Mostly acts like one of the bros which is what's surprising. We're both a little crazy for each other which is why this is so difficult.
>>16440153
Maybe I can help you out
Not OP, but pretty sure I'm a sociopath
What are some cute ways to show a guy you care without being creepy or clingy?
>>16440138
Oral, handjobs or anal.
That's all he really wants anyway
>>16440157
... no vag?
>>16440160
She did say care
Nothing exciting about vanilla sex
heres the basics of what happened
>invite guy over
>this is third 'date'
>great until now
>last time though he mimic'd something i said
>I am very sensitive about my voice, and its cracking a lot lately because i had a cough recently
>today he is having a rough time cuz of roommate drama
>proceeds to mimic me again, and i tell him very firmly not to do that
>I hear him out on his roommates and then when i ask a bit more about it he just does a pretty cold 'who cares whats the point?'
>he then mimics me again.
>i tell him to stop
>he says hes not mimicing me, it was just two words he repeated back
>i tell him he should leave and i will see him tuesday
>he mimics back tuesday with a giggle
>then he tries to apologize. i accept and say ill see him tuesday
>he can stay if he wnats to talk out his problems
>claims not to have any
did i do okay? on the one hand i feel back putting out someone who seemed to have a rough day. on the other, if hes not going to talk about it, he shouldn't take it out on me. thoughts?
>>16440008
Is he doing it in a playful way (smiling, laughing)? or did he look you in the eye and openly taunt you?
If he's openly taunting you to piss you off, then he's an ass and fuck that.
But you could possibly just be acting over sensitive to him trying to make a joke.
>>16440029
>acting over sensitive to him trying to make a joke
my money is on this
>>16440029
it seems a lot more like he was laughing to himself to be honest, i had a roommate who would do something similar, and it always seems more like a mock the way they will continue to do it after they know you arent laughing. it has that air of superiority.
but perhaps that observation is part of my possible overreaction.
the bigger issue here is that last time he was here i asked him not to do that, and i asked him nicely and explained that it makes me uncomfortable.
second time (today) i told him firmly, not to do that. third and forth time i continued to be firm.
to be honest if you have to tell someone 3 times within a half hour not to mock you, whether they think its friendly or not, there is a problem.
How do I learn to not give a fuck? Here's my thing, I want to like people. I honestly do. I'm actually a very sociable person and have socialized with many people for a long time. I'm easy to get along with, I've traveled throughout the world, etc. But I've noticed a trend lately of people having their heads up their own asses. I'm pretty sure it's from technology and people obsessed with social media. The thing is, I have a very hard time letting go of bitter feelings when I meet pretentious people. I feel like I'm living in a world of people who only care about themselves and it makes me want to slap their shit. Obviously not everyone is like this, and the people I recognize are not I cherish, but most people are and it makes me despise them.
I don't tell anyone this. These are deep feelings I have but I want to learn to just be okay that people are mostly fucked up. But I can't. I want to teach people a lesson by being a dick when I have power, even though I know it's pointless. Even then, I know they will want to just retaliate with power over me. It's the pyramid scheme.
I just want to stop suffering because other people are such shit. How do I learn to just be okay in my own mind without relying on other people?
Well, humans are social creatures so the idea of letting go of relying on anyone else is just pointless chasing your own tail, not going to solve anything. What you need to do is try to build a broad base of people to socialize with of a variety of walks of life so that when someone or something ticks you off you have a host of other people to hang out with to cool your jets with who belong to a variety of values so you can find someone who agrees with you at least for a bit. That way instead of getting involved with power plays you can just say bye to whoever is pissing you off and hang out with someone else until you've forgotten what they did to piss you off.
That and if you're the type of over thinker it sounds like you're saying you are, it may be very beneficial to do like a therapy correspondence thing. It sounds really dumb but is very true that it really helps to have someone to talk to who is only there to listen and support you.
>>16440027
dude thank you. You just helped me immensely. I know this sounds retarded but I felt like I was in a knot and you just untangled it. Thanks.
>>16440035
I'm profoundly pleased to have been of any help. Good luck man.