Hey /adv/, mutefag here
I've been diagnosed with depression since I was young
I grew up the oldest of 3 boys and 1 girl (second oldest)
I've played sports (hockey and basketball) from a young age but fell out with them around the highschool level because my communication and synergy with my team was shit
I went into college with absolutely no friends and had distanced myself from my family other than the occasional get together where I'll sit awkwardly somewhere and hear about how great everyone else is doing. My mom used to try to converse with me but was the only one and gave up after I stopped giving any reaction
I'm currently in the same college and the my only saving grace is lifting and the community around the gym are very accepting and I can answer almost all questions with different numbers on my hands
My question is this: recently I've had a much stronger desire to actually go out and hang out with some people I've met at the gym, none of them know my name and the only conversation with them is how many sets i have and how much i can deadlift. How would I go about asking them to be my friends?
TL;DR I'm a mute faggot who grew up a bigger faggot but is now becoming less of a faggot and wants to become friends with people I've basically never spoken to in my life
Sorry for shit writing
Literally mute? Also you're at college. It's not highschool anymore, nobody's going to make fun of you for childish shit anymore. I remember coming to college with no friends and the best thing I could do was leave my room and talk to people. Everyone I met doing this are still my good friends and we hang on a daily basis. No matter how much it hurts you inside, just be open to people. The only way you'll make friends is by being friendly.
>>16451204
I can't go out and talk to people because i can't talk
I take retard classes with a group of disabled people, I'm basically here out of pity
>>16451204
okay so yes literally mute... Shit man, doesn't your school's psychology dept. have something to promote community for the disabled? As far as your lifting buds, have you tried expressing your thoughts on notes?
So I'm getting chubs and this ain't bueno.
I'm 6'1 weighing at 240 and I feel like a fat lard of shit.
Any suggestions what to cut back and good exercises that'll help me get back in shape?
I want to hit 180 in a year or so,I Dont drink sodas but I do drink sweet tea which i probably will replace with water and also fast food going to cut back to just home foods,but I Dont really know what to get and what to avoid?
Cut soda
Stop putting sugar in any tea or coffee
Get an app like Couch to 5K that will coach you on ramping up your exercise over time. It'll start you mostly walking for 20 minutes a day, and if you stick with it and do the program 3 days a week for around 30 minutes each time, you'll be running a full 5k nonstop in six weeks.
Depends on what you want. If you want to build muscle, exercise, a high protein/modest fat diet is optimal. Weight loss while retaining lean mass, calorie deficient but balanced diet. Rapid weight loss with minimal muscle loss, high protein, no carb diet.
All have positives and negatives.
>>16451180
Its called couch?
>>16451185
I Dont mind building muscle but would also like to lose inches off my waist,I'm at 40 and want to slim down to a 36-32,I'm also debating whether to get a basic gym membership or just get the setup at home.
tell me /adv/
kinda.
You're maybe a 5/10, but there's potential if you work on your look some.
That haircut is doing nothing good for you, you already have large facial features, letting your bangs fall over just makes your overall facial area look freakish. Keep your hair back away from your forehead and get some length/volume in it so your face looks more in proportion to your head.
After that, wear adult clothes and not whatever combination of your parents' company meeting t shirt from last year and a towel this ensemble is.
Finally, invest in some good face wash so you won't be so shiny and greasy.
>>16451143
>>16451154
Yeah. Easily a 7/10 with a longer fringe, nice clothes and getting fit.
If you grow a good beard try that too.
Does this look like a half decent gaming PC?
http://www.pccasegear.com/sc/wYg
>>16451132
Why are you getting such an expensive mobo?
>>16451139
nvm, just realized you're australian. tough luck m8
Is the 6600K absolutely necessary? Looks really expensive for a CPU
If you're going to be spending around $540 for a fucking 970, change it out for a Fury X instead. 970's are supposed to cost around $350 max, get a 290 if you want to spend less money.
How to end a 5 year relationship with a girl who is utterly devoted to me?
Just tell her you want to break up. If you draw it out you'll just make it worse for both of you. It's like ripping off a bandaid.
>>16451072
It ain't that easy senpai ;_;
>>16451070
Sleep with her mother
Recently my gf and I have really gotten into femdom and it has been absolutely great. Part of the femdom is that I'm locked nearly 24/7 in a male chastity cage which completely prevents my penis from having an erection and of course I'm unable to masturbate. In turn, my lust for my gf and my affection toward her has reached levels higher than our first month of dating.
I have a bad back and I've recently started physical therapy at a local gym, and pretty much the only time I can schedule it is before work which means I have to shower there since I work in an office and need to be clean. My gf doesn't intend to unlock me for my public showers, and just kinda giggled at how red my face got when she knew I was imagining people seeing me with my pink chastity cage locked on my penis in the shower and by the lockers.
>"it will be good for your ego and humility, honey" and she gave me a big kiss then put her barefeet in my lap and wiggled her toes along my caged member.
>Is this going to be a big deal for me?
>How weird of looks am I going to get?
>Has anyone else see anything else as weird as I'm going to be with a plastic chastity cage locked on my penis in a locker room?
>>16451052
wouldn't that thing do some damage if you got hard while wearing it?
>>16451052
Let me fuck your wife OP and you can go full C U C K status. You should post a pic of her.
>>16451052
Or GF. Whatever.
Okay, can someone tell me mcdonald's policy on walking into the drive thru?
Only the drive thru is open at this time and I'm really hungry.
Car isn't an option.
Any legitimate form of transportation that is street legal. Or legal enough to register the weight limit to get the cashier alerted
They would probably serve you, but your weight probably won't register on the sensor that alerts the staff
>>16450934
they will not serve you, at least at a corporate location, maybe if we're talking about a franchise mcdonalds in a small town (in which case they probably aren't open 24 hours) but it's a huge legal issue so they'll tell you no
the problem being that its dark out and if someone were to hit you mcdonalds would get sued
I asked a girl out on Sunday for today at 4:00. She said yes.
Then today
>3:00 pm "Im gonna be late"
I ask how how late?
>"10-15 minutes"
That's fine
>arrive at 4:07
>4:18 rolls around
>"im so sorry im never usually late like this!! I'll see you soon!"
>4:34 rolls around
>get up and leave
>think I see her pull up as I'm pulling out of the parking lot
I was super pissed as I was already going to be expected to foot the bill as the guy asking the girl out, I figured the least she could do is show up on time or at least within the time frame that she gave me after the fact. I feel kind of bad about it but I wanted others opinions on if I fucked up or not
>>16450900
did she say anything after?
>>16450913
Nope. I said something to the effect of "hey I didnt think it would take so long for us to meet up, maybe we can hang out later this week." Never got a response
>>16450900
I'm a dude and I think people like you are a total pain in the ass and blow shit way out of proportion. It was a date, not business. Take that stick out of your ass.
Yo so I have attended college for a year and absolutely fucking hate it. The longer I'm there the more intense this feeling of disgust gets. I'd rather learn a trade than waste 4-6 doing jack shit.
My only concern is choosing a trade that would fit for me, and the pros and cons of one trade vs another. Anyone can help me out in this regard?
Welding
>>16450834
okay.. can you describe what is required for welding? lifting excess of 50lbs? math?
>>16450853
A steady hand and an ability to follow the rules.
How can i motivate my gf to lose weight?
She knows she's a bit too fat, but she doesn't do anything to change
so?
Just like with a dog. Change what she eats and take her out for walks.
Start watching a lot of porn. Start slowly, but then get crazy with it. Watch it in front of her. Watch porn before you have sex with her. Tell her she can't arouse you, so you need other women to turn you on. Watch really skinny chicks. She'll probably want to lose wait then.
Or, you could ask if she wanted to go to the gym with you.
I don't get it... I help her out with her financial problems since she's going through a divorce and buy her shit but she's showing zero sexual interest in me. She talks to me like she wants me to marry her but has yet to show anything kind of romantic affection towards me. I feel very very beta.
What do? She's getting expensive and clingy. I want her to be mine. How long should I wait for things to get sexual before throwing in the towel?
>>16450742
Stopped at divorce. Don't get caught into this relationship, OP.
>>16450742
Hey yo send me a nude. Camera lower, you know the deal. You know how we roll in Cluj-Napoca
>>16450747
But I'm lonely as hell and she's a fun person despite the lack of intimacy.
>>16450749
smhfam google them
So, say a guy is making another girl laugh a lot and generally happy, another girl who the guy likes has noticed and looking at them with narrowed eyes and is starting to avoid the guy
What does this mean?
Dat she jelly
>>16450702
I'm a big pussy!
>>16450708
Wat?
Fucking amazing picture though
There's one person that I'm getting closer to than I want. I feel like when I'm worried that a person starts liking me, I become more flirty, even as the prospect of a relationship with them terrifies me.
Current case: my over-twice-my-age boss
Please tell me what things I'm doing you'd interpret as flirting. I know it's a dumb thread but I'm screwing this up on my own so any thoughts are super appreciated.
>dress nicely (tights, cute dress, heels most days)
>also no bra ever, in general
>joke around about non-work topics, text often (lately every day) about not-work for over an hour
>take boss's invitation to hang out with me outside of work
>accept little gifts/items from boss (a mug, a DVD he thought I'd like)
>reciprocate, give him things I bake
I don't want to misinterpret kindness as something perverse from him. He's single and I'm confused why I get so much attention from him. He's a kind person and I need to keep good work relations with him for future projects, but I don't want to lead him on or send the wrong message.
Chances are he likes you.
You should try to refrain from accepting invitations to go out places with him, unless you want him or want to break his heart
>>16450733
How can I reject those invitations, just fake busy/sick? If I make up a significant other and talk about them suddenly, is that a really obvious way of showing disinterest?
>>16450779
"No thanks, I don't want to"
Any other answer is you leading him on.
Ive accepted that i wont get her back, and that i probably shouldnt anyways.
But how do i stop feeling like i wasted 3 years when she just stopped loving me and wont even message me?
Don't be so greedy. You know what you got in return for each of those days? All of the positive feelings you enjoyed, all of the pleasant experiences and fond memories. You got paid for your time day by day. It wasn't a waste.
You can't expect forever in exchange for some passing days on a calendar.
>>16450681
Yeah, youre right. Thanks. I know im being mopey. It just feels sometimes like those were false feelings. But i know they werent.
>>16450668
It is normal, a feeling that she used you. And all the love you gave went to waste. Noticing the things you won, and learn from the bad things is a skill. Try it. And with time you will be more positive about it.
I come here to you guys because you anons are always hear for me and have always helped me overcome problems every single time.
Im really Considering Suicide the way things are going right now in my life.
I didnt get the girl, i didnt get the job, and im fucking up in a math class IN COLLEGE.
Im 19 years old, a beta shut in loner male.
I know there is much to live for, but i'd rather die now than dissapoint my mother. I am failing my math class and there is no way i can pass it at this point. Im an engineering major and ill probably be in college another 2 years.
So im going to be in college for a total of 4 fucking yearsm just to become an engineer, most of my family has passed it in 2 years. Im just taking up resources and time. The only reason im not homeless right now is because my dad decides to keep my worthless ass and pay for the home rent.
I havent been able to keep a job for more than 5 months, i feel like a useless tool. of the 3 jobs i've had all have not liked my performance. I feel useless and disgusted with myself that im this worthless
and finally the qt. 3.14 gril that i like in one of my classes finds me creepy and doesnt even like me back.
Im ready to die than take up any one's time or resources anmore. I'm really thinking of doing it to save my mom future dissapointment, she birthed me and wants be to become something great.
but college isnt working for me, and i cant keep a job because im literally an autistic retard. I just freeze up wiht things begin to get difficult.
Its true what they say life is survival of the fittest, i couldnt adapt and here i am considering suicide.
What should i do /adv/ help me more than ever....
shouldi just say in college another 2 years and suck it up? i feel like such a fuck up
I was you. Beta and alpha males is actually a lie there's no such thing. You're in a coma and you need to wake up we love you. Suicide won't even set you free from what is enslaving you. It's time to find Christ my friend.
Survival of the fittest.
>>16450561
I'm kind of in a similar situation OP, although I did fail math and I am an engineering major.
I know that I can do better it's just I'm so damn lazy to get to study and stuff and its bothering me. But suicide isn't the answer, what you need is to take a step back and strategize.