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>>17998845
Armyfag here,

It depends what you want to do. I'm a 25B (IT Specialist, computer nerd, help desk monkey) and I'm coming up on my 2.5th year soon. I've only been to one duty station so far but honestly I love my job. It's working with other people that can be a pain in the ass. You'll have to get used to being jerked around a lot when it comes to things like support missions and other taskings that come down from higher, but it depends on the unit.

>>17998891
I think you'll have better luck doing aviation in the army, but don't quote me on that. I've worked with a few pilots and mechanics and such on our airfield and they seem to enjoy it. I have no idea what the Navy is like though.

Depends

Do you like boats

pay but don't go to high priced dinners for the first date. otherwise you're spending a lot of cash.

my move is morning coffee. leaves a lot of room for the date to expand if it goes well and it'll only be like $5 if it doesn't.

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>>17998828

Typically, whoever invites who pays. Also, people tend to switch off and pay every other time or go dutch if there is a second or third date.

Listen, man, don't boil this down to such a simple metric too much. I've been out with girls that expect me to pay. I've been out with girls that let me pay but felt bad about it because they were too shy to speak up. I've been out with girls that insisted on going half, insisted on paying the whole thing and girls who were actually offended when I tried to pay. There's all different kinds.

Sometimes first dates are awkward and figuring out money makes it additionally awkward and things get fucked up despite both parties' best attempts at smoothing things over.

Yes, some girls like to be treated and want to be taken care of and treated like a princess but lets be real, there are TONS of guys, especially super alpha ones that WANT a girl who they can buy and own and care for and manipulate with money. They enjoy having their hot little helpless play things and the helpless play things enjoy being dominated. Its a tale as old as time.

You just have to find the girl thats right for you but I would highly encourage you not to make some sweeping snap judgement about a girl's personality just because she let you pay for a first date or was a little awkward when the check came. In my experience there are a ton of explanations for that happening other than "she's a gold digging whore".

>>17998849
I feel pretty dirty being in control of everything, could be a sign of changing times.

Still though, I'm in college and I mainly date college girls, they should at least be aware that I'm dirt poor.

I'm really just wondering if I'm shooting myself in the foot by asking to split. Like if it gives off a bad impression some how. Even to those that don't think the man should pay.

>>17998837
I could go for something super cheap yeah.

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>>17998823
and just for background for my family history:
>mom and dad was trying for a boy
>got my sister instead
>she was also born with some health issues too which complicated a lot of things for her growing up (such as chewing properly, getting sick easily, etc.) she also has dyslexia
>sister got mad neglected and was abused by both my mom and dad especially after my brother was born 2 years later.
>basically she was a scapegoat for my parents' failing marriage

>dad never cared for my sister; he literally never calls for her birthday or other holidays while he would message me and my brother
>mom never takes my sister's ailments seriously. (ex. when sister had surgery for her jaw so she couldn't talk. she was super dehydrated and was begging for water but the nurses wouldn't do their fucking job properly and my sister had to throw something to get their attention. my mom told my sister she was being rude to the nurse...)
>sister was endlessly bullied at school because of low self-esteem and worth; almost committed suicide before i convinced her out of it
>mom and dad never took her depression and anxiety and thoughts of suicide seriously and still thinks it would've never happened. this is how careless they were.

just to give an idea about how many fucks my parents give. things are (somewhat) better now for my sister but it's still sensitive

fuck man even typing that was hard for me. that's basically the gist of it though.

You shouldn't have even apologized, she's being a really shitty person beating a lame joke to death for attention.

>>17998880
yeah i kind of regret that now, but i'm not about to rip her a new asshole to make things worse or anything. i just wanted to make it really clear about how i felt and wanted to make peace (for the sake of coming to work with a comfortable atmosphere), but she has her pride in the way i guess.

should i talk to her again? i'm re-considering explaining why that's so offensive to me and if she has a heart at all she might understand why i reacted the way i did and why she should be more careful about saying that stuff.

but at the same time, this girl has a history of trying to make me look bad for the weirdest shit. like on one after-work hangout/council thing, i said something like "yeah lets get wasted!!" and the joke is the fact that i don't really drink a lot. (and i would never drink too much in front of my co-workers in the first place.)

so on another occasion when someone offered me a drink and i refused that time (because i didn't feel like it), she'll beat the dead horse (always with an audience around or loud enough so other people can hear her) and say something like "oh but i thought you like getting wasted?? you were SO bent about that at the last event!"

it's dumb, and i usually say something like "do you take everything literally" anyways, but in a light-hearted way so not to bring down the mood or anything. but she is kind of a bitch which is why i also don't trust her with any personal information.

>>17998732

you can't really. welcome to yoko ono

Wait till the rest of your friends finish banging her, then they'll no longer have a need for her and the problem will fix itself.

>>17998732
Is she hot?

>>17998692

you dont need to summarize yourself as a whole for the record.

i opened with a joke
>hi, my names christopher, but everyone calls me chris, even though i ask them to call me christopher. please call me christopher.

after that i just list some keynotes about me
>video games are a great first date
>lover of all things spooky
>conspiracy nuts get my attention
>5'6"
>big dick

it should be noted that im a fagguette so the success might differ

>>17998708
this guy has the right idea

really i just say something light that really doesnt say anything about me but makes me seem kinda safe/silly
like
>pros: youtube star, wears overalls
>cons: has a mustache, wears overalls

if ur more serious about dating consider ok cupid

>>17998692
He died by the way

>>17998683

no matter how you word it its going to sound like 'wow im glad you stopped being a bitch'

>in long distance relationship, 16 hour time difference

my advice, end this before u get too invested

If u really need a girl and can't talk IRL, use okcupid or tinder or something

>>17998683


You're not in a real relationship. That's why its not panning out like one.

just go take a shower anon lol

Take a shower and shave. What are you worried about?

>>17998605

what? dude, people shower its not even as embarassing as going and knowing you're taking a shit

I dont know what insight you are expecting here.

sure, do it if you want. nothing in your post screams that it would be a bad idea, but nothing you said screams that it would be a good idea either.

>>17998681
yeah your right, maybe I'm looking for someone else to make up my mind for me.

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>>17998693

were not a coin bro. you cant just flip us.

>>17998565
bro just tell her how shes been horrible and you want to spend some good time with her before she dies or she'll have a son that resents her even in death

>>17998565
No, you're completely valid in feeling this way OP. Dying doesn't take back those years of abuse and just trying to appease her in her final hour won't change anything that has happened.

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Anon, fighting fire with fire never worked. She's dying, you're not. At the end of the day, yes, she was a shitty individual, but when people begin to die, they want to fix what they've done wrong to the people that they care about. For a lifetime of misery she caused you, allow the next five years or less to be wonderful for her. It's the best thing you can do as a son, even if she has been toxic. At the end of the day, you're her son, and she's your mother.
Tl;DR: I think you should forgive her, and just try to enjoy the last few years she has. As the other anon said, you should tell her how she's been and how from here on out, you want it to be different.

>>17998560

What is more important?

1. Life partner that you love
2. Fucking around

>>17998574
Yeah, what's more important OP? This anon asks a valid question. It sounds like you're super freaked by committing. It sounds like this has nothing to do with your dick or your self-control but rather your fear of committing to just one person, since it's such a huge commitment and big step in any relationship. Maybe you're moving too fast and need to slow down?

>>17998574
>>17998582
>>17998574
My immediate reply was "life partner."

But after really reading your response, I kind of feel like I missed out on my fucking around. I think that is really a strong force that is affecting me. I feel like I will regret not fucking around. I feel cheated kind of... Everywhere I've been, since High School, there were rumors that I was a manwhore. In reality, I've barely slept around at all. Sure I'd make out here and there but I've only fucked 4 women in my life. I'm pretty old now. And my looks haven't faded so I kind of feel my body is urging me to spread my seed while I still can.

A few nights ago my girlfriend asked how many girls I've slept with. I sheepishly said "I don't know" and she responded like "obviously, I don't care, I expect you had a lot and I'm okay with that." So now she has this opinion of me that I'm a stud when in reality I'm probably below average on the fuck scale.

Should I tell her these things?

Thanks again for the help guys

you fall asleep

your body shuts down?
But your body would do anything to get sleep. You'd fall over eventually

>>17998559

You can see things and hear voices, then fall asleep.

Is she your gf?

Does she know you want her to stay in touch? She probably has her mind on something else.

How long is she gone for? It would strang to me if my GF isn't at least checking in once in a while or sending me pictures of whatever she's doing or something like that.

Have you texted her?

>>17998586
She's my girlfriend in everything but name. She's aware of that too. There are reasons we're not in a formal relationship yet.

I'm positive she knows that. She said she probably wouldn't text much, but she said she would at least snapchat me. Hasn't snapped me at all though and only sent me a few texts back and forth on her 12 hour car ride. It's just discouraging.

>>17998552
Not any worse off than the majority of our generation.

We're all fucked job wise anyway except some 20% maybe

>>17998554
Is it wrong to ask for help? I haven't even told my family that I lost my job.

>>17998552
>How much of a piece of shit am I?
A pretty big one desu, you've fucked up quite a bit it seems.

You're still alive though, and memes aside you're still relatively young in the grand scheme of things. Look around, try to figure out what you're good at and try to get a job that isn't so pleb-tier. This is coming from my personal pride and/or bias but I'd say hold off on trying to ask for help a little longer, I have a feeling you and your man can get past this and start making some more money if you put your minds to it

>>17998510
Just set up your battle station and posture to emulate the pic you posted. Take breaks (take a walk?) ever so often (every 20-30 min?).

You could also take a pic of your setup, post it, and have people critique it.

>>17998510
If you have spare cash invest in 400$+ ergonomic chair (migh wanna search for that or "office chair"). This stuff is balls to the wall amazing and keeps you comfy even in suboptimal positions.

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>>17998619

This armchair is quite comfy, sometimes I put my feet on the coffee table, sometimes I rest them on the floor. I keep laptop in my lap. Temperature in my flat is low, to save on the bills, so I use duvet to keep warm and to isolate laptop from my legs.

I never liked sitting like in the OP img. It just doesn't feels right. Should I force myself to do it. Buy a normal desk and an office chair?

>>17998461

depends. to what end?

>Do any of you have experience with it?

For what purpose?

>>17998530
>>17998533
Help with social anxiety