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>>17999194
I was doing so well. These past two years I've lost a lot of weight, and still have a lot to lose. its the only thing driving me forward, its really the only thing keeping me alive. If I was still 400 pounds and living the same life I am now I would have killed myself summer 2016. It was the deepest pit I ever fell into. I slowly climbed out of it. I started running, I went extra strict on my diet, I started lifting weights. I gained more and more confidence in social interactions, I was no longer faking it till I made it, I had just made it. The puzzle pieces were coming together and then...it all just fell apart. The girl Ive been talking to rejected me and I broke my leg playing soccer. Now I cant run off the pain of being rejected for the millionth time in my life. Games dont sustain my attention so I sit motionless on my laptop reading garbage nonsense that means nothing all day as my leg heals, unsure of what long term damage it will have on future mobility. I cant leave the house and go to the beach, or take my dog out for long walks in the freezing cold. I cherished the feeling of the cold making my body numb, if only to match how my mind felt, finally in unison.

>>17999197

I intended this to be cathartic, as I always do when I enter one of these episodes and breakdown about it to randoms on the internet. It never works. It's never a release, seeing my thoughts and feelings typed out on my monitor do nothing but compound how real they are. I'll pull out of it...eventually. How many months of wasted self loathing will I have to endure? I dread the day when the numbers on that scale stop ticking down, I'll have nothing left to live for, nothing left to care about, nothing left to mark progress in an otherwise stagnant life. I never get what I want out of these posts. Sometimes I get people who remind me that it isnt so bad, that life is a series of ups and downs, that no two life experiences are ever the same. I also get the people who berate you, take the tough love angle, just slam you until you feel so shitty about yourself youre compelled to improve your life. Then theres the people who shitpost, taking glee that no matter how bad their life is, at least its not as bad as "that guy" and have no problem letting you know about it. I appreciate all of these people. They remind me that people are different and unique, that some can relate, that others have no clue. That there is somebody out there that I will one day being able to say this to. Someone real, with a name and face to go with it, and it wont matter if they care or not, I just want to say it.

Have you tried talking with a counsellor anon? I feel you. I've got depression and I worked on it alone for years and it didn't work. I almost killed myself. I needed help and I'm glad I got it.

at least she's being honest with you, that's a pretty bold move on her part and shows she's invested in you

>>17999188
>that's a pretty bold move on her part and shows she's invested

You have to be fucking trolling
You just have to

Why would you feel disrespected if she's being honest with you? She's trying to make shit work out too the best she knows how it sounds like and you're getting pissed because you don't like her honesty. Sounds like she cares deeply for you and trusts you enough to be so nakedly honest.

Stop that shit and actually act like friends.

You can't have your cake and eat it too. If she's developed feelings for you, the best thing to do is to stop sending her signals you're into her. Stop cuddling and stop being so touchy feely grabby with each other. Set some boundaries. Yeah sure things started out platonic but sometimes boundaries are blurred and lines crossed unintentionally.

>>17999140
This. It sounds like you're inadvertently leading her on, possibly without knowing it, and you need to cut that shit out.

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It's not very hard to see but you shouldn't worry about it. Plenty of average-looking people are insecure about their faces when they shouldn't be.

Lol this reminds me of all the times I've shitposted while at a bar/club. What you shouldnt do is say "Hey have you ever heard of 4chan"

>qt
A random girl at a club that you have never met is a qt to you?

Why? Personally, I would only look at them as cum dumpsters until further notice.

>>17999061
show her your bepis

This isn't asking for advice faggot.

*hugs you tightly*

what's up faggot? what's on your mind?

Keep on pushing, OP. You'll get through it.

Yeah, but you will have to meet a fuckload of people before you find a girl who:

>is as edgy as you
>is interested in dating you

Way easier to just conform, my bro.

Fuck conforming to society man.

>>17999071
Why?

>>17998983

It'd help if you started with your current state and where you want to go. And maybe why.

If you wanna leave California to go to Nevada, you could probably pick up and leave within a week. If you wanna go from Oklahoma to New York, that's a different story.

don't come to New York

>>17998998
im in TX & i guess there are plenty of reasons why but my main concern is cost of living in other states. ive only lived in this one and not sure how it is in other places

I'm still trying out new ways to do this but my trend I've got so far is to usually ask for her number after most of the casual conversation. Two girls I've done this with told me that they thought it was surprising and very bold to do, which they thought was attractive.

have a nice conversation , suggest doing something later, then get the number as its a logical extension of doing something later.

a vague request for a number is a pussy "I don't want to expose myself to rejection" move, and that turns women off

>>18000209
Don't get me wrong I have no problem asking for her number directly, I just don't want to be weird about it and just blurt it out of the blue or in an unrelated conversation.
I don't want to be talking about almonds and then suddenly go "hey what's your number btw we can activate our almonds together" or something you know what I mean?

Hey anon. What's going on? You want to talk about anything or share what's making you cry for hours everyday?

I can say from previous experience that having been sexually and emotionally abused in the past and then having an amazing lover a few years later, the difference between destructive sex and healthy sex is that you don't feel numb and you don't empty or ashamed while doing it and afterwards.

do not apologize. we all have been in dark places.

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Same op.
I'm so lonely it hurts. But I'm so riddled with social anxiety it's near impossible to make friends. I take every downfall so personally and so hard it's impossible to build up my self worth. I don't know how to stop taking everything so hard.

>>17998935
Any sort of sex that makes you feel guilty afterwards isn't healthy sex.

Sex that matters is the sex that makes you feel fulfilled and happy. Content is a good descriptor.

I might not be a normal people, per se, but I see sex as an ultimate manifestation of love. A physical expression of it, but that's just my romanticized view.

>>17998901
you sound like a melodramatic teenager

stop being so attention seeking.

If you hang out with someone every day it becomes exhausting.

please become more mature before you engage in a relationship

>>17998917
>you sound like a melodramatic teenager

Again, you don't know what the fuck I'm going through, so yes PEOPLE ARE DRAMATIC WHEN THEY'RE GOING THROUGH TRAMATIC SHIT. I'm a fucking human.

>>17998901
ill get tired of hanging with someone everyday. fuck i get tired if i talk to someone everyday. leave her and yourself some space.

>>17998897
You keep trying.

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beats me

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how tf do I get a wife

don't ask in the first place

>>17998892
Assume she's ashamed of it and there's a reason to be ashamed of it, so I'd ultimately drop her.

>>17998892
what's the context?

>>17998885
It's pretty ugly but I'm sure chads like it for arm candy

Be yourself it's good enough

>>17998885
Idk I've realized i can't like blonde girls. I've lived long enough in Florida and see that as they age they end up looking like leathery crack whores . I'm into that Persian , Indian , Latina girls. Or those sickly looking pale girls. Also they need to have a six pack.

>>17998858
Try cocaine instead.

Fake piss works

>>17998858
Be a responsible adult, anon! Don't smoke that devil grass, just destroy your body and your personal relationships with alcohol instead